Content Warning: this important episode contains talk about sexual situations, assault and rape. Resources for survivors are below.

It may not be anyone’s favorite topic, but taking care of business is empowering and this is the business, educating ourselves and, importantly, our kids and younger generations on how to be safe and considerate with our bodies. 

It seems obvious that in order to clarify the lines of intimacy, words should be involved. But it’s probably true that many people don’t know what those words are or how or when to say them. That’s where Ellen comes in. Words are helpful always, but especially in even trickier situations of cross-cultural communications or neurodiversity. 

Please share this episode with anyone and everyone you know who has sex or would like to one day.

Please rate, review, subscribe and share The Laverne Cox Show with everyone you know. You can find Laverne on Instagram and Twitter @LaverneCox and on Facebook at @LaverneCoxForReal.

As always, stay in the love.

Resources for survivors of sexual violence:

Rainn

Anti-Violence Project

National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC)



Links of Interest:

Ellen Friedrichs Website: www.sexEdvice.com

Racial & Sexual Violence Pyramid | Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR)

Understanding the Manosphere and Andrew Tate (The Conversation)

Andrew Tate Suspected Pyramid Scheme (Vice)

Restorative Justice: Impact/Justice Project

CDC Youth Risk Behavior Survey

GLSEN Research and Reports

The Body Keeps the Score (Book)



Ellen's Recommended Comedians:

Sashi Perera

Steph Tolev

Irene Tu



Ellen’s Recommended Reading:

The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Dr. Betty Martin, with Robyn Dalzen

Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World by Jessica Valenti (Editor), Jaclyn Friedman (Editor)

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity by Peggy Orenstein

Had it Coming: What’s Fair in the Age of #MeToo by Robin Doolittle

Redefining Rape: Sexual Violence in the Era of Suffrage and Segregation by Estelle B. Freedman



Episodes Mentioned or Relevant:

Reclaiming MeToo w/ Tarana Burke

The Truth & Consequences of Dating as a Trans Woman w/ Jen Richards

Ending Violence Toward Trans People w/ Dr. Karen Franklin



CREDITS:

Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins

Producer & Editor: Brooke Peterson-Bell

Associate Producer: Akiya McKnight

Content Warning: this important episode contains talk about sexual situations, assault and rape. Resources for survivors are below.
It may not be anyone’s favorite topic, but taking care of business is empowering and this is the business, educating ourselves and, importantly, our kids and younger generations on how to be safe and considerate with our bodies. 
It seems obvious that in order to clarify the lines of intimacy, words should be involved. But it’s probably true that many people don’t know what those words are or how or when to say them. That’s where Ellen comes in. Words are helpful always, but especially in even trickier situations of cross-cultural communications or neurodiversity. 
Please share this episode with anyone and everyone you know who has sex or would like to one day.
Please rate, review, subscribe and share The Laverne Cox Show with everyone you know. You can find Laverne on Instagram and Twitter @LaverneCox and on Facebook at @LaverneCoxForReal.
As always, stay in the love.
Resources for survivors of sexual violence:
<a href="http://www.rainn.org/">Rainn</a> 
<a href="https://avp.org/">Anti-Violence Project</a>
<a href="https://www.nsvrc.org/">National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC)</a>
 
Links of Interest:
Ellen Friedrichs Website: <a href="http://www.sexedvice.com/">www.sexEdvice.com</a>
<a href="https://pcar.org/resource/racial-sexual-violence-pyramid">Racial &amp; Sexual Violence Pyramid | Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR)</a>
<a href="https://theconversation.com/the-draw-of-the-manosphere-understanding-andrew-tates-appeal-to-lost-men-199179">Understanding the Manosphere and Andrew Tate</a> (The Conversation)
<a href="https://www.vice.com/en/article/m7bp3x/andrew-tate-app-the-real-world-removed-google-play">Andrew Tate Suspected Pyramid Scheme</a> (Vice)
Restorative Justice: <a href="https://impactjustice.org/innovation/restorative-justice/">Impact/Justice Project</a>
<a href="https://www.cdc.gov/nchhstp/dear_colleague/2023/DSRT-DCL.html">CDC Youth Risk Behavior Survey</a> 
<a href="https://www.glsen.org/research?gclid=CjwKCAjwu4WoBhBkEiwAojNdXklQohY-Pm9Tm4uO5czKyZWGiDYPzLI8Bq42ykXAkpSC59KWasALaxoCiEsQAvD_BwE">GLSEN Research and Reports</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+body+keeps+the+score+book&amp;hvadid=598656829357&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvlocphy=9031118&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvqmt=e&amp;hvrand=1830602148993211160&amp;hvtargid=kwd-117403324569&amp;hydadcr=15529_13558536&amp;tag=googhydr-20&amp;ref=pd_sl_1aesynzo8y_e">The Body Keeps the Score</a> (Book)
 
Ellen's Recommended Comedians:
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CoIp-zHO5Gz/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D">Sashi Perera</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cn4sgyKJv41/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D">Steph Tolev</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Copxbf3PYi8/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D">Irene Tu</a>
 
Ellen’s Recommended Reading:
<a href="https://wheelofconsentbook.com/">The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent</a> by Dr. Betty Martin, with Robyn Dalzen
<a href="https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/jessica-valenti/believe-me/9781580058797/?lens=seal-press">Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World</a> by Jessica Valenti (Editor), Jaclyn Friedman (Editor)
<a href="https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex">Boys &amp; Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinit</a>y by Peggy Orenstein
<a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/592353/had-it-coming-by-robyn-doolittle/9780735236592">Had it Coming: What’s Fair in the Age of #MeToo</a> by Robin Doolittle
<a href="https://www.hup.harvard.edu/catalog.php?isbn=9780674088115">Redefining Rape: Sexual Violence in the Era of Suffrage and Segregation</a> by Estelle B. Freedman
 
Episodes Mentioned or Relevant:
<a href="https://bit.ly/47HWWjf">Reclaiming MeToo w/ Tarana Burke</a>
<a href="https://bit.ly/3YTAaRx">The Truth &amp; Consequences of Dating as a Trans Woman w/ Jen Richards</a>
<a href="https://bit.ly/3OQ8l7S">Ending Violence Toward Trans People w/ Dr. Karen Franklin</a>
 
CREDITS:
Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang &amp; Gabrielle Collins
Producer &amp; Editor: Brooke Peterson-Bell
Associate Producer: Akiya McKnight

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Ellen Friedrichs gives us a few short phrases that help people navigate the murky waters of sexual consent. This is a must listen for everyone and especially parents.

Becoming a Good Sexual Citizen w/ Ellen Friedrichs

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