How do you recognize danger when danger was normal growing up? How do you receive love when the love you knew was conditional? And how do you know when you're making a decision from healing versus guilt and people pleasing?

These questions all come back to the same place: your relationship with yourself.

In this episode, I’m talking about what it really takes to rebuild trust with yourself after the mother wound taught you to ignore your feelings, abandon your needs and trade pieces of yourself for love, connection and approval.

Because healing your mother wound isn't really about your mother. At some point, we have to deal with how we've learned to treat ourselves.

We’re also getting into something I’m realizing in my own healing right now: real healing requires infrastructure. It’s not enough to understand your trauma. You have to build a life that can actually support the woman you're becoming.

In this episode:
Why safety and love can be difficult to recognize after growing up with conditional love
• Learning what different emotions actually feel like in your body
• Why you have to become safe and trustworthy to yourself first
• How people pleasing can become another form of self-abandonment
• The difference between knowing about healing and actually building your life around it
• Why new experiences, community, support and self-soothing matter
• Taking accountability for the ways you continue to abandon yourself
• Building an internal structure strong enough to support who you're becoming

You can't keep asking other people to give you the safety, love and validation that you refuse to give yourself.

At some point, you have to decide: I'm going to take care of me before I sacrifice me to keep everybody else comfortable.

How do you recognize danger when danger was normal growing up? How do you receive love when the love you knew was conditional? And how do you know when you're making a decision from healing versus guilt and people pleasing?
These questions all come back to the same place: your relationship with yourself.
In this episode, I&rsquo;m talking about what it really takes to rebuild trust with yourself after the mother wound taught you to ignore your feelings, abandon your needs and trade pieces of yourself for love, connection and approval.
Because healing your mother wound isn't really about your mother. At some point, we have to deal with how we've learned to treat ourselves.
We&rsquo;re also getting into something I&rsquo;m realizing in my own healing right now: real healing requires infrastructure. It&rsquo;s not enough to understand your trauma. You have to build a life that can actually support the woman you're becoming.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li>Why safety and love can be difficult to recognize after growing up with conditional love &bull; Learning what different emotions actually feel like in your body &bull; Why you have to become safe and trustworthy to yourself first &bull; How people pleasing can become another form of self-abandonment &bull; The difference between knowing about healing and actually building your life around it &bull; Why new experiences, community, support and self-soothing matter &bull; Taking accountability for the ways you continue to abandon yourself &bull; Building an internal structure strong enough to support who you're becoming</li>
</ul>
You can't keep asking other people to give you the safety, love and validation that you refuse to give yourself.
At some point, you have to decide: I'm going to take care of me before I sacrifice me to keep everybody else comfortable.

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl.


In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.

Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

 

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a&nbsp;podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. 
In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love. Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.
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The Black Mother Wound Podcast

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound  podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl.



In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.

Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

Welcome to The Black Mother Wound &nbsp;podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love. Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

How to Recognize and Receive Love After a Lifetime of Not Having It

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