Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.

Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.

AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).

Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Chrissie Swan - Honesty - http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq
Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement - http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V
Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE
Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI
Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You’re Lost - http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - http://bit.ly/470shxZ
Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted - http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt

📖 Things to read
Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4o8JFay
Rick Hanson, The Inner Caring Committee - http://bit.ly/4h7USGq
Katy Milkman, Fresh Start Effect - http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq

🎧Things to listen to
River Deep Mountain High by Celine Dion - http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J

💻Things to do
VIA Character Strength Ranker - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – A strange start to the episode
3:42 – Chrissie Swan tells us to move forward
13:58 – Strength-based approach to change
22:18 – SMART domains for change
34:57 – Strategies to achieve your goals
44:56 – Lapse vs relapse
51:09 – The fresh start effect, motivation slump and metaphors galore!
59:09 – Celebrate!
1:08:31 – Now is the time to get on the wrong train

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

Whether you&rsquo;re a &lsquo;new year new me&rsquo; aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.
🎟️&nbsp;Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - <a href="https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep">https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep</a>
Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we&rsquo;re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.
In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.
Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh&rsquo;s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.
AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh&rsquo;s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).
Dr Em, you&rsquo;re in all of our inner cheer squads
To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w">https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w</a>&nbsp;
🫖&nbsp;Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
<ul>
<li>Chrissie Swan - Honesty - <a href="http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq">http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq</a></li>
<li>Getting Vulny - Josh&rsquo;s Big Announcement - <a href="http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V">http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V</a></li>
<li>Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life - <a href="http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE">http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE</a></li>
<li>Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI">http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI</a></li>
<li>Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You&rsquo;re Lost - <a href="http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw">http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw</a></li>
<li>Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - <a href="http://bit.ly/470shxZ">http://bit.ly/470shxZ</a></li>
<li>Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt">http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt</a></li>
</ul>
📖&nbsp;Things to read
<ul>
<li>Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - <a href="http://bit.ly/4o8JFay">http://bit.ly/4o8JFay</a></li>
<li>Rick Hanson, The Inner Caring Committee - <a href="http://bit.ly/4h7USGq">http://bit.ly/4h7USGq</a></li>
<li>Katy Milkman, Fresh Start Effect - <a href="http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq">http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to
<ul>
<li>River Deep Mountain High by Celine Dion - <a href="http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J">http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J</a></li>
</ul>
💻Things to do
<ul>
<li>VIA Character Strength Ranker - <a href="http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ">http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ</a></li>
</ul>
🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a>
🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel)&nbsp;My Imperfect Life,&nbsp;click here -&nbsp;<a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a>
💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a>
🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a>
🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5">http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5</a>
&nbsp;
Chapters 0:00 &ndash; A strange start to the episode 3:42 &ndash; Chrissie Swan tells us to move forward 13:58 &ndash; Strength-based approach to change 22:18 &ndash; SMART domains for change 34:57 &ndash; Strategies to achieve your goals 44:56 &ndash; Lapse vs relapse 51:09 &ndash; The fresh start effect, motivation slump and metaphors galore! 59:09 &ndash; Celebrate! 1:08:31 &ndash; Now is the time to get on the wrong train
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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you&rsquo;re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.

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