Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand

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In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…
Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
That the way we deal with grief in our culture is broken
How grief is a no-win situation for everyone
The fact that we don’t like to talk about grief
How we carry losses with us
The myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrong
That some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried
How cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your reality
Our limited tools for going through difficulty
Victim blaming
How we can’t be 100% safe
That we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to things
If we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail us
Sadness isn’t a problem either
How you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”
The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and Validated
The power of listening and curiosity
Thinking of pain as an experience to be tended
The things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escape
Making these difficult things gentler on us
Decreasing suffering inside of grief
Wellness vs. worseness
Paying attention to the cause and effect of things
The hierarchy of grief
Treating compassion as the abundant resource that it is
Hope
Meeting people where they are
Asking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?
Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?
You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from them
The importance of showing yourself kindness

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Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,<a href="https://amzn.to/2CUsTaa" target="_blank">It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand</a><a href="https://oneyoufeed.net/2019" target="_blank">Need help with completing your goals in 2019?&nbsp;The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.</a>But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed.&nbsp;<a href="https://oneyoufeed.net/support" target="_blank">Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month.&nbsp;</a>It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In&nbsp;This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…<ul><li>Her book,&nbsp;<a href="https://amzn.to/2CUsTaa" target="_blank">It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand</a></li><li>That the way we deal with grief in our culture is broken</li><li>How grief is a no-win situation for everyone</li><li>The fact that we don’t like to talk about grief</li><li>How we carry losses with us</li><li>The myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrong</li><li>That some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried</li><li>How cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your reality</li><li>Our limited tools for going through difficulty</li><li>Victim blaming</li><li>How we can’t be 100% safe</li><li>That we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to things</li><li>If we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail us</li><li>Sadness isn’t a problem either</li><li>How you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”</li><li>The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and Validated</li><li>The power of listening and curiosity</li><li>Thinking of pain as an experience to be tended</li><li>The things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escape</li><li>Making these difficult things gentler on us</li><li>Decreasing suffering inside of grief</li><li>Wellness vs. worseness</li><li>Paying attention to the cause and effect of things</li><li>The hierarchy of grief</li><li>Treating compassion as the abundant resource that it is</li><li>Hope</li><li>Meeting people where they are</li><li>Asking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?</li><li>Asking: What do you need&nbsp;in&nbsp;this moment? What would feel useful right now?</li><li>You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from them</li><li>The importance of showing yourself kindness</li></ul>Megan Devine Links<a href="https://www.refugeingrief.com/" target="_blank">Homepage</a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2zLCCRT-nE" target="_blank">Animation on Grief</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/refugeingrief/" target="_blank">Instagram</a><a href="https://twitter.com/refugeingrief" target="_blank">Twitter</a>

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Embark on a transformative journey with "The One You Feed" podcast, hosted by Eric Zimmer. Drawing wisdom from the old parable of the two wolves within us, this show explores growth and well-being. Through insightful interviews with thought leaders and experts in development, Eric delves into topics like mindfulness, resilience, and positive habits. Gain practical advice and reflective insights to navigate life's challenges and nurture your inner strength. "The One You Feed" is a valuable resource, offering inspiration and actionable strategies for a more fulfilling existence. Join Eric as he shares wisdom, fostering the growth of the positive wolf within you. Feed your curiosity and embark on a transformative path with "The One You Feed"!

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Embark on a transformative journey with "The One You Feed" podcast, hosted by Eric Zimmer. Drawing wisdom from the old parable of the two wolves within us, this show explores growth and well-being. Through insightful interviews with thought leaders and experts in development, Eric delves into topics like mindfulness, resilience, and positive habits. Gain practical advice and reflective insights to navigate life's challenges and nurture your inner strength. Every episode is a valuable resource that offers inspiration and actionable strategies for a more fulfilling existence. Join Eric as he shares wisdom, fostering the growth of the positive wolf within you. Feed your curiosity and embark on a transformative path with "The One You Feed"!

Embark on a transformative journey with "The One You Feed" podcast, hosted by Eric Zimmer. Drawing wisdom from the old parable of the two wolves within us, this show explores growth and well-being. Through insightful interviews with thought leaders and experts in development, Eric delves into topics like mindfulness, resilience, and positive habits. Gain practical advice and reflective insights to navigate life's challenges and nurture your inner strength. Every episode is a valuable resource that offers inspiration and actionable strategies for a more fulfilling existence. Join Eric as he shares wisdom, fostering the growth of the positive wolf within you. Feed your curiosity and embark on a transformative path with "The One You Feed"!

Megan Devine- On Grief and Loss

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