Sheleana Aiyana is an author, a poet, my wife and the mother of our child. She is author of the Canadian bestseller “Becoming The One” and the forthcoming journal under the same name, and the founder of Rising Woman where she brings tools for healing and transformation to millions of women.

She joins me on this episode for a candid conversation about our recent parenthood journey, the struggles we have had, and how we believe parents could be better supported (by their community, and themselves) to be the best parents they can be.

In this episode we dive into:
Why a shocking number of couples break up within the first year of having a child.
The challenges that emerge once you become parents. 
The transformation of a relationship after the arrival of a child. 
Addressing the common phrase, "Being a parent is the hardest thing in the world." 
50/50 parenting and the shifting roles and responsibilities as co-parents. 
The normalcy of changes in intimacy and sex life after having a baby.
Accessing and integrating relationship tools from the experts.
Taking time to master your romantic and sexual relationship. 
The goal of relationship work is not perfection. 
Minimizers VS Maximizers
Gender-specific support in navigating parenthood and relationships.
Men’s biggest struggle when the responsibilities of marriage and family weigh him down.
The feeling of being "touched out" as a mother.
The resurgence of old family dynamics when building a family.
Ben & Sheleana’s personal parenthood struggles and steps to overcome the challenges.
Negativity in relationships - The tendency to focus on negativity for survival and the power of conscious choice. 
How we co-create our problems in relationship.
Doing vs. being.
Navigating conflicts as a team. 
Gratitude practices to check in with your partner. 
Calling in your partner's true essence.
How to be your own healer.

Links
Becoming The One Journal
Freedom from Relationship Anxiety Program with Rising Woman
The Conscious Relationship Council with Evolving Man
Rising Woman Website
Rising Woman Instagram

Sheleana Aiyana is an author, a poet, my wife and the mother of our child. She is author of the Canadian bestseller “Becoming The One” and the forthcoming journal under the same name, and the founder of Rising Woman where she brings tools for healing and transformation to millions of women.
She joins me on this episode for a candid conversation about our recent parenthood journey, the struggles we have had, and how we believe parents could be better supported (by their community, and themselves) to be the best parents they can be.
In this episode we dive into:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why a shocking number of couples break up within the first year of having a child.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The challenges that emerge once you become parents. </li>
<li aria-level="1">The transformation of a relationship after the arrival of a child. </li>
<li aria-level="1">Addressing the common phrase, "Being a parent is the hardest thing in the world." </li>
<li aria-level="1">50/50 parenting and the shifting roles and responsibilities as co-parents. </li>
<li aria-level="1">The normalcy of changes in intimacy and sex life after having a baby.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Accessing and integrating relationship tools from the experts.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Taking time to master your romantic and sexual relationship. </li>
<li aria-level="1">The goal of relationship work is not perfection. </li>
<li aria-level="1">Minimizers VS Maximizers</li>
<li aria-level="1">Gender-specific support in navigating parenthood and relationships.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Men’s biggest struggle when the responsibilities of marriage and family weigh him down.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The feeling of being "touched out" as a mother.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The resurgence of old family dynamics when building a family.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Ben &amp; Sheleana’s personal parenthood struggles and steps to overcome the challenges.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Negativity in relationships - The tendency to focus on negativity for survival and the power of conscious choice. </li>
<li aria-level="1">How we co-create our problems in relationship.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Doing vs. being.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Navigating conflicts as a team. </li>
<li aria-level="1">Gratitude practices to check in with your partner. </li>
<li aria-level="1">Calling in your partner's true essence.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to be your own healer.</li>
</ul>
Links 
<ul></ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://sheleanaaiyana.com/becoming-the-one-book-journal/">Becoming The One Journal</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://courses.risingwoman.com/freedom-from-relationship-anxiety">Freedom from Relationship Anxiety Program with Rising Woman</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/">The Conscious Relationship Council with Evolving Man</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://risingwoman.com/">Rising Woman Website</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/risingwoman/">Rising Woman Instagram</a></li>
</ul>

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders and influencers in the personal growth arena who are actively engaged in "deep work", whether that be as a healer, or someone doing their own work. The guests on this podcast have a unique gift that they bring to the world, and they come to share these gifts with listeners. 

Tune in to witness discussions about addiction, consciousness, masculinity,  health and personal growth.

The Evolving Man Podcast

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders who are strong forces of change in the world. Tune in to witness discussions about relationships, mens' work, addiction recovery, and healing.

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders who are strong forces of change in the world. Tune in to witness discussions about relationships, mens' work, addiction recovery, and healing.

#83 - Parenthood, Relationship Struggles and Keeping the Spark Alive - with Sheleana Aiyana

Dr. Manesh Girn is a postdoctoral neuroscientist and popular science content creator specializing in the neuroscience of psychedelic drugs. He currently works at the University of California, San Francisco, alongside psychedelic research pioneer Dr. Robin Carhart-Harris, where he conducts research on the neural mechanisms underlying the psychedelic experience and psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy. 

In addition to his research, Manesh runs a popular digital platform on Instagram and YouTube called "The Psychedelic Scientist”, where he shares the latest findings in psychedelic science in a digestible and easy to understand way. 

In this episode, we discuss:
Manesh's journey from head to heart, from bypassing emotions to inhabiting them.
Emotion centred, body-focused therapy (beating pillows with weapons.)
How Manesh got his start in psychedelic research.
How an early psychedelic experience opened Manesh up to different takes on reality.
Finding the support to go beyond intellect.
The various healing/transformational modalities of:

breathwork
men’s groups
psychedelics
conscious relationship training
How different psychedelics affect our brains differently.
Neuroplasticity: how psychedelics can help change thought patterns.
Psychedelics for those with with trauma and depression.
The importance of support in psychedelic journeys
Setting down a belief that life is intrinsically unsafe.
Learning to recognize people and situations that are safe.
Integrating psychedelic experiences for lasting change.
The importance of intention before and after a psychedelic journey.
Psychedelics as an aid to innovation.
Psychedelics for people in positions of power.

Manesh’s Youtube

Manesh’s website

Manesh’s Instagram

Arka Brotherhood Men’s Community

Dr. Manesh Girn is a postdoctoral neuroscientist and popular science content creator specializing in the neuroscience of psychedelic drugs. He currently works at the University of California, San Francisco, alongside psychedelic research pioneer Dr. Robin Carhart-Harris, where he conducts research on the neural mechanisms underlying the psychedelic experience and psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy. 
In addition to his research, Manesh runs a popular digital platform on Instagram and YouTube called <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ThePsychedelicScientist">"The Psychedelic Scientist”</a>, where he shares the latest findings in psychedelic science in a digestible and easy to understand way. 
In this episode, we discuss:
<ul>
<li>Manesh's journey from head to heart, from bypassing emotions to inhabiting them.</li>
<li>Emotion centred, body-focused therapy (beating pillows with weapons.)</li>
<li>How Manesh got his start in psychedelic research.</li>
<li>How an early psychedelic experience opened Manesh up to different takes on reality.</li>
<li>Finding the support to go beyond intellect.</li>
<li>The various healing/transformational modalities of:
<ul>
<li>breathwork</li>
<li>men’s groups</li>
<li>psychedelics</li>
<li>conscious relationship training</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>How different psychedelics affect our brains differently.</li>
<li>Neuroplasticity: how psychedelics can help change thought patterns.</li>
<li>Psychedelics for those with with trauma and depression.</li>
<li>The importance of support in psychedelic journeys</li>
<li>Setting down a belief that life is intrinsically unsafe.</li>
<li>Learning to recognize people and situations that are safe.</li>
<li>Integrating psychedelic experiences for lasting change.</li>
<li>The importance of intention before and after a psychedelic journey.</li>
<li>Psychedelics as an aid to innovation.</li>
<li>Psychedelics for people in positions of power.</li>
</ul>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ThePsychedelicScientist">Manesh’s Youtube</a>
<a href="https://maneshgirn.com/">Manesh’s website</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/maneshgirn/">Manesh’s Instagram </a><a href="http://arkabrotherhood.com">Arka Brotherhood Men’s Community</a>

#88 - The Science Of Healing With Psychedelics - with Manesh Girn

Mark Groves, founder of Create The Love is a relationship expert, but he also believes in freedom of speech and thought, and is an advocate of personal sovereignty. During the recent pandemic, he began sharing what he was seeing in the people and institutions around him. His sharing on @itsmarkgroves and The Mark Groves Podcast was controversial, because any dissenting opinion at that time was censored and considered to be “unsafe”.

I personally appreciated the discourse that Mark was bringing, as I lacked the courage to be as bold as he was, despite agreeing with many of his questions. On this episode of the podcast, I discuss the pandemic, the lockdowns, and the hysteria that took over our society at that time.

In this episode, we dive into:
The dangers of framing everything as a safety issue.
Dehumanizing people during the pandemic.
Data-based arguments about COVID-19 vaccines.
Mass formation psychosis.
Why PCR tests shouldn’t be used for diagnostic purposes.
Unconsciously believing that healthy people are biological threats. 
The wide scope of misinformation spread throughout the pandemic. 
The anxiety, fear, and hysteria spearheading pandemic behavior.
Family conflicts and getting “canceled” over COVID-19 dissent.
COVID-19 and masks as an ideology vs evidence-based.
Natural immunity is at least equal to vaccinated immunity.
The exploitation of psychology and weaponization of belonging.
Normalizing controlling people’s bodily autonomy.
Censoring people, governments spreading misinformation, and the lack of critical thinking during the pandemic.
Language is the first step to dehumanizing people in an out-group.
Violating informed consent when getting vaccinated.
How do we prevent divisiveness in the future?
Healing begins with the acceptance of reality (that the unvaccinated were marginalized and demonized while being left out of society and losing their jobs, while the vaccine that was promised to end the pandemic didn’t, and Omicron did)
Accountability without annihilation.
Learning to speak your truth despite the inconvenience.
Fighting for the freedom to disagree.



Links from this Episode
Part 1 of This Episode
Mark’s Website
Mark’s Instagram 
Masks
Immunity
Mass Formation Psychosis

Mark Groves, founder of Create The Love is a relationship expert, but he also believes in freedom of speech and thought, and is an advocate of personal sovereignty. During the recent pandemic, he began sharing what he was seeing in the people and institutions around him. His sharing on @itsmarkgroves and The Mark Groves Podcast was controversial, because any dissenting opinion at that time was censored and considered to be “unsafe”. I personally appreciated the discourse that Mark was bringing, as I lacked the courage to be as bold as he was, despite agreeing with many of his questions. On this episode of the podcast, I discuss the pandemic, the lockdowns, and the hysteria that took over our society at that time.
In this episode, we dive into:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The dangers of framing everything as a safety issue.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Dehumanizing people during the pandemic.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Data-based arguments about COVID-19 vaccines.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Mass formation psychosis.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why PCR tests shouldn’t be used for diagnostic purposes.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Unconsciously believing that healthy people are biological threats. </li>
<li aria-level="1">The wide scope of misinformation spread throughout the pandemic. </li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://youtu.be/IqPJiM5Ir3A?si=Gsn_49ypJl2_nlyE">The anxiety, fear, and hysteria spearheading pandemic behavior.</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Family conflicts and getting “canceled” over COVID-19 dissent.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://themodelhealthshow.com/maskfacts/">COVID-19 and masks as an ideology vs evidence-based.</a></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(22)02465-5/fulltext">Natural immunity is at least equal to vaccinated immunity</a>.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The exploitation of psychology and weaponization of belonging.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Normalizing controlling people’s bodily autonomy.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Censoring people, governments spreading misinformation, and the lack of critical thinking during the pandemic.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Language is the first step to dehumanizing people in an out-group.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Violating informed consent when getting vaccinated.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How do we prevent divisiveness in the future?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Healing begins with the acceptance of reality (that the unvaccinated were marginalized and demonized while being left out of society and losing their jobs, while the vaccine that was promised to end the pandemic didn’t, and<a href="https://alexberenson.substack.com/p/the-mrnas-didnt-end-covid-omicron"> Omicron did</a>)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Accountability without annihilation.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Learning to speak your truth despite the inconvenience.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Fighting for the freedom to disagree.</li>
</ul>
 
Links from this Episode
<ul></ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://kite.link/evolving-mark-groves-fatherhood">Part 1 of This Episode</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://markgroves.com/">Mark’s Website</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/">Mark’s Instagram </a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://themodelhealthshow.com/maskfacts/">Masks</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(22)02465-5/fulltext">Immunity</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqPJiM5Ir3A">Mass Formation Psychosis</a></li>
</ul>

#87 - Pandemic Hysteria And Mass Psychosis (Part 2) - with Mark Groves

Mark Groves is the founder of Create The Love, and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark is on a mission to bridge the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection. His work empowers people to step into their power, transform the way they relate to themselves and others, and create authentic change in their lives. 

Mark and I sit down on the coast of Tofino, Canada for a special two-part episode.

In part 1, we talk about fatherhood and parenthood. 

In this episode, we discuss:
Fatherhood as a deeper window to look at where there is still work to be done on oneself.
After having a child, what is most important?
Old wounds and patterns that tend to arise during parenthood. 
How intimacy dynamics tend to shift after having a child.
The reasons why an uncomfortable number of couples divorce after the first year of a child’s life.
Nurturing your feminine energy as a man. 
Accessing discipline and discernment as a father.
Upholding the ethical obligation to be successful. 
Being purpose-driven as a man.
The paradox of choice.
The downsides to technology and access to mass communication.
Consciously choosing every aspect of your life.
Embracing a cultural initiation into manhood.
What is toxic masculinity and why does it exist?
Valuing mother and father roles in the family.
Inflated egos and immaturity.
What comes after ego dissolution?
The benefits of taking time off work to support your new family.
How fathers can support their own health after having a kid.
The importance of talking to other men after having a child.
The gift of being a parent and the gifts you receive from your child.
And a question for Mark: Now that you have a kid, is it worth it? Would you recommend it?

Links from this Episode:
Part 2 of This Episode (on C0.vid Hysteria) will come out in 2 weeks and links will be updated at that time.
Mark’s Website
Mark’s Instagram 
Mark’s Podcast 
Mark on YouTube
Conscious Relationship Council - a live 12-week relationship training for men
Arka Brotherhood - men's work.

Previous episodes with Mark:
Evolving Man Podcast - Holding Space with Mark Groves
Evolving Man Podcast - To Be A Man with Mark Groves

Mark Groves is the founder of Create The Love, and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark is on a mission to bridge the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection. His work empowers people to step into their power, transform the way they relate to themselves and others, and create authentic change in their lives. Mark and I sit down on the coast of Tofino, Canada for a special two-part episode.
In part 1, we talk about fatherhood and parenthood. 
In this episode, we discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Fatherhood as a deeper window to look at where there is still work to be done on oneself.</li>
<li aria-level="1">After having a child, what is most important?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Old wounds and patterns that tend to arise during parenthood. </li>
<li aria-level="1">How intimacy dynamics tend to shift after having a child.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The reasons why an uncomfortable number of couples divorce after the first year of a child’s life.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Nurturing your feminine energy as a man. </li>
<li aria-level="1">Accessing discipline and discernment as a father.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Upholding the ethical obligation to be successful. </li>
<li aria-level="1">Being purpose-driven as a man.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The paradox of choice.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The downsides to technology and access to mass communication.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Consciously choosing every aspect of your life.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Embracing a cultural initiation into manhood.</li>
<li aria-level="1">What is toxic masculinity and why does it exist?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Valuing mother and father roles in the family.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Inflated egos and immaturity.</li>
<li aria-level="1">What comes after ego dissolution?</li>
<li aria-level="1">The benefits of taking time off work to support your new family.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How fathers can support their own health after having a kid.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The importance of talking to other men after having a child.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The gift of being a parent and the gifts you receive from your child.</li>
<li aria-level="1">And a question for Mark: Now that you have a kid, is it worth it? Would you recommend it?</li>
</ul>
Links from this Episode:
<ul></ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Part 2 of This Episode (on C0.vid Hysteria) will come out in 2 weeks and links will be updated at that time.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://markgroves.com/">Mark’s Website</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/">Mark’s Instagram </a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://markgrovespodcast.com/">Mark’s Podcast </a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="http://www.youtube.com/@markgroves">Mark on YouTube</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/">Conscious Relationship Council</a> - a live 12-week relationship training for men</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://arkabrotherhood.com/">Arka Brotherhood</a> - men's work.</li>
</ul>
Previous episodes with Mark:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://evolvingman.com/holding-space-with-mark-groves/">Evolving Man Podcast - Holding Space with Mark Groves</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://evolvingman.com/to-be-a-man-with-mark-groves/">Evolving Man Podcast - To Be A Man with Mark Groves</a></li>
</ul>

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