Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, bestselling author of Love and Respect (2.3+ million copies sold), shares fresh insights from his new book Lightbulb Moments in Marriage. Drawing from his work with over 4,000 couples and 52 years of marriage to his wife Sarah, Dr. Eggerichs reveals why couples often feel miles apart when they're really just inches away from breakthrough.

In this episode, we'll discover the biblical foundation of the love and respect connection, uncover practical ways to get out of the "Crazy Cycle," and learn how to establish our marriages in Christ first and foremost. 

02:15  How to begin transforming a marriage (miles vs. inches)

06:25  Doing marriage unto Jesus even when it's hard

09:40  Why marital satisfaction flows from spiritual satisfaction

17:58  The facts: men feel disrespected, women feel unloved in conflict

20:49 – How to believe your spouse has goodwill (1 Cor 7 insight)

23:54 – The 80/20 principle & not defining your spouse by snapshot moments

25:11 – Women tend to rehearse negatives → practical steps on shifting mindsets

28:40 – Speak his language: "I need your strength" vs. criticism

Learn more from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs at loveandrespect.com and buy his new book Lightbulb Moments in Marriage anywhere books are sold. 

More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:

SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.

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Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook

Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel

How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.

Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, bestselling author of Love and Respect (2.3+ million copies sold), shares fresh insights from his new book&nbsp;Lightbulb Moments in Marriage. Drawing from his work with over 4,000 couples and 52 years of marriage to his wife Sarah, Dr. Eggerichs reveals why couples often feel miles apart when they're really just inches away from breakthrough.
In this episode, we'll discover the biblical foundation of the love and respect connection, uncover practical ways to get out of the "Crazy Cycle," and learn how to establish our marriages in Christ first and foremost.&nbsp;
02:15&nbsp; How to begin transforming a marriage (miles vs. inches)
06:25&nbsp; Doing marriage unto Jesus even when it's hard
09:40&nbsp; Why marital satisfaction flows from spiritual satisfaction
17:58&nbsp; The facts: men feel disrespected, women feel unloved in conflict
20:49 &ndash; How to believe your spouse has goodwill (1 Cor 7 insight)
23:54 &ndash; The 80/20 principle &amp; not defining your spouse by snapshot moments
25:11 &ndash; Women tend to rehearse negatives &rarr; practical steps on shifting mindsets
28:40 &ndash; Speak his language: "I need your strength" vs. criticism
Learn more from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs at&nbsp;<a href="loveandrespect.com">loveandrespect.com</a> and buy his new book <a href="https://www.loveandrespectacademy.com/lightbulb-moments-in-marriage">Lightbulb Moments in Marriage</a> anywhere books are sold.&nbsp;
More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:
SUBSCRIBE to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe">Arlene's newsletter&nbsp;</a>"What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.
Check out&nbsp;<a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/books/">Arlene's BOOKS</a>&nbsp;including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.
Follow Arlene on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/">Instagram</a>&nbsp;and/or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/">Facebook</a>
Go to Arlene's&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ArleneHappyHome">YouTube Channel</a>
How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film">Watch the free video</a>,&nbsp;Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.
Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com
Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the&nbsp;<a href="https://gabb.com/">Gabb Wireless phone&nbsp;</a>for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)

A happy home doesn't happen by accident, but it can be created with love, intention, and good family habits. If you need encouragement and guidance as a parent and/or spouse, this show is for you!  Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your present reality and ideal family. 

Your host Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books, including Making Marriage Easier, Screen Kids and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 27 years and have three children. 

Inside this podcast, you’ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun, Biblical insights, and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.  Let's do this together! 

A happy home doesn't happen by accident, but it can be created with love, intention, and good family habits. If you need encouragement and guidance as a parent and/or spouse, this show is for you!&nbsp; Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your present reality and ideal family.&nbsp; Your host <a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/">Arlene Pellicane</a> is a speaker and author of several books, including Making Marriage Easier, Screen Kids and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 27 years and have three children.&nbsp; Inside this podcast, you&rsquo;ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun, Biblical insights, and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.&nbsp; Let's do this together!&nbsp;

This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don’t have to come from a happy home to create one. Your host <a...

The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don’t have to come from a happy home to create one. 

Your host Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books, including 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 21 years and have three children. 

Inside this podcast, you’ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.  

This show is for women and men who want a happier home life. Arlene will help you bridge the gap between your ideal family and the real thing. You don&rsquo;t have to come from a happy home to create one. Your host <a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/">Arlene Pellicane</a> is a speaker and author of several books, including 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have been married for more than 21 years and have three children.&nbsp; Inside this podcast, you&rsquo;ll meet some of the kindest and smartest experts when it comes to marriage and parenting. Get ready for fun and practical conversations that will change your thinking, give you hope, and spark positive change.&nbsp;&nbsp;

The Happy Home with Arlene Pellicane 

It's Not More Talking, It's Better Words: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs on Love and Respect 

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Does your teen get angry? The answer is probably yes--leaving you with the question, "What do I do about it?" Dr. Gary Chapman joins us to talk about his new book, A Teen’s Guide to Conflict: How to Deal with Drama, Manage Anger, and Make Things Right. Tune in for practical ways parents can guide teenagers through anger, disrespect, and lack of motivation.

It turns out you can show up in a loving way even if your teen doesn't. Dr. Chapman emphasizes using loving consequences, modeling honor and responsibility, distinguishing healthy vs. unhealthy anger, building connection through shared experiences, and using books/discussion to help teens mature emotionally and relationally.  We'll talk about: 

01:37 Why rules & consequences are loving 

04:38 Handling disrespect and teaching honor 

11:35 Anger management, good vs. bad anger, confronting wrong kindly

17:50 Escaping victim mentality & returning good for evil

28:04 How to motivate withdrawn teens & the importance of dialogue 

Pick up a copy of A Teen's Guide To Conflict and Dr. Chapman's other books including The Love Language That Matters Most at 5lovelanguages.com.

More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:

SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.

Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.

Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook

Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel

How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.

Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)

Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0

 

Does your teen get angry? The answer is probably yes--leaving you with the question, "What do I do about it?" Dr. Gary Chapman joins us to talk about his new book,&nbsp;A Teen&rsquo;s Guide to Conflict: How to Deal with Drama, Manage Anger, and Make Things Right. Tune in for practical ways parents can guide teenagers through anger, disrespect, and lack of motivation.
It turns out you can show up in a loving way even if your teen doesn't.&nbsp;Dr. Chapman emphasizes using loving consequences, modeling honor and responsibility, distinguishing healthy vs. unhealthy anger, building connection through shared experiences, and using books/discussion to help teens mature emotionally and relationally.&nbsp; We'll talk about:&nbsp;
01:37 Why rules &amp; consequences are loving&nbsp;
04:38 Handling disrespect and teaching honor&nbsp;
11:35 Anger management, good vs. bad anger, confronting wrong kindly
17:50 Escaping victim mentality &amp; returning good for evil
28:04 How to motivate withdrawn teens &amp; the importance of dialogue&nbsp;
Pick up a copy of&nbsp;<a href="https://5lovelanguages.com/store/a-teen-s-guide-to-conflict">A Teen's Guide To Conflict</a> and Dr. Chapman's other books including The Love Language That Matters Most at <a href="https://5lovelanguages.com/">5lovelanguages.com</a>.
More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:
SUBSCRIBE to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe">Arlene's newsletter&nbsp;</a>"What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.
Check out&nbsp;<a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/books/">Arlene's BOOKS</a>&nbsp;including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.
Follow Arlene on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/">Instagram</a>&nbsp;and/or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/">Facebook</a>
Go to Arlene's&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ArleneHappyHome">YouTube Channel</a>
How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film">Watch the free video</a>,&nbsp;Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.
Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com
Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the&nbsp;<a href="https://gabb.com/">Gabb Wireless phone&nbsp;</a>for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)
Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: <a href="https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1770509900334000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1vTAaW73pKks13ihsts29G">https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0</a>
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Dr. Gary Chapman - Loving Your Teen, Even When You're Not Getting Along

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Struggling to break free from the same old conflicts in your relationship? 

When Ron and Nan Deal suffered the devastating loss of their child, their marriage could have collapsed. For decades, Ron and Nan were stuck in destructive cycles, experiencing ruptures without repair. They sought help from Dr. Terry and Sharon Hargrave whose transformational Restoration Therapy has helped millions.

Now for the first time, Ron and Nan share their journey from a marriage on the brink of collapse to complete transformation. It happened for them and it can happen for you. Their new book is "The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself." 

On today's episode, they open up about how they kept repeating negative patterns—despite loving God and each other—until they learned to manage themselves rather than trying to fix each other. Let's listen in as Ron and Nan give practical tools to find peace through humility and Biblical truth.

02:42 The crisis point: when their marriage was coming apart 

06:21 Ruptures vs. repair in relationships 

09:12 Am I "dysregulated"?

13:09 The shift from fixing your spouse to fixing yourself 

18:56 How seeking help and humility can change everything 

21:23 These four steps transformed our marriage  

30:14 Why saying the steps out loud is critical 

33:36 What to do when past trauma gets triggered 

37:12 Surviving amidst devastating loss: The story of losing their son Connor 

 

Stay connected with Ron and Nan Deal and their ministries at rondeal.org.

More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:

SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.

Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.

Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook

Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel

How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.

Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)

Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0

 

Struggling to break free from the same old conflicts in your relationship?&nbsp;
When Ron and Nan Deal suffered the devastating loss of their child, their marriage could have collapsed. For decades, Ron and Nan were stuck in destructive cycles, experiencing ruptures without repair. They sought help from Dr. Terry and Sharon Hargrave whose transformational Restoration Therapy has helped millions.
Now for the first time, Ron and Nan share their journey from a marriage on the brink of collapse to complete transformation. It happened for them and it can happen for you. Their new book is "The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself."&nbsp;
On today's episode, they open up about how they kept repeating negative patterns&mdash;despite loving God and each other&mdash;until they learned to manage themselves rather than trying to fix each other. Let's listen in as Ron and Nan give practical tools to find peace through humility and Biblical truth.
02:42 The crisis point: when their marriage was coming apart&nbsp;
06:21 Ruptures vs. repair in relationships&nbsp;
09:12 Am I "dysregulated"?
13:09 The shift from fixing your spouse to fixing yourself&nbsp;
18:56 How seeking help and humility can change everything&nbsp;
21:23 These four steps transformed our marriage&nbsp;&nbsp;
30:14 Why saying the steps out loud is critical&nbsp;
33:36 What to do when past trauma gets triggered&nbsp;
37:12 Surviving amidst devastating loss: The story of losing their son Connor&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Stay connected with Ron and Nan Deal and their ministries at&nbsp;<a href="https://rondeal.org/">rondeal.org.</a>
More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:
SUBSCRIBE to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe">Arlene's newsletter&nbsp;</a>"What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.
Check out&nbsp;<a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/books/">Arlene's BOOKS</a>&nbsp;including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.
Follow Arlene on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/">Instagram</a>&nbsp;and/or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/">Facebook</a>
Go to Arlene's&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ArleneHappyHome">YouTube Channel</a>
How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film">Watch the free video</a>,&nbsp;Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.
Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com
Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the&nbsp;<a href="https://gabb.com/">Gabb Wireless phone&nbsp;</a>for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)
Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: <a href="https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1770509900334000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1vTAaW73pKks13ihsts29G">https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0</a>
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The Four Steps That Saved Our Marriage with Ron and Nan Deal

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Gary Thomas (bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Sacred Parenting) is back on the podcast to discuss his latest book, The Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies About Remaining in God's Love. Gary challenges common parenting myths that Christians often fall into, and offers practical ways on how to live life God's way, not the world's.

Let's learn together how to create Christ-centered homes, prioritize God's kingdom over family idols, and embrace spiritual adventure over control.

05:21 - Creating a Christ-centered home (Colossians 3: compassion over conflict)

08:12 - Renewing your mind against worldly lies (Romans 12)

09:06 - Finding pride in spiritual growth over worldly success 

14:25 - Why prioritizing God, even above family, is most important

21:53 - Being spiritually adventurous: The adventure Jesus calls us to

25:13 - Parenting on offense: Expecting God to use your kids

26:04 - Powerful testimony: When obedience can save a life

27:51 - Turning your "chair out" toward community

30:00 - Practical tips for isolated teens: Remove comforts, invite fellowship

Check out Gary's substack at connecttogary.com and buy his new book The Life You Were Reborn to Live anywhere books are sold. Find out more at garythomas.com. 

More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:

SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.

Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.

Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel

Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook

How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.

Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE).

Gary Thomas (bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Sacred Parenting) is back on the podcast to discuss his latest book,&nbsp;The Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies About Remaining in God's Love. Gary challenges common parenting myths that Christians often fall into, and offers practical ways on how to live life God's way, not the world's.
Let's learn together how to create Christ-centered homes, prioritize God's kingdom over family idols, and embrace spiritual adventure over control.
05:21 - Creating a Christ-centered home (Colossians 3: compassion over conflict)
08:12 - Renewing your mind against worldly lies (Romans 12)
09:06 - Finding pride in spiritual growth over worldly success&nbsp;
14:25 - Why prioritizing God, even above family, is most important
21:53 - Being spiritually adventurous: The adventure Jesus calls us to
25:13 - Parenting on offense: Expecting God to use your kids
26:04 - Powerful testimony: When obedience can save a life
27:51 - Turning your "chair out" toward community
30:00 - Practical tips for isolated teens: Remove comforts, invite fellowship
Check out Gary's substack at&nbsp;<a href="connecttogary.com">connecttogary.com</a> and buy his new book <a href="https://garythomas.com/books/the-life-you-were-reborn-to-live/">The Life You Were Reborn to Live</a>&nbsp;anywhere books are sold. Find out more at <a href="garythomas.com">garythomas.com</a>.&nbsp;
More Resources from Arlene Pellicane:
SUBSCRIBE to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe">Arlene's newsletter&nbsp;</a>"What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent.
Check out&nbsp;<a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/books/">Arlene's BOOKS</a>&nbsp;including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier.
Go to Arlene's&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ArleneHappyHome">YouTube Channel</a>
Follow Arlene on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/">Instagram</a>&nbsp;and/or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/">Facebook</a>
How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film">Watch the free video</a>,&nbsp;Screen Kids: In Their Own Words.
Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com
Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the&nbsp;<a href="https://gabb.com/">Gabb Wireless phone&nbsp;</a>for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE).

Your Kids' Spiritual Growth Matters More Than Harvard: Gary Thomas on Parenting for Eternity

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It's Not More Talking, It's Better Words: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs on Love and Respect

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