As couples, we aren’t bidding millions on artwork, movie props, or sports memorabilia. But we do regularly make emotional bids in marriage. Bids are invitations from and to our spouse for connection. Today, we talk about bids and how we can respond to them.

WAYS TO TURN TOWARD YOUR SPOUSE
Pay attention.
Practice active listening, validate feelings, and show interest
Prioritize Responding

TAKE THE “US TIME” CHALLENGE

Pay attention to your spouse’s bids for connection this week. Make it a priority to turn toward them.

LET US KNOW WHAT YOU THINK

Did you enjoy this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts! (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/team-us/id1565819107)

TEAM US RESOURCES
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Greg and Erin Smalley’s definition of bids (https://www.instagram.com/p/DFV6iOfuHg-/?img_index=1)
“Want to Improve Your Relationship? Start Paying More Attention to Bids” by Logan Ury at Gottman Institute (https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/)
“Turn Towards Instead of Away” by Zach Brittle at Gottman Institute (https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/)
Gottman’s List of Minor Bids for Emotional Connection at Gottman Institute
(https://www.gottman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/List-of-bids-Graphic.png)
“How to Recognize Your Partner’s ‘Bids for Connection’ and Maybe Save Your Relationship” by Brianne Hogan at LifeHack.com (https://lifehacker.com/how-to-recognize-your-partners-bids-for-connection-and-1848740174)

As couples, we aren&rsquo;t bidding millions on artwork, movie props, or sports memorabilia. But we do regularly make emotional bids in marriage. Bids are invitations from and to our spouse for connection. Today, we talk about bids and how we can respond to them.
WAYS TO TURN TOWARD YOUR SPOUSE
<ol>
<li>Pay attention.</li>
<li>Practice active listening, validate feelings, and show interest</li>
<li>Prioritize Responding</li>
</ol>
TAKE THE &ldquo;US TIME&rdquo; CHALLENGE
Pay attention to your spouse&rsquo;s bids for connection this week. Make it a priority to turn toward them.
LET US KNOW WHAT YOU THINK
Did you enjoy this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts! (<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/team-us/id1565819107">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/team-us/id1565819107</a>)
TEAM US RESOURCES
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)</li>
</ul>
LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
<ul>
<li>Greg and Erin Smalley&rsquo;s definition of bids (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/DFV6iOfuHg-/?img_index=1">https://www.instagram.com/p/DFV6iOfuHg-/?img_index=1</a>)</li>
<li>&ldquo;Want to Improve Your Relationship? Start Paying More Attention to Bids&rdquo; by Logan Ury at Gottman Institute (<a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/">https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/</a>)</li>
<li>&ldquo;Turn Towards Instead of Away&rdquo; by Zach Brittle at Gottman Institute (<a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/">https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/</a>)</li>
<li>Gottman&rsquo;s List of Minor Bids for Emotional Connection at Gottman Institute</li>
<li>(<a href="https://www.gottman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/List-of-bids-Graphic.png">https://www.gottman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/List-of-bids-Graphic.png</a>)</li>
<li>&ldquo;How to Recognize Your Partner&rsquo;s &lsquo;Bids for Connection&rsquo; and Maybe Save Your Relationship&rdquo; by Brianne Hogan at LifeHack.com (<a href="https://lifehacker.com/how-to-recognize-your-partners-bids-for-connection-and-1848740174">https://lifehacker.com/how-to-recognize-your-partners-bids-for-connection-and-1848740174</a>)</li>
</ul>

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.

Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us: Christian Marriage Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.

Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

Want more from Ted and Ashleigh? Visit https://ashleighslater.com/

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one. Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us: Christian Marriage Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years. Whether you&rsquo;re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you&rsquo;ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you&rsquo;ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.
Want more from Ted and Ashleigh? Visit&nbsp;<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://ashleighslater.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1734531595589000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2LFlxWt0Zt3Sfr5fZIzek5">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because...

Team Us: A Christian Marriage Podcast

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.

Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us: Christian Marriage Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.

Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

Want more from Ted and Ashleigh? Visit https://ashleighslater.com/

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one. Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us: Christian Marriage Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years. Whether you&rsquo;re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you&rsquo;ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you&rsquo;ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.
Want more from Ted and Ashleigh? Visit <a href="https://ashleighslater.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://ashleighslater.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1734531595589000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2LFlxWt0Zt3Sfr5fZIzek5">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>

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