Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?

Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.

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In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.

Ryan asks Esther whether we’re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.

And, if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the below, this episode’s for you;
is working from home causing social atrophy?
what does it mean to be an embodied creature?
what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?

Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ 

🫖Other episodes of the Imperfects mentioned on this episode
Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://bit.ly/41m8R4f
Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship - https://bit.ly/3PPugAp

💻Things to check out
Where Should We Begin? At Work card game - https://bit.ly/48jpQYJ

🎧Things to listen to
Where Should We Begin - Esther’s podcast - https://bit.ly/4dtsNJK
My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could - Where Should We Begin - https://bit.ly/4twUbeC
Esther Perel on Why A.I. Intimacy Feels Safe but Isn’t Real - https://bit.ly/4sofVsf

📖 Things to read
Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel - https://bit.ly/3Os5Dcx
The State of Affairs, by Esther Perel - https://bit.ly/48yFn74

📺 Things to watch
Rethinking Infidelity TEDTalk - https://bit.ly/4seN3md
Love Story - https://bit.ly/4ct63se

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0:00 – Intimacy: what has changed, what has stayed the same? 
6:23 – This is my partner, AI 
14:08 – A mismatch of affection 
23:56 – Bids for connection 
32:08 – Can you repair trust? 
41:02 – Post-traumatic Growth 
49:43 – The central hub of our needs 
58:38 – The Mental Load Pt. 2

Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?
Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.
💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a>
In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.
Ryan asks Esther whether we&rsquo;re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.
And, if you&rsquo;ve ever asked yourself any of the below, this episode&rsquo;s for you;
<ul>
<li>is working from home causing social atrophy?</li>
<li>what does it mean to be an embodied creature?</li>
<li>what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?</li>
</ul>
Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.
If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ">https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ</a>&nbsp;
🫖Other episodes of the Imperfects mentioned on this episode
<ul>
<li>Esther Perel - Let&rsquo;s Be Better Lovers - <a href="https://bit.ly/41m8R4f">https://bit.ly/41m8R4f</a></li>
<li>Hugh &amp; Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PPugAp">https://bit.ly/3PPugAp</a></li>
</ul>
💻Things to check out
<ul>
<li>Where Should We Begin? At Work card game - <a href="https://bit.ly/48jpQYJ">https://bit.ly/48jpQYJ</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to
<ul>
<li>Where Should We Begin - Esther&rsquo;s podcast - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dtsNJK">https://bit.ly/4dtsNJK</a></li>
<li>My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could - Where Should We Begin - <a href="https://bit.ly/4twUbeC">https://bit.ly/4twUbeC</a></li>
<li>Esther Perel on Why A.I. Intimacy Feels Safe but Isn&rsquo;t Real - <a href="https://bit.ly/4sofVsf">https://bit.ly/4sofVsf</a></li>
</ul>
📖&nbsp;Things to read
<ul>
<li>Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Os5Dcx">https://bit.ly/3Os5Dcx</a></li>
<li>The State of Affairs, by Esther Perel - <a href="https://bit.ly/48yFn74">https://bit.ly/48yFn74</a></li>
</ul>
📺&nbsp;Things to watch
<ul>
<li>Rethinking Infidelity TEDTalk - <a href="https://bit.ly/4seN3md">https://bit.ly/4seN3md</a></li>
<li>Love Story - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ct63se">https://bit.ly/4ct63se</a></li>
</ul>
🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a>
🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel)&nbsp;My Imperfect Life,&nbsp;click here -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a>
🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a>
🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a>
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0:00 &ndash; Intimacy: what has changed, what has stayed the same?&nbsp; 6:23 &ndash; This is my partner, AI 14:08 &ndash; A mismatch of affection 23:56 &ndash; Bids for connection 32:08 &ndash; Can you repair trust? 41:02 &ndash; Post-traumatic Growth 49:43 &ndash; The central hub of our needs 58:38 &ndash; The Mental Load Pt. 2

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.