Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to discuss betrayal trauma and the three A’s: abuse, affairs and addiction. Geoff shares some great tips to help both partners through the challenges and struggles of the trauma that is often the result.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Geoff Steurer?
2:33 – Why  Steurer chose to focus on such a specific area
4:44 – When parents can do better, they are the ultimate help for children
6:00 – The three A’s
6:15 – Abuse – what do you say to individuals who deal with this?
7:23 – Power differential within abuse
8:43 – First steps to dealing with abuse
12:58 – Suggestion for those on the outside
17:42 – Affairs – about 20% of men & 13% of women
18:40 – You are not crazy for feeling hurt
20:30 – Understanding both sides of the hurt
22:53 – Recommendations for those on the outside
26:30 – 70-80% of marriages make it through it
28:48 – Addiction – can marriages survive?
29:10 – It is important to be open about it
32:18 – How to respond when being confronted about addiction
34:44 – Resources
35:46 – What creates a stronger marriage
37:58 – Takeaway



About Geoff Steurer:

Geoff Steurer has a passionate commitment to helping couples rebuild their
relationships from crisis to connection. He specializes in helping couples and individuals
affected by the trauma of sexual betrayal. He understands how exhilarating and stressful
marriage can be and works hard at his own marriage. His goal is to show couples how his work will pay off in their own lives.

Steurer specializes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, treating pornography and
sexual addictions, infidelity, men's issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, and
family therapy. He is the co-author of "Love You, Hate the Porn", creator of the "Trust
Building Bootcamp", host of the podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and author of a
weekly online Q&A column.

Geoff Steurer Links:
https://www.geoffsteurer.com/

https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcast

https://www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/


Insights:

Dave: Reach out, reach out for help and find someone you trust to speak with.

Liz: Hope. There is so much to be hopeful about. Believe in marriage and look at the other side.

Geoff: Learn to see the other person as someone who is different than you are.


Invites:
     - Learn how to stay close to your partner so you can find your way back to each other
       when dealing with betrayal and trauma
     - Don’t be afraid of the truth, your marriage can handle it
     - Recognize that there are a lot of people who struggle with these things, do not feel
       ashamed. Get help and know you are not alone.
     - Take the 12 week self-guided online course if you have broken someone’s trust.

Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to discuss betrayal trauma and the three A’s: abuse, affairs and addiction. Geoff shares some great tips to help both partners through the challenges and struggles of the trauma that is often the result.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Geoff Steurer? 2:33 – Why  Steurer chose to focus on such a specific area 4:44 – When parents can do better, they are the ultimate help for children 6:00 – The three A’s 6:15 – Abuse – what do you say to individuals who deal with this? 7:23 – Power differential within abuse 8:43 – First steps to dealing with abuse 12:58 – Suggestion for those on the outside 17:42 – Affairs – about 20% of men &amp; 13% of women 18:40 – You are not crazy for feeling hurt 20:30 – Understanding both sides of the hurt 22:53 – Recommendations for those on the outside 26:30 – 70-80% of marriages make it through it 28:48 – Addiction – can marriages survive? 29:10 – It is important to be open about it 32:18 – How to respond when being confronted about addiction 34:44 – Resources 35:46 – What creates a stronger marriage 37:58 – Takeaway
 
About Geoff Steurer:
Geoff Steurer has a passionate commitment to helping couples rebuild their relationships from crisis to connection. He specializes in helping couples and individuals affected by the trauma of sexual betrayal. He understands how exhilarating and stressful marriage can be and works hard at his own marriage. His goal is to show couples how his work will pay off in their own lives. Steurer specializes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, treating pornography and sexual addictions, infidelity, men's issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, and family therapy. He is the co-author of "Love You, Hate the Porn", creator of the "Trust Building Bootcamp", host of the podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and author of a weekly online Q&amp;A column.
Geoff Steurer Links: <a href="https://www.geoffsteurer.com/">https://www.geoffsteurer.com/</a> <a href="https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcast">https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcast</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT">https://www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/">https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/</a>
 Insights: Dave: Reach out, reach out for help and find someone you trust to speak with. Liz: Hope. There is so much to be hopeful about. Believe in marriage and look at the other side. Geoff: Learn to see the other person as someone who is different than you are.
 Invites:      - Learn how to stay close to your partner so you can find your way back to each other        when dealing with betrayal and trauma      - Don’t be afraid of the truth, your marriage can handle it      - Recognize that there are a lot of people who struggle with these things, do not feel        ashamed. Get help and know you are not alone.      - Take the 12 week self-guided online course if you have broken someone’s trust.
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 
More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.
The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

Stronger Marriage Connection

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 
More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.
The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

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