It's a fresh show. This is what's trending sports quickly. Jason Brown, the Rams won last night. That was your pick, which means that you did better with the picks than Bellahamin did. Wow, he wants to actually be a sports person. Oh, I feel bad, but Sean McVay, I mean, when you're good, you're good, though, you shouldn't feel bad for your excellence.
Okay, well, thank you.
Yeah. And Mike McCarthy will not return as a Cowboys coach. Why is this important? Because Deon Sanders might replace him? They were saying coach Prime. I don't know if that what really happened, but they're talking about it. And then Mike McCarthy, who used to coach the Packers, might wind up being the coach of the Bears, which would be something Michael. There was a man named Mike McCarthy used to work here. It turns out it wasn't the same guy. Yeah. Yeah, that guy tried to ask you to day, didn't he? Who isn't that the guy who asked you on a date one time? I thought you just said texted Kaylin? What did you mean?
No?
I said, who I said? He texted Kayleb Like joking about that.
Pray.
No, I don't know where McCarthy is.
I thought there was a guy that worked here. I don't know who it was. Never mind, it wasn't Mike McCarthy. I thought there was a guy that worked here that asked you on to day. They've probably been several, but anyway, we don't talk.
About it's not name.
We all just watched the video. I know it would take too long. It would take it would take longer than he keeps talking about all the fish that she won't eat. We just watched the sexual harassment video. You're not supposed to do that, Okay. You can't be asking people out around here. Yeah, don't do that, yea. Yeah, So people stop asking me out because I'm just not I'm not going to go. I watched the video. I'm very worried about him. Yeah, but Dean Sanders, the University of Colorado coach, might be considered for the Dallas Cowboys job. So we'll see. The Palasage fire has covered over twenty three thousand acres and it was only fourteen percent contained as of yesterday. They eating fire has burned over fourteen thousand acres and was thirty three percent contained. As of yesterday, the two fires have destroyed around twelve thousand structures so far, and there are lawsuits now. Southern California Edison now has four lawsuits against it overclaims that it's electrical equipment is response for starting one of the wildfires in the LA area. Also in fire news, there are people who are some of the worst people ever. They're looting homes dressed as firefighters. So what is lower than looting homes evacuated amid the LA wildfires with people who are losing everything that they have or potentially losing everything they have. How about looting the homes well dressed as a firefighter. Police say at least one of the dozens of looting suspects arrested over the weekend was in disguise. We are turning him over to LAPD because he was dressed like a fireman and he was not, said the sheriff about the guy who was arrested in malibuom he got caught burglarizing a home. So those are issues that our frontline deputies and police officers are dealing with. Also, there's a thing called the b Platoon that's saving bees from the LA fires in response to the destructive wildfires happening. They are, there's an organization called the b Platoon that's stepping into help. The nonprofit group out of Davis focuses on assisting beekey pers who have been affected by the disasters. Over one hundred bee keepers from the Pacific Palisades in nearby areas had to evacuate. The Bee Platoon will remove hives out of the way of firefighters and other emergency personnel. They'll also safely move bee hives out of harm's way and support beekeepers and finding shelter for their bees or evacuating them as needed. They're also planning to return in February to help set up the hives again. The bees. Hey lady on TikTok, I hope she's okay. Oh, she's in California. Yeah, the bees. You ever seen her?
Yeah?
Yeah, I know because you because of TikTok another day with saving the bees and she says it like that too.
I hope, hope, hope she's well, okay, can do you want to explain what Red notice to everybody? Yes? Well I figured you would know.
Yeah, it's a new app that is waiting on us.
That's what I figured you were already on it, so.
I'll pull up.
Actually I'm not there yet because I am going what I've noticed, I'm going through the stages of grief with TikTok. Name today is denial. Oh, I am in full denial that it's actually going away. Yeah, so I can't planned for the future because I don't believe this is this is actually our reality. But you know, if you're passing me on that Red Note is the new app, the new hotness that is waiting for us. They've actually I've heard the CEO of the app drop the video to welcome all Americans as they begin to join.
Yes, so, ahead of a looming US van on TikTok, content creators have been flocking to Red Note as well as Lemon and Eight, which is TikTok's sister app. So it's a dynamic lifestyle platform out of China for young people to share experiences, explore a real, beautiful and diverse world, and find the lifestyle they desire. It's just if it's in China that it's gonna have the same problem.
I am not doing that, and they're going to go after next.
But that's the whole that's the whole purpose.
Of everybody joining it because they're trying to troll the Supreme Court, basically saying like, oh, you're going after TikTok, well we'll go join another app from China and.
Make you go through this whole process all over again.
And it's actually, I think, like the number one app in the App Store right now because so many people are downloading it.
Did you see the video I sent you last night? It's like like former million dollar creators now working at Applebee's And it was like a girl like standing there like doing a little dance and that dude. It is sad, but like we we knew this was possible. This has happened in other ways with other things. I mean, if you thought you were once a Vine star, you know Vine's gone or whatever. So I'm just saying, like, you gotta you gotta make sure you're constantly No, there's a lot of really good things having Like this dude. I don't know if you guys are familiar with the SB mowing guy, the guy who does he most people's launch for free. So he's engaged right now with this older woman. I don't know the whole story, but like here's an example of why TikTok shouldn't go away like this dude. He goes to people's houses and he and he like that are just overgrown, and a lot of times it's old people or they don't have enough money or whatever. He pulls up, knocks on the door, says, can I clean up your house? Most a lot of times people are either rude or dismissive or not impressed. And it's just amazing to me because he does, like a day worth of work transform the look of these people's homes and then doesn't charge them. He's making money on the TikTok views, but people are just like, oh cool now. Some people are super grateful. He came across some old woman. I don't know the whole backstory. All I know is he decided that he didn't like the way she was living and so he started, like the video went viral. There's a gofund me. As of last night, I had like seven hundred thousand dollars worth of donations for this one old woman. And they're going to like reconstruct her house so it's accessible. They're gonna get her a new car that's accessible. They're gonna like reado her driveway and or stairs and stuff. I mean, but they thought they might raise like, you know, tens of thousands maybe, and now they can buy her a whole new house if they want to. And it's all because people are touched by this woman. And I think it's stuff like that going on on on TikTok oh. Yeah, while our information is being stolen, But.
Like what information? Exactly? What do you want from me?
I have it all.
You guys have everything you want to see my browsing history, then go right?
Are are they are already?
Don't think they aren't for one second.
I don't and I don't care. Look at me, watch me. I'm not interested.
Yeah, anyway, so that's what everyone's flocking to. Lemonade and red. Note, if you want to hang out at Starbucks for free, it's not gonna work anymore. Now you have to buy something. So if you if you've been working from home, yeah, this is terrible. But if you've been working from home aka working from Starbucks, think you can we camp out in there. I kid you know how. A bunch of years ago in the city, I did see a man. This is not a joke. I saw a man set up his full on desktop computer at a Starbucks full on, and he wasn't just wasn't like a TikTok video. Like he brought a monitor in and a tower and he plugged that thing in the wall and he sat there and just worked away all. I don't know how long he was there. But Starbucks said Monday that it's reviewing a policy. Reversing rather a policy that invited everyone into its store. Is a new code of conduct also bands discrimination or harassment, consumption of outside alcohol, smoking, vaping, drug use, and panhandley. That wasn't part of the policy already. I could vape and use drugs in the Starbucks and then no one was gonna say anything to me.
Now.
A Starbucks person, a person there, A spokesperson. That's hard to say, A Starbucks spokesperson, Yeah, person that's there said that the new rules are designed to help prioritize paying customers. Most other retailers already have similar rules. They'll be asked to leave, they might call law enforcement if necessary, and there's going to be training on enforcing the new policy. So guys, if you were you know, Giki, I know what you do when you leave here. You just go camp out in Starbucks all day, you know, me, you don't pay for anything. Nope, free Wi Fi, Nope, that's it. Let me get a water cook not anymore, Not anymore. And a pizzeria is trending because they're charging one hundred and twenty five dollars for a standard Hawaiian pizza to deter customers from choosing the controversial pineapple topping. This places in England. I guess one hundred and twenty five bucks. You can have it, order the champagne too. Go on, you monster, is what the sign says. When asked why they decided to charge such a large fee, the owner's answer simple, they hate pineapple on pizza. They got all kinds of different stuff you can get on pizza, whipped tofu, garlic whipped tofu, beef, shin oh, brendang. I don't know. They got a bunch of different stuff, but you can't eat pineapple unless you want to pant twenty bucks you're sick?
You want warm fruit on your pizza?
Yeah, I am not a Yeah, I don't get it. I mean you know more, you know more, power to you, But I don't understand the only warm fruit like maybe like a nice h apple pie warmed up or something it's grows like a warm Apple's fine, you know what I mean, But like, I'm not trying to have a warm anything else but on your pizza, on my pizza.
And it goes with bacon, right, you put bacon on your ham, So ham and pineapple kind of a slap. That's the only thing that will go together, like warm fruit wise.
And then mare and narrow sauce and grass.
It's not bad.
It's not good, but I'm bad the cops on you too. Honestly, I'm not sure. I'm not sure what's worse the fact that you can't have a Starbucks all day, like pineapple pizza while you're there. That's me. He did even buy from there. No, she's a person that brings us. She brings the duncan into the Starbucks, then sits down their Wi Fi, doesn't pay for anything. It's a ratification day, recognizing the act that officially ended the American Revolution. National Shot for Travel Day and National Hot Pastrami Sandwich Day today as well. So there you go. Please enjoy just not piecing with pineapple on it. The Entertainment Report in two minutes on The Fresh Show one on three to five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one hit music station, The Fresh Show is on. It's Stay or Go. All right, abe, this is here, Good morning, a welcome to the show. How are you hey there? Yeah, oh no, we're here. Hey. What's going on with.
This?
Is your wife? Right?
Yeah?
Yeah?
Kind of going through a little something with my wife here?
All right, Well, thank you for the note. So you I want you to kind of walk us through this. But I you were adopted, but you never met your birth mother, right, that's where this whole thing. That's kind of like where it starts.
Yeah, correct, correct, Like you said, I'm adopted. I've never met my birth mother. I made it very clear my whole life to everybody, not just my wife, but to everybody, that I have no interest. I do not want to meet my birth mother, my biological mother. Never something I wanted to do. I took a DNA test recently because I needed to know if I had any specific health issues and try to figure out some background about my health.
Really, yeah, a lot of people doing this because you know, if you don't have a relationship with your birth parents, then there's there are holes obviously in your in your lineage or you know, in your history as to what might be sort of looming there, and if you want to have kids, I know that can also be helpful to know ahead of time. You know what might be in your family history from a health standpoint, but you don't. You don't know, right because you don't know this woman, right right, I don't know.
Yeah, I don't know any any of my family. So I want to take this DNA test.
Right, Okay, So my wife goes behind my back and finds my birth mother and sets up a meeting, thinking it.
Was it was going to be a good thing.
I went to the meeting and I met my biological mother and it did not go well at all.
Yeah. I like to avoid this your whole life and then for it to happen and then it not go well. It's like, well, this is why I was avoiding it, right, Like this is I wasn't. I didn't want to do this.
Yeah, I didn't want to do it. I had a feeling that whatever I'm going through, it just it was something I did not want to do. You know, she thought she was helping my wife I'm talking about. She thought she was helping. She wasn't, And it's just something I can't seem to get over. I'm really upset at my wife. It's something she knew I didn't want to do. She made me go to this meeting anyway, and now it's just something I can't undo, I can't take back.
And.
I just I feel like I can't get over it. I feel like I don't know if this is something I'm ever going to get over.
I'd be betrayed on any level because I'm thinking in my head, what could she have done to get this information for you to you know, because we could potentially affect if you want to have children, It could affect children, and that would be half hers. So I can understand her interest in this, But like, I don't think I have a strange men right, I'm a stranger in my birth father. I don't. I would not be okay if my wife called him and had some form of interaction with him, even if it was just a fact finding mission, I wouldn't be okay with it. I start wouldn't be okay if there was a meeting broker that I wasn't a part of, especially if I expressed my wishes, which is I want nothing to do with this. I've had nothing to do with this I've made a conscious decision my whole life not to have anything to do with this. So why are you now going and deciding this is what I should be doing. I wouldn't be okay with that. And so where are you guys at now? Like you did it because okay, okay, it's been set up, so I'll do it. Maybe she encouraged you. It goes poorly, so now you're pissed. You're mad? Yeah, very mad.
We had an initial blowout, big argument that day into the next day, lasted, you know, quite a while. We were pretty I was pretty upset at her, and lately we've been, you know, kind of cordial to each other, but it's just been a lot of tension.
It's just it's just festering inside me.
I'm getting very angry when I see her, you know, our time together, and I'm just I just I'm not over it. If I'm being honest, I feel like it's something I'm not over. I'm gonna take me a while to get over. If I'm even going to get over it. But it was a I can't help but to take it as an act of betrayal from her, and I don't know what to do whom here.
Well, let me take some phone calls on this, because it's his group therapy of course eight five five unlicensed group therapy. Yet you get what you paid for eight five five five nine to one one O three five. You can call it textas same number. I'm gonna take these calls. Have the radio one and you can hear what people have to say. But good luck with all of this. It's a tough situation. I'm sorry going through it. I appreciate it. Yeah, take care of man. Thanks for listening. What do you guys? I mean, I don't what jumps out of you.
I'm big on intention, right, So, like, I understand he feels betrayed and this is not what he wanted. But like, I don't think his wife's intention was to hurt him in any type of way. If anything, she may, because she's his partner, may notice some issues there, some mimmy issues and some things that are not resolved, and this might have been her attempt to try to help, although not the best way, and it really wasn't up to her to do that. I really hope he doesn't leave her, because I do think she had she didn't have ill intention in setting this up.
I'm big on intent too, but he did say I don't want to do this. He has avoided it his whole life, I know.
But then as somebody who's maybe in a relationship with you may say, you need to confront this. You know, you need to heal from this, you need some resolution there. And as your wife and as your partner, I think she thought she was doing what was best for him, and you know, even though he still is upset about it, I think he kind of needed to come like confront it.
As well and maybe work through it.
You can, Kicky, this is a big deal. It's hurt up to but this is a big deal, Like what else is she going to take into her own hands that is his?
I know, I just don't think it was ill intent at all, and I just, you know, yeah, I'm.
Really big on not going I mean, he said, he said it over and over and over, and now he's probably way more hurt than he was. I don't know what the mom said, And I also think if you're not in a situation, you can't understand how it affects you. So I'm assuming that she wasn't adopted, so she may not know how that feels. And maybe he had you know, great parents growing up and they weren't his biological parents, but he doesn't want maybe they didn't want him to go, So I'm not for it. I think if somebody says I don't want this over and over again, I don't think you can go behind someone's back and do that, and I wouldn't be able to get over it, especially that it ended badly.
Well, I haven't shared this before because well there was there's also estrangement on my mom's part of the family with her sisters, and that woman just passed away, so I guess I can say it. But you know, she has an estranged child, an extended member of my family, and that child reached out found my mom on like a ancestry or one of those things, reached out and specifically said, I do not want any I don't want any contact with this person. Do not tell I know I'm asking a stranger for a lot, but I am about to have children. We're trying to have kids, and I do want to know what I'm up against. Would you mind? You know, I'm not asking for any sort of link up here. I just want you to provide me with the information which my mom did and kept her personal opinion out of it for the most part, because you know, I think she would have probably encouraged this person not to go down that road. But again, it's one of those things where you know, my mom had a decision to make right. It was, you know, and obviously the estrangement helped. They weren't talking anyway. But I mean, I thought it was a very valid question, something I had never considered before that Hey, I don't I don't know what's looming, and if you've never met your birth parents, you may not have any clue what you're up against one hundred person.
So yes, I think what this you know, his wife did was a form of betrayal, going behind somebody's back, I do, one hundred percent. But as somebody who goes to the doctor and I'm constantly asked, like, you know, oh, tell me about your father's you know, whatever, health history, and somebody who's never even met their biological father me, I that quite shouldn't. Just I can't answer it because I don't know. So like I have a child now too, so obviously you know, I don't know what my dad, you know, his health and all of that, and what that looks like for me in my future because I don't have that answer. So like the only thing or part I respect out of this is that maybe that he'll get some medical information that he'll need.
He is that something that you got.
I know you've taken DNA test, and I know that you can do the health one. I did the health one, and I think you did and you can see, you know things that are our genes are showing.
Is that you.
Feel like that's not enough of a sample survey or whatever to know.
I mean it is, but like I would rather know like oh, my father or from our course side of the family, you know, our carriers for this, right or maybe like I'm making this up, my grandfather had this, Like you know, because I get asked all these questions and I honestly don't have the answer.
I just have my mom's infaults, and that's I barely have that. Inact.
I don't know the answers.
And I knew my grandparents by the way, I'm like, I don't know what the hell health Yeah they have not too, but.
Yeah I am a good morning, welcome to the Friend Show. How are you are you? Hey? So just to recap here doing well, thanks for asking this. Dude is upset because he doesn't talk to his mother. Never knew his mother got married. They were talking about sort of like previous health issues and things like that. The wife went and reached out to the mother, linked them up without his knowledge, and the meeting went poorly, and now he's resentful, very resentful. What do you think?
Yeah, Okay, so a couple things. First, he either needs to go or they need to go to therapy at a very bare minimum, just to figure out if like they I's moving on from this is even within the realm of possibilities, because I mean, obviously he's portrayed like there's literally I cannot and I understood health things whatever. I cannot think of though of a reason why she would go behind his back and not like talk it through with him first, like, oh, I think this would be good for it, Like there's just no reason she should have gone behind his back.
Yeah, I mean in my life, for example, that is not a debatable thing, like even if you deeply believe that it is important to me, like if I make the decision, no, the decisions know and I would expect my wife if I had one, to understand that that's you know, this is a forty plus your thing you know that has it's way bigger than that, you know, so this is this is not for you to sit you know, uh to say, you know what I mean.
And the other thing that that's too with health like and I know, like this isn't necessarily a possibility for everybody because you know, health stuff is expensive and whatnot. But like there's also like just genetic testing and what you can go through a doctor. Like there's like which is actually.
Technically two even more accurate than just word them out whatever. Anyways, there are other options. She did not need to do this at all.
Yeah, yeah, I agree. Hey, Emily, thanks for listening, Thanks for calling. Have a good day you too. Liz has a different Liz, you have a different take on this. Good morning, welcome Hi, And I'm saying this on the text too. A lot of people feel the same way, but go ahead.
Yeah, I mean, I definitely agree that the wife should not have done it, she should have stayed on it. But I don't necessarily think it's a go situation. I think it's something that can be worked out because you know, there's a portion of it that he has to take responsibility and account of ability. For sure, the wife planned the meeting, but it was his choice to go through with the meeting, and I definitely think that's an important piece of the puzzle. It's not all on her.
Yeah, but you and I don't know this because I don't know her or really him. But have you ever been in a relationship where someone just harps on something to the point where you're like, fine, I'm going to do this. If anything, he was doing it for her. It almost seems like, fine, I'll do this, I'll do this for you, and I'm making I'm taking some liberties here because I don't know that, but it's like, okay, fine, like you need It's almost like she needed this information in order to feel confident moving forward, and maybe I'd like to believe she thought it would be helpful. But if do it is like, this is not going to help me. I mean, I think that you got to sort of respect that, don't you.
Oh yeah, I totally agree.
But you know, I'm very big on at the end of the day, everybody has choices, and.
You know, yeah, he could. Thank you, Liz, have a good day, Welcome you too. Thank you so much for calling for saying hey Jessica, good morning, good morning, Hi Jessica, what do you think you know?
Honestly, I agree with Kiki. I feel like there's I think.
There's a reason she set it up.
I mean, if he continuously said no, whether he was making like subliminal comments or something along with lines, something in her gut sets out like it was something she needed to do.
Yeah. Yeah, And I'm big on intention too, because I do think like people need to take into consideration. I think as a society we need to take into consideration sometimes like where's somebody coming from when they said something before we just get, you know, absolutely furious and livid. And I understand that you're entitled to feel however you feel about something, but I do think intention matters in this case though. This is beyond all of that, and I.
Thinking, you know better like for somebody than they know.
This is foundational, right, Like this is this is not you know I said this and you interpreted it as this. You know, this isn't like I didn't say good morning to you in the right way and you get kissed off and you're mad at me all you know, and like you know what I'm saying, Like what I said, good morning, Like, I know what you're mad at me, But like I said, good morning, this isn't that. This isn't a communicative you know, a difference, right.
She loves him, you know, Yeah, I just like you know, they're married, she loves them, And I feel like I agree, Chiki. I just feel like there had to have been some type of reason she did that. She's not going to stop and doing like, oh, you just need to meet her.
Yeah, fair enough. But again, and Kiky, I'll get you to say, but if you're not going to if we talked about that and I said no, and you do it anyway, Now, I'm going to wonder for the rest of our relationship, what else are you going to disregard? What do you want to say?
I just I just think that she loves him. I don't think she's trying to hurt him. Yes, it did hurt, you know, it did hurt. She made a mistake, but I don't think she intentionally tried to set this up to hurt him in any kind of way.
Yeah, maybe I agree, Jessica. Thank you, have a great day. Thanks for listening too. Thank you glad you called Tanya. Okay, Tanya, good morning. Hey, So you you you have adopted children, correct, okay, and so you how would your kids feel about that? Like what is kind of can you give us like a little backstory, a little bit of the context.
Yeah, yeah, I've had mine, so I got to as a single mother. I've had them since they were very young, so they don't know anything different. And they're fifteen and.
Seventeen now, okay.
And what I'm thinking about is like the wife hasn't been there all their childhood or all his childhood, so you know, the wife doesn't know the feelings that he went through growing up.
Right.
You know, my children, even no matter how great I am to them as a mother, they still feel so abandoned. You know, my own mother didn't love me. You know, how could that she leave me? And that hurt that they carried all their childhood and you know the pain they've been through. So I think the wife doesn't know that she's been there maybe three years, five years, you know, she hasn't seen that all the childhood and all that trauma that carries along with feeling abandoned by you know, your birth mother. So I think for somebody to set that up and to do that if he didn't want to do his own. Nobody should ever do that for him, Like I will never do that for my children. I will, you know, never force them to go meet their birth mother. They can do it on their own, but I would never push that on them.
Well, and you can tell you can instill in your kids that hey, maybe maybe you weren't unwanted. Maybe they were circumstances. I mean, you can say all this, but and who knows, maybe that conversation would be beneficial for them to hear from. You know, I don't know the situation. But let's say that mother was very young or incapable of caring for them, and this was the best choice for you know, whatever. It's possible that conversation could benefit them, But they have to decide that it can't be you because you're the next closest thing they trust you, right, and they said no. So now if you go do it, now, you're putting your relationship with them at risk. It's almost like another level of betrayal.
Exactly another in that you know, he's his wife, he has you know, a relationship with and he trusted her and now she's making him feel I don't know, maybe that feeling of like abandonment again, like she's abandoning him in the relationship, like she's.
Turning on him.
Yeah, and I think that's probably that's what's like striking with it.
Yeah, that's hard, that's hard. That's a lot.
And we don't know what it feels like, you know, if we unless you're in that situation as a child, I don't think of any clue what it feels like, right.
I agree, I agree, Thank you, Tania, have a good day. I'd be pretty pissed if somebody went around me and just went together.
He has a right to be mad. Don't get me wrong here.
I'm just trying to extend a little grace to the wife, Like I just I don't think she tried to hurt him, you.
Know, well, well forget her, man, don't wow. Okay, Usually I say I'm surprised. I'm just taking it in the entertainment of