How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like?

These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all.

In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew.

However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh).

Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour.

So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt

🎧Things to listen to:
Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick
Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8
Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7

📖 Things to read:
Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - https://bit.ly/4fpridx

💻 Things to check out:
Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - https://bit.ly/40DYgCC

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like?
These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all.
In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew.
However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh).
Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour.
So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://bit.ly/4i1FETt">https://bit.ly/4i1FETt</a>
🎧Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - <a href="https://apple.co/3yGPick">https://apple.co/3yGPick</a></li>
<li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - <a href="https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8">https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8</a></li>
<li>Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - <a href="https://apple.co/40pgYO7">https://apple.co/40pgYO7</a></li>
</ul>
📖 Things to read:
<ul>
<li>Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fpridx">https://bit.ly/4fpridx</a></li>
</ul>
💻 Things to check out:
<ul>
<li>Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - <a href="https://bit.ly/40DYgCC">https://bit.ly/40DYgCC</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.

The Imperfects

We're all imperfect. On this podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg, founder of The Resilience Project chats to a variety of interesting people who are willing to make themselves vulnerable, by sharing their own struggles and imperfections. Hugh and good friend Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games.

Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training.

Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode.

Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success.

In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test.

Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset.

Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP

🎧 Things to listen to:
How To Write A Gratitude Letter - https://apple.co/3NGhccf

📺 Things to watch:
Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS

📱Apps to download
BBL - https://bit.ly/4hldXVd

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games.
Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training.
Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode.
Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success.
In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test.
Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset.
Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon.
To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP">https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP</a>
🎧 Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>How To Write A Gratitude Letter - <a href="https://apple.co/3NGhccf">https://apple.co/3NGhccf</a></li>
</ul>
📺 Things to watch:
<ul>
<li>Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS">https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS</a></li>
</ul>
📱Apps to download
<ul>
<li>BBL - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hldXVd">https://bit.ly/4hldXVd</a></li>
</ul>

Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts

In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait.

There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain.

We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive.

However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting.

People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful. 

With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents.

On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait.

Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner.

Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7

💻 ADHD Resources to check out:
ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhd
Stardust Support - https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/
Curtin University ADHD Support Group - https://bit.ly/40fIm14
For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service

🎧 Things to listen to:
Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax
Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf
Dr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7

📖 Things to read:
Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - https://bit.ly/4eYlO9H
Research paper on ADHD genes - https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui

📺 Things to watch:
ADHD Meme Account Recommended by Ryan - https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait.
There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain.
We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive.
However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting.
People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful. 
With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents.
On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait.
Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner.
Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - <a href="https://bit.ly/3BZimwO">https://bit.ly/3BZimwO</a>
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7">https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7</a>
💻 ADHD Resources to check out:
<ul>
<li>ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - <a href="https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhd">https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhd</a></li>
<li>Stardust Support - <a href="https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/">https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/</a></li>
<li>Curtin University ADHD Support Group - <a href="https://bit.ly/40fIm14">https://bit.ly/40fIm14</a></li>
<li>For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service</li>
</ul>
🎧 Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - <a href="https://apple.co/48nT3Ax">https://apple.co/48nT3Ax</a></li>
<li>Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - <a href="https://apple.co/3yHdawf">https://apple.co/3yHdawf</a></li>
<li>Dr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - <a href="https://apple.co/40pgYO7">https://apple.co/40pgYO7</a></li>
</ul>
📖 Things to read:
<ul>
<li>Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eYlO9H">https://bit.ly/4eYlO9H</a></li>
<li>Research paper on ADHD genes - <a href="https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui">https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui</a></li>
</ul>
📺 Things to watch:
<ul>
<li>ADHD Meme Account Recommended by Ryan - <a href="https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt">https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD

Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House.

In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today.

Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time.

In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life.

Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w

📖 Things to read:
Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA

🎧 Things to listen to:
Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB
Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ
Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC
Slip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL

🍴Things to check out:
Attica - https://www.attica.com.au

Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House.
In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today.
Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time.
In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life.
Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - <a href="https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w">https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w</a>
📖 Things to read:
<ul>
<li>Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - <a href="https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA">https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA</a></li>
</ul>
🎧 Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - <a href="https://apple.co/4hhc2RB">https://apple.co/4hhc2RB</a></li>
<li>Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - <a href="https://apple.co/48hrQiQ">https://apple.co/48hrQiQ</a></li>
<li>Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - <a href="https://apple.co/3NwftWC">https://apple.co/3NwftWC</a></li>
<li>Slip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - <a href="https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL">https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL</a></li>
</ul>
🍴Things to check out:
<ul>
<li>Attica - <a href="https://www.attica.com.au/"></a><a href="https://www.attica.com.au">https://www.attica.com.au</a></li>
</ul>

Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More

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