Do you have boundaries? Have you ever crossed someone else’s boundaries? How would you react if someone crossed yours? It is WAY easier to ignore it. Avoiding potential conflict and awkwardness is second nature to most of us. For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, telling someone they have violated a boundary can be an acute version of living hell.

Luckily for us, our resident psychologist Dr. Emily is here to help us navigate what a healthy boundary looks, feels and sounds like. And why understanding, implementing and protecting heathy boundaries is good for all of us...even if it does feel a little awkward.

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

🎧 Previous episode of The Imperfects
Grant Denyer - https://link.chtbl.com/grantdenyer
Dr. Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://link.chtbl.com/R8gly4ci
Dr. Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://link.chtbl.com/socialanxiety
Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://link.chtbl.com/chrissieswan
Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself - https://link.chtbl.com/Laelstonetakecareofyourself

📱 Things to follow
Nedra Glover Tawwab’s instagram - bit.ly/4bWnvCK

📖 Things to read
Nedra Glover Tawwab’s ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’ -bit.ly/3xpFKBw.
Cheryl Strayed’s ‘Wild’ - bit.ly/4emwAXa

📺 Things to watch
Curb Your Enthusiasm - https://bit.ly/3VCsXVH
Poor Things - https://bit.ly/3VmQ3OJ

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you have boundaries? Have you ever crossed someone else’s boundaries? How would you react if someone crossed yours? It is WAY easier to ignore it. Avoiding potential conflict and awkwardness is second nature to most of us. For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, telling someone they have violated a boundary can be an acute version of living hell.
Luckily for us, our resident psychologist Dr. Emily is here to help us navigate what a healthy boundary looks, feels and sounds like. And why understanding, implementing and protecting heathy boundaries is good for all of us...even if it does feel a little awkward.
Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:
🎧 Previous episode of The Imperfects
<ul>
<li>Grant Denyer - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/grantdenyer">https://link.chtbl.com/grantdenyer</a></li>
<li>Dr. Emily - Truth v Harmony - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/R8gly4ci">https://link.chtbl.com/R8gly4ci</a></li>
<li>Dr. Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/socialanxiety">https://link.chtbl.com/socialanxiety</a></li>
<li>Chrissie Swan - Honesty - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/chrissieswan">https://link.chtbl.com/chrissieswan</a></li>
<li>Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/Laelstonetakecareofyourself">https://link.chtbl.com/Laelstonetakecareofyourself</a></li>
</ul>
📱 Things to follow
<ul>
<li>Nedra Glover Tawwab’s instagram - <a href="http://bit.ly/4bWnvCK">bit.ly/4bWnvCK</a></li>
</ul>
📖 Things to read
<ul>
<li>Nedra Glover Tawwab’s ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’ -<a href="http://bit.ly/3xpFKBw">bit.ly/3xpFKBw</a>.</li>
<li>Cheryl Strayed’s ‘Wild’ - <a href="http://bit.ly/4emwAXa">bit.ly/4emwAXa</a></li>
</ul>
📺 Things to watch
<ul>
<li>Curb Your Enthusiasm - <a href="https://bit.ly/3VCsXVH">https://bit.ly/3VCsXVH</a></li>
<li>Poor Things - <a href="https://bit.ly/3VmQ3OJ">https://bit.ly/3VmQ3OJ</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.

The Imperfects

We're all imperfect. On this podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg, founder of The Resilience Project chats to a variety of interesting people who are willing to make themselves vulnerable, by sharing their own struggles and imperfections. Hugh and good friend Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries?

What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you?

As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all.

However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP).

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships.

In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi



Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:



📺 Things to watch
Homer Simpson’s journey through the Stages of Grief - https://bit.ly/4epRAMJ.
The Imperfects x Lifeblood video - https://bit.ly/3z0Suiv



🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:
Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0
Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick
Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me https://link.chtbl.com/elizabethday
Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility https://link.chtbl.com/reececonca



📖 Things to read
Kubler-Ross Grief Cycle is here https://bit.ly/45tThVu



⛑️ To support
Lifeblood - https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN
The Klim Foundation - bit.ly/4ejtGTj



🎧  Things to listen to:
Milkshakes for Marlee - https://bit.ly/4cwRDEW



The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you?
As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all.
However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP).
In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships.
In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. <a href="https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN">https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN</a>
To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. <a href="https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi">https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi</a>
 
Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:
 
📺 Things to watch
<ul>
<li>Homer Simpson’s journey through the Stages of Grief - <a href="https://bit.ly/4epRAMJ">https://bit.ly/4epRAMJ</a>.</li>
<li>The Imperfects x Lifeblood video - <a href="https://bit.ly/3z0Suiv">https://bit.ly/3z0Suiv</a></li>
</ul>
 
🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:
<ul>
<li>Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0">https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0</a></li>
<li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick">https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick</a></li>
<li>Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/elizabethday">https://link.chtbl.com/elizabethday</a></li>
<li>Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/reececonca">https://link.chtbl.com/reececonca</a></li>
</ul>
 
📖 Things to read
<ul>
<li>Kubler-Ross Grief Cycle is here <a href="https://bit.ly/45tThVu">https://bit.ly/45tThVu</a></li>
</ul>
 
⛑️ To support
<ul>
<li>Lifeblood - <a href="https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN">https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN</a></li>
<li>The Klim Foundation - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ejtGTj">bit.ly/4ejtGTj</a></li>
</ul>
 
🎧  Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>Milkshakes for Marlee - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cwRDEW">https://bit.ly/4cwRDEW</a></li>
</ul>
 
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
See <a href="http://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Michael Klim - The Race of His LIfe

Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not a life sentence, as Rick Davies so eloquently tells Hugh and Josh in this episode of The Imperfix. Best known as Jimmy from the TV show 'Offspring', Rick is unbelievably vulnerable in sharing his story with OCD - from the awkward and painful compulsions, to the relief of a diagnosis at 18 years old.

Here Rick share's how he was inspired by the trailblazing work of Penny Moodie and talks through finding peace and happiness amidst the torment.

🎧 Things to listen to
Rick’s full Imperfects episode - https://link.chtbl.com/rickdaviesocd
Penny’s Imperfects episode on OCD - https://link.chtbl.com/pennymoodieocd

📖 Things to read
Penny’s book, The Joy Thief: How OCD steals your happiness and how to get it back -bit.ly/3x3IG6T

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not a life sentence, as Rick Davies so eloquently tells Hugh and Josh in this episode of The Imperfix. Best known as Jimmy from the TV show 'Offspring', Rick is unbelievably vulnerable in sharing his story with OCD - from the awkward and painful compulsions, to the relief of a diagnosis at 18 years old.
Here Rick share's how he was inspired by the trailblazing work of Penny Moodie and talks through finding peace and happiness amidst the torment.
🎧 Things to listen to
<ul>
<li>Rick’s full Imperfects episode - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/rickdaviesocd">https://link.chtbl.com/rickdaviesocd</a></li>
<li>Penny’s Imperfects episode on OCD - <a href="https://link.chtbl.com/pennymoodieocd">https://link.chtbl.com/pennymoodieocd</a></li>
</ul>
📖 Things to read
<ul></ul>
<ul>
<li>Penny’s book, The Joy Thief: How OCD steals your happiness and how to get it back - <a href="https://bit.ly/3x3IG6T">bit.ly/3x3IG6T</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

IMPERFIX: How Rick Davies Deals with His OCD

From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House.

Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still. 

In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life.

So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did!



📖 Things to read
‘Welcome To…’ book series https://bit.ly/3yPqb6O
The Food Fix (Garlic Honey Soy Chicken recipe) https://bit.ly/3RjbaQN

📺 Things to watch
The Circle ‘cancelling’ moment https://bit.ly/3RfcGUk

⛑️ For help & support with post natal depression
Call Panda on 1300 726 306 or visit https://bit.ly/45fCULX
Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit https://bit.ly/3yPDggh
For further research and learning visit Mumspace - https://bit.ly/3Vzsjs4

⛑️ For help & support with alcohol abuse
Call Alcoholics Anonymous on 1300 222 222 or visit https://bit.ly/4bT6Pfq
Call the National Drug & Alcohol Hotline on 1800 250 015 or visit https://bit.ly/4aPgvGJ

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House.
Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still. 
In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life.
So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did! 
📖 Things to read
<ul>
<li>‘Welcome To…’ book series <a href="https://bit.ly/3yPqb6O">https://bit.ly/3yPqb6O</a></li>
<li>The Food Fix (Garlic Honey Soy Chicken recipe) <a href="https://bit.ly/3RjbaQN">https://bit.ly/3RjbaQN</a></li>
</ul>
📺 Things to watch
<ul>
<li>The Circle ‘cancelling’ moment <a href="https://bit.ly/3RfcGUk">https://bit.ly/3RfcGUk</a></li>
</ul>
⛑️ For help &amp; support with post natal depression
<ul>
<li>Call Panda on 1300 726 306 or visit <a href="https://bit.ly/45fCULX">https://bit.ly/45fCULX</a></li>
<li>Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit <a href="https://bit.ly/3yPDggh">https://bit.ly/3yPDggh</a></li>
<li>For further research and learning visit Mumspace - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Vzsjs4">https://bit.ly/3Vzsjs4</a></li>
</ul>
⛑️ For help &amp; support with alcohol abuse
<ul>
<li>Call Alcoholics Anonymous on 1300 222 222 or visit <a href="https://bit.ly/4bT6Pfq">https://bit.ly/4bT6Pfq</a></li>
<li>Call the National Drug &amp; Alcohol Hotline on 1800 250 015 or visit <a href="https://bit.ly/4aPgvGJ">https://bit.ly/4aPgvGJ</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries?

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