Modern dating can feel exhausting. On one hand, there’s the seemingly endless swiping that leads to dating app burnout; on the other, there’s what can feel like the insurmountable challenge of meeting someone in real life.

But what if finding love is less about fate — and more about strategy? Dr. Laurie sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Tim Molnar, author of Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance, to explore what the research really says about how to meet the right person, build genuine connection, and avoid common dating mistakes.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Receptivity to Sexual Invitations from Strangers of the Opposite Gender”

How to Bounce Back from Life’s Curveballs (with Dr. Maya Shankar)

“Computations of Uncertainty Mediate Acute Stress Responses in Humans”

“Implementation Intentions and Goal Achievement: A Meta-Analysis of Effects and Processes”

 “Forbes Health Survey: 78% Of All Users Report Dating App Burnout”

“Foot-in-the-Door Technique Using a Courtship Request”

“Getting Beyond Small Talk: Study Finds People Enjoy Deep Conversations with Strangers”

“Grammar Is Super Important to Online Dating Sites, So Try to Speak English Good”

“ Swipe-based dating applications use and its association with mental health outcomes: a cross-sectional study”

(00:02:17) Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

Modern dating can feel exhausting. On one hand, there&rsquo;s the seemingly endless swiping that leads to dating app burnout; on the other, there&rsquo;s what can feel like the insurmountable challenge of meeting someone in real life.
But what if finding love is less about fate &mdash; and more about strategy? Dr. Laurie sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Tim Molnar, author of&nbsp;<a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/date-smarter-a-strategic-guide-to-navigating-modern-dating/id6748585700">Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance</a>, to explore what the research really says about&nbsp;how to meet the right person, build genuine connection, and avoid common dating mistakes.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
<a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/date-smarter-a-strategic-guide-to-navigating-modern-dating/id6748585700">Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance</a>
&ldquo;<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2010-21508-008">Receptivity to Sexual Invitations from Strangers of the Opposite Gender</a>&rdquo;
<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-bounce-back-from-lifes-curveballs-with-dr-maya/id1474245040?i=1000743550019">How to Bounce Back from Life&rsquo;s Curveballs (with Dr. Maya Shankar)</a>
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/ncomms10996">Computations of Uncertainty Mediate Acute Stress Responses in Humans</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2007-19538-002">Implementation Intentions and Goal Achievement: A Meta-Analysis of Effects and Processes</a>&rdquo;
&nbsp;&ldquo;<a href="https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/dating-app-fatigue/">Forbes Health Survey: 78% Of All Users Report Dating App Burnout</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19102478/">Foot-in-the-Door Technique Using a Courtship Request</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2021/09/deep-conversations-strangers">Getting Beyond Small Talk: Study Finds People Enjoy Deep Conversations with Strangers</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.mic.com/articles/137103/grammar-is-super-important-on-online-dating-sites-so-try-to-speak-english-good">Grammar Is Super Important to Online Dating Sites, So Try to Speak English Good</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32127048/"> Swipe-based dating applications use and its association with mental health outcomes: a cross-sectional study</a>&rdquo;
(00:02:17) <a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/date-smarter-a-strategic-guide-to-navigating-modern-dating/id6748585700">Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance</a>

You might think you know what it takes to lead a happier life… more money, a better job, or Instagram-worthy vacations. You’re dead wrong. Yale professor Dr. Laurie Santos has studied the science of happiness and found that many of us do the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. Based on the psychology course she teaches at Yale -- the most popular class in the university’s 300-year history -- Laurie will take you through the latest scientific research and share some surprising and inspiring stories that will change the way you think about happiness.

You might think you know what it takes to lead a happier life… more money, a better job, or Instagram-worthy vacations. You’re dead wrong. Yale professor Dr. Laurie Santos has studied the science of happiness and found that many of us do the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. Based on the psychology course she teaches at Yale -- the most popular class in the university’s 300-year history -- Laurie will take you through the latest scientific research and share some surprising and inspiring stories that will change the way you think about happiness.

The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

How to Find "The One": The Science of Dating with Tim Molnar

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