Contrary to what many say, most marriages aren't destroyed by parental wounds, unresolved anger, or a sinful past. 

Jim Ramos, founder of Men in the Arena, talks candidly with Arlene about his new book Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage. They dive into practical wisdom for building a marriage that lasts, drawn from Jim's 34+ years of real-life experience. Jim has seen enough marriages crumble to know one thing: most of them didn't fail because of deep psychological wounds or unresolved trauma — they failed because of small, unwise decisions that compounded over time. Tune in for practical wisdom and ways to avoid these costly mistakes for marriages. 

2:08 Why Jim & Shannon created guardrails after 34 years

4:51 Navigating opposite-sex coworkers and professional boundaries

8:00 How to receive compliments without opening emotional doors

10:50 Guardrail #9: Always send gifts from us, never just from you

14:00 The story loop problem (King Solomon & the Queen of Sheba)

21:14 Guardrail #3: Staying emotionally connected 

24:07 Social media dangers: Jim's personal rules (150k followers, zero apps on his phone)

Get a copy of Jim's book, Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage and find out more about his ministry at meninthearena.org.

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