Holiday Sidepiece Advice, Truth Be Told Funerals, Food Mixing, Sister O'dell and more.

Published Dec 24, 2019, 3:00 PM

Good morning, Merry Christmas and welcome to the ride! Junior and Mississippi Monica are arguing and Shirley cooked something. Say what!? Certain things will happen over the holidays. We have the games that you can't play and why. In Truth Be Told, Junior talks about funerals. The crew talk about foods that they like to mix together in Comedy Roulette. Sister O'dell stops by to wish the crew a Happy Holidays. What would you do if you suspected your significant other of cheating? Tommy and Bitterman have words of encouragement for all the sidepieces. Today in Closing Remarks, Big Dog talks about how to turn disappointment into motivation, plus more.

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Y'all know what time of y'all don't know, y'all back all suit on the back down, giving them more like the milking buck things in its tubbles. Good it Steve listening to movie together for stun Please Moby, I don't join ya, join me in doing me. Honey. You gotta turn you gotta turn the turnow, got to turn them out to turn the water the water go. Come come on your back. Uh huh, I shall will oh, good morning, everybody. You're listening to the voice, come on dig me now. One and only Steve Harvey got a radio show. Man, If if I had time enough to tell the whole trip, the whole journey, and y'all would be sitting up in there going okay to Steve, are we gonna play the show this week? But man, it's been a lot of amazing things has happened to me over the years, and not all of them good. It's been some amazingly bad things that have happened too. But I just come on in the morning as a reminder to everybody of the actual goodness of God, that you know, man, that these mistakes that you're making, that these setbacks that you keep having, that these falls that keep occurring in your life, that they all are leading you somewhere. If you just don't ever give up. That's the key. You can never ever give up because you don't know how the trip has been laid out for you. You know, if somebody had told me years ago when I had the dream of being on TV and then I thought about being a one of one of the best comedians I could be, you know, when I when I started, somebody had told me everything that was gonna have to happen in order for me to get there, I would have changed it. I would have I would have said, Okay, well I ain't gonna be that. How about this? See and no one can know all of the events of their life ahead of time. You know, it'd be so nice, wouldn't it. You know, to prepare for it, see it coming, be aware of the haters, always knowing when the backstabbing moment is coming in your life, always knowing when you're gonna get blindsided by the enemy. We are really great to know that, wouldn't it. Well, that's not how it works. So since no one knows exactly the challenges and the pitfalls and the detools that's going to be set them. It's it's it's imperative that you just don't give up because see, knowing these things, we as human beings by nature, would choose another route. But it ain't the route God God for you, though, See the route God God for you. If you if you're trying to do the right thing, if you're doing the best you can, if you ain't out here just intentionally just messing over, folks. If you use in faith and that's the belief in things that you cannot see, If you have something on the inside of you to keep saying there's got to be more to life than that, then that's that's you. You, my friend, have a great chance here. And if you've ever had that feeling then gave up on it, just get it back, just ask for it back, Just say, hey man, I'm getting back to the way I used to be because there's a change that's available in your life. But you gotta take it. You gotta take a shot at it. Folks. There's a chance for you to get it right, but you gotta take a shot at it. Folks. There's a chance for you to turn this whole thing around with God's help, but you gotta take a shot at it. You see, this decision is yours. The decision to lay down and give up, that's yours. It ain't. It just got too hard for me, life too much, man, life hard and too much for everybody. What I gotta get you to See, my father used to always tell me, He says, son, best lessons in life to burn your value and learn the most is a balt lesson. I didn't quite understand that being young, but I showed God it Now ain't no lesson like a bout lesson, the one you pay for the old. Those are the ones that hold to you, that stick to you, that that that started turning you into who you're gonna be. Those are the character builders. See, you got to be forged to get to where you want to go in life. So that's what the challenges and missteps is for. That's what the failing is about. Now, I know you don't like it. I didn't. I know you're not comfortable with I wouldn't. I know you wish it was over sooner than later. I always do. I always wanted to be over sooner than later, because the later manager seems like it's so much I gotta go through. But let me tell you something, Man, if you can, if you can forge your way through it and understand that you are forged in life, I don't know. I was on TBN one time when I was doing one of my motivational speeches, and I began to wonder about this experience I had. It Ford Motor Company and my last job after the auto industry started going down, my last job was in the fountry and my job was to stand at the end almost where the engines first come out of the furnace. See, the engines are poured into a mold. It's hot, melted down metal whatever they call it, lava or whatever. They poured into a mole and it goes into this furnace that's extremely hot. And my job was after the heat was applied to the engine block, it would come through and it would go through a hardening stage. But the way it was hardening, they would cool it. Suddenly they would flush it with water. It was just blast water on it. But the fire and the high temperature is what made the engine block solidify. It's because it's gotta get real hot, get melted down first. Then it's got to get poured into a mole. Then it's gotta be pressure, hit with water and all of this, and then and it's real hot. Now it's still hot even though its water been shutter. But when it comes out the end of the side, there's a lot of flashing in it. And flashing is a metal from that didn't dripped through the cast molding on it, just like flecks of extra pieces of metal. My job was to hit this engine block in the front, which is huge, heavy rubber mallet, knock all the flashing off the front, and when it came around back to bam, hit it real hard again on the backside. And that became the core of what the car is. A car without a great engine is nothing. It's just a pretty looking vehicle over there. But if it can't do what it was made to do because the engine block then cracked. So you can have a car look real good, but if it freezes an engine block crack your car, you can it's over man. You gotta get a new block. The block is the core. But in order for you for the car to do what it's got to do, it's gotta have a strong engine in it. In order for the engine to be strong, it's got to be forged and Steell come through fire, get poured in a mole, cooled off, heated, knocked around, beat on the front end, beat on the back end, in order for it to be what it's gonna be. The moral of the story, folks, is you got to get forged in fire to be what you gonna be. You got to get beat up, you got to get pressure washed, you got to have heat on you, you gotta get melted down, you gotta get poured into a mole. That's how you become who you are. So the tough things that you're going through, the difficult challenges and the setbacks. I know a brother who went to prison, man, And the whole reason he ended up going to prison because he was looking out the loot window, looking out in the yard at him working out. And then the next thing you know, man, this brother decided that he was gonna go out there and work out. Well, guess what, he's one of the top trainers in country today. You're listening, ladies and gentlemen, have your attention, please, this is Steve Harvey. I'm trying to get your attention because it didn't started. The morning show is own h I ain't gonna tell you what station it is. Because you hear my voice, you own the station you need to be on. Now. They had these things like station ID and all like that, but if you listening to me, you already owned the station. I'm on too minute to go around the room announcing, But all of us great stations, and you greater for listening. Yes, Martin Shirley, Good morning Steve. Some caller, Good morning Steve. Crew cutting up doing your morning their food, big dog in the building, got your everbody in la Yeah, yeah, check and make sure Junior has this coffee. I was just checking because Monica was supposed to put the cream and sugar in their Steve. I didn't know the relationship was that way what they just got into a major argument about creating I was listening. I didn't know that. I thought they had more of a all you know, co worker existed. This sound like something would like a relationship Tennis. Yeah, the hell is your coffee yet? Exactly your clothes? He shut the room down with that. We're working on it, all right, work it, But I'm not playing about my coffee though every morning it's the same thing. But who you're talking to like that? Yeah? Wait, get it though? She be over there. Just grinny. You better take care of you, man. Yeah, she ain't got a problem. Come getting nail money and stay done. And you know she is about her now. You know, I've never seen all these years i've known Monica, missip Monica, she never came in here to day without them done. And she she alternates, she'll go to the salon and she does them herself. Yeah, she's good. She can doing herself. I can't do. Really, I can't get down. She's staying in the line. Oh yeah, that's what I'm saying. She looks like I did. I ain't don't draw outside the line. Yeah, but it's something with those. I don't know what it is, but it's something. Cough. You gotta know you're good. I'm good man, I'm here. What we're doing? Well, I show I did I put something in the microwave? I cooked? Sup Surely putting something in the microwave to heat it is not cooking. It's in the kitchen, thank you. It's here in the studio in a machine that heats stuff up. As far as I'm concerned cooking at in my world, that's cooking, thank you, all right. Thirty two after we'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You're listening to show, all right? So, um Jay, you when Steve came up? What is this all about? This segment? No better than there's certain things over the holidays when the holidays happened. You can pretty much bet money that some of these things are going to happen. Is that right, Steve? I mean somebody's house. It's somebody's house, all right. Might not happen at your house? One of these, I promise you, one of these. It's gonna happen over the holiday at your house. Okay, let's hear it. Come on, I'm ready on dinner. Dinner will get interrupted at somebody's house because we gotta go get somebody out of Jake. Yeah, that's yeah. Can I finish eating? I just made my place. You hear somebody in the house that I'll accept? Oh my god. Here's here's something else. The new boyfriend, somebody's new boyfriend gonna get beat up by the babycause somebody else. You thought that all this gonna happen, but you can that's gonna go down. Wow, they shouldn't be in the same room. She ain't never leaving me. She never leaves me. He stepped down when she got with you. Here's another a family secret. He's gonna get told. A real dad freading them should have been told. There's another that's gonna happen if somebody's house, Maybe not your, but that will be a fight over the drumstick going down. Oh yeah, oh yeah, you know I told you I wanted the leg I call that boy even left the house. You know, we be somebody who ain't working grabbing. Nobody ain't brought a damn thing. He ain't got no job. One chick gonna show up at the house with the new board friend that's doing way better, got her old when people walk this gonna happening somebody's house. She's gonna show up pregnant again. Yea, you make some baby, she can make them little baby on every black house. Go ahead. Somebody gonna show up dressed like they going to a qualms apart. Yeah, and we'll get man, we don't understand. Ain't you hot? Now? He got attitude? Yeah? Somebody got show up at your house that's been eating meat their whole life, not that vegan. Yeah yeah, disgusted with all the dishes. Yeah yeah, me yes, turkey in the greens because half of we stopped putting park. We upgraded that Jett happened. Come on, some of the women gonna have to circle around because he didn't bought the white girl over. Oh, and they all gonna have to come to the conclusion, is frying. Yeah you might be white, she might be white. She fine. And when you get all that rump fundam a fake m a fake twit my side. She get it what you say, Yeah, that ain't real. You know that ain't real white? She finds. I guess I'll take a guess it might not happening. All those things that's gonna happen, It's gonna happen somebody through And he's thinking right now, I'll tell you something, milk gonna happen. What somebody Christmas tree gonna catch on fire to change these lights all on the tree always herman hair. Somebody somebody gonna put the wrong gift in the wrong box. You did, man, you ever wrapped up something? My drunk as uncle did this. He wrapped up his shirt and gave it to my daddy. And when my daddy opened the box, my daddy said, oh man, this night, Oh hell no, hold on, I didn't get you the wrong sh that's must shirt my daddy said when you gave it to me. Now it's gonna go down like happy holiday. Ready, something else gonna happen to somebody. Tooth gonna fall into food that's nasty, y'all. Each slow, each slow, everybody, don't take these teeth out there like that americ. Okay. Things that will definitely happen over the holiday. Somebody gonna knock the dressing on the floor. Hell gonna. You're listening to show. It's time to run that frank back, trimper casket, trimper cast. Look around the room. When it's well, I need confirmation from somebody to triple cast, run that cat, triple casts mortuary. Help you are you cap? How you doing? My name is Brandon Man, Brandon Giles. Um. I'm calling. We've got somebody that has passed actually three people passed away. I thank you for that, man. It was kind of expected, so you know, it wasn't something that caught us off guard. But you know, but all in all, you know, we're still grieving about losing our loved ones. But but I wanted to give you all a call. We're trying to um pick a particular funeral home on who we want to take care of the services? Yes, yes, sir, yes, sir, okay, we can definitely help you with that. And uh, once again, I just want to to you know, just let you know that we can pretty much do the whole game that we can make sure that you're need to take them from you know, from from now on. Um, we're here for you showing to get that out. What is your main need? You said three people? Sir? Yes, yes, yes, I wanted to bring attention to you. Do you guys customize casks? Yes, we do, goal plating, uh, engraving. We even have a new thing where we can put the picture of the person on the outside like a semigloss coating. We have a couple of ours. Yeah, I don't I don't need that all. No goal or nothing like that. Listen, listen, what I want to do. Is it any way that you could maybe customize a asket that can accommodate three people? Um? Uh yes, like we we can. We can customize each individual casket for each individual. No, no, no, no, Calvin, I didn't want to ask. What I'm saying is if I want to like like I like I said, deep, my could they was all close? You know, I don't have a problem with all three of them being in the same casket. I get you, um uh to you know, to my knowledge is as far as I've been in this business, I've never uh, I'm not really sure we can actually do that. I mean, I mean, I mean, but what's the problem if we can get them all in there and well serve I mean, I think that's a I don't even think if for one, it's legal in this state or any state, three people in one casket, um and ethics wise, I uh, that's not really something that how can I say that we actually you know, but if you customizing a casket, Calvin, then you ought to be able to put as many people in there, if you make it deep enough and wide enough. I ought to be able to get three people in there, right. Well, the customization is is the outer side of the casket and maybe you know, some people even put TV screens on the inside or some of their is they're they're loved ones, memorable mementos. We customize it for that, you know. Colorwise, So what about when when is a person real big h you know, a heavy said person. You know, you got to have a casket that can accommodate them, right, yes, But okay, so so you ought to be able to put you ought to be able to put three people in one casket if they can fit, if you put two one way in one the other other way, then you ought to be able to have all three of them in there at one time. Um, is there anybody else around you and your family that can help talk with me about this? I'm talking right now. I'm trying to get I'm trying to accommodate my cousins and get them straight. And I'm asking you can we get them in a casket, that one casket that can accommodate three people. If you put two pillars on money in one pillars, that's not something we're really that ain't just used to doing, Calvin. But I'm calling you telling you that's the way I want this customize. Man. All right, brother, look brother, brother, just just chill out with customs, all right. So we're trying to get three people, Yea, I have a standard plan, It'll be a low end standard plan for three individual caskets. We ain't gotta we all have enough money for three individual caskets. I keep telling you that we got room for one casket. We just need to big enough, man, so you could get everybody in. Then close the dope. I'm not, I'm not. I don't want to go back and forth with you, sir. I know this is a time. Then go. You ain't gotta go back and forth with me. Building to our knees. I can bear my fami. It's I don't really know what to tell you, sir, but I'm just really trying to help. I'm trying. Won't you tell me you're gonna get three people in the casket looking good. We cannot do that. You houling that. Man, I'm the one going through bereathing. I understand that. But you are you're you're you use the foul language. We can't do it, brother, you hear me, not not. That's no hold on my cousin. Them said they wanted to be No, sir, No okay. Look, I'm look may man, y'all gonna bury these three people, and you're gonna put all three of them in the same damn casket. Man, two two on, one on one end and one on the other. One. Man, sir, if you're drinking, just ain't nobody. Let me tell you something, man, Let me say this to you. Your name Calvin, right, yes, yes, okay, so Calvin, Calvin, let me say this to you. Either y'all gonna bury my cousin is the way I want it, or Calvin, you're gonna get your who you're talking to. That's what's going now. Now, now that's it, right there, sir. I've been trying to be as professional as I can. This whole conversation. It's as crazy as it is. But now it ain't nothing crazy about. No, no, no, no no. I told you I want you to bury my cousin. Come on down here. I got some places to put your body and your cousin's body. How about that? Huh yeah? Because you you know you don't. You don't sound too damn confident. You don't sound too confident, Calvin, I'm gonna tell you right now. I'm gonna tell you right now, this ain't the place and I'm not the one you will be in the ground messing with us. Matter fact. If you come here, I'm go you up. How about that? Okay, Calvin? Okay, Calvin, let me tell you something, Calvin, me and Tommy gonna be down there to day. Then I'm bringing Tommy with me. Who it's Tommy? Huh, This is nephew Timmy from the Steve Harvey Martin Show. Baby, you just got prank Calvin's yo, all have me ready to whip hell? Y'all. I just want to know, Reginald, that works at you. Yes, I'm I'm Reggie. You bet watch with you drink, you bet watch with your tea. I'm on your to revenge. N Hey, cal for give me this man. What's the baddest and I mean the baddest radio show in the land? Man? You know it's nothing but the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Y'all. Y'all got got me got feeling me antybody feeling? You know I am Tommy antybody feeling. I'm not feeling. Trust me. It's some people right now. Mis they could have a trip cask okay each other? I like that too, Tommy hidden hidden shelter all the way up. All right, more of this crazy ignorant show. Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right after this, you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right here we go. The holidays are coming around, and you know gonna have folks over to the house. So what I'm gonna do is set up the game, tell a little bit about it. Steve and Junior're gonna jump in and explain how the games get worse. Start off good, sound like a good idea, but then as the game progresses, problems arrived. Let's simple game stage. We're gonna play some spade. We're gonna set up the table. We're gonna play some spade. And then everything happened. Somebody started cheap. You know, you got that problem. The first time somebody renegued. You swear it was a dead body in the room. So you can't play that. You know, people don't know how to lose and just take it, you know, they take it personal, you know what I mean? All Right, So you're gonna go outside play some touch football. You get vaminate everybody. Just play some touch football. You got a grown ass man think it's cool to run over a third grader? Just run over funish, Yeah, just just punish it. Damn. Man with playing football is a kid. You han't been putting them on me? You know how you put him to check me? What I'm gonna do? Man, want you out here for you play? You a little eight is all I got to shake. You know, if you can't, you can't to handle the heat. Get out this kid. I don't care if your eight. I don't care if your eight. I don't let him cry. Let him cry. He got the line. Man, it's a man's game. It is. It's another game you can't play. Okay, you want to play dominoes. But you got that you that been you've been He've been away for a while, and he takes this game a little bit too Sioux. You know what I mean. He'd been in, he's been away. You know, he's been in the system. He even locked. Dominoes is a different game than him. Yeah. Yeah, you shouldn't have been here. Man. Now you want to play old old way. Man, Hold up dog, holddle dog. I just sent you to the yard on the trail. Man, Hold on dog. You just went to the yard on the trail. You ain't had no trade minute goal. What you're talking about? What I'm talking about, I'm talking about your ass is up. All you're trying to Oh you get shite? What's happening to you? Pard? You're out now, You're out? Now? No, no, no, okay, okay, I'm gonna need two packs of cigarettes for that the holiday party. That's all I'm saying. And I'm gonna need the two packs next time you under shake. We can't play that. We gotta play another game, all right now, we're gonna We're gonna go back outside and try to play just a simple game, family game of dodgeball. It's the same guy. We'll think it's a lot of fun to hit the third grader nine in my whole ball. He ain't fa w he out here playing for cat game. It's called dodgeball. It ain't called standing there and get hit him. Why you gotta hit him so hard? Ain't what he up? I bet he nah' gonna cock back with that little weekend throw like I ain't seen that coming. I get him in the face, in the face, that's why he needs to pay attention. Oh, we go back in the hospital, decide to play chess. But here's what happens. The man who think he knew everything about chess get his ass dusted by that eighth grader. Now he really upset the little boy than told his ass up. He can't take it. That's where all the pieces gonna be on the floor. Yeah, he picked them up. Hold, hold, dog, you can't say, checkmate, we just got started. How are you gonna how are you going to do? Don't don't? No? We even number four, five, six move? What did you talk about? Checkmate? No, that ain't our chess? Go thinking mad? Game right at You ain't had time to think, David, he won the game, man game. He just said, checkmate. Yeah, he beat you the game. How show me? How held you showed you? That? Ain't you can't do that? See you gotta do Look, man, in chess, you have to make a minimum of twenty moves each. He didn't have to do that for you. Dog. That's how it's done. Dog. Now you ain't post say unless it's been twenty moves. Maybe try to something else. I don't know, man, See y'all need to play chess with white folks. Everything is racial with you. Last game, last game. We can't play checkers. It's the same guy with the dodgeball really enjoyed beating a third Ready he gets such bam bam, brown king me yours crying for the white your ass out? No no, no, no, no, no no man, you can't jump bad because you got the red pizza. Red red pizza. Can't jump bad man. End of this game. Okay, you're listening. You know, people think that if you don't speak with them, then there has to be a problem. Yeah, you know they think that they really do believe you. Yeah, what's wrong with you? You know? So I get a text message from a family member that red. When family and friends go through life not speaking, there will come a day to regret it. It's called the funeral. Well, I want to respond to that family member, real civil truth be told. If I go first, what I'm trying to hope to do. If I go first and I don't have it, I read it to regret it. I mean really, the fact that you sit it over there and you still haven't got a response, what I mean. I'm not mad. I just don't speak to you like this. No, I don't have time like like this is This is people to understand. If you text somebody and you look at your text law and all the text messages, yea off from you? Dave responded, can't you a message back if the last message you got from me was married Christmas, that we just don't talk. That's not my fault. If you keep telling people to tell me that you said call you guess what I ain't call. Just won't you understand that I'm not mad at you. I just don't have to talk to you. So you can be mad if you won't do Yeah, okay, it is called the funeral. But then, knowing you and why I'm not talking to you, I won't even be mad when I shouldn't get I get up with confidence and lie like everybody else, he lies a great individual, someone beyond aman, a life changes. I can get up the line with the best. That's all I got to say. All Right, thank you. You got to get it for you figure out I'm not talking talking. If you send a bunch of I'm not talking, just talking. Sometimes it's good to people out again. You know I haven't said everybody should not be in your life. Hello, I'm doing it. All right. We'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Jay, time for comedy Roulette? Do you brew? Can I explain it? Can? That's what? Do you brew? Me? No? Do you take two damn long explain? Then we ain't got time to do the segment. Hey, this comedy role, we're gonna spend the wheel for them, and we're gonna decide what are we gonna do? And we've already to be determined what it is we do this all right? Number one things you let's day in the fridge too long? Number yeah, I like that one. Number two the TV show you can watch over and over and over. Number three the one dance you'd like for them to bring back that one dance. And number four food you like to mix together that nobody else like. Let's spin the wheel, spun it. Oh it stop to number four food you like to mix together that no one else likes. Guys, Yeah, let's tell it. You get yourself an egg, put it in a frying pan, crumble up some old cornbread, salt and pepper. Oh my god, that is delicious. Eggs. Don't know about about dance that don't know about it about that? You got what you get? Now you're saying corn bread, But I had that too, like the night before, leftover, Get some corn bread right this morningful breakfast, put up with them grits. Corn bread and grits is where it said y'all missing. That's now y'all missing it as well. Follow y'all with this other trifling thing to do. Corn bread, corn bread and buttermilk. Oh, my goodness, boy, you put some butter milk. Girl, No, you're not right up there with that corn bread, the mags and that corn bread. I'd rather have corn bread and buttermelk. You rather had gritzy corn. No, man, you take yourself some van camp porking beans, okay, got it, and some chicken gravy and some rice in pain it up, little gravy on top of that. Old my goodness, and set down somewhere. I have a weak's stomach. No, that's c oh my god. All right, this is food you like to mix together. But I tell you what I like to do. This is me first. I do this all the time. Mac and cheese and bacon. Ain't nobody women, ain't nobody withmen make mac and cheese and the crunch and the crunch. I can see that. I'm ok. Come on, this is one that the lady used to bring to the house. I used to run lima beans with spam in it. Yes, Lord Fanny Maide, Miss Fanny Maide, lima beans with spam, and it big chunks a spam too. All right, all right, this is probably why I'm a diabetic right now, you take yourself some vanilla age cream. Yeah, get your big scoop of peanut butter and drop that up in there. Old don't nobody wanted that? Boys put but don't know about it like that. I hate all of Jay's foods. You like to mix together that no one else likes. Ahead, Okay, I got a cousin. I can't understand. It wasn't me. I just saw it. They look they're look different, okay, but they they they put They took Swish cheese and melted his own doughnuts. I don't know what that is. I swear to God, I don't know what that do. But David, when he bit it, he was heavy body to be checked. You need to be checked. You need to be checked. Now you're gonna talk one of my favorites. Ras just gizzarts, rolls and egg gnawed every damn holiday boys fried ratshit gizzarts, rolls and egg nab. Shut up about yourself, Miss Schuberts. Put him in the heath. Girl. Oh it's just gives it what and egg and corn bread and somebody crack a window please, I'm Swiss cheese on top of that with a scoop of edut butter. All right, thanks guys. All right, we'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right after you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. Nephew is here with today's praying phone call. What you got for his nephew? This is for uh, you know what, Shirley, this is for you? Huh, Carla? Why don't get into the bright mississipping Monica? Neighborhood Watch. Neighborhood Watch. Okay, that sounds all right, right, Okay, what a not? Let's run it though. God, Hello, I'm trying to reach Johnny. Yeah, it's Johnny. Okay, you're the one that'll be doing the neighborhood Watch. You'll be walking your dog doing the neighborhood Watch? Is that you? Who's this is this? Johnny? Who is this? Man? This is PJ? Answer my question? Are you Johnny on your road on your rod? I'm Johnny and I do the neighborhood Watch? Who is the damn PJ? I go on, man, don't call my phone, yell at me, charging me up? Hey man? Really the two streets over from you, okay, And you're supposed to be the neighborhood watchman. But that ain't what you're doing now. I didn't caught you looking in the window at my wife when I came outside. You halfway down the street, you and your damn dog. So you ain't watching the neighborhood. And you're looking trying to see some in the window. That's what you're doing, picking some Please, I don't look, man. I'm doing my job. Man, I do my name, I do my job, do the neighborhood watch. I make sure people ain't breaking over the houses. I gotta white. What the hell I want to look at somebody else's wife. I got a pizza at home. I want you need. Then you need to stay out looking people to looking through people. Wonder Man, you're supposed to be watching the neighborhood, not watching my wife. When you say you live again because we went, I live two street. You know what, I'm gonna tell you what though, I'll tell you what damn people Tom. I'm gonna show you what a damn people Tom is. Now I'm gonna show you what. No, I'm gonna start looking through your window looking at your wife. See what you serve? But nothing, pete, mister John. But but putting your over here. I want you to look. I want you to look at my damn window. This. Who the hell is this? I ain't got time for this. Man. I got a job, I got a mortgage, I got kids. I ain't got time for this. Man. Don't look at a job. Man, don't don't find a job. I got a job. I got a job for when I'm at work. You gotta job. Yeah, you got a job. Crying like a damn talking by somebody looking at your Why I donna body look at you, white man, got a job. But when I'm at home, the rob I'm wondering if the back of the looking through the window at my wife. Please come to my damn house. Please, I'm coming later than to look through the window. Fine, Remember the hell are you talking about? Calling me? Tell my people? And it's just damn white you nobody, that's what you've been doing. Man, no wife. You probably ain't got no wife. You're probably married to him damn midget or something. You're talking about, man, tell about not people at your wife. You got wattle wife, and you were in the wonder and a Williams still watching the neighborhood. But that ain't what I'm doing. I gotta take come over here now because you're rhynd neighborhood. You three streets whatever I'm in, streets, whatever you are for me? Come night now. I stand outside with my dog pushing on your I want you to come by what I'm coming later the night when she at that shower the same way you was looking through my one. Please just come by, don't wait, just come by now, please. I can't go that way with I don't talk about right now, but I'm playing somebody with me. I'm getting ready to slow down so I could get ready and tell them my business man. I'm getting ready to gold work again in the day. Man, What the hell are you talking about? Bro? I got two damn jobs. I got a job to what I'm doing today and at night, and in between I do the neighborhood watch. I'm doing your service. I'm holping your lazy Do you stop your watching people looking to see if they're looking at your damn wife? Why don't you get you a second job or something? Man? Why don't you google? Whyn't you look at muster dot com or something? What the hell is wrong with you calling me Tim? I'm peeping at your day on watch man, don't you ever call me with no Who the hell is this anyway? Yeah? Who the hell is this? Because I'm got something for you. Who is to tell you who it is? This is nephew Timmy from the Steve Harvard Morning Show. You just got pranked by your wife Trisha, and they want baby. They ain't right, baby, baby, that ain't right. Then you got me man, because I said, ain't nobody to gonna get me on No frank, nigga, I don't fall that, man, damn prank You wife told me you do the neighborhood. Watch oh man, she said you do the neighborhood you walk, you know, because what you gotta Rode Wall told me that's why I use niggers. I want to be safe. They just can't something happening. I just stick my rock fell on that. Then you got me bad that You you got me bad man, You're good, I'm good. Bang. I'm gonna get her though. All right. Let me ask you this, though, what else the baddest and I'm talking about the baddest radio show in the land made the Steve Harvey Shown. I just want to know it's my twenty nineteen stupid start now right, Yeah, I just lord, I have to jump nineteen the right. Wait, no, you didn't. Huh Why would you jump start something that was in full blast if you don't think it's next level, Steve, you don't think it's next the top. When he comedly stupid, he had top his game. King President and CEO, you got you did game. Thank you sirs. We'll be back right after this. You're listening to Steven Show. It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today, and listen. Guys. If you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, buck up, hold on tight. We gotta for ye hiberties the Strawberry Letter. We could be reading yours, just like we're reading this one subject. You can't hide a beautiful body. Dear Stephen Shirley, i am a thirty year old single woman without any children, and I've been dating a forty one year old man that has three young daughters. We've been together for five months, and all of a sudden, he does not approve of how I dress. He told me that I dress as if I want attention from other men, and not like a wholesome woman. I am a full time legal assistant at a popular law firm, and I take law classes at night. At work, I'm in heels and pencil skirts, and on the weekend, I dress for whatever the occasion is, and it's my own personal style. I have a beautiful curvy body, and at my age, I don't see the problem with me wearing a top that shows a little stomach or a dress that shows off my curves. He didn't have a problem with how I dress when he met me, but now he has been talking about it NonStop. I recently met his daughters and I was dressed appropriately in jeans and a sweatshirt. He still said that I need to do a better I need to do better at presenting myself in a more wholesome manner when he met. When he and I met, it was not wholesome, So why does he want me to seem wholesome now? I never intended to be a role model for his children. He says he wants me to be more like his friend's wife. And that's all fine and good. If I were an older, stay at home mom, but I'm not. Why is he bringing this up now and trying to change me. I'm at the point where I want to settle down and he could be the one, but obviously I'm not the woman he really wants. Could this be a deal breaker? Please advise? Well, you know what, It depends on how you look at it. It could be a deal breaker if he's like this controlling dude you know that wants to tell you how to dress, and you know, compare you to other women, and like he's doing in this letter all of that. It could be that, or it could be he's considering you for a little more serious role in his life, because I don't understand why he would even be concerned about how you're dressing if you're not dressing like, you know, a stripper or something in front of his friends and daughters. Dressing for him in private is one thing, but there is something to be said about appropriate dress in front of others, especially young impressionable girls. I'll give him that. Although you said you were dressed properly when you met his daughters in jeans and a sweatshirt, you didn't say that your tummy was out. You didn't say any of that. I mean, this guy does sound controlling, he does sound bossy after only five months in. And remember what he's doing now, how he's talking to you. Now, you guys haven't even made the six month mark. That's how it's going to be in a relationship and into a marriage. So you're gonna have to decide if that's what you want. I mean, you have your own personal style, and you said you don't see anything wrong. I mean that's what's fashionable. Top tops are fashionable, Uh, you know, as long as you're surely had on one in the in the d at all at all. I mean, you could do things tastefully. But we were at the beach. Can we just say that, Steve, we were. We were. It was a swim party and everything. We weren't that no beach. We was on the inside in the auditorium. But I saw you. I don't know where you came from from the beach. Didn't look like bel didn't have on that anyway, back to the letter, you can't hide a beautiful body as the subject. So you know, even though you never intended to be a role model for his children, sometimes we're thrust in those positions. You know, you're dating this guy, and he does have daughters, so you have to consider that when you are around them, you're you're You're not there um their mom or anything, but they are. If you're around their dad, they are looking to you for certain things. So you know, I'm not telling you to cover up and dress like a nun from heagetor or anything like that, but be mindful, especially around the daughters, of how you're presenting yourself. You know, just do that for their sake. Okay, come out of yourself for a little bit and just do that for their sake. As far as you and this guy goes, time will only tell if he continues to be controlling. He sounds like a nagger and all that already. But you got to decide if you want to deal with that, because it's not gonna get any better. And yeah, when you're fine and beautiful, you can't hide it. You cannot steve let it out. Well, this is a real simple fix right here. Appreciate everything you said, Sherley. Here's the other side of the coin than See. The way you dress, that's how you got him. The way you look, that's how you got him. See he liked all that when he saw you. That's what got his attention. You had what he wanted. That's why y'all together now, the little pencil skirts, the tight fit, the crop tops to cleave it showing, the wrap skirts, the fitted sweater. Y'all go out on weekends, you dress how you wan't bam. That's what got him. But now he want to change. Well, see the problem he got now is he probably need a nun. He needed to date somebody that's a little bit different than you. Here's I'm first, I'm gonna get into this right here. You thirty and he forty one. That's eleven years. That's a gap. That's a gap, and it's a real gap. When it's more than an eleven year distance, eleven year difference, it's probably more because he's probably an older forty one, if you know what I mean, he probably an old stuck up forty one. Then you might just be a little be younger thirty. But you a lawyer, you work at a law firm, You got a career. You gotta go to work appropriate. You can't go in there looking like anything. You know, you can't go to work looking like you a case. So I think what's really happening here is this eleven year age difference is bigger than eleven years because in his mind he wants something else. All right, we'll come back with part two of your response at twenty three after the hour. Right after this you're listening to show. Let's recap today's strawberry letters, Steve. Let's get to part two of your response, subject you can't hide a beautiful body. Well, this thirty year old lady married this old as for the one year old man with these three damned daughters that she ain't got no kids. They've been together five months and he don't approve now how she dressed. You know, he says you dressed like he want attention from other men. See that's crazy because see you dressed got attention from him. Now that he got you, he don't want nobody else paying attention to you. This is the beginning of something greater. Now, I really do believe that this dressing is the beginning of something greater. And like Shirley said, he could be very controlling. Next thing, you know, you can't where it is. Next thing, you know why you're going over there, and next thing, you know why you're spending that. Next thing, you know, I don't want you driving that colon. No mo next thing. You know you ain't gonna hand no friends. I don't see a problem with me man or top to show a little stomach, or a dress that shows off my courage. He didn't have a problem with you dress how he met me. You don't gonna write he didn't he But now you've been talking about a NonStop that's called some of his damn friends is looking at you. See now he's starting to notice some of the other men looking at you. Now he's feeling sort of inadequate. You know, I don't want you to do this, so I don't want you to. He's feeling some little little bit of insecurity too. I think I recently met his daughters and I was dressed appropriately in jeans and a sweatshirt. He still said, I need to do a better presenting myself in a more wholesome matter. What the hell and wholesome that's what I'm saying to cover it up from head to tell. So why you want me to seem wholesome? Now? I never tend to be a role model for his children. Okay, now let me explain something you can't say that I can't say that to him, Man, I ain't trying to be no damn role model for your damn kids. Uh, I can't say that. Don't say that, lady. He ain't gonna handle that good, all right, He says, he wants me to be more like his friend's wife, and that's all finding good. Well, he should marry his friends. He should just go dates one of his one have, have his friend's wife introduce him to some of her friends. They all three keys. It's stay at home mom, Yeah, drive a minute van. It all, it's all good. Ain't nothing wrong with that. But you're gonna get out, this little fan says, call you guy. You're gonna get yourself a minute van, get down here to this damn save a lot and get you damn grocery. Wow, that's what you're gonna do. Why is he bringing us up now and trying to change mem I'm at the point why I want to settle down, and he could be the one, but obviously I'm not the woman he really wants. Well, now, hold on, let's just take these last two statements. I'm at the point where I'm ready to settle down and he could be the one, could be the one, and but obviously I'm not the woman he really wants. Okay, he could be the one, but obviously I'm not the woman he really wants. Could this be a deal breaker? It could be a deal I think what you should do, though, is wait a little while and just see how it goes. You know, don't make a commitment. Just stay in this relationship and see how I go, See how heavy he gets with them, what he wants. You know, you know, some of the little changes you can make in your dress might be good for you, but then some of it might not be what you want to do. You can't just totally flip the script for this man, and he ain't flipping the script for you. I will flip the script for a woman if she flipped the script for me. This as long as I get flip, that's me stupid. You got to get flippy. That's what j J. The woman he used to date big slid. It ain't gonna go like you, man, Wi No, no, no, no, no, Jay, that's how he liked it. Then you ain't been flipped. No, I don't either. How come I'm facing the head bo. That's not a good feel. I don't know what you're doing when you flip me first day coming out, when it is going, whoa, what were you doing here? Calling? Calling sexual time out? It's too hard. Can't flip me? Usually when you get flipp is followed by shut up, but yeah, we mean about say so you can your respect is taken. No, man, you're not gonna talk to me like that. No, no, no no. If you keep getting flipped, it follows up with a slap. Oh oh man, this is this is scary. This is yeah, you know now that you look at it, Tommy. As I was doing light flipping, this is aggressive flipping. Nat. Also, once you get flipping, once you get flipped, you get this baby, fix my play, fix your damn. I don't say a place. I can't get a sandwich, I can't get the same. You're gonna lead the covers on me like that. This is going to look ugly, right, yeah, yeah, you don't want to get flip. Yeah, take your flip back, Tommy. Yeah, all right, Look, we gotta go email us your Instagram us guys. Uh, your your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at Steve Harvey f M. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, sister Odell is here to wish us happy holidays and to tell us about some of her holiday traditions, and maybe she will even bless us with some Christmas caroling of her own ladies and gentlemen. Sister Odell, Oh me rap, I'm going rabba well well, well, good morne is everywhere, Lord Jesus, Such a blessed holiday. You know it's my favorite holiday. You just pushed me in such good hill with everyone and everything. Hey Cally, Hey, sister Odell, Happy holidays. How you doing today, Shirley? I am doing well, Sister Odell. I love the holidays. Merry Christmas to you me too. And that's real sweet ages. Hey boy with that high boys, how monst there? Steal up there? Yeah, stealing up there, Matt, real high boys, you got there. Well, might as well say hi to the happiest one on the show. Funk Christmas. Hey, look hello there, good morning, good morning, morning, morning morning to everyone. So what can I do for y'all to day? What did you want? Any special requests? I mean giving holiday spirit to move? Well? Um, you wanna bless us with the song since you're here? I mean I know you love Christmas songs. You can finish na, I see it all How jeez, did you like jingle bells? It's your dell? Well, you know the original version. They change it when white people started singing, what what do you mean? What you mean like jingle bells? Jingle bells? That's not original when used to this used to be jingle bears. Used to go like this, jangle or jangle or jangle Oh, jangle, jangle lord, jangle bell, jangle bells, jangle bells, jangle all away. I said, jangle bears, jangle bells, jangle all the way. Then you know, white folks couldn't do it, so they had to sing would yeah, yeah, what's your version of? All right? More of this crazy ignorant show. Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right after this, you're listening to Steve Show. All right. Yahoo is reporting, guys, a new pole that finds fifty nine percent of couples say that they suspected their partner of cheating. If they suspected them, they would discuss the matter with them rather than jumping to conclusions. I'm going to say that again for the lateies. Okay, fifty nine percent of couples say that if they suspected their partner of cheating, they would discuss the matter with them rather than jumping to conclusions. Okay, cool, Let me ask you a questions, Shirley and Colum, Now, let me ask you a question. Just listen to this question. If you suspected your husband of cheating and it was not on the internet, nobody knew, none of your co workers, it was not it wasn't made public. If you suspected your husband of cheating, would you bring it up calmly? Would you bring it up with anger? How would you do it? Probably? All of the above for me without the calm though you're already nowhere, bigger, all of it. All of the above for me, without the calm anger. If I suspected that not yet? No, well, I mean, if you had suspicious you ain't have no proof. You ain't, you ain't heard nothing, you ain't got no pictures, ain't no, ain't on internet, and none of that. But Steve, you know we have intuition. You know we have intuition. You disappointing to you, mister Harvey. I don't know. I'm just trying to see what y'all would do. I don't really And the word discussion I have a problem with. There will be no discussion. Well, are you gonna just find out on your own first? Like you see us? I let me ask you a question. Suppose you discovered that you were wrong about him and that he wasn't cheating. What happens at that point? Oh, then I'm apologizing and begging to his forgiveness, begging for his forgiveness and threatening him he better not do it. You see what happens? Yeah, God in the tart, you gotta do that. Yeah, you apologize for your wrong doing, but you know, make it up to him. You know that. Wow, that's amazing. Any more questions, We're here for it. No, y'all's answers short, yeah and truthful, and there's no one. There's no one in between, ain't no? You know that's I don't like talking to y'all. Were you expect I think something else? I don't know what I expected, but that wasn't it. You've obviously been through this before. I'll tell you what I found out though us I'm fine out. I ain't fired up to have a discussion. Once they fired out, I'll cheating. It's old. You're uglass sitting up here. Got the lyric cheat? No, you get but Junior. Don't you know that money changes things? Yeah? How you get the nerve that was before? Look at you now see Tommy saying dang Junior like you can't believe Junior called itself. U Tommy, you're ugly. No, I am not. Am not gonna let you stop doing that. You go listen twenty eighteen. You're not gonna do this. I'm not. I'm gonna tell the truth in two thousand natures? Are you finem? No, I'm not no fine and I'm not out, but I ain't just been to be uglyttle. No, I'm not doing that. Dog, You're not fine and I'm not. But listen to me. If you're not fine, then by a long ship what you think that is? Why do you do that to him? Steve? I don't know why Tommy keep thinking he cute, but you're not cute. I didn't say I was cute. I'm just saying I'm not Listen to me. Listen to me. You look strang. I'm decent. I don't you do. I do not looks grang. To just get a mirror and look at yourself from the side. You're strange looking. I'm not strange. Don't tell me. You are you look strange all everybody, all the men in our family, we're strange looking from the side. Look't have fun with the time when you accept it. Tommy, he's never going to accept that. You guys know that I'm not I'm not doing it speaking of times to break with strange. Look, you're listening to show. I think it's time for Tommy and I, Tommy and I together. It's to talk to the side pieces over the holidays, because we stopped that call and now they stops. They need a Christmas. What changes. It's thirty days. Do you know what? There are a lot of people who didn't hear what we did for Thanksgiving. So now we're speaking to a new batch of people. Some people became side pieces, you see. Say Christmas, ladies, let me talk to y'all. What all right? The twenty four Christmas? That's your Christmas? Okay, And let me tell you something. You your twenty four is really from about eight a m. To about one to two pm right in there, that's your Christmas. Yeah. Yeah, whatever you vision y'all doing on Christmas, that's your time right there. So if y'all want to walk into living room like y'all just woke up. Go ahead, walk in there like y'all just woke up. Gifts under the tree, pajamas on everything. Let's go on. Okay, have some lunch. Okay, but now when one o'clock strikes hello, we have to go. Okay, he's got to leave. Now, you gotta go in the afternoon, and afternoon he's gotta go. Your Christmas is over? What is she supposed to do for the rest of the day. What did she playing on doing? Yeah? Good part about it? You know when it starts and you know when it ends. This is what we're he you're listening show. You know, people think that if you don't speak with them, then there has to be a problem. Yeah, you know they think that they really do believe. What wrong with you? Yeah, what's wrong with you? You know? So I get a text message from a family member that read, when family and friends go through life not speaking, there will come a day to regret it. It's called the funeral. Well, I want to respond to that family member, real civil truth be told. If I go first, what I'm trying to hope to do. If I go first and I don't have I read it to regret it, really the fact that you sit it over there and you still haven't got a response. What that means. I'm not mad. I just don't speak to you like this. No, I don't have time like this is This is people to understand. If you text somebody and you look at your text law and all other text messages, yea off from you day responded you a message back. If the last message you got for me was married rispons, we just don't talk. That's that's not my fault. If you keep telling people to tell me that you said call you, guess what I ain't called. I just won't you understand that I'm not mad at you. I just don't have to talk to you. So you can be mad if you won't do Yeah, okay, it is called the funeral. But then, knowing you and why I'm not talking you, I won't even be mad when I shouldn't get up there with confidence and lie like everybody here lies a great individual, someone who lived beyond a mean a life changes. I can get up that lot with the best thing. That's all I got to say. You gotta get before you figure out I'm not talking talking you send a bunch of I'm not talking. I just ain't talking. Sometimes it's good to cut people outgain know, I ever said everybody should not be in your life? Right? Hello? All right, coming up, it's Steve Harvey and his closing remarks. You don't want to miss it. At forty nine after the hour, you're listening. All right, Here we are at the final break of the day with just one more thing. Steve's closing remarks, What do you have for us? Say? What do you have for us today? Sir? Your wisdom? Drop it? Okay? Uh? Today, I thought i'd talked to you about something with a with a little bit different angle to it. It's gonna be positive, But I want to talk to you about something that many people consider negative. I want to talk to you today about disappointment because I think that we all have to grapple with disappointment from time to time. The problem with disappointment is that disappointment also if you don't understand it, disappointment can turn so ugly so fast. Too many people allow disappointment to turn into resentment. Too many people allow disappointment to turn into a final verdict, so to speak. In other words, you know, so many people think that this disappointment for them, symbolizes the end. When you allow for disappointment to turn into resentment, and you allow disappointment to turn into the final verdict, you're losing what disappointment actually can become for you. And I want you all to start looking at disappointment as motivation. How many times have you been faced with something that was disappointing. Let's say you go in to get a job and you're on your last interview, and I have been in this position. Man. I was trying to get an insurance job one time years ago, and I went in and I had gotten gone through about three or four interviews. I was at my final interview and I said, man, I'm about to get this job. Man, get my little family together. I'll be all right. And got to that interview and they told me no. And the reason they gave me for not hiring me was I had moved too many times over the past seven years and that represented it to their company, a sign of unstableness. That disappointment for me was gut wrenching. I actually got in my car, my little seventy two Chevy, and I was driving off Man and tears was in my eyes. When I got up on the freeway and I drove back and I looked back over at that big building with that big powerful name on it, and I had gone through four interviews and I and all of a sudden, I was so disappointed and not got getting hired. But you know what I learned to do though, from that moment on, I turned all my disappointment into motivation. I said, Okay, now, this might not be right for everybody, but I use it as a challenge. I use all my disappointments as okay, I'll show you. I use them all this motivation. From the time my teacher told me that you ain't gonna never be nothing, that there's no way they'll put somebody like you on TV because you have a stuttering problem and you can't even talk. I said, okay, but who are you who is issuing out this disappointment? Because you're not gonna make me resent you and you're not gonna cause me to think that you're denying me this opportunity. Are you handing me this bad news of disappointment. I'm not going to allow you to be my final verdict. You will not be the truth teller in my life. You are not going to be the person who who is the author of my destiny. You are not in that belongs to God, not you, and I will not give that to anyone. So when you're facing disappointment, do not hand that disappointment over to the person who gave it to you in the form of empowerment. Do not allow them to control your destiny with this one piece of disappointment that causes you to go into sexual resentment, that you become bitter that all of a sudden, now all you think about is that, and you be getting you developed this nasty attitude. You don't have to do that, and you also don't have to let them become the final verdict. They are not the author of your destiny. They are not the author of your future. They are not that belongs to God and only God. Don't let them trip you up. And I'm saying this because I've had many, many, many disappointments. You ain't this. You ain't that. I've had shows canceled, gigs taken, I've been fired from radio, I've been all in all, I've had some disappointing setbacks. But let me tell you something I've learned to do. I've learned to take all those setbacks and use them as motivation. And I just quietly say to myself, you ain't my God, You ain't the author of my destiny. You didn't create me, you don't know me, you have no say so in the real outcome of who I'm going to be and what I'm going to turn myself into. It's not you, And I'll not give you the power to do that to me. You who think you have the power by telling me no, by turning me down, by refusing me, by voting against me, by saying that I'm not the right one for the part, that's saying that your company don't need a person like me, by telling me that I represent an unstable person, by telling me that I don't have what it takes. No, no, no, no, noll. It's just because you don't know, because you don't know what God really has for me, And that ain't your fault. So why bear resentment for these people who are causing this disappointment in your life? You don't have to do that because they are not the author of your destiny. And don't you dare give them that. You take that disappointment and you use it as the motivation. I feel sorry for people who tell me no, because you know what I know. I know. They just don't know what God has for me. And I end up somehow through God's grace and mercy showing them all. Keep the right attitude, y'all. God got something for you through all your disappointment. Y'all have a great weekend. Okay. For all Steve Harvey contests, no purchase necessary void where prohibited. Participants must be legal US residents at least eighteen years old, unless otherwise stated. For complete contest rules, visit Steve Harvey FM dot com. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.