On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit
down with Dr. Bill Doherty, back from Season 1 due to popular demand, to share how we can all become marital first responders. A long time Marriage and Family Therapist, he is an expert on challenges couples face when navigating marital crisis.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Bill Doherty?
2:29 – Where the idea of marital first responders comes from
4:42 – First important step in being a first responder.
6:32 – Other Do’s and Don’ts
9:45 – We can be an influence
12:16 – Common complaints from marriages
15:26 – Perspective skill technique example
19:16 – Learning to protect boundaries
21:36 – Unforced error
24:12 – You can be a friend to someone and their marriage
30:33 – What to say without adding negativity
31:14 – Where to get more resources from Bill
32:55 – Takeaways



About Bill Doherty:

Bill Doherty is a Professor in the Department of Family Social Science at the University
of Minnesota. A long-time marriage and family therapist, he is an expert on challenges
couples face in the modern world, on navigating marital crisis and avoiding divorce, and
on using family rituals to enhance the quality of family life. His books for the public
include The Intentional Family and Take Back Your Marriage. In recent years Bill has
taken this couples work to the national level via cofounding Braver Angels, an initiative
working to decrease the political polarization that is dividing the country. Among his awards is the Lifetime Achievement Award from the American Family Therapy
Academy.



Insights:

Bill: Marriage is existing of social relationships and when people open up, it is a precious gift they are giving. It is good to be mindful and intentional in how we respond.

Dave: We can have empathy without agreeing with others perspectives, you can still show compassion and lend a helping hand even if we don’t necessarily agree with what they may be saying.

Liz: LEAP: Listen, empathy, affirm and positive perspective



Invites:

   •    Check out maritalfirstresponders.org and participate in some of the workshops available to you.

   •    When giving advice to friends it is important to be a good friend to that person but also their marriage, listen with empathy but don’t rush to give advice. Don’t jump to take a friend’s side without considering the whole picture.

   •    Use life experience when giving out advice, you may not be an expert but we all have experiences to take and learn from when helping others.



Bill Doherty Links:

https://thedohertyapproach.com/about/

Bill Doherty Books

https://memberium.com/



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On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit down with Dr. Bill Doherty, back from Season 1 due to popular demand, to share how we can all become marital first responders. A long time Marriage and Family Therapist, he is an expert on challenges couples face when navigating marital crisis.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Bill Doherty? 2:29 – Where the idea of marital first responders comes from 4:42 – First important step in being a first responder. 6:32 – Other Do’s and Don’ts 9:45 – We can be an influence 12:16 – Common complaints from marriages 15:26 – Perspective skill technique example 19:16 – Learning to protect boundaries 21:36 – Unforced error 24:12 – You can be a friend to someone and their marriage 30:33 – What to say without adding negativity 31:14 – Where to get more resources from Bill 32:55 – Takeaways
 
About Bill Doherty:
Bill Doherty is a Professor in the Department of Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota. A long-time marriage and family therapist, he is an expert on challenges couples face in the modern world, on navigating marital crisis and avoiding divorce, and on using family rituals to enhance the quality of family life. His books for the public include The Intentional Family and Take Back Your Marriage. In recent years Bill has taken this couples work to the national level via cofounding Braver Angels, an initiative working to decrease the political polarization that is dividing the country. Among his awards is the Lifetime Achievement Award from the American Family Therapy Academy.
 
Insights:
Bill: Marriage is existing of social relationships and when people open up, it is a precious gift they are giving. It is good to be mindful and intentional in how we respond.
Dave: We can have empathy without agreeing with others perspectives, you can still show compassion and lend a helping hand even if we don’t necessarily agree with what they may be saying.
Liz: LEAP: Listen, empathy, affirm and positive perspective
 
Invites:
   •    Check out maritalfirstresponders.org and participate in some of the workshops available to you.
   •    When giving advice to friends it is important to be a good friend to that person but also their marriage, listen with empathy but don’t rush to give advice. Don’t jump to take a friend’s side without considering the whole picture.
   •    Use life experience when giving out advice, you may not be an expert but we all have experiences to take and learn from when helping others.
 
Bill Doherty Links:
<a href="https://thedohertyapproach.com/about/">https://thedohertyapproach.com/about/</a>
<a href="https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&amp;rls=en&amp;q=bill+doherty+books&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;oe=UTF-8&amp;dlnr=1&amp;sei=WoLKZPDaHuW5kPIP9OmgkA0&amp;si=ACFMAn9jtsBh5jS1LZqlDz9_aAardL6y8_rsKHcaRRk5wEbTxp6dRwMVShG5cEI5FraBJArqUtaUsfW18qqhho8lJTZtxo2G8OXzqux8UTLvi-r_oeBtUGoz2p8ooBRyFvAkmVpf2XER&amp;ictx=1&amp;ved=2ahUKEwi664XesL6AAxV4h-4BHcvRBQkQw_oBegQIWRAC">Bill Doherty Books</a>
<a href="https://memberium.com/">https://memberium.com/</a>
 
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It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 
More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.
The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

Stronger Marriage Connection

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 
More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.
The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

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