In this episode, John talks with Stacey O’Callaghan of SJS Coaching Services who helps others to achieve outstanding improvements in their lives by using a blend of psychological techniques to empower them to own and adjust their behaviour, so they feel confident to take meaningful actions so that their ideal becomes their reality. Utilising her skills as a distinction-accredited cognitive behaviour therapist, personal performance and corporate executive coach, Stacey guides individuals in their personal lives and corporate teams in the working world to realise and action the true definition of thriving within their environments.
Stacey offers a rich variety of self-coaching tools, tips and insights including personal development tools and her gifted coaching experience within her online community as well as offering a bespoke coaching service to all her clients including her Surviving to Thriving Framework, her trusted method to improve quality of life.
Stacey and John discuss how people become stuck in unfulfilling and detrimental lifestyles, what they can do to improve their situation and the nature of relationships and external pressure on one's ability to thrive. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Stacey helps people understand why they are living their current lifestyle, what core beliefs they have that are keeping them caught at that point and then replace their external influences to create their own, personal, sustainable idea of thriving.  
• Someone in survival mode is living from day to day with just tasks that they feel they ‘should’ be doing and have very little fulfilment or satisfaction to place alongside it. 
• To live with intention, ask yourself a few simple questions daily. How am I feeling today? Why am I feeling this way? What can I do to make today just that little bit better than yesterday?
• Develop a toolkit of behaviours that counteract any negative responses you may be having on a bad day. Knowing which actions you can take in a given emotional situation can be the solution to feeling stuck. Be aware of the things in your life that cause good days and do more of them. 
• Stacey’s coaching journey started with one coaching session for herself that changed her life where her core belief at the time that those around her expectations had to be fulfilled was challenged.  

BEST MOMENTS
‘I support people to develop and build a greater understanding of who they are and what it means for them to strive instead of just survive. I believe that so many of us live our lives from day to day reacting from one thing to the next thing and we can very often fall into a life that we either didn’t want or didn’t think we would fall into.’ – Stacey
‘Just those tiny little changes that you can make in your life can really start to make a difference. That then puts you on the path from surviving to thriving.’ – Stacey
‘I found that myself actually when I was working at the NHS as a counsellor. It was just trying to keep people’s heads above water all the time.’ – John
‘Even when you’re thriving you’re not thriving all of the time. Thriving is a mindset that means that you develop that resilience and that self-awareness so that when you’re having a tough day you know what you need in order to get through it.’ – Stacey   
‘Fundamentally you are your own person, you have your own life, you make your own decisions and you need to aspire to build a network of people around you that will respect that, even if they don’t agree with the actual decisions you’re making.’ – Stacey
‘As a coach our clients have their freedom to choose and create their own tools.’ – Stacey

GUEST RESOURCES
Links:
Email: stacey@sjscoachingservices.com
Website: www.sjscoachingservices.com
Instagram/Facebook: @sjscoachingservices

VALUABLE RESOURCES
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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