Y'all know what time to y'all don't know y'all baby have all suit looking back to back down, giving them just like themaking buck bus things. And it's to y'all to be true. Good to Tahua listening to me together for stoo bar hannay. Why don't you join? Yeah? Yeah, by joining me, honey said, turning them go, Yeah you go. You gotta turn to turn at the time, lobby got to turn out to turn want to go? Come come on your back at it. Huh huh. I shall will a good morning everybody. You're listening to the voice, come on dig me na one and only. Steve Harvey got a radio show today. It's it's it's it's real simple um for everybody that's trying to become successful on any level in any arena in the genre. I don't care what it is. If you're trying to be successful, this message is for you. Let me help you understand something real clear. You ain't gonna make it the way you want to, and you're not going to make it to the heights that's fully out there and available for you without God. And I'm just kidding. Keep it real, simpling clean for you. Today, you're not going to make it the way you want to, and you're not going to get to the heights that's available to you without God. You have to get this through your head. Now, listen to me. You can try it if you want to, because I did. I'm here to tell you I am talking purely from experience. Here. You can try it without God, and you can see how far you can get. Now when you have some measures of success, of course you will will will will it feel like days like you might make it? Of course you will, of course without a doubt. But let me ask you a question, though, What you're gonna do about them days when you feel like you ain't gonna make it. What you're gonna do about them, days when you feel like giving up. When you're gonna do about them, days where it feels like there are no answers to your questions. What you're gonna do about them days? What you're gonna do about them days when everybody laughing at you, turned against you. What you're gonna do about them, days when you just don't see no way through it? What you're gonna do about them days? See? I got there, I got the sunshine, you know, sunshine cool. Everybody got friends when it's sunnay outside. You want some friends? Hit the lotto? You you you you you you want you want to get rid of them? Friends, Go ask for some help. You want some friends, hit the lotto. You wanna you want to get rid of some people, Go ask for some help. Man, I'm telling my man, they scattered like roaches when lights come on. I'm trying to tell you. So now I'm here, here we go again. You can do this without God now because I've done it, and you can have yourself some measure success. But I want to let me, let me even hip you too a little bit closer though, Let me tell you why you are doing it without God and having some measure of success. Can I tell you why? Because of God's grace and mercy to us, because of His grace and mercy trying to keep us in spite of ourselves, for the real mission that He really got for us. See that's the truth of the matter. Now, now what we're talking about nasty see. So yeah, yeah, you can do it without God, and you can have some measure success without God. And yeah, you know, you know, yeah you got your little degree and everything. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you completed the program, got all that, YadA, YadA YadA. But don't you know something. It's because of God's grace and mercy that he that he put that he helps us anyway when even when we ain't asking for help, When he bails us out anyway, when we don't even ask him to be bailed out. You know why. Because He loves us that much that he would that he would allow us to exist until we get our mind together where he could take us where really trying to take us. But now let me tell you something though, Let's get this real straight and clear today. You can do this without God if you want to. But I am telling you to get to where you really want to be and to be all that God has for you. You got to have God. There's no ifs ands but about it, and and and and and let me tell you this here. I don't really care what nobody then told you. Are you listening to me? I don't care what they say. Don't get this thing twisted. They got these people out here talking about their luminatis and all listen, man, don't listen to me. Don't get caught in this mess. Don't get caught in no foolishness. You were created by God. God created you, ain't your soul. We were all created in His image, all of us. Don't. Don't. Don't get to talking about you, FINNI cut a deal with the with the devil and all you ain't cutting no deal with nobody, man and dead. The devil don't do deals. He one sided you. I'm taking you to hell. You going to hell, You're burning hell. That's his deal. I want your soul. I want you to lose hope. I want you to take your life. I want you to take some other people's lives. I want you to feel hopeless. I want you to realize that it ain't no God. That's his whole deal. His whole deal is negative. Oh he can talk to you in the dealing drugs if you want to. But let me tell you something about this. I watched these shows all the time, drug ink and all this here, cocaine mafia. Everybody on now go to jail and get killed. Everybody on now. Our prisons is feeled the day with our young boys because somebody that did because they thought they could outslick the system. They thought they had a way. They thought they said them been here and they failed. For the old cliche, man, I gotta do what I gotta do, I gotta get this money. Well, the only reason you gotta do what you gotta do is because, like I said all the time, you didn't do what you were supposed to do. Had you just done some of the things you were supposed to do, had you just stayed in that school when it didn't look right, well, if you had just formed a relationship with God and and and and gotten rid of that, I ain't gonna make it that I'm hopelessness feeling it, you wouldn't have found yourself doing something so far out the box, got you out here being in the spirit that don't even belong to you. God ain't created you to be no dope dealer or no such a thing or nothing even close to that. So see, let's get your mind right. See see, let's get your mind right and understand what's going on here. You know that that's that's that's that's that's that's what I need everybody, I need, I need everybody to get me clearly about this. This is not going to happen without a relationship with God. It will not happen for you in any shape, form or fashion. Now one more time, for those of you that think you're making it without him, I want you to understand something. Clearly. It is but because of His grace and mercy that we exist. And God has just taken care of you, looking out for you. Got some angels encamped around you until you get your mind right so he can get you where you're going. But now I want you to understand something. There's a cause and a consequence and a penalty for everything we do this outside the will of God. That's for all of us. All of us have consequences, penalties and everything that we got to deal with outside of the will of God. Understand that clearly. Don't get this thing twisted sideways. You understand me. So now while we're dealing and we're operating, I want you to understand something that you know. I heard a young man tell me one day. He said, Steve, you know, man, I just don't see how God looking out for me and he would allow all these things to happen to me. I'm having such a hard time in my life. I really don't see how there's a God looking out for me. I lived the young man, I said the Man, it's just something. Man, you're still breathing. He said, you know, I'm standing here talking to you. I said, you're still talking and he said yeah. I said, you're still free. He said what you mean? I said, you ain't locked up, are you? So no, I'm standing here talking to you. I said, where you get them? Close from I bought him? I said, when you bought him with what? I bought him with? Money? So where you get the money? Fun? So I got a job, Mr. I got a job. I said, well where you live though? He's got apartment? I said, where you your department? For? Mr? How have I'm working? I got an apartment? I got a job. I was okay, okay, so now this this, this God ain't looking out for you. Think finish, finish telling me what you're telling me. We'll see. Man, I'm having it real hard right now. I said, hey, hey, man, are you are you hungry? You have you had lunch yet? He said yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, already had lunch yet. I said, okay, okay, So so so gone finished telling me about this how God ain't looking out for you? He said, oh, and you know, man, every every time I try to do something, it seemed like it go wrong for me. I said, but let let me match something, man, I said, every time you go wrong for y'all, say somehow you survive it. He said, yeah, yeah, I survive it some kind of way. But it's still be all messed up from me. I said, but but you still got through it though. He said yeah. I said, okay, Man, gonna finish telling me how how God ain't looking out for you? And he stopped. He said him it's hard. He said, how come every time I tell you something that's going wrong, you keep telling me God looking out for me? I said, because you're still here, man, I said, See, you don't understand it. I said. You seem to think, man, that they're supposed to be, that you're supposed to just supposed to skate through life, that is all supposed to go how you want it, any kind of way. I said, Man, Jesus to test to your faith, I say, God looking out for you the whole time. I said, every time you tell me something going wrong, you seem to turn around and tell me how you survived, and you keep telling me what ain't going right, But you keep telling me all these things you have. I said, man, so what you gotta do is you gotta stop looking at the stop looking at the what you ain't got column, and start focusing on what you do have column, because what you do have, it's probably God looking out for you. I said, now a part where is going wrong? Let's think about what you're doing wrong that's making it go wrong. I said. We are all products of our decisions in our life. I said, young man, I said, get your head out of the negative column and put it in the positive college. Be grateful for the things that God didn't gave you, and then God will probably give you some more. But if you ain't happy with nothing He hadn't done for you, you wanted to keep piling stuff on. I said, you fail in the test, young man. The test is are you grateful for where you are right now so I could give you more so we can move forward? He said, am I never even looked at like that. I said, well, why don't you take your blessed cell phone somewhere and sit down? He said, I think I'm going over here and let you finish talking. I said, thank you. So sometimes you just gotta look at what you do got, folks, that's all it is. Okay, you can't make it without God. Y'all. You got me today. All right, let's be clear, let's go. You're listening. You know. I believe I can fly to I believe I can touch this guy. Think about it every night and day. Get up on these wings and just go on fly. I believe I can soul. I'm looking right now at that wide open air. M I believe I can fly. Come on, I believe I can fly. Yeah. We want to thank God this morning for the word all right, we want to thank him for all the moments of liberty m M. And now as we enter into a new day m HM. The sermon today, Deacon all right, is I believe I can fly. I believe I can fly. But the question beckons to be asked, what if you can't? Now now that I'm leave, I said I believe I can fly. The question is, but what if you say if you can see If the name of the song was I can't fly, it's a most definitive statement about flight. Yeah, you standing on a cliff, Yeah, and you were bird and you say to the other bird, I can fly and take off soaring through the air. Now, if you standing on the cliff and you're buried, and you say I can fly. M h And you were squirrel and you say I can't too. You're in a situation now, got your self in a problem, mess around listening to that bird Bird would made to fly squirrels? Was ment Klein. Yeah, and so this early Tuesday, mm hmm. Well, if you say I believe I can fly, the question beckers, but what if you can? I believe I can fly? But the question beckers, but what if you can't? Now you in something Now, Now you didn't jump your stupid tail off into that hell, flapping hard as you can, but you head ship, picking up speed, get it to your final destination. You on your way to the ground. You're not going up, You're going down. Yeah. You not fitting to be long much longer around you fitting to be a memory. You're about to be a part of the past. Bridge. People gonna go to your funeral and somebody gonna stand up and ask, did he's a he could fly? Somebody gonna say I believe he did. But somebody gonna sit up and say I told him that. The question beckons, but what if you can't. I don't believe he heard me? And he jumped anyhow on the way down. I could see the look on his face that flight wasn't exactly in his plans. And there he landed. Ain't no turning back down? Splack the sound splack when he hit the ground. Yeah yeah, oh kings mem oh or the king's horses. They came over the too, uh huh, the ones that couldn't put Humpty dumpty back together again. Men came and looked on the ground and said, where happened to him? What they say? What happened to the birds? Said? I believe he heard me say fly And then I on my way up, I leaned back and I heard him say I believe I can fly to Then I heard a squire. I don't say to him the question back? What if you another squirrel? A little we sitting here in new moment up to mine? Yes? Yes, what is your message you? Yeah? What is What is the question back? And what the moral? The moral of the story? Nick and I c K come on, come on ripping Yeah, I need a c K on now exit in your mind first m hmm. Make your nile ryer state flyer higher dandel ground. That is I mess you today, Thank you all for coming. Jack Hut joined the room. I thought that a sermon was in order this moment. Man open the door with Jack. We might have a fly at the day, won't you joke? Now? Don't you jump? Today? Was a comedian with a book out with that same title. There's a comedian with a book out. Yeah, jump will will keep the kings? Man? Please give me the kings all the keen yes, and all of the King's men. Puts back together again? Splat what happened the world? You're listening to the Steve Hardy Show. Happy Valentine's Day? Today is Valentine's Day, the day of love? Yeah it is. It's all about love today, all about love? What are the haters gonna do? Hey, if you are, if you're a little love situation, you need a little advice of a guy that has blown it m so minute sixty nine we know for show sixty nine. Call me if you need some advice on this Valentine's Day. Maybe you're stuck, maybe you won't out, maybe thinking about staying. How to make it work? How do win one over? Fellas? What they're going to be supposed today? I didn't ask you that a lot of people do though. Yeah, but that ain't what we're telling about what? What? What does that tell him about it? That tone? It's just that I believe I can fly? But what if you can't? Eight seven seven nine Steve, Uncle Steve and I are here to help you. No, you're not giving up? All right? Questions for the love doctor at deal deal, Dr Love? No, No, I'm sorry. Oh yeah, really I said, Dr Love. I tried to help you out. Not right now? You believe he could? What if the question? Let's go to line eight and talk to Andrew. Hey, Andrew, see how are you doing? Man's happening? All right? I'm all right, Um, well I felt my girl now for about three years. Yeah, we are kind of going a long distance relationship thing. Um, she's all always men right now, and uh she she's a medical school. So we're being patience trying to work. I'm in d C right now, all right. Yeah. And so I started putting money aside for ring and something came up, investment opportunity. It gave me an opportunity to start my own business. Um, so I put all that money for the ring and everything. Um, I put it in uh into this house, and we started to whip it and it's going well. Right now, and I'm trying to figure out ways that I could, uh uh, figure out how I can get some more money right now because I really love her and I want to be with it, and I want to I want to propose to it this year, so I'm trying to figure out a way to do that. Um so, yeah, well, honesty it's gonna go along way in this case. Really, excuse me? What was that? It's not the time? So no, there's a time for a line, but this ain't it. Honesty could go a long way. I think if you set her down and told her exactly how you feel, what you have been doing, and what you did and why you did it because you made the investment, because you're trying to show up your financial future for your wife. If you tell a woman that, they'll get it. But I really love you and I want to marry you. I want to propose to you. But all the money I was saving for the wedding, you know, I made this investment into our future. Now they're gonna want to ring instead. But at least that's a good way to go. And then you could say, what could we do in the meantime until I get the money, right to I could give you the ring that you really deserved. So could we do anything that that would be satisfactory to you that would be a proper ring. Yeah, we could go on and make this thing a lot more solid. You're listening to Steve Harvey show a right coming up next at the top of the hour. On this Valentine's Day, the Day of Love, we'll have more love calls for the Love Doctor Steve Harvey. Uh uh huh for today. Tommy was talking about. He just wanted to jump in on that last call. M love advice from no very helpful. No, I'm very healthful. No advice, no money, nothing. Miss Anna is going to be here with our National News. National security advisor Michael Flynn. You guys, hear about this. He resigned overnight after questions about his conversations with the Russian ambassador. Uh so, get ready for a nephew. Tommy's run that prank back as well. So We've got a power pack our and show freedom papers. You gotta have your freedom papers. Hell, I'm trying to reach a uh Domingo. Yeah, this name speaking, Hi Domingo. My name is Scott. I'm calling from FP. I wanted to give you a call about actually, uh using our services. If I think you'll actually like it, the FBI would definitely like to get you on board. What is it, FBI is Freedom Papers Incorporated, Freedom Papers Incorporating. What we do is we actually make sure you get freedom papers and you can purchase them from US. And what I can do is I can get you freedom papers for you and every individual at your home for roughly eight hundred bucks or under. What what are freedom freedom papers? Well? Actually, what this is? You know? I mean, are are you familiar with like, um, say, if you are an alien from another country and you need a you need a green card to be here? Are you familiar with that? Okay? So what what goes on with Freedom Papers Incorporated is when you sign and get freedom papers from US. What it does it it's uh, people who are African Americans our papers let them know that you're actually a free person in this country. Oh oh I've been free. I'm sorry. Ain't no flavor going on when you talk about well I'm free? Well you you you may be, but you have to actually show paperwork for that. When they when did they start? The sir? This is all over the news. You have to have freedom papers within the next six months, every African American person, it's gonna have to have freedom papers and have them on on the you know. Uh, it's such like keep on driver's license or a checkbook or something. You're gonna have to have your freedom papers on you. That's some. That's some. That's I'm free. I'm not about to pay no money when I'm already free. Okay, but you're gonna be sure. You're gonna need paperwork to show your freedom and you don't. Do you have any freedom papers at this point right now? No, because I don't need freedom I'm free, sir. I don't think you quite understand. Do you understand that you could possibly if you're caught without your freedom papers, you could be taken into captive and actually have to work for so many years in order and then later on you might get your freedom. But right now, right here, if you buy freedom papers from me, I can I can fix it where you don't go through that. You can actually get separated from your family. Sir. I'm not going by where they're gonna send me to where they gonna deport me to aftera I've never been there. No, No, you're not going to Africa. You could be actually here in the United States working on on a particular farm of of with a lot of people who don't have their papers. If you haven't gotten this news, I do apologize, but within the next six months you're going to need freedom pay first to you anyway, sir. Like I said before, I'm Scott with FBI, no sp I, f third's FPI's freedom papers incorporate. I don't give what it is. I'm not about to pay no no money to be free, sir, you have to have paperwork on you to show that you are a free citizen of the United States. Hold. Hold, how you get my number? Anyway? Sir? We have a list of numbers of people that we don't think have their freedom papers, and your name actually popped up here in our database. So many pop up phones. Okay, sir, I'm trying to give my number. Sir. We have a database here of people who we don't think their freedom papers. Your name is actually here. After talking to you, it seems like you don't have your freedom papers, and we want to make sure you get them. We're letting you know it's two hundred dollars per person to get these actual paperties. So you're telling me you got database and you're just calling black people all around the punches. Well, no, sir, what we're doing is we're calling African Americans and let them, letting them know that they can actually, uh buy freedom papers from us, so they don't have to be if they're if they're if they ever get captured, then what can happen is is that they can show their papers and not have to deal with the problems that we already free. You're gonna have a whole bunch runaway because we ain't paying. I'm not paying. They might but I'm not paying. Sure, you're gonna have to have your freedom papers on you at all times. That's gonna be the law within the next six months. So what I'm trying to end can sell you freedom papers so you'll understand that you you have everything that you need. You have your driver's license, you have your freedom papers and and whatever else did you carry on you you have must Your mom called me on my phone this Sunday's wrong with you freedom papers? I ain't getting you, are you? I'm Scott, sir, I'm gonnassociate here at FPI. I heard about that sp I you just want to check from me thinking about seeing you some damn money, y'all. Kiss my sir, sir, I understand you. But what you gotta understand is within the next six months, you're gonna need these papers. Well, they're gonna have to catch my same pans. Okay, sir, don't you don't you want to be free? I am free, everybody's free. We got a black president. He's gonna have to get freedom papers I buy from you. Kiss, sir, You're gonna have to pay for these papers one way or the other. Okay. I'm trying this because I gave you a call. I try to be nice to you. I'm letting you know now you're gonna have to pay for your freedom. I'm not, sir. Everyone will be captured if they do not have freedom papers. You tell you right now, don't catch me, sir. Sir, you're going to get captured when you least expected. Sir, You're going to get captured when you least expected. I'm gonna be whom to can't take. Y'all, donna have to catch me because I ain't paying. I didn't look up on the computer right now, I can't find scam trying to get my money. Are you on the computer? Yeah? I will? Okay? Can I tell you one more thing? Can I? Can I get you to google something else? Put in put in N E P H E W all right, t O M M Y one song once you tell me this is Nephew tim me man for the Steve Harvey Morning until your wife Mariffa got me to prank phone call you. Man, y'all happy about saying is free already? I'll be. You're about getting love as you? All right? Man? I go. I gotta ask you one more thing though? What is the baddest and I mean the baddest radio show in the lane? The Steve Park Morning The show is that? Can count? Keep it a stupid all day long? I'm proud gonna be stupid tonight West Palm Beach, Flaw the Baby, I'm at the Imperor Valentine's Night, one night only, one show only, seven o'clock tickets one and the almost gone. The Nephew is come into town tonight one night on that is you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, We're gonna go back to the phones with more questions for the Love Doctor. But first we gotta get to miss Ann Steve introducer, Ladies and gentlemen, miss A and Trip. Everybody. This is entered for the news. Good morning, for morning, Good Mornida. Okay, and happy Valentine today, everybody. Okay. President Trump's got no love. In fact, you've got to help. Want to sign out because National Security Advisor Michael Flynn has resigned. Michael Flynn was accused of discussing the sanctions at President Obama put on the Russians with the Kremlin before President Trump was inaugurated, and while Flynn was still then a private citizen and back in December, and that's against the law. That's against the law. Private citizens cannot negotiate foreign policy for this country. He initially denied doing it, and he said he said this, and he said he said that, but he didn't actually say that. But anyway, he submitted his resignation letter last night. So Michaelson is out and they need a new national security advisor. President Trump meanwhile met with Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau yesterday at the White House. Afterwards, they held a joint news conference, with the President reaffirming the importance of good relations with our neighbor to the north, and we will coordinate closely to protect jobs in our hemisphere. Relations with the US are crucial to Canada since more than seventy of Canada's exports come to the US, and the two men do, nevertheless have very different views of things. I mean, Trudeau's in support of free trade. He's welcomed some forty Syrian refugees, while Trump's administration, you know, as protectionist and when it comes to trade policy, he wants to keep certain refugees and certain immigrants from entering the US for a while. But they seem to get along and everything was very, very cordial. Oh, the name Jerry Sandusky is in the news this time one of his six adopted children, an adopted son, has been arrested on multiple sex offense charges involving children. Forty one year old Jeffrey Sandusky's charged with fourteen counts, including the criminal solicitation of miners. His father, Jerry Sandusky, you know, that's the former football coach at Penn State. He is serving time in prison thirty years for the sexual abuse of ten boys. Okay, this is horrible. This is hard for me to even read that. Jackson family matriarch Katherine Jackson has been granted a restraining order against a nephew on her ex husband Joe Jackson's side the family. According to court documents followed in l A Superior Court, Katherine says she's afraid of her fifty two year old nephew, Trent Lamar Jackson, who has worked as her driver. The mother of the famous family accuses Trent of bullying her. She says she has to hide in a closet in order to speak to her children freely, and that she's afraid to Trent may be using her credit cards and other financial information for his personal gain. She also wants him off the Jackson state. This is very, very sad and scary. She wants him out of the guesthouse right now. He has to stay at least one feet away from Katherine Jackson. Accord hearing on somebody, somebody needs to take Mama home and keep keep her with them until this is straightened out or whatever, to make sure she's safe. Anywag mm hmmmmhews, okay, anyway close to in South Carolina. I'm just I can't do that. Yeah, Steve, be a good boy. Stop stop. Oh my goodness, of course this is this is something going on California. Close to two thousand people still evacuated from towns below the massive dam in Oraville, California. However, while the water levels are receding in Lake Oraville, which keeps them from spilling over, the dam's emergency spillway is still on Cleveland. Residents are going to be allowed to go back to their homes. And today, of course, is National Frederick Douglas Day, National call in Single Day, National Condom Day, and of course, of course it's Valentine's Day. When I say I'm in love, you best believe I'm in love. The UV that right, baby, put out back to Starve Boarding show. Thank you miss saying your mama, get them instruments and let's get to work. Then of my mama. Don't my mama been gone years? You can't even talk about if you talk about my mother and I hear you, we immediately addresses this. And you need to get me to understand that this was an accident or something something dog because he ain't done for you. But as all right, love doctor, you want to switch. All right, let's go to the phones. If you have questions for the Love Doctor on this Valentine's Day, call us eight seven seven twenty nine. Steve. Let's go to line six and talk to Brian out of Maryland. Brian, Steve, good morning's happening now much? My answer? I make things like my girl. We had a little altercation. She told me, checks her aunt out of her phone. I recommenze. I think nobody didn't recognize looks at it, seeing that it's a baby and stuff like that. And I was drinking all right, not realizing that was my words. Phone it go just went down hem from there. Okay, hold a dog. A lot of information missing in this stone because it's a long it's a long story A time. I got that, but let me ask you something. She wants you to take your her aunt's number out your phone. Her phone. She gave me her phone and check her our new address to come to the house, so ending that I've seen his number and I clicked on it, and I've seen baby and stuff like that. But I was drinking that, like Steve, not realizing that this was my work number. But I think what he's saying talking to you, somebody, somebody helped me understand what he's saying, Steve, is that here in her phone. It was his work number in that phone, and she was talking to him saying baby. But he said he was drinking, so he didn't know. He didn't recognize that that was his work saying yeahs around his text messages. Oh so you don't accuse your girl, Yeah, okay, do just don't just seem like an easy fix. It ain't that easy because he was so let me take what you did. You don't win way out of bounce when you found this text. Huh yeah, yeah, you you would. You would hard left and now you can't get back over to the right exactly. I tried to blink and everything. Oh I see with the oh, I see, I see right now, all right, doll, hang on, man, I'll help you out. Quit reading and drinking at the same time, and don't add up. I'm trying to tell uk text drinking read, You got pick one. Gona do somebody who drank, speaking from experience, talking to somebody who you must have him talking, drink and read. You can't do it. Ain't gonna come. All right, I'm teddy. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, coming up next, Yes, it is Valentine's day. We still have Brian on the line. He's unhauled. Brian wrongly accused his girl of cheating because he was drunk and reading text messages. We'll get to him right after this with the Love Doctor Steve Harvey book with Questions for the Love Doctor on this Valentine's Day. Let's go back to line six with Brian. Who Brian b Yeah, okay, so let me help you out a little bit. Man. So you read a text but it was your work number. You thought it was from another guy, so you snapped and went off. Did you do this while you was drunk? No? I waited. I waited after the party. Okay, So you weren't drunk, not drunk. Okay, So you in your right mind when you called all these Yeah okay now so yeah, so now what you'dn't done is you didn't said some stuff to her that's been like pretty vile pretty much. Yeah. Okay, Uncle Steve, we know word you can't say. Trust Please say you didn't say that. Oh no, he said, God no he said. If he did, if he hadn't said that, we all kinds of so and souls when you got through. Is that what you're saying? Be yeah. Yeah, yeah, see you you messed up. Ow can you fix it? Yeah, he can fix it, but it's a crawl back process. Um, you gotta shower her. You gotta start How how long y'all been dating B three years? Yeah? Man, you gotta start over. So this is Valentine's Day? What what what you do for for her today? Well? She worked in night, so last night I just left some rolls, candles on balloons and a couple of gifts on the bed foot when she came back because I'm not leaving in the room right now, ll know. But they still in the same house. Yeah, well he can work it out of being the same how okay? So but I thought it was a long distance relationship. No, no, that was the car earlier producing Dude, I love it. I got a chance to come back. You're in the same house. We got a chance. How long ago did this happen? Less than a week ago? Oh? Yeah, you got a chance. But now let me explain something to you. Be it's going to have to be a constant shower of affection, an array of apologies. One ain't gonna get it. Mhm. The thought of someone else with the love of my life was too much for me to bath. And I thought I was actually losing you to another man. That's pretty damn good. I struck out and I filed off in ways that really ain't me. But if you thought you would lose it, the love of your life, that everything you ever hoped and dreamed of was walking out the door, what would be your reaction. I'm sorry, Please don't leave me. You're the greatest thing that's ever happened to me. And that's got to be consistent. Man, M look at six cold boy. Yeah, that's good. That's good. You just saying that. That's good. That definitely appreciates that. More gifts, keep the gifts coming. You gotta show out, be you gotta start over. But you can get it back though though sober you do that no moment. You're listening, alright, Happy Valentine's Day, Happy Valentine's Day. It's here today. So Steve, you're taking love calls, giving love advice as the love Doctor to our callers. Eight seven seven twenty nine. Steve, we'll take some more after this, all right, Steve, Let's go to the phones. Let's talk to line eight. Let's go to Mac, who is from Arkansas. Mac Mac Mac, What are you doing? Mac? All right? Okay, let's go to line for Dr Chris out of l A. Chris. Hello, Hey, what's up man? What's up? Steve? Hey, No, one's not you in a long distant relationship. Um, all right, just won't get that clear them a mile in the hair, man. My wife has been separated since, um, the day after Thanksgiving, brother, and I just don't know how much more I could take. Brother. She's been mean, Steve means, well, they usually a don't mean for no reason. So I think you mean because they take out their mama. Okay, that's why. That's why, y'all. But what did you do, Chris? Um, I ain't did nothing, Steve. I've been spalling enough for years. Brother. Um. I think she she got this job man, and it's just been on for the past three years. She's been turning meaner and meaner and meaner. She makes more money than you. Um. Now, Uh, it's the job stressful. Yeah, I believe it is. I truly believe it is. Like they've been that. They had a couple of deaths out that the other day they had on explosion toe. Um, I know that kind of took a toll on it. But I've been trying to be there for you know. So come on, man, she got a job. Y'all have been separated since thanks you. Okay, right, Chris, what you're not telling me? Um? I'm telling you everything, Steve, like I try to love her, you know, and UM trying to work through the separation. We went to counciling, man, and she met it up a couple of um, a couple of hours after council So I don't know. Okay, So y'all went to counseling because you all were having what problem? Um? Because I left because she's been being mean? Oh you left unless she was? You left, right, So the separation was caused by you. Yeah, okay, so now what you want her to do? Nice? I love my wife, Steve, but man, I can't deal with it. I'm old school, you know. I gotta Um, a woman had the no woman's place. You know. That's why right here, that's why you buy yourself a problem. Chris. There we go. Did just keep the woman? The Bible? The Bible says that a woman should be to music to a husban. I mean, it's plainly silf, a black and white brother. It also says Christ treated the church. She can't wear the pants, Shirley. It also says, it also says, you know love your wife is Christ loved the church, you know how right? And I loved my wife. My wife became my wife before weeks spent the ten thousand dollars on the week, you know what I mean? So it's um, I love her, Chris drug, Chris, you got this Bible verse? Man, That Bible verse got you over there by yourself. Man, Man, hang on, we're coming back with you. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show, all right, coming up at the top of the hour. He is a good man with trust issues. That is the subject of the Strawberry letter. He's a good man with trust issues. Okay, and we got more than that on the phone. What's his name, Chris, Chris. We're just talking to Chris, Chris. Let me talk Chris right quick, Chris, Chris, Yeah, I'm here. You know, man, Chris, How old are you for the one? How old is your wife? Um? Oh? Hell, let's do it. When you have you read that Bible verse two or Chris? Yes, we both know the Bible very wherever? Well, hold on, see hold on, I don't want you to think that I'm trying to be chauvinistic when I said that, Well, well let me ask you this. Come on you what is Yeah? I know you're saying you're trying not to be, but how do you think this sounds? I get that? Okay, Okay, give me an example, Chris, of her not staying in her place, Um, just running around. You know. Every everything we do is what she wants to do, you know what I mean? And if I don't do it, then, um, it's pretty much attitude. Um, she gets mad at me because the curtain is brown. They she think they should be blue, you know what I mean, Like they just don't fly. Brother. You know, well no, yeah, man, you're saying the words that ain't. That's antagonistic. Okay, so listen to me. Oh, I got you just using the curtains as an analogy. Who decorates the house? She does? Right? Do you have say so in it? Um? Yeah? Okay, And you think you had the right to have say so in it? Yes? I pay bill? Then okay, let me give you some advice my daddy gave me. My daddy says, son, you got one job. Your job is to provide a home, right I mean, your job is to provide a house. Her job is to make it a home. You're interfering with the home making process. See you got all these rules by her staying in her place, but your ways ain't in your place. See you gotta you gotta understand that you are dealing with a woman. I don't care if seventy eight the women don't they women now? Unless until you learn how to treat a woman, you forever go have a problem. She means cause she tied to you. She just tied you, and you get this little young fine thing back like that because she over there by herself just at least being able to do what she wanna do because there's so much pushback from her. Man, why do you find on every little thing she want to do? I don't, Steve, I promise you, I don't. Brother. Okay, So let me ask you this. What is the big move that you went in the house and asked her to do that she didn't want to do, Because that didn't happen. Um, it wasn't that I got my arm. She hid my wallet so I couldn't go anywhere because she had to work on Thanksgiving night. I didn't playing on them going anywhere anyway. Um, And she just hit my wallet just to be spiteful because she didn't want me to go anywhere. I don't want to go to the store. And that was just enough for me. Like it is, the meanness had been going on for months further, so I just decided, you know, maybe we need a separation, you know. Yeah, so you left because when you get to the point, when you get to the point, Steve, where um you feel like you want to put your hands on them, you gotta it's time to to separate. Yeah, definitely, definitely, definitely time to do that. But let me ask you something. But you left though right now, you won't help back, No nothing. I loved my wife, so we want each other back, you know what I mean. It's just that I'm not sure they're going back is the right thing now, you know? Okay, so this ain't bout she won't take you back. You don't want to go back. I do want to go back to you because a little my wife, right, But you want your way or the highway. Not necessarily it's always been her way. I live. I give her her way. All I wanted to do is be nice if she if she can have her way be nice? You know what I mean? Yeah? Okay, can you fix this? Can you give it up? Steve? Dr Harvey? Because Chris just ain't being forth right? They are usually mean for a reason. Mm hmm um okay, Chris, they ain't just mad for no reason. And the thing you think they're mad about is usually way deeper than that. And how long okay, how how long? How long y'all been married? Watched this hill? Got it? I got it? Now? How long y'all a year and a half a year? Let me ask you something, when you first got married, what she means? Yes, okay, well then, okay, so here we go bing bing bing bing. I told you it was coming to she was mean before you got married, and you thought if you got married what would change? It? Was gonna help it? You know? I thought that was part of the problem of her being mean. No, so Minister told me one time, when you getting married, whoever you marry, and however you get married, the only thing that changes after the wedding day is the appearance of your left hand third finger. If y'all wasn't cool back then, y'all ain't gonna be cool now. If she was mean, then she's gonna be mean the day after the wind the next damn day. You ain't even got the winter. Oh so bro, you don't mess around and married yourself a mean woman. Now if the reason you're married to mean woman is called she young and fine, no no, no, no, no, no no no, I'm ugly back. Okay, So you, Chris, she young and fine. That's why you tolerated the meanness. Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah. Now you're talking about something we all know about. So now, Chris, hello, yeah, I don't would say yeah, I know by Chris, have notice? Have it Valentine by yourself? Yeah, Chris, course, Christine left our way to my damn yeah, down the streets. She's down the streets. You're down the street. Wow, who's gonna be it in mama? Huh m hmm. All right, we're taking none. All right, we got line six. Jasmine out of Florida. Jasmine, Good morning, jazz man. You're so heavy on my mind, like a flower that grows amidst the rules. Jasmine, You're always my mind. I said, don't make me cry this morning. I needed that. I know, all right, Jeffer, So what's going on? Well? Me and my boyfriend. We've been together for um almost five years now. Everything seemed like it was going great, you know, and go ahead. Um, I started feeling some mistrust lately. Um, he picked up a more extra hours at work, so I'm barely seeing him now. Um, but I kind of felt like it was more to it that was going on. So I finally got him to tell me that he ended up running into a female that he used to like a while ago. Uh, this was before my time when he knew about her, but he never used to date or anything. But now I'm like, okay, you're running to the female, and I'm saying, less of you isn't more to it. Um, He's telling me I had nothing to worry about and everything goes. But it just seemed like everything is just excuses around him. When I try to ask him about it, all I get back is excuses and argument. Why did he tell you thank you ran up into and an old girlfriend? Why did he tell you that? Well, it wasn't an old girlfriend. He claimed he neverdated her. Um, but he told me because he knew. I felt like I knew something more was going off when I was asking about it, but he didn't tell me right then and there took him a couple of days found telling um, but I felt like more to it, and so I guess he He always said that we would always be honest with each others. That was why is his daddy in his life? No? No, his kid, Your daddy would have taught you this. Yeah, I can always tell when the dad is. You know, like, we would always be honest. But see what he did in his honesty was also an admission. The reason you're not seeing me as much as we're feeling kind of distance because I don't read up into this girl that I used to like. Uh, it don't make no sense to say that unless the two is tied together with your lack of seeing him. You understand. So now what you have to do is you have to trust your intuition because it works. What is your intuition telling you? I feel like he's lying. I feel like everything is alive, But he's telling me that you want me and only me, and when you know it's only us, but I don't. I don't feel it. Well, making prove it until you feel it. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Marning Show. Yeah, buggle up, hold on tight, we got it all your subject. He's a good man with trust issues. Dear Stephen Shirley, I have been in my relationship for ten years. We have a daughter together, and for the most part, you think all is well. We both have hurt each other in the past and we forgave each other now. I trust him, but he doesn't trust me. For example, I am not allowed to be on social media, and when I go out, he makes it hard for me to leave the house. He always wants to go out with me, or he tries to alter my plans. I don't have any friend now because he wants us to share friends, so I can't develop any friendships on my own. I still respect him, but I don't care about this relationship anymore. When we do have sex a couple of times a week, I don't want it. I want to pack up and go, but financially I can't. We share the car note payment and I have to consider my daughter. I care about how my family ends up, but I want to go so bad. Don't get me wrong, he is a good man, just not for me. What should I do? You have to go? If you want to go, I mean you will only be getting away from a controlling, manipulative man. I mean, it's no way to live. You don't have any friends right now, you can't be on social media, etcetera, etcetera, the things that are important to you. You said you guys hurt each other in the past. I'm thinking you didn't say it, but that means you guys cheated. You said you forgave each other. Uh, well, that's what you think. You may have forgiven him for whatever happened. Again, I'm assuming it was cheating, but he certainly is still holding a grudge and not forgiving you. And and that's what he's using to control you. I mean when you say things like I am not allowed, that means control. He's controlling you. Um, if you're not allowed because he doesn't allow you to do certain things, you have a daughter. You got to set an example for your child in this. So my advice to you would be to get some sort of part time job, some sort of extra income coming in so um, you won't have to be dependent upon him financially, because that seems to be a major problem with you. You can't leave because you know he holds the purse strings. So if you want to be out from under all of that, get yourself. Um uh, you know some more streams of income and that way you can leave since you don't want to be there, Steve. Yeah, well all right, since I see the letter a little bit different than you, Shay, I've been in my relationship for ten years. Y'all ain't marry. We have a daughter together, and for the most part, you think all as well. I don't write there. You've been in a relationship for ten years? What is going We have both heard each other in the past, and we forgave each other. Forgiving somebody don't mean you forget. And when you say you both heard of each other, you both cheated. But I can tell in this letter you cheated last, seem he cheated first, You retaliated and you cheated last. Thus his behavior because I know men now, I trust him, but he does not trust me. Oh see you you hear that little line in there. Because you've had more time to forgive him, then you wouldn't done it on him. He ain't had as much time you said. You say you want to move on, he ain't. For example, I'm not allowed to be on social media because when you was on social media, you were sleeping with the dude on social media. I'm just telling you. And when I go out, he makes it hard for me lead a house because the last time you left the house, you left the house to sleep with the dude that you met on social media. He always wants to go out with me, and he tries to alter my plans. He gotta go out with you. Canned last time and let you go out by yourself. You slept with the dude that you met on social media. I don't have any friends now because he wants us to share friends. The reason you ain't got no friends because you said you had friended him on Facebook. And then when you went out with the man that you met on Facebook, that your friend, and you slept with him, you slap with him, And now he's scared to let you go out because every time you leave a house is to see your friend, that your friend and on Facebook, which is on social media. So I can't develop any friendships on my own. No, you cannot because you end up sleeping with filling. See this, I read the letter. I still respect him, but I don't care about this relationship anymore. Okay, now, surely got this part right. This overweight, this overweight bamussa bama moos underlay or weavera dirty child? Are you like when we do have sex a couple of times a week? I don't want it like that. When we do have sex couple of times a week, I don't want I want to pack up and go, but financially I can't. Yes, you can. You just don't want to live at the same lifestyle you at. You can leave m now you just be walking into one room. There will be no corn attorney you lead him car keys over too y that's his on the thought twice a week. I'll be back tell you what I want. Okay, you're listening to all right? We are in the middle of the Strawberry Letters subject He's a good man with trust issues, Part two of Steve's response. All right, he's a good man with trust issues. Lady wrote in she's been in a relationship for ten years. They have a daughter together. Um we we we pretty much surmise that they both cheated on each other. She says they trust each other. No, they don't. She trusts him, but he doesn't trust her. No, nobody trust nobody in this relationship. She trust him. She's sick of him. He controlling calls. She didn't messed up, He didn't messed up. You know it's over. When we do have sex a couple of times a week, I don't want it, says that's real good, though, Why are we talking to him? I want to pack up and go, but financially I can't. We share the car note payments, and I have to consider my daughter. Well, let's look at this. If you share the card note payments, ain't had to call yours. M hm. Get over there and sit on the stand wheel side and drive your half off. You can't drive half a car. You you over there on the stand wheel side. Mhm, drive off? If you that miserable, I mean, then she said, I care about how my family ends up, but I want to go so bad. You don't have a family, y'all just got a daughter together. Y'all ain't married. You ain't even gotta get a divorce. You ain't gotta get separation. You just drive off. Don't get me wrong. He's a good man, just not for me. Okay, Well that's it. That's it. Get back on social media, befriend your friend, go back out with him and see if he won't. You now, because you may be not wonting this sex because you might think that the dude that you went out went on social media won't you. But it's real easy to find out because I'm pretty sure he got somebody somewhere too. So why don't you call him up and find out if he really won't you? Why are you making up all easy? I want to go so bad, but financially I can't find out if the dude that you slept with is willing to help you and your daughter with a place to stay or move in with him and have a relationship. Why don't you just find that out? Then you might not you might not be in as bad as financial shape as you think. Greener, but you don't want this man. He's a good man, just not for me. So why are we together? Stop wasting time? You're sleeping with a man and you don't even want to sleep with him? Hell he hell he could? Where do he want? I know what? He won't look at? H up alone. You're gonna be all right. My nails is still with a love We have more phone called Steve eight seven seven twenty nine. Steve call us if you want to talk to the love doctor for some love advice. This morning, we'll be back. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Valentine's Day. Happy Valentine's Day, every one. Yeah, Happy Valentine's Nephew. Thank you, Thank you nephew, Steve, Tommy and Junior. Happy Valentine's Day to you, well, thank you, thanks Carla. Happy Valentine's Day to you, Thank you, my sister. Happy Valentine's Day. What's gonna do? Tonic? Sharon call? Well, you know when you heard me, saw me dance? Well I made reservations. Oh we know you anyway, So we're gonna take phone calls. As I was saying, for Steve as a love doctor today eight seven, seven twenty nine, Steve, you had some interesting one so far. Yeah, yeah, Chris though, what should know? A place? Man? Better place? Women? Take it to me? What out a dope? All right, Happy Valentine's Day. Let's go to the phone. People are on the line. They have questions for the love Dr Steve Harvey. Let's go to line seven and talk to Durant out of New York. Hey, how you doing? Oh man, what's going on with you? And tell me about it? Not much? Man, really, I know you gotta got much time. Basically, UM, I'm got a girl now and that I love um about almost a year. And then, um, we both have kids, so as kids involved in the situation. Um, the thing is, I'm basically going through what uh single mother will go through. Um. In November, I've gotten custody of my side, so I have primary residential custody. And it seems like his mother is doing everything that she could do basically to make my life hell. Um, so and and and they're good at it too though yeah, and I don't understand, like, but the thing is, you know, she doesn't really do anything for him. Um, so everything is based on me, and I make every decision. You know, I need to to take care of far as my son as well as myself. Now, the situation is me and my girlfriend. You know, we're great, Um, no arguments, nothing, you know, we're making plans, goals far as to each other and things like that. But there's always a hiccup with as far as my son's mom where it seems like she still wants to have some sense of control of my life and what's going on, and my girl doesn't want that. I don't want that. And I've been trying to do the best that I can as far as to not allow her to have control of our lives to where it's starting to ruin far as our lives where you know she slowly want. It's gonna be difficult because it's crazy the way family court. You've dealt with this in family court m hm. Family court is very different. There's a lot of leeway in family court. It's not like regular court where you're just going there. It's a slam dunk just the way it is h family court. Man allows a lot. It's crazy. I've been in that for years. Man and the mother. Uh gets a lot of leeway in family court. But you gotta get some type of orders. You gotta get some type of orders for visitation and things like that. The problem is, I know, I know you have that, but they go outside of the order to do things that there is no order for. You didn't know you needed an order for harassing calls. You didn't know you needed an order for rearranging schedules at the last minute to throw a monkey wrench in the scheduling plan that you had. But he'll have no fury like a woman scorn. The reason you're catching this because she's also aware of the new girlfriend. M hm. See once they become aware that there's the other chick. Oh man, the hale knob get turned up to team No. I understand that. I just don't understand, you know, because like at one point, you know, she like I know, from from dealing with her and being in relation with her, I know that she's she's a manipulator. And you know, the last time he was at court, you know, she's explained to me. You know, she's she's engaged now and that's fine. I'm glad you know that you're moving on into life. I'm trying to move on my life. But at the end of the day, it turns around and it's like, um, you want to stop me from moving or or doing things that I need to do far as to take care of him. You tell me that, Okay, my girl needs to step up and take care of our child. But now when she does that, then it's like, well, oh, you're taking him away from me, and you're taking away my uh trying with my son or that that in the third and I just don't really know far as the others that take so where me and my girl. Now she's kind of like wanting to fall back now, and I'm not sure she doesn't want to continue. Not bake off of me, just stay sf of my son's mother. That she don't want the baby mama drama. Correct, she don't want it. Yeah, and you know what, she don't deserve it you. She loves you, but she didn't know all that came with you. So unless you find a way to deal with brun Hilda until of the hun she gonna wreck this relationship and the next one too. So I don't know if it's a joint sit down that you have to have with the mediator mm hmm, her her fiance that probably don't really exist and you and your girl m Do you all have battles about parenting styles. No, I mean there is a little different, but I know, Um, she's doing around my son a lot, but I know what she means to where I don't take it out of context to where it's like, um no, don't tell him that, or don't don't talk to them like that. You know, I know where she's coming from. Um, you know she's West Indian. So yeah, it's a little different, but I'm okay with it. So No, we don't bump heads with that. Well, unless the three of you all can sit down, man, and have a real adult conversation about the child and give her the respect that she really thinks she deserves as the mother when she does because she is a mother, sit down and have a heart to heart and the three of you sit down, or if she really does have someone, the four of you and say this is how we're gonna parent. I love it, I respect you. I want you to respect me. What do we got to do to make this work? What would you be happy? It's knowing and feeling. How do you want to be involved in your son's life? And we'll incorporate that and see if that works. That's really other than that, man, and you gotta go to court, and the court is too lenient in family court. They just let them, man, They let him do what they wanted. Oh, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning showy Candy Balladine chocolates and stuff. Okay, you want to go back to the phone, Steve. Okay, let's go to line three and talk to Rodney out of Virginia. Oh dude, can't you tell yeah Gus Valentine's Day. They want to get it right and were it up. Crew, have a Valentine Day to everybody doing what you got well the Horby I found this was blessed by the Lord to bring queen to me. After four and a half years of going through agne and everything with an ax, I asked the Lord for what I wanted. I got on my hands and knees for four and a half years, and he found it, brought my queen to me. I didn't I won't look, and she won't looking, and he brought her to me, Mr Harvard, and the same with her, she won't looking after four and a half years after divorce, and he brung both of us together. And like they said, don't miss your blessing, I didn't miss my Mr Harved. And I heard you talk about the place in New York where you can get the value of your ring, far as the value of it, as far as the money off of it. And I wanted to do that because after they put the ring in my hand twenty years ago because they thought the grass was greener, I'm gonna take that ring, go up New York to the place where you were speaking of. I'm gonna trade it in. I'm gonna get my Queen her Ring, and I'm gonna come out in front of that store and I'm going to sing Jeffrey Osborne right to her in the front of everybody out there. I'm gonna sing the song by Jeffrey Osborne, and I'm gonna love her until the day that I die. People think about put that on my talk show. Say a little bit now, I have never been in love before. M m m m. You know he had to get in so round, always got let go and love, don't they know? Damn yeah, the hobbit I'm putting down in New York never never so much more. He's still all in right, sorry, give him a minute, right he could see now never've never is much more than they got into. She come on your short singing song. We gotta close it out right, thank you, thank you. That's right. Put that. Put the rock on the end up when you got to that's where you do when you can't saying you gotta rough it up. That's what you're doing to put the rock on the edgetion. Well, congratulations Rodney, Rodney. What you can do with your ring, no dog is uh self uh you can you can get it evaluated. You don't have to go to New York to get it evaluated. Okay, you could take it to where where do you live? Well, Mrs I live in this slave state. Become with James. I live in the slades, just like I just said, I live in this slade state, the common Wealth of Virginia. Yeah, but I like Virginia's nice is it's not confused love with slavery? Right now? Yeah, we was going pretty good, Nick mad So. Oh no, thank you for calling. Man. You can get your diamond appraised on the local level somewhere. Why is the g store not coming to me? Ge h man, it's not coming in my head? What do you take to get your diamonds? It's the just check up the jul No boy, the place where they evaluate all diamonds. Tell you what the grade is, flaws, color clarity? Oh Ken Ken Wayne? If you want authentic, uh, g F I certified. Oh I think I'm a saying right initial g F I certified? You do all that rich stuff? I don't know nothing about that. I got a brother named Kenny Wayne can tell you exactly what it is. Everything you're gonna see Kenny Wayne, Kenny Wayne eating money right there for the right that's good for you, Rodney though. All right, let's see, let's go to the line. Let's go to line to talk to Tasha out of Virginia. Tasha, Hi, Yeah, have to home. We'll come back, Tsha right after the break hold on Tasha Okay said Okayed, Valentine's Day and you are married, mayor I'm talking to leave me alone? Alright, Yeah, We'll be back to find out what's on Tasha's mind this Valentine's Day. She has a question for the Love Doctor. Do you have a question? Call us eight seven seven twenty nine, Steve. We'll be right back. You're listening to Steve. All right, we're back. We are taking your phone calls eight seven twenty nine Steve. Questions of love for the Love Doctor, Steve Harvey on this Valentine's Day, two thousand and seventeen love. All right, Steve. Let's go back to Tasha online too, out of Virginia. Question for the doctor, Jasha, h Okay, what can I do for you? Okay? So I've been married. Um, it's coming up a year in April, and at the well, not at the top of the year, but towards the end of the year. I decided to make a career change. It did not play in my favor, and I am currently without a job. Um. Since then, my husband has not I consider it not made me a priority. Um. He says things like like if I asked for something, he's like, you know, I take care of the bills in the house kind of thing. And let me explain that we're not in a position where we're pressed for money. Um. He's an engineer. He makes very good money. Um, but it seems like if I asked for something, it's an issue. It's like, I pay the bills, right, Okay, let me let me get a trade. You're you're not working right now? Correct? Okay. He was unhappy with the decision you made. We discussed it prior to me making the decisions because he worked on Monday to Friday and I didn't at the time. Um, my schedule was crazy and I wasn't turning holes until you know, anywhere between ten o'clock eleven o'clock at night, and he was unhappy with it. So we discussed me getting a nine of five. It did not play in my favor. Um, and currently I'm looking for something nine of five Monday through Friday. So that I can spend more time with my family. It was a sacrifice that we made collectively that did not play in my favor. And now, okay, see, listen to me. So you keep saying that, let me ask yourself. You quit your job thanking had the other job and it didn't come through. Correct, Okay, now he mad about that. Yes, okay, it was a joint decision. Okay, let me ask you a question. You quit your job before you had the job. No, I quit the job with the confirmation of having the job, and then they had a free So I'm on pause with no job. Now. I took a vacation prior to quitting my other job and that was the end of my employment with my other employer. Mhm, what is it you trying to buy? What did you want? Trying to buy anything? I don't want to buy anything, but I get anything for Christmas? And his his thing was I pause every time, like, so, you didn't get anything for Christmas? No, and it was I tall all the disen house. Okay, listen to me. This is his way of saying, since you did that, this is what I'm doing now. And now this has caused us some financial strife. So before I go any further in the whole, this is what I'm doing right now. But what I'm saying is in his mind, he's creative because finance is big with him. He watches every penny. He dots all the eyes and crosses all the teas, don't it. He's not that guy. I'm that guy. And watch your tone. Her tone is a problem. That's when she asked for yah, I agree with Right now, you're hauling at me. She's Tommy's on her nerves, ain't y'all know? On Tsha, We'll be back. You're listening show all right? More phone calls right after this, going back to Tasha. Yeah, oh Valentine's Day. Back to the phones for the love doctor Valentine's Day line to Tasha out of Virginia, Hey Tasha, Hi go ahead's um so oh yeah. With the married to the engineer, I think my biggest concern is I just want my sweetheart back. Fike my husband, I just want my sweetheart back. Like my husband, he'll to random acts of kindness like I'll get flowers on a random day or edible arrangement for a card. And now it's you're not getting of that. See he's tying all this to finance. You have to understand that about us. We will tie something to finance if we feel a financial let down, stress or strain were tied to something. He's upset with you about the move you made and until that gets corrected. Here he is. Now he's acting out something that he feels on the inside. It was a jocision. It don't matter. It wasn't really a joint decision. They talked about it. I know what you're saying, sweetheart, listen to me. I'm just I'm just giving you a different perspective how he's looking at it. It was a joint decision. But since you bought the decision, this was your idea. Now he agreed with it. I bet he did. But now he's looking at this is what I agreed to. Now I hold out. The comfort zone that I was feeling of this two incomes is gone. Now I'm solely responsible. Well, I gotta button down the hatches and tightened up the ship. I can't buy you nothing for Christmas. I'm paying all the damn bills. See, because he didn't figure it out. And if you were the person that was doting eyes and crossing the teas with the finances. You're not doing that anymore because now all you're doing is asking for stuff to him. Okay, I mean you know, I just think that's where he could be. How do you really feel about it? So tell me that in regards to okay, okay, you really want your boyfriend back my husband to be my husband. I want him to be the man that I got married to. And it only changed after I lost my well and I can lose it, but still I tried to do my switch, and my switch was for us to have more time together. Right now, you got the time, but there's a loss all the time. Right Well, see now I think have you sat down with him and you all had a lengthy discussion about this. We do, but I mean it escalates, It escalates into an argument about finances. Yes, M see, so that we ain't hurting the factor that you keep telling me in his mind, we hurt mhmm. You don't know nobody that hind If you don't want to work, you can get a sugar daddy. You in the sugar daddy likes him. He ain't gonna buy get you a sugar dad. Let's move on, Mr Ernest. You need to mimr Ernest. Husband needs to be my sugar daddy. That's that's what I want. That's what I want. Hey, baby, you can get that, but you're gonna have to sit it down and you're gonna have the conversation without it escalating. Now, how do you have the financial discussion with your husband without it escalator? We go you're listening to the stew all right, on this love Day, this Valentine's Day, we have more phone calls for you. Um, we'll get to some more, some good ones on the board, Steve. Hopefully we'll be able to get to all of them before we get out of here. This is our last break of the day. All right, Valentine's Day. All morning, people have been calling. Uh. We're calling him the Love Doctor h in honor of Valentine's Day. Steve, all right, let's go to line three. Maurice out of Florida used to be one of Maurice. What's going on? Man? What talk to me? Hey more? Mr? Harder, how are you doing? Man? I'm Goodice? What's happened? Hold alright quick? I got got I gotta get my truck man. Got too much mors all right, mhmod woman to Harvey talked to me, that's all I got a story for you. Man, it's a such a story. Man. I've been married for I know this lady for fifteen years. I've been married to for fourteen years. And she's my first and she's my only one. And her name is the Shan and Sean. Okay, and see oh about six years old, man, I was on my death bed and um, I was out here working and my body crap up on me and I had to get rushed to the emergency room. Man, and the doctors came in and told me. They say, man, you make it be a lie. I said, why you say that? And she man, your muscles shutdown for your kidns? Did Man? Your kids would have shutdown for your muscles. Man, you're gonna be right here talking everything. See, I got a sister in law, she's my sister's arm. Why she's my wife. So some sisters and she came in and she told me it wasn't. It wasn't. The m in my huspital room by myself and everything was talking, and she told me, she say, man, she said, I don't know what it is about you. The muscles the lot of hell out of you, and since sing Steve, I just, I just, I just see myself with this wound forever and forever and forever and seven forever, because no matter if I do wrong, Steve, she's like del to put me back in place and let me know that I still love you, still want to be with you, Alright, So what's wrong though? Yeah, you've messed up too many teams. If loving you is wrong and I don't want to be right, that's how I gotta say. Man, that's all I gotta say. Many. Yeah, you know Maurice is she is? She is? She? Have you caused her to distrust you because of your truck driving job? That times you see that that that that Mourice that go your problems, see the woman come to you on your deathbed. The lady tells you this news. You love it, your love it and your love her, but you keep giving her reasons to distrust you, but you wanted to stay with you don't At one point in time, we have got to learn that women are not stupid and that if what we want is what we want is really real, then we got to get that one and buckle it on down. That's a lot easier for me to say now, because I've been in a great marriage for ten years, but now I ain't always been this way. But you got the right one. See, I wasn't with the right one. You if you went the right one, you gotta shut it down. That's the only thing I got for you, man, you gotta shut it down. You already noticed the one want your muscle shut down? Here you should have shut it. You cry, man, because I'm mad at you. Man, you ever come back to Jack still yet? And and um, I need to know how open you're doing, man, because I haven't heard opening a long time. Yeah. So hell Tommy, you shut up so ree. If you don't shut it down, you're gonna lose this girl. Man. You see, I'm going to tell you right now. Man, from another brother to another brother, Steve, I respect you as a man. I respect you to tell me that. And Mr Steve Harvey, I want you to know, man like fish it alone said when they when they m when you have the legations against him? He said, yeah, five stones and he didn't throw yet. Steve, Man, how many stones you have? But Berg you haven't thrown one yet. And I want to tell you for standing up. Man, I appreciate you and I love you from the front of my heart. Man, from one brother to another. And I thank you, man, I really an answer. Thank you appreciate your black man, I do. I appreciate you so thank you saying that I get it. I know where you're coming from. My race. I read it. He look at you. What hey? Staying there with your with your girl, dow dude you proposed to do? Get here your here's working the truer out. Oh ready alright, look look like you, little Steve. Ready. For all Steve Harvey contests, no purchase necessary, void where prohibited. Participants must be legal US residents at least eighteen years old, unless otherwise stated. For complete contest rules, visits Steve Harvey dot com. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.