Matt Bair and Ryan Hedrick explore the first three steps of the twelve-step recovery process, which guide addicts in recognizing the problem, finding hope, and surrendering control. Despite their different journeys with addiction, both found healing through these steps.

This episode is designed to show caregivers how important the Twelve Steps are for their loved ones. Understanding these steps gives caregivers a clearer view of the recovery path, from admitting the problem to finding hope in something greater, and trusting the support system to lead their loved one toward healing. The episode highlights why these steps matter and how they can help caregivers provide better support.

Timestamps and Discussion

3:22 - 6:14

Step One: Recognizing the Illusion of Control
Ryan shares how Step One helped him realize that the control he thought he had over his addiction was just an illusion. Accepting this truth opened the door to recovery.

6:15 - 7:48

Surrender to Win
Matt explains the paradox of surrendering in Step One. While society tells us to fight for control, surrendering is a sign of growth for addicts. He highlights that honesty is key in this step.

7:45 - 11:18

Step Two: The Process of Believing
Matt talks about his experience with Step Two, explaining that "we came to believe" doesn’t happen overnight. It's a gradual process that depends on the addict’s willingness to change. This step is about starting to believe in a higher power.

11:19 - 13:30

Finding a Higher Power
Ryan discusses how to choose a higher power, emphasizing that it will become clearer as you move through the steps. He also shares some personal coincidences that made him more open to believing in something greater.

13:54 - 16:00

Step Three: Making a Decision
The third step involves making a decision to trust in something greater than oneself. Ryan and Matt discuss the importance of commitment and surrender in this step. They also explain why choosing a person as a higher power didn’t work for them and how they found other sources of belief.

21:12 - 21:53

Recap
A summary of the first three steps discussed in the episode.

22:36 - 25:40

Final Thoughts
Matt and Ryan conclude the episode with thoughts on the importance of the first three steps for both addicts and caregivers.

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