Contrary to what many say, most marriages aren't destroyed by parental wounds, unresolved anger, or a sinful past. 

Jim Ramos, founder of Men in the Arena, talks candidly with Arlene about his new book Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage. They dive into practical wisdom for building a marriage that lasts, drawn from Jim's 34+ years of real-life experience. Jim has seen enough marriages crumble to know one thing: most of them didn't fail because of deep psychological wounds or unresolved trauma — they failed because of small, unwise decisions that compounded over time. Tune in for practical wisdom and ways to avoid these costly mistakes for marriages. 

2:08 Why Jim & Shannon created guardrails after 34 years

4:51 Navigating opposite-sex coworkers and professional boundaries

8:00 How to receive compliments without opening emotional doors

10:50 Guardrail #9: Always send gifts from us, never just from you

14:00 The story loop problem (King Solomon & the Queen of Sheba)

21:14 Guardrail #3: Staying emotionally connected 

24:07 Social media dangers: Jim's personal rules (150k followers, zero apps on his phone)

 

Get a copy of Jim's book, Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage and find out more about his ministry at meninthearena.org.

More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:

SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse.

Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.

Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook

Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel

How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.

Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)

Contrary to what many say, most marriages aren't destroyed by parental wounds, unresolved anger, or a sinful past.&nbsp;
Jim Ramos, founder of Men in the Arena, talks candidly with Arlene about his new book&nbsp;Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage.&nbsp;They dive into practical wisdom for building a marriage that lasts, drawn from Jim's 34+ years of real-life experience. Jim has seen enough marriages crumble to know one thing: most of them didn't fail because of deep psychological wounds or unresolved trauma &mdash; they failed because of small, unwise decisions that compounded over time. Tune in for practical wisdom and ways to avoid these costly mistakes for marriages.&nbsp;
2:08 Why Jim &amp; Shannon created guardrails after 34 years
4:51&nbsp;Navigating opposite-sex coworkers and professional boundaries
8:00 How to receive compliments without opening emotional doors
10:50 Guardrail #9: Always send gifts from us, never just from you
14:00 The story loop problem (King Solomon &amp; the Queen of Sheba)
21:14 Guardrail #3: Staying emotionally connected&nbsp;
24:07 Social media dangers: Jim's personal rules (150k followers, zero apps on his phone)
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Get a copy of Jim's book, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Guardrails-Ten-Boundaries-Unbreakable-Marriage/dp/0830791612?crid=2POWGYNT9N319&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZBArv1m0RZYpCrFiB2fxDFjauAxCT5ytgLBWrfZeZoAA96_lNZ6r7MSFdcfXKKnxGbO1p1cFbbr2UiGIzXjoIQ.hp8lK5FML-H9AtL3l5HoMzusir3nkzwqs0R9BrRcsMY&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=guardrail+jim+ramos&amp;qid=1767828982&amp;sprefix=guardrail+jim+ram,aps,200&amp;sr=8-1&amp;linkCode=sl1&amp;tag=themeninthear-20&amp;linkId=a407949f7741d97491f8fb6e8c425766&amp;language=en_US&amp;ref_=as_li_ss_tl">Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage</a> and find out more about his ministry at <a href="https://meninthearena.org/">meninthearena.org.</a>
More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:
SUBSCRIBE to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe">Arlene's newsletter&nbsp;</a>"What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse.
Check out&nbsp;<a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/books/">Arlene's BOOKS</a>&nbsp;including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.
Follow Arlene on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/">Instagram</a>&nbsp;and/or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/">Facebook</a>
Go to Arlene's&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ArleneHappyHome">YouTube Channel</a>
How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film">Watch the free video</a>,&nbsp;Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.
Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email <a href="mailto:speaking@arlenepellicane.com">speaking@arlenepellicane.com</a>
Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the <a href="https://gabb.com/">Gabb Wireless phone&nbsp;</a>for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)

A happy home doesn't happen by accident, but it can be created with love, intention, and good family habits. If you need encouragement and guidance as a parent and/or spouse, this show is for you!  Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your present reality and ideal family. 

Your host Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books, including Making Marriage Easier, Screen Kids and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 27 years and have three children. 

Inside this podcast, you’ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun, Biblical insights, and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.  Let's do this together! 

A happy home doesn't happen by accident, but it can be created with love, intention, and good family habits. If you need encouragement and guidance as a parent and/or spouse, this show is for you!&nbsp; Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your present reality and ideal family.&nbsp; Your host <a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/">Arlene Pellicane</a> is a speaker and author of several books, including Making Marriage Easier, Screen Kids and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 27 years and have three children.&nbsp; Inside this podcast, you&rsquo;ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun, Biblical insights, and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.&nbsp; Let's do this together!&nbsp;

This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don’t have to come from a happy home to create one. Your host <a...

The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don’t have to come from a happy home to create one. 

Your host Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books, including 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 21 years and have three children. 

Inside this podcast, you’ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.  

This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don&rsquo;t have to come from a happy home to create one. Your host <a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/">Arlene Pellicane</a> is a speaker and author of several books, including 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 21 years and have three children.&nbsp; Inside this podcast, you&rsquo;ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.&nbsp;&nbsp;

The Happy Home with Arlene Pellicane 

The Stupid Mistakes That Destroy Marriages (And How to Avoid Them) with Jim Ramos

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