How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror?

We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be.

In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’.

In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it.

To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/Innercritic

Links mentioned in the episode:

📺 Things to watch
Shirzad Charmine’s Ted Talk, ‘Know Your Inner Saboteurs’, click here: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa

📖 Things to read
Daniel Siegel https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror?
We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be.
In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’.
In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it.
To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/Innercritic">https://link.chtbl.com/Innercritic</a>
Links mentioned in the episode:
📺 Things to watch
<ul>
<li>Shirzad Charmine’s Ted Talk, ‘Know Your Inner Saboteurs’, click here: <a href="https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa">https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa</a></li>
</ul>
📖 Things to read
<ul>
<li>Daniel Siegel <a href="https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5">https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.

The Imperfects

We're all imperfect. On this podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg, founder of The Resilience Project chats to a variety of interesting people who are willing to make themselves vulnerable, by sharing their own struggles and imperfections. Hugh and good friend Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

IMPERFIX: Dr. Em - Befriending Your Inner Critic

Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific.

Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time.

Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following.

But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent.

Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it).

Zoë, what a joy. 

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk

📖 Things to read:
Things Will Calm Down Soon (Zoë’s BRAND NEW book) - https://bit.ly/3XWiTIA
Scaredy Bath by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3XQ3A3Q
No One Likes A Fart by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3Xz3wEu
Zoë’s entire back catalogue of books - https://bit.ly/3ZyMQj2
How To Be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson - https://bit.ly/3Zto6Zs
This Is Marketing by Seth Godin - https://amzn.to/4dhxh2f

💻 Things to Check Out
Go-To, Bro-To and Gro-To Skincare - https://gotoskincare.com
Balance App - https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS

📺Things to Watch
The Wrong Girl - https://apple.co/3Bg5nqe
Michael Phelps Doorway Technique - https://bit.ly/3XAT9Qz
Slumdog Millionaire - https://bit.ly/3Zw2lIj

🎧Things to listen to
Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8

Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific.
Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time.
Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following.
But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent.
Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it).
Zoë, what a joy.  To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk">https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk</a>
📖 Things to read:
<ul>
<li>Things Will Calm Down Soon (Zoë’s BRAND NEW book) - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XWiTIA">https://bit.ly/3XWiTIA</a> </li>
<li>Scaredy Bath by Zoë Foster Blake - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XQ3A3Q">https://bit.ly/3XQ3A3Q</a></li>
<li>No One Likes A Fart by Zoë Foster Blake - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Xz3wEu">https://bit.ly/3Xz3wEu</a></li>
<li>Zoë’s entire back catalogue of books - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZyMQj2">https://bit.ly/3ZyMQj2</a></li>
<li>How To Be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Zto6Zs">https://bit.ly/3Zto6Zs</a></li>
<li>This Is Marketing by Seth Godin - <a href="https://amzn.to/4dhxh2f">https://amzn.to/4dhxh2f</a></li>
</ul>
💻 Things to Check Out
<ul>
<li>Go-To, Bro-To and Gro-To Skincare - <a href="https://gotoskincare.com/"></a><a href="https://gotoskincare.com/">https://gotoskincare.com</a></li>
<li>Balance App - <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS">https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS</a></li>
</ul>
📺Things to Watch
<ul>
<li>The Wrong Girl - <a href="https://apple.co/3Bg5nqe">https://apple.co/3Bg5nqe</a></li>
<li>Michael Phelps Doorway Technique - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XAT9Qz">https://bit.ly/3XAT9Qz</a></li>
<li>Slumdog Millionaire - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Zw2lIj">https://bit.ly/3Zw2lIj</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to
<ul>
<li>Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - <a href="https://apple.co/4cAKDq8">https://apple.co/4cAKDq8</a></li>
</ul>

Zoë Foster Blake - Zero Lucks Given

Dr Billy Garvey gets kids.

A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem.

Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health.

In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues).

Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47BHJAw

📖Things to read:
Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health by Dr Billy Garvey - https://bit.ly/4eqyTb6

🎧Things to listen to:
The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician - https://apple.co/4doCYM8
An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/4e2vQpP
Another Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/3B6WkaW
Pop-Culture Parenting - https://bit.ly/4e0VRpp
Kendrick Lamar: The Art of Peer Pressure - https://bit.ly/3TupbMT

💻Things to check out:
Social Learning Theory - https://bit.ly/3ZlYGwP and https://bit.ly/4dV9NkJ

This episode references domestic violence. If this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, please skip this one, and come back when you are ready. 

Dr Billy Garvey gets kids.
A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem.
Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health.
In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues).
Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure. To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/47BHJAw">https://bit.ly/47BHJAw</a>
📖Things to read:
<ul>
<li>Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health by Dr Billy Garvey - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eqyTb6">https://bit.ly/4eqyTb6</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician - <a href="https://apple.co/4doCYM8">https://apple.co/4doCYM8</a> </li>
<li>An Imperfect Chat About Men - <a href="https://apple.co/4e2vQpP">https://apple.co/4e2vQpP</a></li>
<li>Another Imperfect Chat About Men - <a href="https://apple.co/3B6WkaW">https://apple.co/3B6WkaW</a></li>
<li>Pop-Culture Parenting - <a href="https://bit.ly/4e0VRpp">https://bit.ly/4e0VRpp</a></li>
<li>Kendrick Lamar: The Art of Peer Pressure - <a href="https://bit.ly/3TupbMT">https://bit.ly/3TupbMT</a></li>
</ul>
💻Things to check out:
<ul>
<li>Social Learning Theory - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZlYGwP">https://bit.ly/3ZlYGwP</a> and <a href="https://bit.ly/4dV9NkJ">https://bit.ly/4dV9NkJ</a></li>
</ul>
This episode references domestic violence. If this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, please skip this one, and come back when you are ready.

Dr Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. 

Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.

In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.

Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! 

Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv

📺Things to watch:
Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - https://bit.ly/3T9dCub
Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW

🎧Things to listen to:
Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

📖Things to read:
The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK
How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq
How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - https://bit.ly/3yJddb3

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. 
Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.
In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself. Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! 
Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/3MIykxv">https://bit.ly/3MIykxv</a>
📺Things to watch:
<ul>
<li>Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - <a href="https://bit.ly/3T9dCub">https://bit.ly/3T9dCub</a></li>
<li>Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW">https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes</li>
</ul>
📖Things to read:
<ul>
<li>The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK">https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK</a></li>
<li>How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - <a href="https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq">https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq</a></li>
<li>How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - <a href="https://bit.ly/3yJddb3">https://bit.ly/3yJddb3</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

IMPERFIX: Dr. Em - Befriending Your Inner Critic

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