Matt Bair and Ryan Hedrick share stories about enablers in their lives. Specifically, they discuss the people who helped them buy drugs and alcohol and those who perpetuated their addictive patterns. They emphasize the importance of showing unconditional love and being present for your loved ones as they battle with addiction. They also stress the significance of not advancing addiction by avoiding judging or stereotyping people who are suffering.

Matt and Ryan are joined by Philip Van Guilder, Director of Community Relationships at Greenhouse Treatment Center, who turned a personal crisis into a mission. His son's opioid overdose spurred him to become a naloxone administration trainer.

Timestamps with Discussions:

09:26 Introduction

Introduction to Philip Van Guilder, a speaker and advocate for understanding and confronting addiction.

09:57 - 11:39  Defining Enabling

Van Guilder delves into the concept of enabling, emphasizing its dual nature. He discusses the delicate balance between wanting to be a supportive parent and the challenge of facing the situation realistically.

11:50 - 13:42 Overcoming Guilt in Caregiving

Van Guilder explores the overwhelming guilt experienced by caregivers of individuals struggling with addiction. Using a scenario involving a parent and a daughter with drug problems, he advocates understanding addiction as a disease rather than a moral failing. Confrontation, he stresses, should be approached with love and empathy.

14:12 - 15:23 Challenging the Narrative of Choice

Van Guilder challenges the perception of addiction as a choice. He prompts listeners to consider their reactions if discovering a loved one's substance use and encourages viewing addiction as a disease rather than responding with anger. Threats, he asserts, cannot compel an addict to seek help.

16:11 - 19:23 Establishing Healthy Boundaries through Communication

Van Guilder highlights the importance of setting healthy boundaries through effective communication. He suggests refusing to enable destructive behavior while expressing a genuine commitment to helping the individual seek professional assistance. Understanding the addict's perspective and collaborating on a plan is crucial.

20:15 - 20:50 The Disease Takes Hostages

Van Guilder reminds listeners that addiction takes hostages, emphasizing the toll it can take on the physical and emotional well-being of those fighting to save their loved ones. Self-care is stressed as paramount to prevent being consumed by the disease.

21:30 - 23:05 Taking Care of Yourself

Drawing from personal experience, Van Guilder shares a story of taking someone to the hospital but prioritizing his sanity by dropping the person off. He underscores the importance of maintaining personal health and well-being when dealing with addiction.

24:15 - 25:50 A Father's Mission

Van Guilder shares a poignant experience of reviving his son with Narcan. He candidly reveals not informing the parents of the other individual present due to his singular focus on his son. His mission is clear - to spread awareness and understanding about addiction.

Resources: 

Social Media: Instagram / Twitter @sobriety_pod

AA Meetings: aa.intergroup.org/meetings

Virtual NA Meetings: virtual-na.org

Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255 (Available 24/7)

Al-Anon Support: Al-Anon.org

Important Websites Mentioned by Phil:

WTF Winning The Fight

Love Cassidy

Matt Bair and Ryan Hedrick share stories about enablers in their lives. Specifically, they discuss the people who helped them buy drugs and alcohol and those who perpetuated their addictive patterns. They emphasize the importance of showing unconditional love and being present for your loved ones as they battle with addiction. They also stress the significance of not advancing addiction by avoiding judging or stereotyping people who are suffering.
Matt and Ryan are joined by Philip Van Guilder, Director of Community Relationships at Greenhouse Treatment Center, who turned a personal crisis into a mission. His son's opioid overdose spurred him to become a naloxone administration trainer.
Timestamps with Discussions:
09:26 Introduction
Introduction to Philip Van Guilder, a speaker and advocate for understanding and confronting addiction.
09:57 - 11:39  Defining Enabling
Van Guilder delves into the concept of enabling, emphasizing its dual nature. He discusses the delicate balance between wanting to be a supportive parent and the challenge of facing the situation realistically.
11:50 - 13:42 Overcoming Guilt in Caregiving
Van Guilder explores the overwhelming guilt experienced by caregivers of individuals struggling with addiction. Using a scenario involving a parent and a daughter with drug problems, he advocates understanding addiction as a disease rather than a moral failing. Confrontation, he stresses, should be approached with love and empathy.
14:12 - 15:23 Challenging the Narrative of Choice
Van Guilder challenges the perception of addiction as a choice. He prompts listeners to consider their reactions if discovering a loved one's substance use and encourages viewing addiction as a disease rather than responding with anger. Threats, he asserts, cannot compel an addict to seek help.
16:11 - 19:23 Establishing Healthy Boundaries through Communication
Van Guilder highlights the importance of setting healthy boundaries through effective communication. He suggests refusing to enable destructive behavior while expressing a genuine commitment to helping the individual seek professional assistance. Understanding the addict's perspective and collaborating on a plan is crucial.
20:15 - 20:50 The Disease Takes Hostages
Van Guilder reminds listeners that addiction takes hostages, emphasizing the toll it can take on the physical and emotional well-being of those fighting to save their loved ones. Self-care is stressed as paramount to prevent being consumed by the disease.
21:30 - 23:05 Taking Care of Yourself
Drawing from personal experience, Van Guilder shares a story of taking someone to the hospital but prioritizing his sanity by dropping the person off. He underscores the importance of maintaining personal health and well-being when dealing with addiction.
24:15 - 25:50 A Father's Mission
Van Guilder shares a poignant experience of reviving his son with Narcan. He candidly reveals not informing the parents of the other individual present due to his singular focus on his son. His mission is clear - to spread awareness and understanding about addiction.
Resources: 
Social Media: Instagram / Twitter @sobriety_pod
AA Meetings: aa.intergroup.org/meetings
Virtual NA Meetings: virtual-na.org
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255 (Available 24/7)
Al-Anon Support: Al-Anon.org
Important Websites Mentioned by Phil:
WTF Winning The Fight
Love Cassidy

The Mission

The Supporting Sobriety Podcast is dedicated to providing hope to the unsung heroes behind those struggling with addiction…their friends and family.

We will share insights, stories and resources to help listeners support their loved ones and care for themselves on the recovery journey.

The Hosts

Matt Bair

Matt considers himself blessed to be a recovering alcoholic. His lifetime profession as a radio broadcaster has been derailed multiple times by alcohol abuse but he remains alive and employed through the grace of God and help of others.

Matt lives by the humility introduced in the first step of 12-step recovery, that the alcoholic is truly “powerless over alcohol,” and the alcoholic in use of alcohol possesses a life that is “unmanageable.” He enunciates these beliefs in teaching recovery to alcoholics and addicts, while understanding there’s more to learn from the ones who don’t make it (Keep. Coming. Back). He truly believes everything “always gets better” if you don’t take the next drink or drug. Matt is dedicated to “supporting the supporters” like those who have been critical to his ongoing sobriety.

Matt is the long-time morning and afternoon traffic reporter for WIBC / Indianapolis.

Ryan Hedrick

Ryan Hedrick's life has been a journey of recovery from a challenging battle with addiction spanning nearly 25 years. His struggles with cocaine and methamphetamine led him down a dangerous path, marked by numerous attempts at treatment. However, salvation came in the form of a 12-step program that became his sanctuary.

To break free from the shackles of addiction, Ryan committed himself to giving back to recovery communities nationwide. He extended his support by bringing 12-step meetings to jails and institutions, sponsoring men on their recovery journeys, and regularly attending meetings. Like his co-host, the clutches of drugs and alcohol jeopardized Ryan's life and his career in radio.

Ryan is currently a reporter and morning news anchor at WIBC/Indianapolis where he met his podcast co-host Matt Bair. Together they strive to offer a beacon of hope to those grappling with similar struggles. Their podcast aims to reach and assist individuals behind the scenes by sharing personal experiences, strength, and hope with their followers. Through their collective journey, Ryan and Matt seek to inspire and support those supporting loved ones on the path to recovery.

The Mission
The Supporting Sobriety Podcast is dedicated to providing hope to the unsung heroes behind those struggling with addiction…their friends and family.
We will share insights, stories and resources to help listeners support their loved ones and care for themselves on the recovery journey.
The Hosts 
Matt Bair
Matt considers himself blessed to be a recovering alcoholic. His lifetime profession as a radio broadcaster has been derailed multiple times by alcohol abuse but he remains alive and employed through the grace of God and help of others.
Matt lives by the humility introduced in the first step of 12-step recovery, that the alcoholic is truly “powerless over alcohol,” and the alcoholic in use of alcohol possesses a life that is “unmanageable.” He enunciates these beliefs in teaching recovery to alcoholics and addicts, while understanding there’s more to learn from the ones who don’t make it (Keep. Coming. Back). He truly believes everything “always gets better” if you don’t take the next drink or drug. Matt is dedicated to “supporting the supporters” like those who have been critical to his ongoing sobriety.
Matt is the long-time morning and afternoon traffic reporter for WIBC / Indianapolis.
Ryan Hedrick
Ryan Hedrick's life has been a journey of recovery from a challenging battle with addiction spanning nearly 25 years. His struggles with cocaine and methamphetamine led him down a dangerous path, marked by numerous attempts at treatment. However, salvation came in the form of a 12-step program that became his sanctuary.
To break free from the shackles of addiction, Ryan committed himself to giving back to recovery communities nationwide. He extended his support by bringing 12-step meetings to jails and institutions, sponsoring men on their recovery journeys, and regularly attending meetings. Like his co-host, the clutches of drugs and alcohol jeopardized Ryan's life and his career in radio.
Ryan is currently a reporter and morning news anchor at WIBC/Indianapolis where he met his podcast co-host Matt Bair. Together they strive to offer a beacon of hope to those grappling with similar struggles. Their podcast aims to reach and assist individuals behind the scenes by sharing personal experiences, strength, and hope with their followers. Through their collective journey, Ryan and Matt seek to inspire and support those supporting loved ones on the path to recovery.

Supporting Sobriety Podcast

The Mission
The Supporting Sobriety Podcast is dedicated to providing hope to the unsung heroes behind those struggling with addiction…their friends and family.
We will share insights, stories and resources to help listeners support their loved ones and care for themselves on the recovery journey.
The Hosts
Matt Bair
Matt considers himself blessed to be a recovering alcoholic. His lifetime profession as a radio broadcaster has been derailed multiple times by alcohol abuse but he remains alive and employed through the grace of God and help of others.
Matt lives by the humility introduced in the first step of 12-step recovery, that the alcoholic is truly “powerless over alcohol,” and the alcoholic in use of alcohol possesses a life that is “unmanageable.” He enunciates these beliefs in teaching recovery to alcoholics and addicts, while understanding there’s more to learn from the ones who don’t make it (Keep. Coming. Back). He truly believes everything “always gets better” if you don’t take the next drink or drug. Matt is dedicated to “supporting the supporters” like those who have been critical to his ongoing sobriety.
Matt is the long-time morning and afternoon traffic reporter for WIBC / Indianapolis.
Ryan Hedrick
Ryan Hedrick's life has been a journey of recovery from a challenging battle with addiction spanning nearly 25 years. His struggles with cocaine and methamphetamine led him down a dangerous path, marked by numerous attempts at treatment. However, salvation came in the form of a 12-step program that became his sanctuary.
To break free from the shackles of addiction, Ryan committed himself to giving back to recovery communities nationwide. He extended his support by bringing 12-step meetings to jails and institutions, sponsoring men on their recovery journeys, and regularly attending meetings. Like his co-host, the clutches of drugs and alcohol jeopardized Ryan's life and his career in radio.
Ryan is currently a reporter and morning news anchor at WIBC/Indianapolis where he met his podcast co-host Matt Bair. Together they strive to offer a beacon of hope to those grappling with similar struggles. Their podcast aims to reach and assist individuals behind the scenes by sharing personal experiences, strength, and hope with their followers. Through their collective journey, Ryan and Matt seek to inspire and support those supporting loved ones on the path to recovery.