Breakup Handbook, Hiring Relatives, Summer Traveling, Small Gestures and more.

Published Jul 6, 2021, 1:00 PM

Good morning and welcome to the ride! Steve has a question just for you to start the morning. We give you the sayings you make under your breath towards your neighbor. What happens when you hire relatives? The crew give us the pitfalls of traveling. Steve gives us advice about how to handle breakups. Big Dog is back with Ask Steve. Inside Comedy Roulette, the comedians give us the signs that show you are lost. What is the truth about romantic gestures? Today in Closing Remarks, Uncle Steve explains the importance of being laser focused when it comes to success. Have a great weekend!

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Today's show is pre recorded. Y'all know what time y'all don't know y'all have a suit all looking back to back down, giving them just like amazing bus things. And it's not me true good Steve hard to mother, stay, don't joy y. You gotta use that turn. You gotta turn to turn them out. Turn't got to turn out to turn turn the water the water. Come, come on your bad huh I show well a good morning everybody. You're listening to the voice? Come on dig me naw one it only Steve Harvey got a radio show today? Is it? Everybody? On a real positive note? Today? Is it? Today is the day? You know, when I was in high school, you know, my mother was a Sunday school teaching until she passed. I would walk out the door every morning on my way to school, and my mother used to say, listen to me, son, hey, don't forget today is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. And you know, I ain't think much of it. You know, it's just my mama being religious. You know, Mom's spiritual woman. So you know I just took it as d But as I've gotten older, man you know that's registered more and more with me. Today is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. That's pretty cool, man. What better blessing will you get throughout the day than the fact that he allowed you to live and see another day? See sometimes, man, when you're young, you don't pay no attention to that. But all you got to do is keep living, keep watching some people that you know not be here anymore, go to class reunions and they're smaller. See people that you really loved. It meant a lot till you leave this world, and all of a sudden, man, immortality starts to matter a great deal to you. Some of us learned this lesson sooner than others. But I know when you're young, man, you know, you think you're gonna be here for a while. You think you got time to play around. You think you got time to get it together, you got time to make the mistakes. And but man, oh man, almost every full blown adult that I know will tell you and have said these words right here many times. And I would see the reason I'm saying this because I want you to hear them, because you're gonna use them if I only knew then what I know now. Do you know how many people have said those words right there? Because in time, man, you gained so much wisdom. Oh but it ain't like nobody didn't tell you, though. Somebody told you back then. Hey man, it's best to buckle down now, he said, Hey man, you better quit wasting time. Hey, look, do your best at all the times, you know, stop stop worrying about that. I'm telling you, son, in a minute, them clubs ain't gonna mean nothing to you. In a minute, they're going out all the time. Ain't gonna mean nothing to you. I can't tell you how many times I repeat it to my kids. But man, today is a different day, because today is the day that the Lord is made. So he gave you a shot today. If you woke up this morning, or if you're finishing your day on your shift, he gave you a new day. Nothing bigger than the fact that he woke you up today. Now, why don't you do something about that? Why don't you take advantage of it? How About if you start today? How About if you stop hesitating today. How About if you stop delaying it today? How about if you stop procrastinating today? How about if you make today to day that you go forward. I mean, man, let's all just decide today, let's go forward. Let's put forth a maximum effort today. I mean, really, now what you're doing you look, man, take advantage of this blessing of waking up, do something today. If you would just start the process, man, start that business you always dreamed of. Go looking to that other job you always yearn for. Go get the training you need to get the promotion. Man, going back to school. Man, go see what you need to do to lift yourself to the next level. Stop waking up every day seeing high it's gonna go, and start waking up and do something about how it goes. If you make one step, he'll make two. But you could people talk about all the time, man, it seems like you're always getting a blessing. Oh man, when you're talking to a person, listen to this. If you're talking to a person and it seems like there's always a blessing coming his way, let me tell you what that person doing. That person is putting one foot in front of the next. That person is putting forth some efforts out there, And that's the only way God can bless you. God can only bless you with your efforts. He can only put his finger on the thing that you are doing or attempting. That's all he could help you with. He that are no jobs walking up to your door, knocking on your door. But if you're beating the payment, if you're sending in the apps, if you own line, scouring somewhere to work, somewhere to get a job, then God can touch somebody's hard to hire you. But if you're sitting at the house every day, smoke every day, drinking, But you wonder why you just can't get a job. A couple of times you don't want out there, you got to If you ain't got a job, you gotta go get one every day. You got to go look for one every single day. You can't take no days off. How about today? How about today? If we decide today is the day that we're gonna make the move. Today is the day that we stop delaying, hesitating, procrastinating. Today is to day that we take a step in the direction to do something for ourselves, for our lives, for our family, for our wives, for our children, for our community, for our school. Do something today, for crying out loud, man, stop sitting in your own life, in just a stew of misery in your own life. I'm gonna tell you something. If you are in a state of confusion, if you are troubling, if you're stuck on what to do next, you let me tell you what's happening. You're not doing enough. That's what it is. Man. See when I get in a place, man where I don't know what the next move is, it's because i'd un usually stalled out. See, this is the way God works. This is the way He's worked for me. Every time I'm busy and I'm about the business of always trying to live my creed, which is ABC. My motto is ABC always be closing. I'm always working on something, something to close something. When you're so busy with the business of improving yourself and doing with yourself and becoming the best you you can be, God is always working on your behalf, behind some scene of something that you're in the process of tempting to close. But because you're not doing all you can do, you're limiting you. You are because if your decision not to give you all in all, you're limiting the opportunities for God to put his finger on things and touch them on your behalf. I don't know if the average person really understands or knows what it takes to truly be successful on whatever level you're talking about. But whatever that level is, I don't care what a dollar amount you've got attached to it, what level you've got, if you have made the decision that you're going to be successful, I think that a lot of people, the average person does not know what that means. Whatever level you've decided to be successful on, See, that's your level of faith, that's where you see your life at. Well, guess what you got to maximize your efforts to even get to that level. So listen to me. If you want to be successful at your church, if you want to be successful in your relationship, if you want to be successful down at the day kissing, if you want to be successful at your college, if you want to be successful on your job, guess what it's gonna take all you got in that world to become a success. I don't know why people think that. If you don't want to be where somebody else say, you ain't got to put forth that effort, nain't wrong. You've got to put forth your maximum effort at whatever role you're trying to accomplish. Lord have mercy. Man. How about today, though, y'all? How about today today as a good one. Let's make today today. Let's get out of that. Let's get on with it. Stop hesitating, stop delaying, stop procrastinating, start today. Watch God have something to put his finger on there. And that's all you're trying to do. Man, to line yourself up with God's grace, you got to put out a lot of effort so God can put his finger on something. You feel me today? I shall hope you do because I'm on one today. Let's da morning show. Ladies and gentlemen, we are here, welcome to the right on this Tuesday. My ain't it to make? Let me ask Charlotte question before we get started. Yes, you got you got somebody in your life, maybe somebody you work with that won't it? They way and not your way? And they all got to go together anyway. But if they don't get a day when now they made work for somebody like that? Not no moment? Free from that? Yeah, I have been released from that. God has delivered me. Won't I don't know why? Will it won't follow? I never understood. Yeah, but yes, not any more. I'm good. I'm happy to be where I'm at. That's not shade. It's like I can't see nothing without being considered that sunshine. I'm just saying, you got right to be happy, ja right to be happy. He don't want you happy. I didn't I see now that would be shade. That shade right there. Absolutely, I promise you, he don't want you, don't want me happy. So I ain't never seen nobody that don't do not understand how this works. Man, that what God has for you, he has for you. It's for you. You trying to stop what somebody else got, thinking you're gonna have more. You're still gonna have what you've got, but he got plenty. But doc, but here gonna you know what, Listen, I can I sum it up for you. And this is what I want to tell young people all the time about hate. Hate. Hate is created because people think life is a game that if I win, you lose, and if you lose, I win. Right. Thus, people who look at life that way, they on the end of that typing funky stuff about you that ain't true, thinking that's gonna knock you down, and they and the and and now they're bigger. Life is not a game. Life is a contest. You just gotta get into category and get your own blue ribbon. But if you go to the County Fan, they give our more than one blue ribbon. He this ain't the super Bowl. This the County fat You can get in there for best pig. You can win it for best syrup, best pickle, beats dog, you can win that thing. For best dog. You can get in that fast kicking. Yes, you can get that for largest watermelon. Yes, dog. Life is a contest. It ain't a game. Just get in your category, going, get your ass a blue ribbon and going about your business. Me winning ain't got nothing to do with you lose it and you los it ain't got nothing to do with me winning. So stop that. Depend on that. We're talking with the radio show. Yeah, we winning winning. You are how you look out? It's a contest. I didn't say, did you get your blue ribbon? You're over there? You winning? You winning in the little group you in. All right, we gotta stop this right here. We'll come right back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this FM dot com you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Well it's time for something funny and Jay, this is about stuff you say to your neighbors under your breath. Please explain. This has to do what we see our neighbors all the time. We're not that fond of them sometimes so we speak. But under our breath was saying little things, little little insulting things like hey, Hi, do you need to come up? Keep Jack? Keeping it? Keeping it one hundred? You got one jack? Ja. I just want Oh, how are you doing? Are you my man? You need some curtains? How are you doing? Franklin's good to see it. Hope the boy stay home this time. It takes vacation. Let's see us. Come on, nephews, Perkins, how are you good? Good? You should do something with that damn bo I done? Kennedy, Hey I done? Will across the street. That smell dn dyn kill. How you guys doing the day too? Stupid ass kids saving stuff we say to our neighbors under gott being Come on, Smith's good to see it all right now, I wouldn't be pushing my mom at headline. She got to do something. Three, Hey, how are you good? Good? She can stop your fat as wife from swimming naked on Probably he out my dog money stands to night doing? Yeah, how you got folk clowers on block? And don't none more? Four cards? Heav yard is a mess. Stuff we say to our neighbors under our breath. Come on here with us, old boy, I see you have a good with the game. So glad. He cut my grass. He killed my flowers. He spoke to me and cut my grass. Wow, that's bad. That's a dragon. Right Hey, hey Johnson's it's good to see y'all. All right now man, now now we're good. Were good? Right now? I know a baby when to eat paper. I know that baby eat paper. You gotta tell me no more. I know that baby eats piper. Baby, he's smart. Now you gotta bring no we good birthday, we say to our neighbors under our breath, Tommy go Leonard, Hey, nice day to day? Good good? Wasn't good last night? Damn what you called him? Stuff? We say to our neighbors under our breath. He so irmine, how y'all doing? So tell y'all, put y'all mommy in the whole. Yeah, black people don't do that. Hey, mister Mitchell, what's going on? Yeah, I'm good. You don't see that dog doing yard. You just don't suck stuff. We say to our neighbors under our breath. We suck curtains. Hey, caient's going on all right now? Ain't the end of that damn laugh? And he ain't killing that way too much noise. I don't even know how they touched both they stump. All right now, I'm good man, Come on, nephew. Stuff. We say to our neighbors under our breath. Kindly, kindly, y'alls looking good, looking, real good. You come over with this line, though, you come over with I'm telling you that you know what. Damn you know, you know my son, you know your damn sun. That property line means something. Its invisible, but it means something. You know what that line man, that's my line. All right, I think we have time for two more Jay and then Steve close it out stuff. We say to our neighbors under our breath. Let's go, hey, hey, what's going Yeah, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good. I'm that night he got into a fun yeah, yeah, come on, Steve, close it up. Stuff. We stayed right out Sydney. Hey, it invited me over to the little spanking everything. I know, I know you ran out of room. I came all right, guys, thank you, that was good, Thank you. Coming up next is the nephew and run that prank back. You're listening show right now. The nephews in the building with run that prank back? What you got for us? Neff my roommate, Benny, My roommate, Bennet. It was loud in my ear. It's frank time. Everybody knows Frank time. Get rid of my roommate. Been it running? Hello? Must be to David. Yeah to see Okay, Hey man, this is Chris, a little above you. I ain't ever met you before, but you you you have. You've been calling the leasing office about complaining on me about I'm making too much noise away. Yeah man, I'm I bad, bro. I was trying to catch you, man. I could never. I could never catch you at home. Man. It's just like you know, bro, I work at nice, I work at night. Yeah. Yeah, you're saying. I say I work in a day, but I can't sleeping night. Broker. I'm I don't know what's going on in your apartment, and I'm saying I ain't trying to be in your business. I'm not trying to be in your business. Player. I just can't get a sleeping night, man, because it'd be a lot of noise, a lot of noise, a lot of talking. And what you do is your business. Bro. I'm just saying, please, man, but you ain't got to go to the leasing office. Man, all you have to do. You know what's hall at me? You ain't they you know they got me written up, like you know, one more complaint on me, they're gonna put me out of something. Well, yeah, like I said, I was trying to get I was trying to find you. You know what I'm saying. But we guess we miss each other because you you working night. I work in the day. So you know when you're going, I'm coming, and when I'm coming, you going. I'm saying, Brian trying starting. I'm just trying to, you know, go to work and pay my pay my bills. Man. It's I'm be at work at night. Man. You know what I'm saying. I'm trying to get my hustle on like you're trying to get yours on doing Hala hala hala hala on. Okay, okay, let's make it my sense, Bro, if you are working night, somebody in your somebody in your apartment, how can loud in them? Keeping me up? Square mittens? Okay, you've got a roommate us long. No, I ain't got no roommates. Man, Benny, somebody in there talking loud, holding a conversation. It's like two people in there talking loud every night. That's Bro's Benny Man Beatty be talking? Okay, you say you ain't going a roommates, sow who who is Benny? Who is Benny? Benny is my bird? My parents? Does Betty be talking? Like? Man? Stop doing me dive? Listen mine what why? Wait a minute, you're trying to tell me bird, don't it? Man, I don't have pity ten years that's my bird. Birds don't even live that long. So so now I'm sucking night. I'm at the work because because a bird, that's what you want. That's what you called me to tell me. I called you to tell you you ain't gonna be putting these complaints on me. Man, But I'm I'm gone, And that's been in talking man. I bit it in yo, boy, Penny, Wait a minute, hey, look, I'm telling you now do something with the bird then, or that's gonna be some consequences and repercussions. I'm talking about some fried chicken. Randy hey Man, plenty is like a family member to me. Bird too, can Sam the chicken on the car flake box, Kentucky Chicken Briar, hey Man, you don't tell me nothing better about my birth? Okay, brother? You know what, maybe me you need to square from front of each other because you don't you don't disrespect betty Man. All right, all right, you take something, all right, all right? I bet that be on my table when I get home. If it's a bird, dan and I bet that bey'all my don the table man, a man, then you ain't gonna city and disrespect me and try to tell me what you're gonna do to my bird. But you ain't gonna do nothing stupid to bet it. Tell you what I tell you what you can date you at hard right now? What you're going to work tonight? I bet you bid it. I'll bet tomorrow. I bet you with these fingers enjoy tomorrow. Man, ain't man, Hold on a minute, man, wait a minute, though, what you played do and start talking about what you're gonna do to my bird? Not and told you you file for going to the listening office calling me out, and now you're on the phone. I'm trying to work this out with you, and now you ain't trying to work right now, I fay stop you. You called me and tell me that it's a bird holding a conversation with itself. I'm a stupid right now. I'm I'm a stupid even continue this conversation. Excuse with me? I fin to night. Are you serious? Man? Man, really use some ivirus or something? Man like? Man, listen, bro listen, whatever it is, it's just a bird or recording whatever that you gotta do. Stop to wait and it was a bird, man, I'm gonna be solid salted. If this is a bird, I'm gonna really a bird. It's spinning, man, it's spinning you. All you gotta do is come to me and we could have had a little like Mela hola hola. Okay, okay, okay, We're gonna have it like me. And then first off, leasing office wouldn't give me a name. What's your name? My name Chris? Okay, Chris, I'm deavin. There we go, there we go, listen, doal. I ain't for the past three months. You know what I'm saying, I ain't really been getting no sleep because of this bird. You say it's a bird. I don't believe that. But a bird a bird? Come on, dog, that's for to you. We'll take them to work with you is I don't care, figure something out, but whatever going on up there with you and your fire need to come to an immediate house or it's gonna be something. Hey man, hey man, what you can't do is threaten me by what's going on in my house home. Man, Look here, you ain't been it's being in Lenny. Whatever the nine meals you need to do something with that's gonna be some really, it shows man, Why am I going back and forth with you about this? You keep telling me something about a bird. It's a bird. What's the problem with it? What's the problem? I understanding that people have pet birds? Say man, I don't give them if you have a pet bird. But really, this how all night long? How do you? How do you? How do you live with? Then? Come, I'll never shut up. I'll tell you what. I'll tell you what Benny told me to tell you, though, God, I'll tell you what Benny told me. Wait wait, wait, wait, wait wait wait, wait, wait, wait wait waite, Chris White White, Brother, I don't want to hear what I'm bird told you to tell me. Can I tell you what Benny told me to tell you? What? What? What the it? Benny told me to tell you this that This is nephew Timmy from the Steve Harvey Martin Show. You took God Pranked by your boys, Sean. He says, Dude, did I get your man got me? Do you got it? Man? That guy, I'm gonna get it. I'm gonna get it. I'm gonna I'm gonna have to wait to this dude, get armed out and talk to him. I ain't talk to you about some posing bird. I don't know what's a status. Man. I'm even do I'll be up our night and I'm saying I'm missing I'm missing my sleep, I'm missing Now I'm saying I'm missing y'all in the morning because I'm probably hitting the slow. But I got one more thing to ask you. What is what is the baddest I'm talking about the baddest radio show in the lane man, Steve harden More in the show we never sung that is my roommate. Benny just wanted to do it. Oh man, everybody got different kind of roommates. Mine just having to be a bird. You understand, I'm saying my roommate. All right, more of this crazy ignorant show. Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right after this, you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Carlo found this great article on hiring your relatives your family members. Yeah, we're all on team Tommy for the most part of Jay. Jay is president and CEO. Yeah, but here's some information from the article. Here the pros, Steve, Okay, for hiring your relatives, you already know what you're getting. You already know. You don't have to guess. You don't even think about it, you know, because this is a member of your family, so you know this person. Here's some of the cons though, it sends the wrong signal to other employees, you know, like they're not qualified for the job. They just got the job because he wasn't. Huh that's true. Uh huh uh. Here's another con. A relative may feel the rules don't apply to in this case him. That's so he just missed two days. Yeah, but he didn't get paid though. That's where the staying. Oh he's gonna need it. He's gonna do it, alright, so he working to conversate for his check. There's another con Steve, Well, you don't necessarily do this, but other CEOs might not hire relatives because the con is you hold back from criticism or you don't discipline him. So in this case you did. You did dock him his pay, right, man? I wishall would. I'm will not criticize him. What is we talking? We're not doing criticism? Why are we talking? But but you hired him, though, Steve, that was not by choice. What do you mean, my sister? The only reason I fired him is causing Hell. Well, I wasn't a good hide though. You don't think he does good work? Steve, Wait a minute, you don't think I was a good hire boy. If I could replay for days, you missed the times you called it from day one, those things I can't even tell you. You guys weren't even here on day one when Tommy used to call him from his bed at least twice a week asking if he had to come in. Is that true? I was trying to get used to the system. That's awards, but we were all here. What else you got that's about it. The article goes on to say that issues with family members who come up I don't even want to say this way. Yeah, just wait, I gotta brace yourself. The article goes on to say, issues with family members who come up short. You couldn't let that go, asked me. He asked me. It's his show, wrong, they come up? It said, issues with family members come Look, okay, I'm pretty good job around here, come up short of the job. They must have interviewed Tommy for this should be addressed just as they would any other who would have been the shortest one on the hip. That's that's pop teen right there. Trying to read it one more time. I read it again. What don't you say, President and CEO of Team Timmy, you need to hit it again? Yeah, but why shell? She got water come out of a Steve? Did you not ask me to read this again? I didn't know. I didn't know what it was. You know, but you could not. You gonna let it go? Ok? I was gonna reasons No, Junior, I don't think I should. All right, Steve, let's get to the news. Ladies and gentlemen. Miss Anne Trip, thank you very much. Everybody good morning, Good morning. I know for a lot of folks this feels like Monday, but it's actually Tuesday. In Flada, remaining of that collapsed condo building in Surfside demolished over the holiday weekend over fears of what might happen because the tropical storm Elsa, which might have brought the structure down on the heads of the rescuers. So that's down, and Mayor Dan yellow Levine Kava says they used a special technique to do it, the method of demolition energetic felling. It's a process that uses small, strategically placed explosives and relies on gravity to bring the building down in place. That is what happened. Rescue and recovery teams have resumed sifting through the rubble for more victims. At last count now there were twenty eight people found dead, with some hundred and seventeen others still missing and unaccounted for. Again, that number twenty eight dead for sure and one hundred and seventeen others missing unaccounted for. Meanwhile, Elsa made landfall yesterday on the southern coast Cuba, after causing death of three people in the West Indies and a state of emergency has been declared in several Florida counties, with the storm expected to reach Key West and the west coast of Florida sometime today, also bringing heavy rains later this week to Georgia and the Carolinas. In Washington, Democrats in the House are expected to continue adding lawmakers to the Select Committee being put together to investigate the January sixth attack on Capitol Hill. Donald Trump held a Save America rally on Saturday in Sarasota, Florida. There were hundreds of fans and attendants, also a sort of a plane that flew overheads pulling a scrolling kneeon sign calling the event a loser loser. It was sponsored by a group called the Midas Touches, the political action committee formed solely to keep Donald Trump from running again for office. Brett Meisels is the founder. He says, quote, these are loser rallies where the biggest loser of them all wines further incriminates himself and rants and raves like a lunatic. Unquote that's his quote. Health officials say that while two thirds of US adults are now vaccinated against COVID, the virus has not disappeared because of a more infectious variant out there going around. Still, more than two hundred Americans die each day from the coronavirus. You need to know. The city of New Orleans was treat to a Fourth of July fireworks show on Sunday thanks to actor Will Smith, who picked up the one hundred thousand dollars tab for It'd have to find that the city didn't plan for a pyrotechnic show for this year. He's in New Orleans working on his latest film, Emancipation, and finally, today's International Kissing Day. Yeah, now, back to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. If you believe this new survey, the average American traveler hates going to the airport so much that they'd add six and a half hours to their travel time if it meant they could drive and take road trips to their location instead. Wow. Wow, Well, you know, it is a more enjoyable experience to drive for a lot of people, because look, I used to take buses. I'm talking about who we were touring. Oh yeah, like for example, if I was going you know, okay, okay, all of us lived in Atlanta for a period right, like if I was going to Birmingham to perform, I'm not going to get a plane, or if I'm going to a Lando or I'm going South Carolina, I'm going somewhere like that, I'm getting a bus man. Because if you gotta leave in plenty of time, you gotta pack, you gotta get dressed, you gotta get in the car. You gotta get to the airport at least I on a half before, and you gotta sit there and wait. Then you got a board, then you fly. Then when you land, you gotta go to the baggage claim, get your bag. Then you gotta travel to the hotel. But then you could have been where he was calling. That's you need to stop, Steve, because when you get your bag, that's a two hour wait. That's longer than the flight. Oh man, I'm trying to tell your baggage claim. I have stood there. I don't know who working back then. Oh no, but when I saw you don't. Yeah, you're right, Steve, all that time, when you yeah, all that, when you think about it, Yeah, you can get on the road, put your luggage in the trunk and be there and just get to spend time in a couple of hours. Can't spend time more relaxing. Yeah, I don't want to spend no time with nobody. Huh. We took the bus when we went to Albany from Atlanta. Web we had to show down there. Yeah, all it was on there you was, We was having fun? What I thought we was? Maybe just maybe I'm glad to be anyway, he didn't changed again. Then let's go on on college. You ain't been no body on baggage claiming a long time. No, damn wait, your bed come right off the back of your plane. You know what you're talking about? Stood in bags? What's this frustration? Ain't got no frustration? Roll out there, up to his plane, get out, walked up the stet all his plays. Oh, ain't nobody tending to get off the dawn phone or nothing. He talking all the way through the flight taking off. God, ain't no Steve belt on and nothing, just sitting there and sitting there, putting out there. I'm gonna say, what kind of sing all I got na? Look? God is blessed. But once get I ain't mad at it. He ain't mad at sound. He get out of y come he got Yeah. At seventy three percent of Americans, Steve agree with you. They consider road tripping a more pleasant experience than flying. You gotta take your shoes off, you gotta undress. You got it? Oh my god, lay on that nicke and just going on through. Coming up some more music and more fun on the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, ladies and gentlemen, get ready. We consulting an expert because we wanted to know the real deal. Okay, Steve is here of his breakup handbook. All right. These as things that you need to have in mind after the break up. Most most of this is for fellas. That is, because when we take a breakup hard, it's ugly. It's ugly out there. Now. These are things from Steve Harvey's break Up Handbook, how to act when you break up? All right? Now? His rule number one, you are allowed only one drunk die You know how you call him up when you drunk? You only get the one. And it sounds like something like this, Hello is me? You know who me is? Don't play with man? You know who? Men? Play with my emotions? Who is me? You know? You know who me is? How many you get one one and get one of them all right. Now, here's the next rule. You are not allowed to roll up on your ex just because you see that car parked outside the club, the restaurant, or church. Don't go down. You can't do that. Sho we broke up. I can't go in there if I see the car. You can know you can't roll up on them. Now. I gotta say you with church later on, but just stay that stay out right, you girl. Can't roll up on them. Oh that she is. I'm gonna go in now. Yeah, Oh that he is. I'm going in there. You can't do that. Call alleg all right. Next one, y'all's favorite spot. It's off limits to both parties for at least four months, and take nobody else over there at least. Here's another one. Okay. Texting your favorite song to each other is off liver. You can listen to it, you can cry to it, you're playing over and over, but you can't send it. So I'm trying to move on and I'm killing you. Now. Listen to them all, y'all. Stuff, All possessions is collected at one time, and one time on. Anything that's left behind will be thrown away by both parties, like that. You ain't keep coming over here looking for stuff. You can't keep coming back over here. I gott coming to you in the closet looking for your taink top. Oh he keeping it real. You hit a big one right here. Nobody is allowed to talk to each other's mama's friends, and you can't be friends with mamma. Come home that mama. Yeah, hit, at least that's a good one, Steve. I like he was trying to pick up some greens and you and Hit talking rolling your eyes when I walk into dough. Yeah, here's the next one. Yeah, okay, all parties. She find a new church home. Yes, but yeah, yeah, yeah, I love all your friends should be divided up equally, except the ones you hate. You can have him. Yeah another no posting of new pictures? Yeah, you know, like her naked or him dressed up like the damn Easter, the private What about I'm gonna do. I'm gonna finish this one old naked picture? All right? Well, nephew, tell me has the prank fall coming up? You're listening, all right, nephew, what you got time for the prank? Phone call? Shirley, It's time to baptize some people. It's called mobile baptismal pool. Mobile baptisma. We come to you in ignorant in your house and baptize. That's what we do. Hello. Hello, I'm trying to reach a mister Wilson. It's just how you doing. My name is brother spring Water Man. Listen. We uh we we we got paid to actually come by and do some services to uh for for you by some friends of yours, and we wanted to actually call and see about scheduling and see what you had available, uh some some services. What y'all playing on Clenson Grass which I do? What kind of services you had? Actually, sir, You've got some friends that have actually spent a great amount of money on you. And what we do is UM we have a Baptismal on wheels, Servey. And what we do is we go and we um we baptize people at their home and and Baptismal on Wheels has been it's a new UM company, but we've we've baptized over a thousand people. Now we have a truck with it which actually has a baptismal pool on the back of it, and we actually come to your home and we will baptize you in your driveway and and make you hold again. So we hostess here brother water, Brother again. I'm sorry, I fringwater, bro freingwater. What you want to come to my house and give me a baptism in my front yard? We want to baptize you right there in your drive where your friends are paid for the services. And my friend what a friend will pay for me to get baptized. Man, I've been baptized, are already well from my understanding, sir that but then that you you've had some some bumps and bruises and and and they seem to uh to believe that you need to be Washington coming. I mean, that's all good, that's all. That's all. It's all good. But I mean things are I mean think that matter that it made? Man. I mean I've been baptized, I go to church. You know, uh, me and the Lord don't have no problems. I mean, we all have setbacks. But for you to pull up with your pool in front of my house to say you've been to baptize me, that that doesn't make any sense to me. Doc I means, sir, Sometimes when some people are not able to go to the house of the Lord and get baptized. You know, we're making a lot more convenient for you, but we can actually need no convenance. I don't need no convenience. What I need convenience for you asking me to come to my house on a Tuesday to baptize me in my driveway? Does that make any sense to you? Brother Water? I mean, come on, if you really sit back and think about it, does that make any sense to you? Further? First of all, so that's that's brother spring water. But what I'm trying to what I'm trying to say, the water is holy water, spring water. It doesn't make no difference to me. You can't come to my neighborhood and baptize me in front of my house, sir? What is all that? This is? This is what your friends are talking about that don't give what my prayers are telling you. Man and anybody which which one of my friends don't recommend you to come to my damn house. So I'm I'm I need and i'd let me that you don't even make any sense to me. You understand, I'm not I'm not at any liberty to tell you who actually is. Uh, I'm between the liberties because of my damn house that baptize me, But you can't tell me who the hell I'm gonna see you? But you're not there? What may come all? You don't even come on that that makes sense to you? God, come on, that doesn't make any no way in the world. I'm gonna allow you to come and bring your phone in front of my house and baptize me. Then I'm asking you ask as you you supposed to be a pastor, you supposed to be baptized, And I'm asking you, okay, what's a friend of mine? Is tending you that you know, letting you know I need to be done? How you'll tell you? How that liberty to all I wanted to Basically, I've already been paid. I'm coming taking a chance. Now I'm baptizing me them back time. I'm going to baptize you on Tuesday in your driveway. Man, I tell you was did you come to my house and front of my driveway? You better bring the old congregation, you understand. You better bring the deacons, the brothers, the sisters and and my asses. You think how many you got ties? Which this is a problem. This is what your friends are talking about. This is why you need to be baptized and cleansed again and washed in the blood of the lamp. This is what's wrong. You need to be cleansed. That's what's wrong with you, mister Wilton. What's wrong with me? Now? What's wrong with two is called me a little my ho. They're telling me I need to be back in front of my house. If I need to be backtimp, don't get the only water I go down to the church. I don't need you come in front of my house, looking ole churcas. We are your praises and white sheeps calling to back athlete. For my understanding, for my understanding, for my understanding. Mister Wilson, you've missed two Sundays already this month. Sun This so man, I can't go anywhere and get the water. I don't need you coming head because you tell him I missed two dead Sundays. I'm gonna miss Sunday two because the funhous ain't coming off, Sir. All I know is I've been paid to do a job. I will be there Tuesday morning at seven o'clock and we will baptize you before you go to work on two. Before you will I tell you what you curting my aftern o'clock and corn I swell on your lord, I'm gonna bust you. You understand me. You were not coming my house telling me you would have backtip. Now, I don't give a dam who paid you. You understand I was drying your in awards matters from you, your teachers, everybody else. We're gonna have a cool prot you that you understand. I'm all of this anger and all of this, these problems you have within you. We are going to burge your body and get it out your system. I don't want your pleas to me. I tell you what. I tell you what a swing water is. That's brother rain water. You're gonna get back times so Tuesday morning. I don't give a dam who pays you, who called you bringing you know I'm gonna I can't kill you. I'm gonna drying y'all side. I got one more thing I want to say to you. When you listening to gotta matter, I'm busy. You ain't got to say to me. I gotta go. You understand. You ain't got long thing I want to say to you? Is you listening to me? Whatnot? This is nephew Tommy from the Steve Harby Morning Show. You it's got pranked by your boy Mason. Hello, man, let me check y'all something. Man, let me tell you something boy, y'all, y'all was by bridle man, I said, head man. I was about to act a fool on y'all because y'all would have showed him at my crib. You're stand me what time? Y'all ain't got just better to do. Didn't sit around here and just with people during their day. Man. I ain't never thought y'all could give me with this He who the hell goes around eaties of people all? That's like middles A will baptized people with a pull on the back fifty. I gotta ask you something, what is the baddest radio show in the land? Man? You know it's the Steve Harvey Morning the Show. See, that's how you baptized. Forget going to church now exactly when they don't make it to the check you know, we bring the baptismal to you right out. That's actually a good idea. Yeah, we're driving away man. Yeah, we'll baptize you go to work in the morning. Yeah, and you get your save on. We get to save on right there. We cleanse you right there all we won't you do it? Will? And will he won't. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show right now. It is time for the Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, submit your letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We're ready, nephew, buckle up and hold on tight. We gotta tell you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject I'm in love, but not with my husband. Here's Stephen Shirley. I am a thirty year old mother of two and I've been married since I was eighteen. Well, recently, I met a man online and initiated a conversation with him about sports since we like the same teams. I was completely attracted to him when I saw him online, and we decided we should meet in person. And once we met, we started out as friends and we talked to each other and saw each other daily. I started to have strong feelings for him and it grew into us hugging and kissing whenever we were together. Here's the catch. He is also married to his high school sweetheart and they have four kids. He says he is in love with his wife, yet he still finds time to talk to me and see me. Whenever he posts pictures on social media of him and his wife, I get jealous. I see how happy they appear to be. I have tried to leave him alone, but it never lasts for long because I like him so much. In case you're wondering, I cannot stand my husband, but I've been with him my whole life, and our marriage is comfortable. Besides, I have my kids to consider. I know what I'm doing is wrong, but now I am head over heels in love with this man, and he knows and want to let me go, but he's not leaving his wife. What should we do? Well, I don't know what we should do, but I definitely know what you should do. Okay, Listen, this is a go nowhere, hopeless, hot mess of a situation, and you know that this needs to end right now today, but it probably won't because you are head over heels in love with this man, as you say, and he has already told you he's not leaving his wife. So you know you're in somewhat of a quandary here. Because you say you love him, I say, that if you're unhappy in your marriage, get some therapy, get some marriage counseling, talk to your husband. Maybe you guys could try different things, get a separation, do something else. But don't just sit there and wallow in happiness while seeing someone else on the side, you know, behind your husband's back and him behind his wife's back. That doesn't help anything. I know you you want to what, nephew, are you squirming in your seat though? All over it? Anyway? Yeah, he's not leaving, So what are you? Guys? You just destined to sneak around and see each other that way? Is that what you really want? You say you want to stay married to your husband for your kids. I mean that's good, and that's noble and everything. But you gotta have some happiness in this situation too. And if you're not happy, if your marriage is not making you happy, you gotta do something about that. First of all, I say, get some counseling. All right, there you go, Steve, Yeah, yeah, that's nice counseling. Oh, any word that right now? We're skip over that. This matter don't says nothing by no damn counsel This thirty year old mother. Here's the subject I'm in love, but not with my husband. Now that's the only time might hear you say the word love in this letter. I got must point this out. Thirty ye old mother too be marriage. Since you eighteen, probably dated the boy. Since before that, you've never had any other relationship. You know, met this man online, y'all started talking about the sports. Then you saw him. He was attracted to him. Y'all decided to meet him person. Once you met him, y'all started out as friends, and you talk to each other and saw each other daily. Now you got to go out your way to meet somebody daily. This ain't a co worker. Hello, this just a dude offline. So y'all got to hook up. That takes time. So y'all making ways to go see each other. Now both of y'all is married. We'll get into that in a minute. I started having strong feeling for him, and it grew into us hugging and kissing whenever we were together. Hell, y'all see y'all out of sports talk. See that old that all we like the same team. How much liking the same team gonna get you every day? Y'all just up talking about this same damn team, About how much. Y'all like it? Nah? He looking at your lips, You're looking at his lip, y'all putting your tongue in each other mouth. Wow, your damn right. Every day sitting up talking about the team. Nobody talking about your team every damn day. The Browns is much help they need. Damn talking about the damn team every day. Here's the catch. He is also married to his high school sweetheart and they have four kids. He says he's in love with his wife, yet he still find time to talk to me and see me. Okay, listen to me. Now read your lying back to yourself. He says he's in love with his wife, yet he finds it's times to talk to me and see me. He ain't in love with you. He ain't in love with you. I'll explain that to you in a minute. Whenever he posts pictures on social media for him and his wife, I get jealous. That's his wife, Your jealous fault. Put some pictures to you and your kids and your husband on that Smile at it. I see how happy they appeared to be. I've tried to leave him alone, but it never lasts for long because I like him so much. The first of all, if you think that I'm gonna sit up here and believe all y'all doing is hugging and kissing, you're wrong about that. You're leaving stuff out. This left every day, just hugging and kissing every day. And the subject I'm in love but not with my husband, Well, what are you doing to make you be in love? Because it show ain't talking about sports, Lebron, Lebron. Most people been in love with me. I'm just trying to say it's because of what I do home. It ain't the Brown, it ain't the cal Yeah, it ain't Houston. All right, listen, Uh yeah, we'll be back at twenty three after you're listening. All right, guys, Uh, here we go with Steve. Part two responds today Strawberry and it's thirty old mother. And that's why I meant this dude on love, so I didn't started feeling something for the dude. They meeting every day now, hugging and kissing every day, hugging and kissing. He married, got folk kids, she married, got two kids. He says he in love with his wife, yet he still feels time to find time talk to me and see me. But I've been understand something about men. Men can be in love with somebody else and find time to see and talk to you. But notice now, he ain't in love with you. He's not gonna leave his wife. I've tried to leave him alone, but it never lasts long because I liked him so much. What that a minute ago? You was in love? But I like him so much because of what he do. It ain't just a hug. And in case you wonder, I cannot stand my husband. I know you can't stand your husband because you're over here talking sports with this man and talking sexiness with the sports. Did you see him dunk that ball? Ball? Did you see that ball go through them up right right down the middle? What did you see him tackle him? Fell all over him, rolled and over and everything I showed, like the way the quarterback put his hands up under that to get that ball. Wow, we just talking sports now, that's why we were just sports talking throwing. D you throw that thing to me? Go a long, let's go long. We just talk to sports. Now, go long. Who you need to get a pen? You illegal use your hands here? This I can't we fell in love like this. We was just talking sports talking been here man, holding here my turn. Let me kick the ball. You like wide receiver, you got soft hand? Who's the tight end? All right, sir? You know yeah, we're sports talk right now, sitting up in him. Oh you rough in the past. Better quit doing that to me, you show better quit doing that to you. Well, so now after y'all to talk sports and had exactly exactly now, you can't stay in your damn hood, been within your whole life, and our marriage is comfortable. Besides, you got kids. Consider Now here's the key to the whole thing, and it's one I'm gonna started helping Tommy out. I know what I'm doing is wrong, but now I'm head over heels in love with this new man. He doesn't want to let me go, but he's not leaving my wife. What should we do? We'll let me explain them. He doing what he gonna do. He ain't got no other plans. You is the other plan. See, the man is doing what he do now, since both of you all are married, and both of you all are in a consensual relationship, I'm gonna tell you something that a young man told me. I never understood this, but he used to use this all the time. The saying is fair exchange. Ain't no rob see you married, I'm married, You got kids, I get kids. You in love, I'm in love. You ain't gonna where I ain't gonna. But we're getting together to come a problem and solve a problem that we both have. A we go now. Is that right? One hundred percent? No? It is? It is one hundred percent morally dead wrong. But ain't we all singers yes saved? Ain't we all come short? Or the mom y? Ain't we come on now from coming millilite a shot? Or the glory of God? Ain't we guilty of life's less for pleasures? Are? Who in here ain't been tempted? Who in here? I ain't wanted somebody that was wasn't yours? Who ain't looked over there and wish they was over there? Widowman here ain't had something across their mind and wanted it to stay there and visit for a while. Ain't said something inappropriate to whom in some way, hoping that it led to something inappropriate. I want to know who among you ain't took the time to say, look a here, what you think? How you wanted making mine? Give me some I like it, like that touch me again? Who baby ass hot? Oh right, now come on now can you come back over? Who in here ain't saying this? All right? You're listening to see what's something you feel like? You constantly constantly have to explain to people something that I constantly constantly happen to explain to people. You want you want truthful answer, Yes, we don't want you to lie. A thing that I'm trying to get past is my lifestyle. Oh to explaining explaining that. I can't tell you how many times? Why y'all do that? You know you could have gayed this to this. It's people over here that ain't got nothing, and y'all spending this money on that. I spend a lot of time dealing with that. But you give. Yeah, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. You can't give enough to people, That's true. You can give until you ain't got no more and then they just move on to another glass. But I get yeah, I get tired of explaining myself. I'm through. I'm through doing that. I'm through doing it. And you give to us. Ye, people very generous, You're very generous, yes, and thank you. But like Bishop olmatop me for those who love you, no explanation necessary. For those who hate you, no explanation exceptable. And when we ask you, Steve, I mean we ask you a lot of stuff too, but we work together and we just want to know exposures everything, you know, the blessings come down. Let's slow down. Come on, Carl, like you got the question, I do? I do? Okay, So listen to this, Steve. You wake up and you see you have texts from multiple family and friends. Now, half of the messages say go outside, the other half say stay inside. What do you do? Half of the messages say stay inside and the other half say go outside. From family, stay inside. Yeah, and then from family and friends, you got a whole bunch of text messages. I'm gonna stay inside. I can control most of what's happening in mind, go outside, opening up yourself to what's in here. Ain't nobody in here. You can't get in here. I got alarms, I got security. I'm gonna stay in here, all right. I ain't gonna go out nowhere. That's a good one. Yeah, we're playing, asked Steve. Come on, junior, all right, uncle, what is the dumbest and I mean the dumbest rule you hadn't tune again, Yeah you did, mister change of attitude? What is it? Whatnot killed? What's the dumbest rule you had in school? That's the one elementary? Okay? Two people can't slide down the slide board. That's say, who are you trying to? We can't got but thirty minutes you see that, trying to get as many in. If you left two three of us slide at one time, we can probably get a couple of slides in, one person at a time and wait till they get to the bottom and clear the ever bro bro Bro, you're listening to Steve Morning Show. All right, let's go. It is time guys for comedy roulette. Love it? I love it comedy Roulette, Jay, let me break it down, Steve, I got to we got new people, Stave. You know his nerves are bad? Yet? Will we take five subjects and put them on the wheel? We spun the wheel? When stop? We will do the damn thing? All right? Here we go the five categories. Number one excuses people use? Who owe you money? All right? Number two? Doctors don't always know what they're talking about. Number three, why are you talking? Your team sucks? Okay? Number four. Oh, number four, Um, I think I took the wrong pill. Okay, and number five, and that's when you realize you were lost. Okay, I spend the wheel cap. We'll see where it stopped. Oh, come on, doctors, doctors, doctors. I took the wrong pill. It stopped the number five, guys, And that's when you realized you were lost, Just when you realize you love. Yeah, we got to turn the music down so you can't. You can't, can't nobody concentrate, but just loud. Yeah, y'all see me lost. I'll tell you when you know you lost it. Didn't have y'all time when you tried and the streets signs go from English to the right, you can't even like you're trying to figure out. I don't even know what is this still main. Let me tell you something. When you're riding and you're in the middle of nowhere and you see a sign that say ten miles to juristic Paul Man, your answer, lost man, Jurassic card I should know so many When you're driving it and you mutter to yourself that ain't damn house. Here's when you know you come. You make a right turn and it's a no exit. It's you right in the coach. This is when you know you anytime you got to put your car in reverse and look over your shoulder when you ride and you see one store and get out, and it was like, man, say you got any where you are? That's scarier. You get out of stop side and you go by the tree that used to do right. It was a tree right right when you're driving and you stopped and the guy said, serious, like the last time I told you, keep telling you the directions. Direction. It's how you know you I'm done this quest when you tell you gotta lean out your pass in your window and say, my man, my man, ain't my man? I got? You know you lost when you sit there and you say, you know what, I'm gonna leave my car and your uber from here. I just don't know where I'm going, Because how you are you lost? If you ever say these three words right here? Yeah, excuse me, little boy? What they were? Strict? Excuse me, little boy? Yeah, excuse me the little boy sir. All right, We'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after you're listening to show. Okay, here we go. While some women may expect men to show their appreciation and love and grand ways. You know, darlings. Most women would be happy with just a small gesture from their man to show how much they care. So what small gestures are we talking about? You ask? Well a recent Reddit paul the thread post the questions, and some of the gestures include just putting their phone away during quality time you were triboo, don't be all on social media? Okay, yeah, right here, I'm all you need baby, Yes, yes, focus on me. I'm an influencer. Okay, let me influence you. It shows you know that they're focusing. Uh. And some women say they love random little gifts to know that you're thinking about them, like flowers, you know, things like that, we love flowers. Yes, yes, my god, yes yes yes. Just a hug? How about just a good old hold me hug? Okay, what do you think, Carla? I love that. I love that was just little gestures. It doesn't always have to be big, you know. And then I think one of the things is just listening. Listening. I know our husbands, you know, both of our both of us are married, and you know our husbands. They want to fix it, you know, they want to fix it. Just listen, let me bend, let me go off. Yeah yeah, a little jest. So they don't want to hear it. They want to get to the solution, right Listen. Make sure you follow us on social media. I'm on the Gram at my Girls Shirley okay, and I'm at lips by Carla on the Gram and what you guy coming up Shirley. More of the Steve Harvey Morning Show at thirty three minutes after right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. If you believe this new survey, the average American traveler hates going to the airport so much that they'd add six and a half hours to their travel time if it meant they could drive and take road trips to their location instead. Wow. Wow, Well, you know it is a more enjoyable experience to drive for a lot of people, because look, I used to take buses. I'm talking about who we were touring, Oh okayuses. Yeah. Like for example, if I was going you know, okay, okay, all of us lived in Atlanta for a period, right, Like, if I was going to Birmingham to perform, I'm not going to get a plane, or if I'm going to a Lando or I'm going South Carolina. I'm going somewhere like that. I'm getting a bus man, Because if you gotta leave in plenty of time, you gotta pack, you gotta get dressed, you gotta get in the car, gotta get to the airport at least I on the half before, and you gotta sit there and wait. Then you got a board, then you fly. Then when you land, you gotta go to the baggage claim, get your bag. Then you gotta travel to the hotel. But then you could have been when you was called. That's you need to stop, Steve, because when you get your bag, that's a two hour wait. That's longer than the flight. Oh man, I'm trying to tell you, oh my car baggage claim, I have stood there. I don't know who working back there. Man, I know, but when I saw you don't. Yeah, you're right, Steve, All that time when you yeah, all that when you think about it, Yeah, you could get on the road, put your luggage in the trunk and be there and you just get to spend time in a couple of hours, spend time more relaxing. Yeah, I don't want to spend no time with your hum. We took the bus when we went to Albany from Atlanta. Web we had to show down there. Yeah, all it was on there you was. We was having fun? What't we? I thought we was maybe just maybe I'm glad to be anyway, he didn't changed again. Then let's go on on college. You ain't been no bodamn baggage claiming a long time. No, damn your bed. Come right off the back of your plane, so you know what you're talking about. He stood in no baggage this frustration. Ain't got no frustration. Roll out there up to his plane. Get I walked up and stuff you get all his plane. Oh, ain't nobody tending to get off the dawn phone or nothing. He talking all the way through the flight taking off. Guy, ain't no seat belt on and nothing, just sitting there and sitting there, putting out there. We're gonna say, can sing all I got na look, God is blessed uncle, But I ain't mad. He ain't mad. He get out of come now he yah. Yeah. At seventy three percent of Americans Steve agree with you. They consider road tripping a more pleasant experience than flying. You gotta take your shoes off. You gotta undress, you got it, oh my god, and just going on. All right, we'll be back with the clothes. Uh, today's been a good day. Um, we'll be back to closing our show. Yeah, with Steve's closing remarks coming up at forty nine after the hour right after this. You're listening to show. All right, here we are at the last break of the day. Um, Steve, We've had a good day, talked about a lot of stuff, and of course, as usual, it is time for your closing remarks today. I want to keep it positive, but I want to keep it encouraging at the same time. And always as usual, I just want to say this before I start. It's not that I think I know everything, because I don't. But in my sixty one years I have learned quite a bit. I have learned how to come from the back towards the front. I've learned how to be at the bottom and work my way towards the top. I've learned how to get over because I've been under I've learned how to win because I have lost so many times. I've learned how to develop an understand it because I have been more than confused before so I have paid for these lessons that I've learned, so I'm just sharing and that's all I'm doing. You don't have to take any of this that I say to harder. You may choose to go another way. But for those that are really open to just hearing some theories of success, that's why I decided to start doing closing remarks again to day. Want to talk to you about something that really helps everybody, and it's very simple. Get focused. You gotta get focused, folks. You've got to become what I call laser beam driven. You've got to set your goals and visions up, and you've got to put those blinders on that you see on the horse. See the reason they put the blinders on the horse's so that the horses peripheral vision doesn't distract him. If you have up in New York and you see those carriages going around Central Park, all those horses have on blinders. It's so that they can keep the attention of the horse straight ahead. Blinders are very good. If you want to be successful, you're gonna have to put on a pair of blinders that's so your eyes when you look left or right, it forces you to get them back out front the where you're trying to go see because those blinders block out distractions. They block out distractions because they know you got to get laser being focused. If you want to be successful, you have to focus. You have to stop veering off track. You're just making the journey longer. You know, they say the quickest way from point A to B is a straight line. Now in life, it doesn't work that way. There's no straight lines. But you can avoid some of the detools, some of the distractions. But you gotta quit veering off track. Everybody come to you. You can't participate in everything. Hey man, we're going out tonight. Hey man, we're going over here this weekend. Hey man, come on man, you ain't got to study. We're getting ready to do this. Hey man, don't worry about that. We're going a happy hour. Come on, man, you can't go to everything. Stop veering off track. Next, look at it like this. Get your mind made up. Get show mind made up. Of what you want to have in your life, the legacy you want to leave, what you want people to think of you as, How much money you really want to make? Where are you really trying to go? How do you really want to be viewed. What do you really want to accomplish? Get your mind made up. Here's another way to look at it. Make a decision. Stop stop just wandering around. Life is a series of decisions. Make one. Just make a decision today. Make a decision. In other words, come to a conclusion. Man. Just set up and say to yourself, you know what, this is the deal for me. This is what works best for me. This is who I really am. Skip the outside interference from your friends and you and your relatives of what they think you are to be, and do what's really good for you. Don't nobody know what's best for you better than you. Come to a conclusion. Make a decision, set a goal, have a vision. Get thirsty. Won't something so bad that without it your mouth taste dry. You got to get thirsty, man. See, when you're thirsty, you got to get that quenched. You have to quench your thirst. And that's how you gotta pursue success. You gotta pursue success like you're thirsty. You gotta be thirsty, man. You gotta want something so bad that if you don't get it, your mouth tastes dry. What are you thirsty for? If you ain't thirsty for nothing, You ain't giving it all you got. I'm telling you, man, this is how I look at it. These are just some triggers that I put in my head. Be relentless. You got to be relentless about something. Being a relentless person has a carryover effect. And if you get relentless about your dreams and goals, do you know that makes you relentless about everything. If you develop these positive characteristics about being successful, you can get there. You got to get focused. You gotta stop veering off track. You gotta get your mind made up. You gotta make a decision. You gotta come to a conclusion. You gotta set a goal. You gotta have a vision. You gotta get thirsty. You have to be relentless. If you're not, you will ve off track. If you veer off track, you will never get to where you're trying to go. You got to get focused, y'all. It's as simple as that. And if you know how to do it, ask God to show you how. That's the other thing. No matter what I tell you, if you include God and everything I'm telling you, it becomes a lot simpler. You know, God can help you get focused. Anything you're short of, he got plenty of God, And to make your dream come true. Business is in the turn your life around business. God is in the pullet together business. God in the get over business. He can do it. So if you don't know how to get focused, ask God to help you get focused and then make a decision to be focused and get home with your life. Make something happen today. Those are my clothes remarks today. All right, See, hey, can I tell y'all something? Yeah, have a great weekend on Tuesday. For all Steve Harvey contests, no purchase necessary, void where prohibited. Participants must be legal US residents at least eighteen years old, unless otherwise stated. For complete contest rules, visit Steve Harvey FM dot com. You're listening to St