Other than being a Clinical Psychologist (with a child specialisation), Dr James van Cuylenburg is not only Hugh and Josh’s cousin, but in Hugh’s opinion, he’s the greatest piano player in the world - which provides zero context for this incredible episode.

James covers so much in this 90 minutes that it’s almost impossible to sum up here. Everything from the development of our kids today, screentime issues, the cost of ambition, the importance of self-compassion and James’s own experiences with bullying and how it motivated him to study psychology. Among MANY other topics.

This episode is not just about kids. It’s about the human experience and why we should all acknowledge and love our “wonky bricks” and make the most of our short time on this floating ball we call earth. PRESS PLAY ALREADY!


To learn more about James's work, or book into see him or another psychologist at Engage One on One, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MV947W

To learn more about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MVgNTC

Other than being a Clinical Psychologist (with a child specialisation), Dr James van Cuylenburg is not only Hugh and Josh’s cousin, but in Hugh’s opinion, he’s the greatest piano player in the world - which provides zero context for this incredible episode. James covers so much in this 90 minutes that it’s almost impossible to sum up here. Everything from the development of our kids today, screentime issues, the cost of ambition, the importance of self-compassion and James’s own experiences with bullying and how it motivated him to study psychology. Among MANY other topics. This episode is not just about kids. It’s about the human experience and why we should all acknowledge and love our “wonky bricks” and make the most of our short time on this floating ball we call earth. PRESS PLAY ALREADY!
 To learn more about James's work, or book into see him or another psychologist at Engage One on One, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/3MV947W">https://bit.ly/3MV947W</a>
To learn more about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/3MVgNTC">https://bit.ly/3MVgNTC</a>

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.

The Imperfects

We're all imperfect. On this podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg, founder of The Resilience Project chats to a variety of interesting people who are willing to make themselves vulnerable, by sharing their own struggles and imperfections. Hugh and good friend Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks

Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.

As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.

In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.

Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l

There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:



🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Tim Minchin - Lucky to be here https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0
Adam Grant - The potential of your potential https://link.chtbl.com/eUA4IJCh
Gina Chick - Don’t fight life https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick
Pat Cummins - Love, loss & Life https://link.chtbl.com/o_uN8l_H
Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word…FAILURE

📺 Things to watch
Tim Minchin - Play it Safe https://bit.ly/44PnJc4
Moana https://bit.ly/4bJZyy2

🎧 Things to listen to
How i work - Amantha Imber, https://bit.ly/3WNGxXw

📖 Things to read
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy -  https://bit.ly/3wE7nqm

🛒 Things to buy
The Resilience Project & Dr Em’s - 6 Month Wellbeing Journal https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK

Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.
As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.
In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.
Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l">https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l</a>
There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:
 
🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
<ul>
<li>Tim Minchin - Lucky to be here <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0">https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0</a></li>
<li>Adam Grant - The potential of your potential <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/eUA4IJCh">https://link.chtbl.com/eUA4IJCh</a></li>
<li>Gina Chick - Don’t fight life <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick">https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick</a></li>
<li>Pat Cummins - Love, loss &amp; Life <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/o_uN8l_H">https://link.chtbl.com/o_uN8l_H</a></li>
<li>Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word…FAILURE</li>
</ul>
📺 Things to watch
<ul>
<li>Tim Minchin - Play it Safe <a href="https://bit.ly/44PnJc4">https://bit.ly/44PnJc4</a></li>
<li>Moana <a href="https://bit.ly/4bJZyy2">https://bit.ly/4bJZyy2</a></li>
</ul>
🎧 Things to listen to
<ul>
<li>How i work - Amantha Imber, <a href="https://bit.ly/3WNGxXw">https://bit.ly/3WNGxXw</a></li>
</ul>
📖 Things to read
<ul>
<li>Acceptance and Commitment Therapy -  <a href="https://bit.ly/3wE7nqm">https://bit.ly/3wE7nqm</a></li>
</ul>
🛒 Things to buy
<ul>
<li>The Resilience Project &amp; Dr Em’s - 6 Month Wellbeing Journal <a href="https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK">https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK</a></li>
</ul>

Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk

We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree.

Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India.

In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process.

You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP.

To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here https://link.chtbl.com/OjRxhECI

We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree.
Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India.
In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process.
You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. <a href="https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP">https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP</a>.
To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/OjRxhECI">https://link.chtbl.com/OjRxhECI</a>

IMPERFIX: Dr. Kiran Martin - Leadership

All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related.

Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle.

When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen.

In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more. 

To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece

All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related.
Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle.
When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen.
In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more. 
To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece?_t=8mHqcVotkx7&amp;amp;_r=1">https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece</a>

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