What is your envy telling you?

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).

Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.

In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.

Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.

Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.

Dr Em, we’ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.

To watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc

0:00 – Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 – Keeping up with the Jones’ 8:16 – A message around ‘enoughness’ 25:12 – The energy of being a hater 36:50 – A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 – On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 – The social emotion 1:07:18 – Working with envy

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego - https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP
Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self-Doubt - https://bit.ly/4fl7omR
Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe

💻Things to check out
Leon Festinger’s Social Comparison Theory - https://bit.ly/4npfIE5

📺Things to watch
‘Onesies’ Bluey episode - https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS

📖Things to read
The Way We Are, by Hugh Mackay - https://bit.ly/4wsJuff
Status Anxiety, by Alain de Botton - https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL

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What is your envy telling you?
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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).
Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.
In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.
Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.
Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.
Dr Em, we&rsquo;ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.
To watch the full episode: <a href="https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc">https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc</a>
0:00 &ndash; Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 &ndash; Keeping up with the Jones&rsquo; 8:16 &ndash; A message around &lsquo;enoughness&rsquo; 25:12 &ndash; The energy of being a hater 36:50 &ndash; A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 &ndash; On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 &ndash; The social emotion 1:07:18 &ndash; Working with envy
🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
<ul>
<li>Dave Hughes - Me, Myself &amp; Ego - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP">https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP</a></li>
<li>Hamish Blake - Let&rsquo;s Talk About Self-Doubt - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fl7omR">https://bit.ly/4fl7omR</a></li>
<li>Dr Emily - Acceptance, That&rsquo;s Radical - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe">https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe</a></li>
</ul>
💻Things to check out
<ul>
<li>Leon Festinger&rsquo;s Social Comparison Theory - <a href="https://bit.ly/4npfIE5">https://bit.ly/4npfIE5</a></li>
</ul>
📺Things to watch
<ul>
<li>&lsquo;Onesies&rsquo; Bluey episode - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS">https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS</a></li>
</ul>
📖Things to read
<ul>
<li>The Way We Are, by Hugh Mackay - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wsJuff">https://bit.ly/4wsJuff</a></li>
<li>Status Anxiety, by Alain de Botton - <a href="https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL">https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL</a></li>
</ul>
🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a>
🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel)&nbsp;My Imperfect Life,&nbsp;click here -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a>
🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a>
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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you&rsquo;re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.