Today's show is pre recorded. Y'all know what time, y'all don't know, y'all back all looking back to back down, giving them like theming bu bu things and it's not good. String to mother, stay, don't join me. You gotta use that turn out, very you gotta turn to turn them out. Love got the turnout to turn turn the water the water. Come, come on your baby, I share will a good marning everybody. You're listening to the voice, come on, dig me now. One and only. Steve Harvey got a radio show. Oh man, Steve Harvey got a radio show because God. Because God is simply amazing. Because God is off the chain, because God is over the top, because God is all that in a bag of chips. God is amazing. Man. God will take you places that you never ever thought you would go. Oh you know what? It Sometimes it amazes me when I'm watching all people talk about themselves and their careers and where they're adding life and things and they and I hear people say, you know, always dreamed of being him. You know, I can understand when a person says that I've always dreamed of something like this would happen to me. But I want you to think about that for a second. Did you really see it just like that though? Did you really really see it just like that? Did you really know that God was gonna bring you through all he bought you through to get you to this place? Did you know that, in spite of the losses along the way that would crumble the average person, that somehow He kept you through it all and that's how you got here? Did you think of you know? I mean, you know, you know. I mean, since you're so busy talking about yourself now, have you forgotten all the times He was bringing you through when you didn't see no way that you was gonna get through? Do you remember that? So when you sit there and you say, I dreamed of this, this is what I always saw happening, I don't really think. So, I don't really think. If you take inventory, or real close inventory of your life and you look back on it all, stop looking at the moment right now, remember where you come from. See, that's what gets me emotional sometimes, that's what makes me tear up, because when something is happening to me in the moment, it ain't the moment for me, it's the memory of how I got there. It's the recollection of all the things, all the nights, all the days in that car, all the times by myself when I felt like I wasn't gonna make it. But somehow I'm standing somewhere and somebody passing out an the ward to me or somebody calling my name, that's that. Did you really think you was gonna make it? Then? So so so, since you're talking about this is what I always dreamed of? Did you really think in those moments right there that you would even be standing here today? That's why I try. I try to give people understand you know, and and and and this is kind of for young people today what I'm about to say. But then guess what I sometimes I have to remind myself of it. So I guess it's still kind of for everybody, you know, because I work with a lot of young people, and so many times, man, young people just don't understand what all it takes. And I know, and if you're a full grown a dot, if you're forty, you you really understanding where I'm coming from, because you know, it's listen to me, young people or anybody that don't understand this, that you got to do some things that you don't want to do. In order to do what you want to do, you have to understand this principle of success or else you are not going to become successful. I got what you want to do. I got your ultimate goal? Is this, that, and the other? I got all of that. But in the meantime, though, there are some necessary steps that you have to take in order to become successful, and you cannot skip these steps. You can't jump over these steps just because you want to be rich, Friday, I got that. I got that. Everybody got that. But if you want this, whatever you're talking about, whether it's money or success or fame or climbing the corporate letter or this is the position or you all, that's fine, and Danny, please hold on to your dreams. Dreams come true. But in the meantime, let me remind you of something that you gotta do some things you don't want to do in order to do what you want to do. Let's say you want to be rich and famous. Let's just say that's it for you. Let's sit It's a lot of other ways of being successful. Please don't think that's the only one. But I'm just saying, let's just say yours is rich and famous, And let's say some miraculous way God made you rich and famous. Next Friday, you rich and you famous? Next Friday? Can I share something with you? This is not going to last for you. You know why because you have not done the things next Sinceary, you have not done the things that you have to do in order to do the things you want. So now you're rich and famous. How you gonna know how to budget money? How are you gonna know how to get up and keep clawing towards the top when you fall off your pedestal? See, it's so many things you got to know about something, and you think because it's what you want right now, it's supposed to happen just now. It's a process when you ask God for something. Please know God know the process. He knows the necessary steps to take you through. Don't lose your patience with God because your dreams ain't coming true right now? Man? You know you know I think the best way y'all is for me. I just use myself as an example. I really do understand why God has given me the life he's giving me so far. I understand it being homeless part. Now I get the not being successful when I want it too. Now I get it. I got the delayed entry into the field of choice for myself. I got it now. I've been wanting to be on TV and a little comedian since I was nine years old. But guess what, I didn't get there until I was twenty eight. But see I didn't get it. Then I was mad at God. You know what, I won't np sending them in here. I got exactly what you want, But I got this process. I want you to go through to get here too, because see I'm fit to take you somewhere. You don't know nothing, but one day you're gonna have a radio show with You're a little stupid behind. You don't know this yet. I'm gonna bless you with a radio show. You don't even know it. That's why I say every morning, Steve Harvey got a radio show because see I didn't. I didn't see this one coming. But see God had a plan for me. It was in the blueprint of my life. So God said, what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna make your life a little rough for you. I'm gonna toss you up a little bit. I'm I'm gonna let you make some of these stupid decisions you wanna make it, I'm gonna make you learn from them. I'm I'm I'm gonna let you be homeless for a little while. I'm I'm gonna let you not get into your field of choice until you're twenty eight. I'm gonna have people talking about if we had only seen him when he was younger. I ain't gonna let you get your first can your name till your thirty eight. I'm gonna make you go through some things because one day I'm gonna put a microphone in front of your mouth, and I want you to honor me. I want you to talk about me. I want you to tell people what I bought you through. I want you to give people inspirational moments where they can see that your life was jacked up for a minute and I turned your life around for you. That's God dealing with me. See. So now I finally understand why I went through the life I went through, so I can have something to say. See, I ain't over here telling you about what I think a happened. I'm telling you what I know can happen. That God does make dreams come true, but sometime it take a minute. Sometimes You're gonna have to do some things you don't want to do in order to do what you want to do. All right, all that you I'm gonna be tripping a day. You're listening. Morning ladies and gentlemen, bear with me. This is the beginning of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Go off, What what? Who? Wow? You're talking about right now? Steve, Neil Shanley, Calif Harvey Junior? What boy? Let him have it? Steve Harvey Morning Show. What it is? Sharley strok Berry O you talking to? Who you talking to? What you tell? What's careful? Cali for Rell Let him have it? Good moning crew Junior Morning. Everybody already know what it is. Nephew Tommy, you know what time it is? Time to give it? Pit of people. In the words of my dear friend, the living legend Biggie Weed, tell they mouth out visual. It's visual. Everybody good, Yes, good happening. You know what beat from yoga? Oh? Every day? I just I can't do none of them poses. Man, I just being there for ninety minutes suffering. And you know what the instructor tells me, if you just show up and breathe show up and breathe. You know, I can do a couple of the poses a little bit. That's good, just a cut, the hardest one, all of them. But don't you think if you went more offensive? Well that's what they said, they say, if they say if I go all the time to yoga, that you'll be able to do all of this in a year. I can't see it stretching. You don't see. Yeah, you don't know. It's a couple of things I know I'll never do. I didn't tell her that, but I can tell you right now there's nothing that's a couple of these moves in beat from yoga that I'll never ever. I don't even want to because, yeah, well why would I do that. I'm trying to figure out why I would sit between my legs with my butt on the floor and then laid my head back on the floor for what. Just yeah, the same reason you're doing all the other poses. It's all right, right, it's beyond the stretch. That ain't what to see. It ain't stretched stretching. That touch your toes, that's stretching. This that they're doing in beak room. Beyond that ain't stretching. That's like you you're this erupturing and tearing, removing displacement. You were pretzel? Do you wave pass? I don't even understand. I told him maybe one time. I said, look, I can't do all this. I need I need my rectum for God. All right, thank God. Times up coming up. Just keep tearing this thing every time I come in here. Yeah, I need mine for other things coming up in thirty two minutes after the hour at the ClOH Chief Love Officer. Right after this, you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show coming up at the top of the hour. Guys, CNN's Don Lemon. Don Lemon will be our very special guest, and we cannot wait for Don to join us. He has a lot to say, But right now it's time to ask the CLO Chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey. See if this one is from Dana in the Bronx. Dana says, I'm forty two and I just let my mother move in with me, and it's already a problem. She drinks a lot and has had men come by my house all hours of the night to drink with her. One of her visitors was coming out of my guest bathroom the other day and I was still in my nightgown. The guy propositioned me, and I was furious. I told my mother she is not allowed to have men in my home anymore. She said, I can't tell her what to do? Well, how do I respectfully get my mother in line while she's in my home? See it? Well, you know, see you can't tell her what to do in light, but you can have rules in your house and respect goes both ways. You're old enough. Now, how does she say forty two? Forty two? Who's forty two? The daughter? The daughter two? And she just let her mom move in? Well, her mama got to go by the rules or else, Mamma, where you want to stay? But these men coming to me proper proposition to me in my own house, that's sounding acceptable. I can't be in my home and be uncomfortable. You can go out with me and just go meet them at to tavern because that's what they are on the tavern doing tavern. I love tavern. Yeah, where tavern shout? Always have some nice mit is. Yeah, Well, you can tell she's a nice woman because she wants to know how to do it respectfully. Meanwhile, you have to establish us, yeah, and she can you can't tell her what to do, but you can. You can decide what happens in your house. You can't tell her not to see me, but you can't see them in here though. That's right, right, period, right to see all right? Uh, you're gonna love this name. Out of Charlotte Colfax Henry Cold Friends straight out of Cleveland. Colfax says, my girlfriend and I had a weekend getaway in neighboring city, and my girlfriend made all of the plans. She booked the hotel. When we checked in, the girl at the front desk said welcome back and offered my girlfriend and I a discounted massage because of her loyalty point. I'm looking sideways at her all weekend. After that? Do I question her about being a regular at this hotel or do you think it will come out eventually? Yeah? Well no, Dog, when you meet people, people have histories, that's right. Ain't no need a you digging up the history. So she'd been to the hotel before welcome back? Maybe she liked the massages down there, Yeah, ain't. She could have went down there on girls weekends. Ain't nothing to say she was down there with some dudes, So dog, what you tripping falls colfax? Now you know he wants the facts. Now, these is the cold facts. Everybody had a life folded. They met you and like you had one too. Yeah, So don't blow a good thing trying to dig up dirt, because whatever you dig up it ain't really dirt. She didn't know you. I like how you think. No, man, you can't blame nobody for nothing that that didn't have nothing to do with you, right right right. It wouldn't bother you all weekend though, you wouldn't be Yeah hell yeah, Ok, I like it. Are you being a hypocrite right now? Yeah? I might have to be sitting in the car, That's all it is. She's just like, yeah, man, that's probably all it is. You know, we don't look still looking crazy, all right? Moving on a mirror in East Saint Louis says, I'm dating. I'm hating a man. This is crazy right here. This one too. I'm getting a man that is married and his wife is a lunatic. She's been knowing about us for a while, so I'm shocked she still cares. I think she needs to take all of her anger out on her husband, because he seeks me out, not the other way around. I've had to get a restraining order on her, and I had to put cameras on the front of my house because I'm sure she was the one that tried to slash my tires once. I've asked her nicely not to bother me. Would I be wrong to beat her ass one good time? I'm surprised she ain't beach a s s one good time? PLU in the wrong? You're sleeping with this woman's husband. You're talking about he the one that seeks me out. He ain't got to look too hard, right, You're right, you're responding. You know what I mean? He seeks me out? Or well, you know you could put a stop to that, right, he seeks you because you're wanting to be sought after, not a woman, know about y'all. She might be trying to fight for her husband, and yeah she was one. Tryslit your tie? That ain't all. Should I beat her for? What? Do you know? The prison time you could do for that? You sleeping with a woman's husband, And now you won't do something to her because she over there to get her husband. That ain't just gonna work in the quarter of law. Wait a minute. Has she asked you leave her husband alone? Nicely? How you ask me nicely? Right? All right? This is from Johnson and Omaha. Johnson says, my kids and I moved to a different city after I divorced their mom. I got full custody and unmoved so I would uh that I would have my family support raising them. My toxic ex wife has decided to move closer to to us, and I don't think she's fit enough to have visitation with our children. I don't want to say what's wrong with her, but she has some bad habits and our children are all under ten years old. I can't stop her from moving closer, but I can, But can I stop her from seeing them at all? Will this impact my kids later? I don't know them because I'm not aware of the problem, but I do know that in a divorce, they rarely take a child away from a mother unless she's unfit. They don't normally do that. Women got DIBs on them kids, man, and so I don't know what she did that caused the court to allow you to have full custody of them. But if they did that, you can get some You don't deny them visitation but you can get supervised visitations. That's for shell all right, thank you, Celo and brilliant as usual. Coming up next, the nephew would run that prank back right after this. You're listening. Coming up at the top of the hour, CNN, Don Lemon will be our special guests. And we love us some Don Lemon, you now we do, but right now we love us some nephew too, and he's here with run that prank back? What you got for us ness, neighborhood watch, lord, neighborhood watch. Let's go catch Hello. I'm trying to reach Johnny. Yeah, it's Johnny. Okay. You're the one that'll be doing the neighborhood watch. You'll be walking your dog doing the neighborhood watch? Is that you? Who's this? It's this Johnny? Who is this man? This is plej answer my question? Are you Johnny too? Rode too Yo? Roe? I'm Johnny and I do the neighborhood watch? Who was the damn PJ Hollo? Man, don't call my phone, y'all at me charging me up? Hey, man, only flo streets over from you, okay, and you're supposed to be the neighbor hood watchman, but That ain't what you're doing. Now. I didn't caught you looking in the window at my wife when I came outside. You would halfway down the street, you and your damn dog. You ain't watching the neighborhood. You're looking trying to see something in the window. That's what you're doing. Picking something. Please, I don't look an I'll do my job, man, I do my name, I do my job, do the neighborhood. Watch, I make sure people ain't bringing no body houses. I gotta white. What the hell I want to look at somebody else's wife. I got a piece of at home. I want you need. Then you need to stay over looking people do looking through people wonder Man, you're supposed to be watching the neighborhood, not watching my wife. When you say you live, against you because we went I live two street. You know what I tell you what though, I'll tell you what damn people tom I'm gonna show you what a damn people tom Me is. Now I'm gonna show you what. I'm gonna start looking through your window looking at your wife. See he will serve for nothing, Pete, mister John. But but bringing your over here, I want you to look. I want you to look at my damn window. This, Who the hell is this? I ain't got time for this. Man. I got a job, I got a mortgage, I got kids. I ain't got time for this. Man. Don't look at a job. Man, don't don't find a job. I got a head job. I got a job. But when I'm at work, you got a job. Yeah, you got a job. Crying like a damn talking about somebody looking at your Why don't body look at your damn white man got a job. But when I'm at I'm wondering if the back of the doll looking through the window at my wife. Please come to my damn house. Please, I'm coming later than night. You look through the window. Fine, I remember the hell are you talking about? Calling me? Tell about people? And it's just damn white. You know, body comes, that's what you've been doing. Man's no white. You probably ain't got no wife. You're probably near to him, damn midget or something. You're talking about? Man, tell about people at your wife? Got battle wife? And you was gonna wander wonder And I'm William still watching the neighborhood. But that ain't I'm doing. I gotta say, come over here, now, sace, you're a round the neighborhood. You three streets whatever, how many streets whatever? You are for me? Come night now, I'm stand outside whip my dog, pushing on you. I want you to come by one. I'm coming later that night when st at that shower the same way you were looking through my one. Please just come by, don't wait, just come by now. Please get that way with I don't talk about right now, but I'm playing somebody with me. You ain't work. I'm getting ready to slow down so I could get ready and ten of my business. Man, I'm getting ready to gold work again the day man. What the hell are you talking about? Bro? I got two damn jobs. I got a job to m during the day and at night, and in between I do the neighborhood. Watch. I'm doing your service. I'm helping your lazy. Do you stop? You're watching people looking to see if they're looking at your damn watch. Want you get you a second job or something? Man? Wan't you google? W she looking at muffa dot com or something? What the hell is wrong with you coddling men? I'm peeping in your day on watch many. Don't you ever call me when No, who the hell is this anyway? Yeah? Who the hell is this? Because I'm some for you. Who is he to tell you who it is? This is nephew Timmy from the Steve Harvard Morning Show. You just got franked by your wife Trisha and ain't run baby, then ain't right baby? Ain't baby? That ain't right? Then you got me man, because I said, ain't nobody to go get me on? No, frank man, I don't faint time for that, man, Damn frank Your wife told me you do the neighborhood. What h man? She said, you do the neighborhood. You walk, you know, because what you gotta? Rob Waller, Yeah, tell me. That's why I use nigga. I want to be safe. May just keep something happening. I just stick my rock, fell on it. And you got me bad. Yep, you you got me bad. You're good. I'm good. Bang, I'm gonna get it though. All right. Let me ask you this though, what else the baddest and I'm talking about the baddest radio show in the land made the Steve Harvest Show. And there you habit neighborhood watch. Somebody's got to do it. Somebody you gotta do it. You don't know how you think of this stuff. You just sit down and I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna be real, real stupid. Let me figure out who I'm gonna do it on. That's all I do it. Process ain't hard time. See like this, you have to you know what You're supposed to capitalize on him? Like right now. It's wrong, it's wrong, but right now, yeah, it is a perfect time for me to prank Kirk Franklin. I mean it is a perfect time to do it. Too soon, too soon. I know what I'm telling you. It's perfect. I'm telling I'm a damn shall take that one held. Get it all out one fell, sup Kirk? Wow? Perfect? And I love him to delth but this is perfect Kirk. Yeah. Oh man, who don't who don't love everything? Kirk said everything? Yes, the father of a young son. Yeah, man, I know what you're going through. I stomped one of my sons. Okay, Steve, you don't no, no, you think that cussin was bad. You disrespect me and I and I and I see you that you can't with my ass. I bet you that I can tell you my sons can't because they don't even know how to fight. They ain't even been anyone. They don't even know already hurt because Stone and then Place stop at the same time. You know what I'm saying, go ahead and do it. And I don't know, but the boy's gonna have to lay down pretty flat though, for Kurt to be able to stomp somebody on TikTok due the revolution. Oh my goodness, bru dog. You know what my father had said to me, by man dog, what Kirk said. I was sitting I'm trying to figure out what what's wrong? Why the dog man? My father? Who? And then what he did after that? My father hit me in the thoat so hard one time. I'm talking about in the thoat. Yeah, yeah, no, No, when you get hit in it, you don't need that all all right, we gotta get out of here. Guys were coming up at the top of the hour as promise CNNs don lemon right after this you're listening show. Everybody has promise joining us this morning is our friend. He's an esteemed Emmy Award winning journalist. He's the host of CNNs Tonight that bears his name, comes on weeknights at ten pm easton He recently launched a new podcast. It's called Silence Is Not an Option on CNN Audio. In addition to all of that, my friend has a new book and the title of it is This is the Fire. What I Say to my friends about racism. Old boy. He's joining us today to talk about the book and a host of other subjects. Ladies and gentlemen, The one and only mister Don Lemony. Welcome by Don. How you doing man, I'm doing well. And look, you know I'm working from home. As soon as you introduced me, the dogs start barking. They heard it. They know who I am. Yeah, the greatest introducer is bringing out and Danny hey man, the dogs for the great introduction. And you know the book. His name is This is the Fire. It's after James Baldwin, the Fire next time. And so now we are in the fire, after the Capital Insurrection, after George Floyd. This is the Fire right now, you know, man, that's what we're gonna talk about this because you opened the book with the heartfelt letter to your young nephew what's his name, Trusha, Trisha, Yeah, Trisha, and you're trying to help him make sense of all the racial unrest in twenty twenty, tell us about that. Don Well, you know, James Bowan opened his book The Fire Next Time with a letter to his nephew, and it was one hundred years after the Emancipation Proclamation and he said, you know, we're celebrating this one hundred years too soon. And so this is I started writing the book. Well, let me back up just for a second. You know, during the Trump administration, if you're in the news and the President talks about your tweets about you, everybody wanted you to write the book. If you're reporting on the Trump administration, right between sixteen and twenty, everybody and their mama was asking me to write a book. And I said, no, I don't want to write a political book. I don't want to be connected to this administration. And then Steve George Floyd happened and I was at home in quarantine. I couldn't go to my family, I couldn't talk to them. Yeah, and I started by saying to my nephew that I was worried. I said, Trishade, I saw a man die to day and he called out to his mama and cried for his mama and nephew, he's fourteen. He's thirteen then, and you know, and I was worried about the world that he was about to inherit, that those those young people are going to inherit this world that we have set up and created for them. And this was my way of showing love to him. And I said, if James Balwin could write a letter to his nephew and start off a book, that's how I want to start off my book to It's actually my great nephew. And I helped to raise his mom and you know his aunts and which are my nieces, and they're growing women now they're doing great in the world. But he needed to know that I love him and that there were people like me. Even though we may not have done a perfect with Seve, I think you'll admit that we tried. And I was trying to tell him he hits my support and whatever he needed to carry on this world a better way. And that's what I was. That's why I did it. You know that that's an interesting take down because I think that so many people don't understand that as African Americans, the burden that were battle with in terms of helping to raise our younger generation, our children our nephews, our young people. I don't think they understand what all comes with that, because, like you said, you were home doing COVID when George Floyd died. You you have you, you all, you donate a chapter to this. What were your thoughts man, when you watch this on film because you had to cover it? Oh my godness, I mean, I mean over and over and over. What were your thoughts when you when you watch the video? What was Don Lemon thinking? It was Steve? It was the weirdest out of body experience that I can't It was like it was like me, watch me reporting, but watching me watch somebody else reporting. And let me tell you why I say that. First of all, it enraged me. It was as a person of color, It just it just honestly pissed me off. You guys can beat me and do whatever you want, but honestly, I was so angry at the administration. First of all, they were gassed and people would you remember they did that in front of the White House. And then they were pretending that it was somehow the people who were oppressed, that it was George Floyd's fault, of the protester's fault. About what was happening in the country. They were turning the tables. And then there was one night where I happened not to go into the city into the CNN because I like to go, especially when we have big stories like this. I like to go in where the company has a setup where you know the line's not going to go down, the camera's not going to go down, the audiences are not going to go out. And so but this one night, all hell broke loose and my boss said, get on the air, and I got on. I was at home speed reporting on fires on the West Coast, in Chicago, in New York, in LA in Washington, DC, and I'm crying out. I'm like I felt like I was and I felt like I was the only person left on earth, and I'm trying to explain to every whoever's left, whoever's watching, look at what's happening. And basically I was saying, help, help, and I said some dumb thing that I regret that I said because I was, and I was. I was crying out for people that I know, who I know had influenced to help because I felt like I was a man on an island all by myself, and I was saying, look at what's happening to America, y'all, please please, please do something. So I felt like I was the only one doing it. Um And because I was the only one on the air at the time. You know, that's interesting, man, because I often wondered how you felt, because I understood where you were coming from when you were calling people out, because man, you just wanted those of us who had a voice to raise up and use it. Because what you had been watching happening was like it was almost the rebirth of the civil rights movement. What happened the Red Matter? Oh it's crazy. Hey, hang on right there, gonna writ there, We're gonna come back. We got more with Don Lemon right after this. We got a lot to talk about with Don right after this. You're listening, all right, everybody, We're back. We're back with Don Lemon from CNN. He's got a new book out called This is the Fire and Uh. It's a compelling book. Uh and and and it's all about relationships, race relations in this country and some of his takes on it. And when we left, we were talking about the George Floyd incident. And you've dedicated a chapter in this book when you what what did you want this chapter to speak to to your audience who read? Who reads the book? I wanted it to speak to just how dire the situation is when it comes to what when when when people speak about black lives mattering? We know what Black lives matter means, and we know what the people who try to denegrate and downgrade black lives matter. We know what they mean, and we know that they don't care about our about our lives, and quite frankly, the entire book, look, let's see, this book is so honest. I don't know if I'm going to get in trouble about it, but I'm honest with what we all need to do, and especially white people need to do. If we want to fix this problem, you got to do the work. You can't say when something like George Floyd happens. The reason that was one of the reasons I wrote the books. So many people calling me things, what do I do? I feel like I left by black friends down. I didn't know that this happened, right, And I'm sure you had some of that too with people you know who are of a different ethnicity. And so that's why I wrote the book. But then when you tell them what they need to do, they say, well that's hard. I don't know, but it's practical. That means what they don't want to do the work. So you have to do the work. And guess what, You got to know a black person. You gotta know a Hispanic person. You got to know a person of color. You have a type of relationship with someone if you're if you truly want to make the saint, you can't just call your one black friend or someone you're one black coworker when something like this goes down and expect like, oh okay, and then donate some money. That's not what it's about, right, That's why I'm dedicated. You gotta be real. Let's be real. We got to know each other and talk to each other and have relationships with each other. See, that's the perfect way to put it down, because you cannot sit around each other as non African Americans and talk about a problem when you don't know all the idio secrecies of the problem. It's the same thing that we keep running into over and over. We have the wrong people trying to define the word racism, and they think if they just don't use the end word that they're not a racist. They don't even know the understuff. I was watching a woman interview Tony Morrison online the other day and she asked, Tony Morrison, you write so eloquently, will you ever write stories about whites? And she says, I do, but you don't know how inherently racist that statement is you just made. And the white lady was sitting there just bit funnel because she didn't get it. But why does Tony moore us and have to write story about white people? You don't ask a Spielberg or I mean, you don't ask Spelling or nobody when they're gonna write some story about some black people. You just take their stories. Hey, don hang on again, man, we got don lemon I got some topics when we come back. I want to get his opinion on what's happening on the Talk. When we come back, what's going on on the Talk. We'll be right back. You're listening to everybody. We're back, and we're keeping him over because we get to talk with a guy who, first of all, all of us on the show, Shirley Carler, Tommy Junior, Monica, we're all fans. You don I mean, bro, we we talk often about what the hell did Don say? Yeah? Becausis man, we were, well, all right, what did Don say? Damn? We're everybody else say because Don got that attitude we need because you know, Don, The thing about you, man, is you're very authentic. And the thing that makes you a great reporter is like it or not, You're gonna say what you feel, and if it makes you uncomfortable, it's okay. But the thing about it is you don't lie. So right, well, here as I as I read if you read The Fire next time by James Bowing, he talks about people going to their grave, you know, judging people keeping the status quo in order not really doing what they want to do. I don't want to go to my grave and not get everything out that I need to get out. And look, you know, Steve, when you're first starting out and you first get a position, you gotta be careful like, okay, I gotta do this, and I don't know, I don't want to think anybody else. And then once you get there and you established that you can do it and you're successful, then that's my mom that you can show your ad. So not my hand, but what I'm doing I'm comfortable enough, and I know that I have a platform, and I'm in a position where I can speak with authority. You understand what I'm saying, and I and I represent my people. And as you said so eloquently, that people are speaking about race and racism and they had no idea what it is. People are becoming more offended about the possibility of someone thinking they may have a racial blind spot of their racist or their bias than the actual act itself. And what does that say? That says you're entitled, That says that you have a privileged where you can think, I don't want anybody to call me racist, and therefore that I don't want anybody to call me racist supersede the actual racism, and then you make it all about you and you're grieving. So that so we're talking about the talk right now, Yes, because we talk to each other via text about this of how we really felt. Now the radio version and the CNN version of how we really feel is we're going to share that with you now. When you saw what transpired on the talk, what were your initial thoughts? My initial thoughts was, Wow, there's going to be repercussions and ramifications for this that beyond what people are thinking right now, and nobody knew. And if you've ever worked in the world of television, where you are when you get to share your opinion, there's a difference between sharing your opinion and insulting someone you work with and calling someone really outside of their name without even saying it. So here's what I thought. The nerve to tell someone when to cry and when to not. Yes, that's entitlement. That's privilege. You don't get to do that. The nerve for you to make it all about you. It's not about you, it's the actual act of racism. That's entitlement. That's privilege. The nerve of you to sit there next to a black woman who's talking to you about racism and discrimination and you try to define the moments for her and what it means to her. The nerve and then for you to say, I am not racist. How the hell can I be racist? And they beat that because I'm an effing whatever, you know what she said. The nerve of you to sit there in your entitlement, in your privilege, and be more uncomfortable and more aggrieved about someone actually thinking you're having a racial blind spot and you are sitting there on national television and proving the point that you do come so much more eloquent and is really imagine if that was Sheryl Steve, I'm sorry, I don't mean, I know it's your show. Can you imagine if that was Cheryl? Sure would not have laughted through the commercial break if she did that as the black woman on Bro. You you ain't never lied. Listen, hang on, Don, We got Don Lemon. This has a big great He's got a new book out everybody, and it's called This Is the Fire, and we want everybody to pick up a copy. It's gonna be great. We'll be right back with more Don Lemon right after this. You're listening, I went back everybody with Steve Harvey Morning Show. A special guest this morning is Don Lemon from CNN oh Man, and we are getting into it. The book everybody is called This is the Fire. Now listen to me, Steve Harvey Nation. Here's the deal. We make hits. We sent a lot of stuff to Number one. This brother right here has been on the front line for us for years now. He has taken chances, he has made statement, he has been angry. When it is time to be angry, but most importantly he has been authentic and truthful. That's all this book is. So what we're gonna do is we're gonna We're gonna buy it on Kindle, We're gonna buy it on Amazon. We're gonna go to bookstores. We're gonna run it up charge best seller lists. Number one, less Go Nation. This is the Fire by Don Lemon Black Lives Better. We're gonna spend money. This this is how we do each other. Now. See, I'm gonna treat you like an artist that come in with a new song on my show. We'd have made some hits on this show. Don oh, we got nine million listeners. I'm talking to all of them, and a lot of avid readers too. So that's it. Hey, we were talking before a lot of stuff than what the gods is under this much stare. Look, I'm telling you, I'm keeping family feud on the air. My TV stays on the fans. I'm like, oh, that was season that. No, that's a couple of seasons ago. That suit. Now this is a modern season right here. Yeah, I've seen this family before. Yeah, anyway, all right, Yeah, you're watching the evolution of Steve Harvey's wardrobe. I looked back at the first season. I go, sus was pretty big. Hey, listen, we were talking about the Sheryl Underwood incident on on the Talk. The thing that Uh and we both talked about this dog was how Sheryl handle it was was sheer grace and like you said in your text to me, she handled it like a queen. I was really disturbed because I don't like it when people become a victim. I'm the one that should be crying. Why why why should you be crying? First of all, this ain't about you, just about podcasts, Pierce Mellisson. Now we'd have said this now, I said this over and over, this about piss market. This ain't about nobody else. This is what he said. And you know what amazes me about this whole situation, don If Megan Markle was not black, we're not even having this discussion at all about the baby or nothing. The only reason we're having this discussion is because this woman is black. This is it, now, How to have that ain't racist? It's the only factor involved him. Well, and it's also because you're doubting somebody else's story, Steve, That's what it's about doubting someone else's story. Now, I always I hate to make this comparison, but it's a real, true comparison of that. Think it's fair anytime if someone says that someone felt uncomfortable in the workplace because I was a woman, that this man the first What are people's reactions. It's always, oh my gosh, we should listen to this, let's figure out understand how these individuals feel. Blah blah blah blah blah. But for some reason, when it's racism, there's always a different reaction and a doubt. Well, I can't believe that that would happen, and of course this person can't be that, and I can't be that way because I've lived on this earth this many years and I've never no one has ever called me that. Well, maybe you've never had to deal with it. That's what privilege is. If you have never had to deal with something, right, then it does not exist for you. That is why that's why the term privilege came about, because you have the privilege of not having to think about it or worry about it because it doesn't exist for you. It doesn't happen to you. So I think that we should the way that we I always say when we have these allegations of impropriety in the workplace that we should take everyone seriously and it should be investigated. The same thing for issues of race. So as much as women have had their meed to moments, it's time for black folks to have our us two moments, because discrimination in the workplace can be just as detrimental as harassment in the workplace, especially if you have something that that hands out in the workplace, maybe you and the boss get along. I don't know. I'm not going to try to govern human behaviors, but racism never works out for any of the victims. Ever. You don't get a job because your boss is racist. You don't get a promotion because your boss is racist. What it causes you is to It causes paranoia, causes you to doubt yourself. It causes you to have make less money to provide for your family, less to move around to different jobs instead of staying at the same job because you're trying to promote. There are so many things that aspects about discrimination that black people and marginalize people and people of color feel that happens to them in the workplace. That have not been explored. So I say it's time now for a hashtag us to moment for black people when it comes to workplace discrimination. And I think that's sure. Underwood is helping to us show that in and let's pray and stand behind her, and I hope that she does. Wow, that TV show that he's good. She thought God had her on a bigger mission, So this could be it. You know, yeah, I think you know the name of the book. Everybody is this is the fire. I mean, we are in it right now. We are in the fire. And this is a great time for us because since the civil rights movement, I haven't seen anything like I've seen over the past year and a half. I just haven't seen it in my life. I'm sixty photo suppression, Oh, insurrection on the Capitol? Who's trying to overturn an election? Why is it that the Republican Senate who know that this man has lied about this election being stolen? What do you think is the reason why they won't just call it the way it is? Are they that afraid of him? What is it? Oh? Okay? So I wish I had the direct quote, but the quote that James Bolland says is that it doesn't It doesn't require that anyone has to be evil. What it requires is that you have to be spineless. And they are spineless, is what it is. They're afraid to stand up to him number one, because they're afraid of him, but not so much as they're afraid of him as they're afraid of losing power. People are intoxicated with power, and what else are they going to do. What they're doing is exploiting the division in this country among the racists and politically, and they know that they're doing it. And so Trump it was just the one that came along and allow them to be able to do this, so now they can do it with impunity. So he is as I say in the book, and see if I say it, it burns my tongue to say this, but Donald Trump was probably the president we deserved. I know who's the president we deserve because you know we didn't, we weren't paying attention, but probably the one we needed. And I hate to say that, but he exposed the racist in our society and the racism because we were living in this and this mindset that oh everything is okay and it's okay. Yeah, we have racism, so we can deal with it. And then there were people amongst us. Yes we didn't know, Yeah we didn't see. And now we know and we see and now we can deal with all of it. Thank you for taking me into the doctor's office to diagnose my cancer. And now I could either have it excite or I can have the treatment that's going to take care of that cancer. And that's what we need to do right now. That's why this is the fire. Wow, this is the fire, everybody. This is Don Lemon. This is the book Amazon Kindle, download it, buy it, order it. I don't care how you do it, but I need everybody to get a copy of this book. This is the fire. It's available now by mister Don Lemon. Don. Thank you so much. Man. We love you, brother, We love you, Thank you so much. Thank you. Wow, we love Don Lemon. Always knows what to say, when to say it, and how to say it. Yeah, I'll standing interview, Steve, I'll stand yes, great jack job. Yeah yeah, all right. Coming up next Today's Strawberry Letter. We follow that up with the bartenders Big Tip. That is the subject. We'll get into it right after this. You're listening to show time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice on relationship, ships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you here. It is Growberry Letter all right. Subject the Bartender's Big Tip. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for twelve years, and my husband and I are in our mid thirties and our regulars at a local bar by our house. We've met most We've met a lot of great people at this bar and look forward to seeing them weekly for karaoke night. I like the sense of community we have there, and we can hang out with the other couples we've befriended. Everything was fine until recently when I found out that my husband has been sleeping with the twenty two year old bartender that always serves us. I was devastated and I couldn't believe it because when we would go there, she's always serving us with a smile, and she's such a sweet girl. I never thought about the large tip my husband left for her weekly. We believe in giving money for great service, and she was giving him really, really good service behind my back. The thought of her having my husband's tiny little private part to herself has hurt me to no end. She told me that my husband has given her money for college, helped her with bills at times, and keeps her hair and nails done. She told me that she's been to my house, which is conveniently around the corner from the bar. We dealt with it in house, and argued and cried. He stopped. He begged me for forgiveness, and he promised that he was going to stop seeing her. The problem is he's still going to the bar once a week for karaoke night, and even though he sits in another section now, she still works there. I miss having fun with our regular crew, and I want to go back at some point, but I'm not there mentally. I'm still monitoring his phone and his whereabouts. And he said it's getting old and I need to trust him. How do I ever trust him again? I don't know on this one. First of all, I gotta say I'm really sorry. That's happened to you. It is nothing worse than someone laughing and cheese and all up in your face and everything while they're sleeping with your husband behind your back. And because of that, that's why the trust is darned near and possible to get back if at all. I mean, I don't think I could, because of who it is and how it was done, and the fact that he's had her all in your house, probably in your bed, and all of that. Come on now and excuse me. Did your husband have the nerve to tell you to stop going through his phone and checking his whereabouts? Did he have the nerve to say that was getting old and that you need to trust him? Really, dude, I don't know how you came, and I just don't know how you can. He's right back at the scene of the crime, and the girl still works there. This is compounding the situation, the trouble that he's in. He's back there already. How can you trust that? I mean, that's how it happened in the first place. So who cares that he's in a different section. What does that even matter? Why is that even in this letter, I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him period. He's done nothing to try and win back your trust. Okay, so you guys cried and argued and all of that. Come on, he doesn't even have sense enough just to start. Stop going back to the bar. You know he could have started there. This is crazy. I don't know if you'll ever trust him again. I know you want to and you want to go back there, but how can you ever trust him with all of this going on? Steve? You know, fellas, I know y'all think, man that I side up with women a lot of time times, but I just come from the true standpoint of it. I just don't like it when men do stuff that's stupid, and then the rest of us have to baar the brunt because of your mistake. A lot of us get distrusted because you stupid. You know, a lot of us can't get past we deal with women with baggage because you gave them the baggage. And now here we go again. I'm just this thirty, this couple been married for twelve years. Y'all in your mid thirties. Your regulars at a local bar by our house. It meant a lot of great people go there. You saying, carryoker, You meet people, hang out with other couples. Everything was fine, and too recently you found out that your husband had been sleeping with a twenty two year old bar tender that always serves y'all. This lady said. I was devastated. I couldn't believe it because when we would go there, she's always serving us with a smile, and she's such a sweet girl. Well, it's very sweet, sweet as hell, sweet hay, So you never thought about the large tip your husband left for her weekly. We believe in giving money for great service, and she was giving him really, really good service behind your back. The thought of her having my husband's tiny little private part to herself has hurt me to no end. And you decided to get him back by telling everybody he got a very tiny little private part him. So, well, you just hurt him back. I guess he had that coming though. She told me, Now this is why I don't know hunting here. We doesn't help. She told me my husband has given her money for college, helped her with bills, keeps her hair and nails done. She told me that she hadn't been to my house, which is around the corner from the bar. Now we dealt with it in the house and aging and cried. Now who cried? Was he cried? Because this sound like shan going right now, turn yourself. Why is his ass crying? It's terrible. I'm don't I'm confused. How did she tell you all this? When we come back, I'm gonna tell you what I think. I right, Steve, Thank you. We'll have parts coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour, subject the Bartender's Big Tip. Will get back into it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject the Bartender's Big Tip. Yeah, couple been married twelve years in the mid thirties, been going to a local bar for carryoke and everything. Got friends down there having a good time until she found out that the husbands were sleeping with the twenty two year old bartender. Never suspected anything because the girl is really really sweet, and she's super sweet to your husband because he leaves a big tip. Now, we want to make sure that we got this right. We did say big tip because we couldn't have mistaken it for anything, because you said the thought of her having my husband's tiny little private part to herself. Has hurt me to no end, which gets us back to all he had to do. All he had was big tips. See, when you got a little small, tiny private parts, you got to tip big. You got to have big tips. Of course, you ain't got nothing else. You got to pay for college because you ain't doing nothing. Now you got to get your head done and nails done and all this because ain't nothing else happening. You got to have a big til because your wife got hit in the letter that you got the little bitty private part. Damn. Now everybody down at the ball listening to this letter, No, it's you all right. Now, here's a part that threw me a little bit. She told me, women, this woman who wrote the letter, say that. The girl told her that my husband has given her money for college, helped her with bills a time, keeps her hand nails DOWNE told me she'd been to my house, which is conveniently around the corner from bar. How did that conversation come about? Who? She went out there and approached the girl, and the girl said, yeah, he do this, he do that, he do that. The see dude got them young girls. She all on Instagram, posting her nails all in the story. In the story, yeah, every time you go down there, get a bag or something. She posted. Now we dealt with it in the house, augur and cried. He begged me for forgiveness, and he promised he was gonna stop seeing her. The problem is he's still going to the bar once a week for karaoke night. And even though he sits in another section now, she still worked there. I miss having fun without regular crew, and I want to go back at some point, but I'm not there mentally. So let me ask you a question. He told you he's sitting in another section because you ain't been back down there, because you can't bring yourself to go back. But see, I would go down Now, I go down there, I'd have myself a good time because you know what I do. Well, I don't want to say that because she don't say it. Well, I ain't gonna go down there, miss kaoke. I'm gonna tell her boss now, she just slept with my husband. And if you don't get rid of her, me and my friends gonna take karaoke night somewhere else. Okay, Okay, Now you ain't got to worry about your husband going down that seeing her because she gonna be gone. See, lady, you don't you letting everybody live like they used to live except you. She's still working, she's still getting tips. He's still going down there, he's still sanging karoke. Everybody goes back to life as usual. But you, I don't know how you didn't go to the balls that on the club to say this is gonna stop right here. Either she go or we go. But Steve, what Why is the husband still going down there? Why? And I agree with you on that, that's stupidness. The last thing I'm gonna do is go back down. I ain't that good. Do you have to be able to stay away from her? Ain't no man that's strong. Y'all can stop all this? Now, this terrible. She'll never be able to trust him again. He looking over the top of his straw everytime she goes back. What are you doing? You know he's sitting where he can see her. Come on, and she can see him every time she come about this? What he do? He's a section photo. He's not at the bar. Norm he got he got his little bear, a little ball of bear. Keep putting his tongue down. This is really bad and you're right, I don't see how he still what? Yeah? How are you still going down there? Paula? How this work? And she let him? But how you letting him go down there? Go down there again and see what happened? Everybody goes back to life is usual, except her because she's not mentally ready. She said, oh, I'll be down I'm saying you can't get this Friday because guess who ain't gonna be there? Right? Because she ain't gonna be here. I can tell you this right now. But what's her name? Because she docause I told her we're gonna we sang in karaoke Friday. If I come in there and your asses in there, I'm gonna bush you dead in your damn head that come to work Friday, Dog, I'm not gonna be the only one I'm comfortable in my life. Right. She's too nice. I promise you I won't see her no more. Go down to that ball again. But she's down there. How are you not gonna see her? Well, you can go down there, but when he come home, his whole big gonna be on fire soon as you sho hear that? All right, listen, we gotta get out of here. Um post your comments on today Strawberry Letter and Steve Barby FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up in forty six minutes after the hour, We're gonna talk to Junior about you know, this story about the Norman High School girls basketball teams. All right, we'll be back at forty six minutes after the hour. Right after this you're listening to. All right, guys, it is time for Junior in sports taught Junior what you got for us today? Please surely, okay, we have to deal with this story. I'm really proud of these girls do. But several players from the Norman High School girls basketball team have broken their silence about the racist game announcer Mark Rowand, who called them the F bomb and the INN word for their decision to take a knee during the national anthem. Take a listen to the young woman speaking out. I took annie the standing against social injustice and racism, and when I first heard the news that our team was called the N word, I was just in disbelief. And the broadcaster should be held accountable so something like this doesn't happen in the future. I'm like, so proud of all of us were standing up for something so big. It's bigger than all of us. It's bigger than a basketball game to us. And that's why we decided to knael, because racism is so much bigger than everything. We wanted to have a part in making a change. High school girls, well you know some I do support them, young sisters. Here's what Americans don't understand. Whose forefathers stole this country, this national anthem. It's not more important to us than to fight against racism. Yeah, and to draw attention to it. We've chosen to kneel during the playing of the national anthem to draw attention to it. That's all it is. We don't boo when it's playing, We don't try to sing over it. You can do that. But in protests that this flag does not represent all of us, sometimes they choose to kneel. Yeah, can we get your attention on that, But oh no, you don't want to address that. Now this food then call them an in word. And now he didn't blame that on his diabetes. He had a spike. Yeah that's disgusting. Yeah, yeah that's what he said. Yeah, yeah, so your your your disease, diabetes caused you to have racism remarks? Is that what you're saying, that's what you're blaming. That's exactly what he's saying. Exactly what he's saying. That's inexcusable, that he's a race from the beginning, and that's another insult exactly there. That's another. Yeah, if you're insulin go up, it caused its racism. Yeah, damn. We had a lot of trouble now, y'all. Yeah, really ever solved this now? Now your sugar causes it? Right. So also, the players have teamed up with civil rights attorney Benjamin Crump, although they're not planning to sue at this time. So we just want to say on the Steve Hardy More the show, we want to say congratulations to the normal high school girls basketball taking a stain in racism right there. Oh yes, and they want state Yep, those girls. All right, junior, thank you. Coming up at the top of the hour, it is awards season. Oscar nominees are in. We'll talk about it right after this. You're listening, all right, guys, it's awards season, and all hail the Queen. We are still riding high on Beyonce making history with her twenty eighth Grammy, becoming the most decorated female artist of all time. Congratulations again, be Yeah, she did her. Yeah, she is more than a recent Franklin. I mean, she's it. She's the most seculated female. Yeah. All right, so congratulations and now it's time to switch gears from music to movies. The nominations for the Oscar were announced yesterday. Uh Chadwick bo Bozeman was nominated posthumously Best Actor from My Rainy's Black Bottom, Best Actress Andrew Day for the United States versus Billie Holiday. Yes, yes, she really act She was Billy Holliday. She wasn't staying she was Billy Holliday, you know, Viola Davis. Best Actress from My Rainy's Black Bottom. Best Supporting Actor, Leslie Odom Junior. Did you guys see One Night in Miami? What an awesome movie? Directed by Regina King. Yeah, he's really good and he can sing too, Yes, yes, yes, Hey, can I tell y'all something really Yeah? I think of the female actresses out there today, and there's some great ones, But for my money, the woman that I think that brings it every role is that damn Vialliday Davis Davis man by Alla Davis is not a joke, man. No, that woman right there, boy, yeah, she can't act. Yes, she finally asked her recognition and her yes, Queen, yes, you know how to act with snap. You know how hard that is when she said, I was standing right there with you today time. Oh my god. She won an OSK her for that role. She did, Okay, Best Supporting Actor, like we said, Leslie Odom Junior for One Night in Miami and Daniel Kalua for Judas and the Black Messiah. Judas and the Black Messiah. Saw that movie. I'm telling you right now, if you haven't seen that movie, that's adult movie. Yeah, that's a dolt movie. And it really it was really close to me, man, because of my two older brothers. But that movie, man, because I was wondering, man, what y'all doing? What's happening? You know, I was eleven twelve, My brothers, my brothers was active. Yeah for real. And we're very happy for these nominations. Now there are some snubs as they as there always is, uh snubs for director nominations. Regina King did not get a nomination for directing One Night in Miami and she should have that was an outstanding movie. Um and Tom your boy. Delroy Lindo did not get a nomination for directing The Five Bloods, the Spike Lee movie with Yeah, with Chadwick Boseman. Yeah. The Academy Awards. This is a ninety third Academy Awards Sunday, April twenty fifth on NBC on ABC, ABC, Sunday April twenty fifth on ABC. So there you well, yeah we watch it. Oh yeah, an Awards season is so late. Yeah, it's a COVID and I guess I'm having to redo it. Got to abduction, yeah, the virtual stuff. Yeah yeah, and we gotta say this too. Um uh. The host of the Grammys Outstand, Trevor Noah was so good. He was really really good. Yeah he was fired. Yeah, really really good. YEA liked him a lot on that man. Yeah, yeah, really good. He was good man, really good. That was funny and Coming to America parto Z and yes, if you haven't seen Coming to America, you gotta check that one out too. Trevor Noah's very smart, very talented. Yes, he's a clever young man. He is witty. Okay, so would you say stand up specials are hilarious. Yeah, yeah, he's thinking. He seems to have his finger on the pulse of what's going on in the world. Yeah, all right, we'll have more of today's trending stories on the Steve Harvey Morning Show, and we'll be back at twenty minutes after the hour. Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show, and tell me something good news. On the one year anniversary of Brianna Taylor's murder, Megan the Stallion announced that she and Fashionova would be donating Get This Guy's one hundred thousand dollars to the foundation created by Taylor's mom. To Mika Palmer, that is good news. Rihanna's name continues to be a catalyst for change and a powerful reminder that justice has still not been served, Megan the Stallion posted on the gram. The core mission of the foundation is to support economic, social, and racial justice through police reform and government accountability. The foundation also seeks to help young people to realize their full potential, empowering this to participate in political process and achieve better health with mentorship programs for high school girls, after school initiatives, and educational support so to that. We say thank you to the brand new three time Grammy winner Megan the Stallion for that good news. Wow. Thank you mean yeah huh. She was very beautiful at the Grammys too. Man, them young people was dressing on the Grammys. Man, I was digging it a lot. Yeah, there's some cats and Ata was giving it to him nice. Yeah. I think that orange dress Megan the Stallion head onl was my favorite. Yes, Love, Yes, you're like I was praying as she was walking up there to get that Grammy. Yes, Lord Lord. All right, guys, we'll have more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show at thirty three minutes after the hour. Right after this you're listening Morning Show, it is time to ask the CLO Chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey. Steve, This one is from Dana in the Bronx. Dana says, I'm forty two and I just let my mother move in with me, and it's already a problem. She drinks a lot and has had men come by my house all hours of the night to drink with her. One of her visitors was coming out of my guest bathroom the other day and I was still in my nightgown. The guy propositioned me, and I was furious. I told my mother she is not allowed to have men in my home anymore. She said, I can't tell her what to do. Well, how do I respectfully get my mother in line while she's in my home? See, well, you can't tell her what to do in life, but you can have rules in your house and respect goes both ways. And you're old enough. Now, how does she say, two forty two? Who's forty two? The daughter? The daughter's forty two and she just let her mom move in. Well, her mama got to go by the rules or else, Mama, where you want to stay? But these men coming to me properly proposition to me in my own house. That's unacceptable. I can't be in my home and be uncomfortable. You can go out with me and just go meet to them at the tavern, because that's what they are. The tavern. Do I love tavern? Yeah? Where shout always have some nicem is. Yeah. Well you can tell she's a nice woman because she wants to know how to do it respectfully. Mean you have to establish rules. Yeah, you can't tell her what to do, but you can you can decide what happens in your house. You can't tell her not to see men, but you can't see them in here though. That's right. You're gonna love this name out of Charlotte cold Fax, Henry cold Facts, straight out of Cleveland. Come on here, Colfax says. My girlfriend and I had a weekend getaway in neighboring city, and my girlfriend made all of the plans. She booked the hotel. When we checked in, the girl at the front desk said welcome back and offered my girlfriend and I a discounted massage because of her loyalty point. I'm looking sideways at her all weekend After that? Do I question her about being a regular at this hotel or do you think it will come out eventually? Well? Nah, dog, when you meet people, people have histories, right, Ain't no need to you digging up the history. So she'd been to the hotel before welcome back. Maybe she liked the massages down there. Yeah, she could have went down there on girls weekends. Ain't nothing to say. She was down there with some dudes. So, dog, what you tripping fall? Colfax? Now, these is the cold Fax. Everybody had a life they met you, and like you had one too. Yeah, So don't blow a good thing trying to dig up dirt, because whatever you dig up, it ain't really dirt. She didn't know you coming up. It is our last break of the day, and of course we'll have some closing remarks from the one and only Steve Harvey at forty nine minutes after the hour right after this you're listening show, all right, guys, here we are, last break of the day. Uh, it's been a great day. And before we get out of here, we've got to say thank you, thank you so much to Don Lemon. He always knows how to shed light on what's going on, you know, in the world at this truth. Yeah, yeah, at this moment. And like his book says, this is the fire. He said it best. We are in the fire right now, right, Yeah, absolutely, yeah. I'm really pulled up for Sheryl Underwood. I hope, I hope this is to me. How listen to me. You don't even have to worry. This is not about Sheryl Underwood. Everybody from the top of CBS to the bottom. No, she handled it with nothing but grace and a queenly stately manner. Is to find out the backlash they're getting from Sharon Osborne and how they're gonna handle that. Yeah, so that's what the whole hiatus is for. To Tommy the next day, they came on an A and did not mention it. The republic is going, oh really, yeah, apologize to Ryl. I've watched it. See the very next episode. I said, that's it. That's right. But see she gonna go to Sheryl's dressing room on her own and apologize. See that da't how this worked. You humiliate me publicly, but you want to apologize to me behind doors. No no, no, take your ass on TV like you did when you was dogging me and make your apology. Don't write a news story about me. Then the correction be on the end of classified. Yeah yeah, no. Hey. That leads me to my closing remarks today because yeah, I wanted to share something spiritual, what you are, or something that really really helped me out. Oh. I was listening to Joel Olstein. It's really old. But you know, since I can't go to church, I go online and listen to sermons and messages and stuff like that. That's just mine to keep my spiritual side just fed. I'm not saying I do it every day, because I don't, but it just so happened. The other day, I was watching a film from Joel Oldstein, and what I do is when I go to YouTube, I kind of look for the subjects that I think might apply to me, because I always ask God to show me what he wants me to learn today. And I don't know if this was a subject, but it was something to the effect of controlling your atmosphere. And I said, Okay, that's something I might need, and I'll be dog gone if it wasn't true. And I show needed it and I wanted to give it to you today. You know, there's a lot going on in this world today that you cannot control. You can't control the news. You can't control what people say, what people do, how people act. You can control what you allowed to come into your atmosphere. Because you have absolute control over your atmosphere, you have control over your thoughts and your emotions. You can choose to be angry or you can stop being angry. You can be mad or you can decide to not be mad. You can you can decide to look at it positively or negatively. You can decide to listen to gossip and He'll say or you can decide to block it out. You have a say so and what you allow into your atmosphere. He told the story about a man who was listening to talk radio every day before he went to work, and he would get into some spirited arguments, and he would be in his car just arguing his point with this talk radio show, not that he was calling in, just getting mad at people's viewpoint, to the point where he came to work every day and he was in a bad attitude and people at the job didn't want to hang around him, didn't want to talk to him at lunch because he kept bringing up all these controversial topics that he had heard on talk radio and he wanted to voice his opinion, and people stopped hanging around him. And then one day he was looking for the talk radio on series and he messed around and he stumbled across Joel Oldstein and he started listening. And so then the next morning he listened again, and then he just started making it a habit, and all of a sudden, one of his friends at the office asked him, Hey, man, what is it different about you? What are you doing? And he said, you know what, I stopped allowing outside interference to enter into my atmosphere, and it changed the way our acted, behaved, and perceived things. And you have the right to do that. And I'm saying to everybody, what are you allowing in your atmosphere? You don't need toxic relationships. You don't. There's no reason for you to allow a toxic relationship to exist in your life. And I don't care if they family. If they toxic, they toxic. There's nothing in the Bible that says you have to deal with toxic people. There's nothing that says as a Christian you have to tolerate toxic relationships. You have every right to remove yourself from it so you can make room for something else to enter into your atmosphere. So the more all of the story, what I learned is but Steve, you gotta control and to say so of what enters into your atmosphere. You have a say so in that. I don't have to deal with you. If you're negative, if you are naysayer, if you are a hater, if you spread gossip in lies, you can't get in my circle. I'm trying to live a positive life. I'm trying to do the right thing. I don't need you in My day's hard enough trying to be successful. No, I got missnectivity, mister nectivity just coming along in my own do that. Look, Man, control what you allow in your atmosphere. It will make a huge difference in how you function and deal in life. The Bible says a man is as he thinking. So what have you forced yourself to think about? Good or bad? Negative or positive? You make the decision. It's your atmosphere, keep it clean and going about your life. All right? Those are my closing dogs today. I hope you got something out of that because I showed did. Oh, we'll see y'all tomorrow. 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