Jordan Gray is a relationship coach who has written hundreds of articles that have been read by over 250 million people worldwide. He has worked with tens of thousands of clients via his programs, groups, and 1-on-1 coaching. 

He joins me on this episode to talk about how to get the most out of life as the challenges land on our doorstep. 

We discuss:
Moving from bachelor to committed relationship
Marriage has actually been great
Dating takes a lot of energy!
Finding someone who’s also a giver
Each relationship is different, so relationship advice can’t be universal
Look for a counterpoint to where you and your partner tend to go too far, for example with too much or too little structure.
Fears of going into marriage: "what if things get worse and worse and I’m stuck?"
The practice of addressing troubles in the relationship rather than just enduring them.
Phases of life: dating and deeper relationships.
Thresholds of deepening into a relationship.
Preparing for parenthood.
The benefits of becoming a generalist, of getting off the computer and chopping wood.
City life vs. country life
Giving up financial opportunities for the sake of heart and happiness.
Relationship with money: between the poles of demonizing it and making it one’s god
The importance of choosing friends who support your objectives.
Solo therapy compared to group therapy.
In parenting, offering children both safety and adventurous risk.
How it can help children to see their parents work responsibly.
How being a parent can limit available work time, but make it more potent.
Screen addiction and parenthood.
Countering screen addiction with finding a deeper purpose.



Links:

Jordan Gray’s website

Productivity course

The Level-Up Your Relationships Workshop

Jordan Gray is a relationship coach who has written hundreds of articles that have been read by over 250 million people worldwide. He has worked with tens of thousands of clients via his programs, groups, and 1-on-1 coaching. 
He joins me on this episode to talk about how to get the most out of life as the challenges land on our doorstep.  We discuss:
<ul>
<li>Moving from bachelor to committed relationship</li>
<li>Marriage has actually been great</li>
<li>Dating takes a lot of energy!</li>
<li>Finding someone who’s also a giver</li>
<li>Each relationship is different, so relationship advice can’t be universal</li>
<li>Look for a counterpoint to where you and your partner tend to go too far, for example with too much or too little structure.</li>
<li>Fears of going into marriage: "what if things get worse and worse and I’m stuck?"</li>
<li>The practice of addressing troubles in the relationship rather than just enduring them.</li>
<li>Phases of life: dating and deeper relationships.</li>
<li>Thresholds of deepening into a relationship.</li>
<li>Preparing for parenthood.</li>
<li>The benefits of becoming a generalist, of getting off the computer and chopping wood.</li>
<li>City life vs. country life</li>
<li>Giving up financial opportunities for the sake of heart and happiness.</li>
<li>Relationship with money: between the poles of demonizing it and making it one’s god</li>
<li>The importance of choosing friends who support your objectives.</li>
<li>Solo therapy compared to group therapy.</li>
<li>In parenting, offering children both safety and adventurous risk.</li>
<li>How it can help children to see their parents work responsibly.</li>
<li>How being a parent can limit available work time, but make it more potent.</li>
<li>Screen addiction and parenthood.</li>
<li>Countering screen addiction with finding a deeper purpose.</li>
</ul>
 
Links:
<a href="https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com">Jordan Gray’s website</a>
<a href="https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/courses/pp/">Productivity course</a> <a href="https://evolvingman.com/">The Level-Up Your Relationships Workshop</a>

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders and influencers in the personal growth arena who are actively engaged in "deep work", whether that be as a healer, or someone doing their own work. The guests on this podcast have a unique gift that they bring to the world, and they come to share these gifts with listeners. 

Tune in to witness discussions about addiction, consciousness, masculinity,  health and personal growth.

The Evolving Man Podcast

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders who are strong forces of change in the world. Tune in to witness discussions about relationships, mens' work, addiction recovery, and healing.

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders who are strong forces of change in the world. Tune in to witness discussions about relationships, mens' work, addiction recovery, and healing.

#89 - Reclaiming Your Focus and Finding Peaceful Productivity - with Jordan Gray

Traver Boehm is the leader of the Man Uncivilized Movement, the author of multiple books, and a huge advocate for men’s work. Traver leads by example, and in this episode, he joins me on the show for a second appearance to share the powerful story of his father’s passing. He shares the insights and lessons we can all take from his experience.

He also shares his story of spending 28 days in a “darkness retreat” where he saw no light for 28 days. The lessons of this powerful psychedelic experience shine through in striking detail as he takes us through what it was like to be in total darkness for a month.

In this conversation, we discuss:
The recent death of Traver’s father, reflecting on father wounds, with a powerful story of healing in those last days.
The role of men’s work and men’s groups in healing the father wound.
Dark Room: Traver’s experience living in a room by himself in complete darkness for 28 days.
The insights this gave him on death, freedom, and living fearlessly, hallucinations, grief processing, and lessons about time perception.
Death and Freedom: How the acceptance of our mortality can influence our approach to life and goals. 
Traver’s Upcoming book, “28 Days in Darkness,” releasing in February.

Links from this episode:

Man UNcivilized website

Traver’s Instagram

Book: 28 Days in Darkness

The Arka Brotherhood men’s work community

 

Traver Boehm is the leader of the Man Uncivilized Movement, the author of multiple books, and a huge advocate for men&rsquo;s work. Traver leads by example, and in this episode, he joins me on the show for a second appearance to share the powerful story of his father&rsquo;s passing. He shares the insights and lessons we can all take from his experience.
He also shares his story of spending 28 days in a &ldquo;darkness retreat&rdquo; where he saw no light for 28 days. The lessons of this powerful psychedelic experience shine through in striking detail as he takes us through what it was like to be in total darkness for a month.
In this conversation, we discuss:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr">The recent death of Traver&rsquo;s father, reflecting on father wounds, with a powerful story of healing in those last days.</li>
<li dir="ltr">The role of men&rsquo;s work and men&rsquo;s groups in healing the father wound.</li>
<li dir="ltr">Dark Room: Traver&rsquo;s experience living in a room by himself in complete darkness for 28 days.</li>
<li dir="ltr">The insights this gave him on death, freedom, and living fearlessly, hallucinations, grief processing, and lessons about time perception.</li>
<li dir="ltr">Death and Freedom: How the acceptance of our mortality can influence our approach to life and goals.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr">Traver&rsquo;s Upcoming book, &ldquo;28 Days in Darkness,&rdquo; releasing in February.</li>
</ul>
Links from this episode:
<a href="https://www.manuncivilized.com/">Man UNcivilized website</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/">Traver&rsquo;s Instagram</a>
<a href="https://a.co/d/3SZTXOO">Book: 28 Days in Darkness</a>
<a href="https://arkabrotherhood.com/">The Arka Brotherhood men&rsquo;s work community</a>
&nbsp;

#97 - Facing Your Mortality: The Loss Of A Father, and 28 Days In The Darkness - with Traver Boehm 

Nick TNT Terry is a certified life coach, breathwork practitioner, intervention consultant, and an author. He is the co-founder of Honu House Hawaii, a residential rehab facility in Kailua-Kona, Hawaii, and the owner of Breath of Life Recovery, a wellness consulting practice offering breathwork, cold water therapy and wellness modalities.

Since getting sober in 2014, Nick has worked for more than eight years in the field of addiction and mental health treatment. Nick shares how he transformed from wayward addict to breathwork and recovery life coach, and offers his holistic, much-needed perspective on how others can do the same.

Here’s what we get into:

- Nick’s childhood in a tumultuous environment, with early access to alcohol and drugs. 

- As Gabor Mate says, the roots of addiction are disconnection. 

- Nick’s habit of dishonesty and criminal behavior as coping mechanisms.

- Pivotal moments in his recovery journey that led him to seek long-term sober living. 

- Transformative experiences with breathwork as a healing tool for trauma and disconnection.

- For addicts in recovery: The importance of being present in the moment, even if it’s uncomfortable.

- Nick describes how breathwork has helped him cultivate a sense of presence and connection that long eluded him.



Links:

Honu House Hawaii

Instagram

Breath of life recovery

Buy the book - Breath of life: Finding Long-Term Recovery with Breathwork and Stepwork

Ben’s Freedom From Addiction Circle 

The Arka Brotherhood

Nick TNT Terry is a certified life coach, breathwork practitioner, intervention consultant, and an author. He is the co-founder of Honu House Hawaii, a residential rehab facility in Kailua-Kona, Hawaii, and the owner of Breath of Life Recovery, a wellness consulting practice offering breathwork, cold water therapy and wellness modalities.
Since getting sober in 2014, Nick has worked for more than eight years in the field of addiction and mental health treatment. Nick shares how he transformed from wayward addict to breathwork and recovery life coach, and offers his holistic, much-needed perspective on how others can do the same.
Here’s what we get into:
- Nick’s childhood in a tumultuous environment, with early access to alcohol and drugs. 
- As Gabor Mate says, the roots of addiction are disconnection. 
- Nick’s habit of dishonesty and criminal behavior as coping mechanisms.
- Pivotal moments in his recovery journey that led him to seek long-term sober living. 
- Transformative experiences with breathwork as a healing tool for trauma and disconnection.
- For addicts in recovery: The importance of being present in the moment, even if it’s uncomfortable.
- Nick describes how breathwork has helped him cultivate a sense of presence and connection that long eluded him.
 
Links:
<a href="https://honuhousehawaii.com/">Honu House Hawaii</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/breathoflife808/">Instagram</a>
<a href="http://breathofliferecovery.org">Breath of life recovery</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Breath-Life-Long-Term-Recovery-Breathwork-ebook/dp/B0C92Q3JLF/">Buy the book - Breath of life: Finding Long-Term Recovery with Breathwork and Stepwork</a>
<a href="https://evolvingman.com/freedom-from-addiction/">Ben’s Freedom From Addiction Circle </a>
<a href="https://arkabrotherhood.com/">The Arka Brotherhood</a>

#96 - Breath of Life: Breathwork For Addiction Recovery with Nick Terry

Andy Nguyen and Yenukwa Kombian are the co-founders of Kings of Hearts, an organization committed to cultivating heart-based leaders. With 8 years of experience, they specialize in men’s leadership training and facilitate transformative men’s groups and retreats. Their work is rooted in the leadership values of awareness, embodiment, and integrity, empowering men to lead with authenticity, emotional intelligence, and a deeper connection to themselves and others.

On this episode, we cover:
Men’s Isolation: a huge issue men are facing today.
A peek into what we do in our men’s groups and why it is so impactful.
The three pillars of men’s leadership training. 
How Andy and Yenukwa found themselves doing “men’s work”. 
How Andy emerged from being a participant into a leader.
Men’s groups: The power of being seen with all one’s flaws and shadows, and being supported
The challenges of offering authentic feedback to other men
The “Miracle Zone” of personal growth.
Osho’s dynamic meditation, the controversy around him, and useful practices he taught
Embodying the Conscious King Archetype
How to lead without making it about you
The importance of accountability in leadership. 
Emotional self-awareness and the importance of community.
The Work: Men’s group in prison, and how we are not all that different from those men.
Men’s big emotions: Need a container. 
The importance of men’s groups that go inward.
What Andy and Yenukwa recommend for men who are just starting out in this kind of work.

Links from this episode:

Kings Hearts website

@kingsofhearts on Instagram

Kings of Hearts Podcast

KOH Retreat Nov 1-3 2024

Andy Nguyen and Yenukwa Kombian are the co-founders of Kings of Hearts, an organization committed to cultivating heart-based leaders. With 8 years of experience, they specialize in men’s leadership training and facilitate transformative men’s groups and retreats. Their work is rooted in the leadership values of awareness, embodiment, and integrity, empowering men to lead with authenticity, emotional intelligence, and a deeper connection to themselves and others.
On this episode, we cover:
<ul>
<li>Men’s Isolation: a huge issue men are facing today.</li>
<li>A peek into what we do in our men’s groups and why it is so impactful.</li>
<li>The three pillars of men’s leadership training. </li>
<li>How Andy and Yenukwa found themselves doing “men’s work”. </li>
<li>How Andy emerged from being a participant into a leader.</li>
<li>Men’s groups: The power of being seen with all one’s flaws and shadows, and being supported</li>
<li>The challenges of offering authentic feedback to other men</li>
<li>The “Miracle Zone” of personal growth.</li>
<li>Osho’s dynamic meditation, the controversy around him, and useful practices he taught</li>
<li>Embodying the Conscious King Archetype</li>
<li>How to lead without making it about you</li>
<li>The importance of accountability in leadership. </li>
<li>Emotional self-awareness and the importance of community.</li>
<li>The Work: Men’s group in prison, and how we are not all that different from those men.</li>
<li>Men’s big emotions: Need a container. </li>
<li>The importance of men’s groups that go inward.</li>
<li>What Andy and Yenukwa recommend for men who are just starting out in this kind of work.</li>
</ul>
Links from this episode:
<a href="http://www.kingshearts.com">Kings Hearts website</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thekingsof.hearts">@kingsofhearts on Instagram</a>
<a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mOSo6UotCtmcjqi6XmpmP?si=274450e658a14d83">Kings of Hearts Podcast</a>
<a href="https://www.kingshearts.com/mens-retreat">KOH Retreat Nov 1-3 2024</a>

#89 - Reclaiming Your Focus and Finding Peaceful Productivity - with Jordan Gray

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