In our 20s especially, the fear of regret can seem like every choice has the potential to ‘ruin’ our future - the degree we picked (or didn’t), the person we stayed with, the move we were too scared to make. And then there are the things we didn’t do at all, the opportunities we let pass, the words we never said, that still weigh on us years later. 

In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of regret – what it actually is, why it’s so tied to self-blame, and how it can either keep us frozen or push us forward. 

We explore:
•        The role of upward and downward counterfactual thinking
•        How regret can both motivate and stagnate us 
•        The four BIGGEST regrets people have
•        The paradox of the ‘perfect’ decision
•        Why we fear regret more than we feel it
•        How to grow through regret with acceptance and compassion 

If you want to quieten the ‘what if’ thoughts, this episode is for you.

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In our 20s especially, the fear of regret can seem like every choice has the potential to &lsquo;ruin&rsquo; our future - the degree we picked (or didn&rsquo;t), the person we stayed with, the move we were too scared to make. And then there are the things we didn&rsquo;t do at all, the opportunities we let pass, the words we never said, that still weigh on us years later.&nbsp;
In this episode, we&rsquo;re unpacking the psychology of regret &ndash; what it actually is, why it&rsquo;s so tied to self-blame, and how it can either keep us frozen or push us forward.&nbsp;
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of upward and downward counterfactual thinking &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How regret can both motivate and stagnate us&nbsp; &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The four BIGGEST regrets people have &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The paradox of the &lsquo;perfect&rsquo; decision &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why we fear regret more than we feel it &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How to grow through regret with acceptance and compassion&nbsp;
If you want to quieten the &lsquo;what if&rsquo; thoughts, this episode is for you.
<a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book">ORDER MY BOOK</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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374. The psychology of regret

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