Anum spent eight years married to a man who severely abused her physically, emotionally and psychologically. She courageously shares how her ex-husband used violence, control and fear to keep her silent and turn her into a shadow of her former self. Anum also speaks powerfully about how connecting with a community gave her the courage to take the slow steps out of her volatile marriage.

** Content Warning: This episode contains descriptions of physical and emotional abuse and references to suicide and infant loss.

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