The people you surround yourself with shape your faith more than you might realize—Proverbs 27:17 reminds us that godly friendships sharpen, strengthen, and grow us spiritually. We were created for connection, but not all relationships are equal. Some leave us feeling empty, while others challenge us, encourage us, and draw us closer to God. The difference often comes down to whether those friendships are rooted in Christ.

Healthy, faith-filled friendships don’t just happen by accident—they’re formed when we seek God first and intentionally pursue relationships that reflect His love and truth. When we walk alongside others who are also growing in their faith, something powerful happens: we begin to reflect Christ more clearly, carry each other’s burdens, and stay anchored when life gets difficult. These are the kinds of friendships that don’t just fill time—they transform lives.

Highlights

• The people around you influence your spiritual growth
• Not all friendships are life-giving or faith-building
• God designed us for meaningful, Christ-centered community
• Seeking God first leads to healthier relationships
• Faith-filled friendships provide encouragement and accountability
• True friends help carry burdens and point you back to Christ
• You’re called not just to find good friends—but to be one

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Full Transcript Below:

Friendships That Fan the Flame of Your Faith

By Keri Eichberger

Bible Reading:

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. (Proverbs 27:17 NLT) 

There was a long shadow-of-a-season in my life that I stepped out of with very few friends. It was a dark and lonely stretch. A time that I truly and desperately needed people. But because of who I had chosen to surround myself with, I didn’t find the companionship, the support, and the sincere love of genuine friendship. And I can’t blame anyone but myself. I wasn’t seeking out the right people. I also didn’t find a friend in Jesus. Not that he wasn’t there—he absolutely always was—But I didn’t call on or cling to him. Instead, I was hanging out with and onto flimsy, empty relationships connected solely by shallow interests. People who didn’t bring much beyond meaningless moments and fleeting, artificial fun. I look back, sorry and sad for that girl. 

Has that ever been you? Have you found yourself regularly surrounded by people you aren’t sure you should call friends? Maybe you can also recall longing for deeper connections than you had then? Or maybe you currently wonder if that’s part of your story now? Or perhaps, like me, you previously pursued faulty friendships, but now have a handful of people you’ve been abundantly blessed by and thank God for greatly. 

I’ve certainly learned so much since that past season. Most importantly, I’ve learned to seek God first. I’ve learned Jesus has always—in every season and from the beginning—wanted to be my friend. And that he is the absolute best friend. Better and more than any person could ever be. Ever-present, always listening, constantly compassionate. Unfailingly faithful and unconditionally loving. Provider, protector, peace-maker, and perfect shepherd. Additionally, I’ve learned to seek out and serve God’s children, his church, and his kingdom. And I have learned that in time, he places people in our path. His people. 

Regardless of the connections you have, or lack thereof, we all long for rich connections. Because that’s the way God designed us—for community. And that’s why Jesus, here on earth, demonstrated a focus on fellowship with others. It was part of his plan and purpose for his people. Proverbs 27:17 states, As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. The Amplified Bible version reads, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens [and influences] another [through discussion].” I love how this version uses the word “influences,” reminding us of the impact and significance of the connections we make. Of those around us. And of the friends we choose and surround ourselves with.

Seeking, gaining, and maintaining Christian friends—who alongside us are learning to love more like Jesus—can have an immense influence and impact on our lives. And though not one person is perfect, what we share in common with brothers and sisters in Christ is a desire to grow in Christ-likeness. To love sacrificially. To be sanctified in holiness, good character, and spiritual growth. To lay down our lives for others. To carry each other’s burdens. To lift up and encourage one another.

Intersecting Faith & Life:

I pray not only that you and I will seek, find, and be sharpened by authentic Christian friendships, but that we will be Christ-like friends in return. Even, and especially, to those who do not know Jesus. We can be an invaluable influence and sharpen them, too. In fact, you could be just the one to bring someone you encounter to Christ. And as you continue to connect, spend more time with, and invest in those who love the Lord—those on fire for the gospel and committed to growth—may these friendships fan the flame of your faith. May they help you learn and reflect the love of the Lord. May they grow your trust in God, thus increasing your joy and your peace… in him. 

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