In this episode, Ellen Hendriksen discusses the hidden costs of perfectionism and why you never feel good enough. She shares the various ways perfectionism disguises itself as a positive trait—when in reality, it can lead to self-criticism, procrastination, and emotional exhaustion. Ellen also explains why perfectionism is less about being perfect and more about never feeling good enough, how self-acceptance is the antidote, and why procrastination is actually an emotional regulation problem (not a time management issue).

Key Takeaways:
(01:02) – Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect—it’s about never feeling good enough
(03:26) – The two wolves of perfectionism: Conscientiousness vs. Self-Criticism
(07:36) – Overevaluation: When self-worth gets tangled with performance
(16:57) – Guided Drift: Mr. Rogers’ surprising philosophy on perfection and mistakes
(26:51) – The power of self-compassion: You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy
(39:40) – Emotional Perfectionism: The toxic belief that you “shouldn’t” feel a certain way
(43:59) – Why procrastination is actually about emotion management—not time management
(50:46) – How to release past mistakes and stop ruminating over failures

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If you enjoyed this episode with Ellen Hendriksen, check out these other episodes:

How to Overcome Perfectionism and Create Your Best Work with David Kadavy

How to Manage Social Anxiety and The Inner Critic with Ellen Hendriksen

Being a Procrastinator with Tim Pychyl

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In this episode,&nbsp;Ellen Hendriksen&nbsp;discusses the hidden costs of perfectionism and why you never feel good enough. She shares the various ways&nbsp;perfectionism&nbsp;disguises itself as a positive trait&mdash;when in reality, it can lead to&nbsp;self-criticism, procrastination, and emotional exhaustion. Ellen also explains why perfectionism is less about being perfect and more about&nbsp;never feeling good enough, how&nbsp;self-acceptance&nbsp;is the antidote, and why&nbsp;procrastination is actually an emotional regulation problem&nbsp;(not a time management issue).
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>(01:02)&nbsp;&ndash; Perfectionism isn&rsquo;t about being perfect&mdash;it&rsquo;s about never feeling good enough</li>
<li>(03:26)&nbsp;&ndash; The two wolves of perfectionism: Conscientiousness vs. Self-Criticism</li>
<li>(07:36)&nbsp;&ndash; Overevaluation: When self-worth gets tangled with performance</li>
<li>(16:57)&nbsp;&ndash; Guided Drift: Mr. Rogers&rsquo; surprising philosophy on perfection and mistakes</li>
<li>(26:51)&nbsp;&ndash; The power of self-compassion: You don&rsquo;t need to be perfect to be worthy</li>
<li>(39:40)&nbsp;&ndash;&nbsp;Emotional Perfectionism: The toxic belief that you &ldquo;shouldn&rsquo;t&rdquo; feel a certain way</li>
<li>(43:59)&nbsp;&ndash;&nbsp;Why procrastination is actually about emotion management&mdash;not time management</li>
<li>(50:46)&nbsp;&ndash;&nbsp;How to release past mistakes and stop ruminating over failures</li>
</ul>
For full show notes,<a href="https://www.oneyoufeed.net/the-hidden-cost-of-perfectionism/">&nbsp;click here</a>!
If you enjoyed this episode with Ellen Hendriksen, check out these other episodes:
How to Overcome Perfectionism and Create Your Best Work with David Kadavy
How to Manage Social Anxiety and The Inner Critic with Ellen Hendriksen
Being a Procrastinator with Tim Pychyl
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Transformative ideas from the best thinkers on the planet including guests like James Clear, Susan Cain, Michael Pollan, Deepak Chopra, Nicole LaPera, Yung Pueblo, Gabor Mate, Maggie Smith, , David Whyte, Macklemore, George Saunders, Anne Lamott, Frank Turner, Mark Manson, Tara Brach, AJ Jacobs, Oliver Burkeman, Ryan Holiday, Parker Palmer. It’s not about perfection; it’s about direction.

Transformative ideas from the best thinkers on the planet including guests like James Clear, Susan Cain, Michael Pollan, Deepak Chopra, Nicole LaPera, Yung Pueblo, Gabor Mate, Maggie Smith, , David Whyte, Macklemore, George Saunders, Anne Lamott, Frank Turner, Mark Manson, Tara Brach, AJ Jacobs, Oliver Burkeman, Ryan Holiday, Parker Palmer. It&rsquo;s not about perfection; it&rsquo;s about direction.

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 A deep dive into perfectionism, self-acceptance, and the hidden struggles behind never feeling good enough.

The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism: Why You Never Feel Good Enough with Ellen Hendriksen

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