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Ep 97 – I Thought Me and My Mother Were Close

For years, Jennifer believed she and her mother had a close relationship.

They talked every day. They spent time together. They shopped together. She called her mother her best friend.

But healing has a way of making us revisit old stories and ask harder questions.

In this episode, Jennifer explores the painful difference between genuine closeness and enmeshment. She unpacks how many Black daughters confuse access, obligation, guilt, and emotional caretaking for intimacy. She shares personal stories from her relationship with her mother, reflects on celebrating her son's high school graduation, and challenges listeners to examine whether the relationship they call "close" actually allows them to be fully themselves.

If you've ever said, "Me and my mama are close," but still struggle to use your voice, make decisions without guilt, or show up authentically around her, this episode is for you.

 

✨ In This Episode
Why Jennifer intentionally celebrated Vincent's high school graduation
The importance of teaching our children they deserve to be seen and celebrated
Why many daughters believe they are close to their mothers
The difference between closeness and enmeshment
How self-abandonment becomes normalized in mother-daughter relationships
Why emotional caretaking is not intimacy
The hidden cost of being the "good daughter"
Questions to help you identify enmeshment in your own life
How parentification creates one-sided relationships
Why healing requires building a stronger relationship with yourself, not your mother

 

💭 Reflection Question

When you think about your relationship with your mother, are you experiencing genuine closeness—or have you been taught to mistake obligation, guilt, and emotional caretaking for love?

Because healing starts when we're willing to tell ourselves the truth. Even when it's uncomfortable. Even when it changes the story we've been holding onto for years.

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Ep 97 &ndash; I Thought Me and My Mother Were Close
For years, Jennifer believed she and her mother had a close relationship.
They talked every day. They spent time together. They shopped together. She called her mother her best friend.
But healing has a way of making us revisit old stories and ask harder questions.
In this episode, Jennifer explores the painful difference between genuine closeness and enmeshment. She unpacks how many Black daughters confuse access, obligation, guilt, and emotional caretaking for intimacy. She shares personal stories from her relationship with her mother, reflects on celebrating her son's high school graduation, and challenges listeners to examine whether the relationship they call "close" actually allows them to be fully themselves.
If you've ever said, "Me and my mama are close," but still struggle to use your voice, make decisions without guilt, or show up authentically around her, this episode is for you.
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✨ In This Episode
<ul>
<li>Why Jennifer intentionally celebrated Vincent's high school graduation</li>
<li>The importance of teaching our children they deserve to be seen and celebrated</li>
<li>Why many daughters believe they are close to their mothers</li>
<li>The difference between closeness and enmeshment</li>
<li>How self-abandonment becomes normalized in mother-daughter relationships</li>
<li>Why emotional caretaking is not intimacy</li>
<li>The hidden cost of being the "good daughter"</li>
<li>Questions to help you identify enmeshment in your own life</li>
<li>How parentification creates one-sided relationships</li>
<li>Why healing requires building a stronger relationship with yourself, not your mother</li>
</ul>
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💭 Reflection Question
When you think about your relationship with your mother, are you experiencing genuine closeness&mdash;or have you been taught to mistake obligation, guilt, and emotional caretaking for love?
Because healing starts when we're willing to tell ourselves the truth. Even when it's uncomfortable. Even when it changes the story we've been holding onto for years.

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl.


In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.

Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

 

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a&nbsp;podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. 
In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love. Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.
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The Black Mother Wound Podcast

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound  podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl.



In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.

Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound &nbsp;podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love. Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

I Thought Me and My Mother Were Close

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