Right now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Buglu Hold on tight, We got it for you. Here it is. It's a Strawberry Letter subject. I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. Dear Stephen Shirley, there is so much going on in my home. I've been with my husband for eighteen years and we've been married for four years. I have three children from a previous marriage, and we have a daughter together. My husband does not like my children and he talks about them constantly. My kids don't like him either, and after we got married, they moved out of the house. The daughter that I have with him was thirteen years old when we got married, and she told me that I should not marry her daddy. I questioned her, but she would not tell me why. When my husband is at home, he stays in our bedroom with the door closed and the TV is always on blast. When he's not in the bedroom or at work, he spends time at his mama's house. Recently, our daughter came to me and finally told me why I should not have married her dad. She says that he has a longtime girlfriend in Florida. She's met the woman at my husband's mother's house years ago. The girlfriend spends time at my mother in law's house when she's in town. My husband talks to our daughter about his mistress, and he never expected her to say anything to me. My other children know too, so I look like a fool. He has made all of our lives miserable for his own selfish gains. My daughter has no respect for her dad, and I had to tell her that all men are not dogs. My husband says that he's asked God for forgiveness for all his wrongdoings, but he is not going to stop seeing this woman. So now, okay, my husband says. My husband said that he's asked God for forgiveness for all his wrongdoings, but he's not going to stop seeing this woman. So now I'm on a mission to leave him and make him pay emotionally and financially for everything he has put me through. How do I heal from this? Well, that's a good start, making him pay, especially financially emotionally financially, however, you can make him pay, make him pay, but how do you heal from this? You ask I have one word from you for you, and that's forgiveness. He's asking God for forgiveness. Yeah, forgiveness. He's got to forgive him. He's asking God for forgiveness. But he hasn't asked you for forgiveness. Okay, what a horrible situation this is. You know, just so much going on. His mother is disrespectful by letting the woman come to her house and hang out with her. And it's just wrong for him to put your daughter, your young daughter, in the middle of all of this. I mean, how is she supposed to process all this grown folks, mess your marriage, your dad, seeing this other woman, him telling her about this other woman, all of this. I mean, she's too young to process all of this. Not good for your daughter. I mean it is going to taint her view of men, and I you know, it's good that you told her all men aren't dogs. Okay, you're right about the fact that he's selfish, that he only cares about himself, not to mention that he's inconsiderate and he's just playing stupid. I mean, so if he if he says he's not going to stop seeing this woman. Then you have to go on with your life. Okay, I have to tell you that you have to go on. But to get it started and heal from all of this, you gotta do something for yourself. You gotta forgive him. That's the starting point to get you to start living your own life. You gotta do it. I'm sorry, I mean, you know, I know you're hurt and all of that, But go ahead, forgive him. Don't give him any more of your precious time. Eighteen years is more than enough. Then and only then after you forgive him, can you really really truly move on with your life. Forgive him? That's what I say. Okay, Well, the subject is called I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. Let me just say, after reading this letter, I think you have done an excellent job or being a whole fool, And throughout the letter you have really shown me that you are a whole fool. See, if you're gonna do something, don't half do it. What is a half a fool? You might as well do it like you did all the way through this letter, be a whole fool. So let's just start right there. You've been with your husband eighteen years. We've been married for folk. You got three kids from a previous match. Y'all got one daughter together. Your husband don't like your kids. He talks about him, and your kids don't like him either. Damn, man, don't nobody like nobody in this his house. My kids don't like him me. Then after we got married, they moved out of the house where they go. You've been married four years, but you've been with him for eighteen. I don't know how your kids was. Damn, I don't they grown. They're gonna anyway. They're out the house. The daughter that you got with him is thirteen. Then when y'all got mad, she told you you shouldn't marry her daddy. Damn. Okay, now, let me get this right. All your kids didn't like him. All your kids moved out. Then the one baby y'all had together thirteen years old. By the time y'all got mad, she told me you shouldn't marry her daddy. Now, you're a nice lady, because everybody like you and won't what's the best for you? Everybody hates this food. You questioned her, but she wouldn't tell you why. When your husband at home here in the bed room with the dog clothes and the TV on blasts here and there, talking here and that talk. I have to agree with that. When he's not in the bedroom or at work, he spend time at his mama's house. Where we found out why he'd been at his mama's house in a damn show. Ain't calls it, Mama. Then your daughter came to you finally told you that you shouldn't have married her daddy because he got a long time girlfriend in Florida and she'd met a woman at your mama in law's house. The girlfriend spend time at the mother in law's house when she in town. She come to town a lot, but you say your husband always over there. I think she from Florida originally, but I think she'd moved up here and she come over to mama's house all the time. Because you say he always at his mama's house. I'm gonna tell you the rest of it when we come back, and you ain't gonna like it. Well, Steve, we'll get to part two of your response coming up at twenty three after the hour when we come back. A subject I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. You're listening show all right, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter. I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. Lady been married, been with this man eighteen years, married for they got She had three kids from previous marriage, though none of the kids like to do. They had one child together when they got married. All the kids moved out. The thirteen year old that you all got together. Your daughter finally told you you shouldn't marry my daddy. But ain't this day kid? But then she says to her mother, you shouldn't marry my daddy. She questioned about it. She never told him. Then she finally told him. He got a girlfriend that be at her grandmama's house, which is her mother in law's house, the baby's grandmother. Now he has been discussing the mistress with his daughter. Who do that? Who do that? Man? No, dog, I ain't never heard of that one right there, unless he was planning on leaving you was trying to get the girl to side up with it. Now, he said, after all this, he has asked God to forgive him, but he man this one right here for men, this did you tell this to your wife? I have asked God to forgive me, but I'm not gonna stop seeing her. Okay, so let me ask something dot, What what did you ask God to forgive you for? Because this don't make no damn sense. Don't if you asked God to forgive but then you tell your wife, but I'm not gonna stop seeing her? What did you ask God to forgive you? Fall? And then no way in this letter does he ask you to forgive him, because he can't ask you to forgive him because he'd told you before, whether you forgive me or not, I'm gonna not so I'm gonna not stop seeing her now. Shellyan told you that it is best for you to forgive him. You know, I understand where you're coming from, Shelly, but this is fresh. It's just happened. You gonna eventually have to forgive him and move on for your own benefit, like Shellley said, But not right now though. Yeah, we got we got some stuff we got to do. See, I don't know why Sherley tried to throw this Christianity out there first, like she ain't gonna kick and bus out of all his car winners and put him on face, put him on she tried to act like she didn't finish to do this right here, allegedly my ass. Now you're gonna make him pay. He's asked God to forgive it just a line. I can't get paid. I'm gonna ask God to forgive me, but I'm not gonna stop seeing. I'm gonna keep on doing this. Wow, this woman right him. You're in a position of a man who don't care nothing about you. And no, you've never been in the marriage. This man got busted cheating and instead of asking you for forgiveness, let's work it out. I'm sorry, he tells you. I don't ask God to forgive me, but I'm not fitting to stop seeing. You're not fine? Yeah, man, man, man, let me tell you something. I mean, dog, that's illogical. I don't care who you are. It ain't a man in here really can hit himself saying that now. So, lady, then you said you first before you leave him. So now I'm on a mission to leave him and make him pay emotionally and financially. Well, you can definitely get him financially, not emotional part. I need the ladiest to tell me what they what is? What are they gonna do to him? To make him pay emotion Shirley and Carlin. I just want Shirley and Carlin talking about I don't want to hear from nobody else. What are they gonna do to this man to make him emotionally pay. Let's get into the mind of women. Hell, have no fearing like a woman scoring. So some man hadn't done this to you? Fleep with one eye open, that's all I gotta say. Oh, don't close both of your eyes that night. Well, I'm you want what I would? Yeah, come over here we go. I'm pulling the Florida. Is that what a woman is? I'm going down to Florida and me and her, we're gonna have a conversation. Then we're gonna talk to him. You go, jim mamah. Yeah, she's right there. Now, let you see. You gotta get him emotionally because he said he's not gonna stop seeing her. So now you've got to really go in so really correct. I mean, if you're gonna do something to a down there, you're concerned about that. I mean, I'm just trying to figure out when they do get back together, she gonna look different. Well I might start cooking. Yeah wow, Yeah, she said she said, She said that you tell her that you go, I'm gonna stop seeing me, but she had shut both my eyes and now I can't see you. This is this is ugly man. This is ugly. This man cares nothing about you. Is now her? Now your daughter has no respect for her dad. He's the most selfish person I've ever seen. And then you're trying to tell your daughter that all men ain't dogs. My husband says that he's asked God for forgiveness for all his wrong doing. What he ain't gonna stop seeing it didn't get it at your because he loves her. All right, guys, we got to get out of here. You can post your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter. It's Steve Harvey FM, and check out our Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 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Right now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Buglu Hold on tight, We got it for you. Here it is. It's a Strawberry Letter subject. I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. Dear Stephen Shirley, there is so much going on in my home. I've been with my husband for eighteen years and we've been married for four years. I have three children from a previous marriage, and we have a daughter together. My husband does not like my children and he talks about them constantly. My kids don't like him either, and after we got married, they moved out of the house. The daughter that I have with him was thirteen years old when we got married, and she told me that I should not marry her daddy. I questioned her, but she would not tell me why. When my husband is at home, he stays in our bedroom with the door closed and the TV is always on blast. When he's not in the bedroom or at work, he spends time at his mama's house. Recently, our daughter came to me and finally told me why I should not have married her dad. She says that he has a longtime girlfriend in Florida. She's met the woman at my husband's mother's house years ago. The girlfriend spends time at my mother in law's house when she's in town. My husband talks to our daughter about his mistress, and he never expected her to say anything to me. My other children know too, so I look like a fool. He has made all of our lives miserable for his own selfish gains. My daughter has no respect for her dad, and I had to tell her that all men are not dogs. My husband says that he's asked God for forgiveness for all his wrongdoings, but he is not going to stop seeing this woman. So now, okay, my husband says. My husband said that he's asked God for forgiveness for all his wrongdoings, but he's not going to stop seeing this woman. So now I'm on a mission to leave him and make him pay emotionally and financially for everything he has put me through. How do I heal from this? Well, that's a good start, making him pay, especially financially emotionally financially, however, you can make him pay, make him pay, but how do you heal from this? You ask I have one word from you for you, and that's forgiveness. He's asking God for forgiveness. Yeah, forgiveness. He's got to forgive him. He's asking God for forgiveness. But he hasn't asked you for forgiveness. Okay, what a horrible situation this is. You know, just so much going on. His mother is disrespectful by letting the woman come to her house and hang out with her. And it's just wrong for him to put your daughter, your young daughter, in the middle of all of this. I mean, how is she supposed to process all this grown folks, mess your marriage, your dad, seeing this other woman, him telling her about this other woman, all of this. I mean, she's too young to process all of this. Not good for your daughter. I mean it is going to taint her view of men, and I you know, it's good that you told her all men aren't dogs. Okay, you're right about the fact that he's selfish, that he only cares about himself, not to mention that he's inconsiderate and he's just playing stupid. I mean, so if he if he says he's not going to stop seeing this woman. Then you have to go on with your life. Okay, I have to tell you that you have to go on. But to get it started and heal from all of this, you gotta do something for yourself. You gotta forgive him. That's the starting point to get you to start living your own life. You gotta do it. I'm sorry, I mean, you know, I know you're hurt and all of that, But go ahead, forgive him. Don't give him any more of your precious time. Eighteen years is more than enough. Then and only then after you forgive him, can you really really truly move on with your life. Forgive him? That's what I say. Okay, Well, the subject is called I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. Let me just say, after reading this letter, I think you have done an excellent job or being a whole fool, And throughout the letter you have really shown me that you are a whole fool. See, if you're gonna do something, don't half do it. What is a half a fool? You might as well do it like you did all the way through this letter, be a whole fool. So let's just start right there. You've been with your husband eighteen years. We've been married for folk. You got three kids from a previous match. Y'all got one daughter together. Your husband don't like your kids. He talks about him, and your kids don't like him either. Damn, man, don't nobody like nobody in this his house. My kids don't like him me. Then after we got married, they moved out of the house where they go. You've been married four years, but you've been with him for eighteen. I don't know how your kids was. Damn, I don't they grown. They're gonna anyway. They're out the house. The daughter that you got with him is thirteen. Then when y'all got mad, she told you you shouldn't marry her daddy. Damn. Okay, now, let me get this right. All your kids didn't like him. All your kids moved out. Then the one baby y'all had together thirteen years old. By the time y'all got mad, she told me you shouldn't marry her daddy. Now, you're a nice lady, because everybody like you and won't what's the best for you? Everybody hates this food. You questioned her, but she wouldn't tell you why. When your husband at home here in the bed room with the dog clothes and the TV on blasts here and there, talking here and that talk. I have to agree with that. When he's not in the bedroom or at work, he spend time at his mama's house. Where we found out why he'd been at his mama's house in a damn show. Ain't calls it, Mama. Then your daughter came to you finally told you that you shouldn't have married her daddy because he got a long time girlfriend in Florida and she'd met a woman at your mama in law's house. The girlfriend spend time at the mother in law's house when she in town. She come to town a lot, but you say your husband always over there. I think she from Florida originally, but I think she'd moved up here and she come over to mama's house all the time. Because you say he always at his mama's house. I'm gonna tell you the rest of it when we come back, and you ain't gonna like it. Well, Steve, we'll get to part two of your response coming up at twenty three after the hour when we come back. A subject I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. You're listening show all right, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter. I've been a whole fool for eighteen years. Lady been married, been with this man eighteen years, married for they got She had three kids from previous marriage, though none of the kids like to do. They had one child together when they got married. All the kids moved out. The thirteen year old that you all got together. Your daughter finally told you you shouldn't marry my daddy. But ain't this day kid? But then she says to her mother, you shouldn't marry my daddy. She questioned about it. She never told him. Then she finally told him. He got a girlfriend that be at her grandmama's house, which is her mother in law's house, the baby's grandmother. Now he has been discussing the mistress with his daughter. Who do that? Who do that? Man? No, dog, I ain't never heard of that one right there, unless he was planning on leaving you was trying to get the girl to side up with it. Now, he said, after all this, he has asked God to forgive him, but he man this one right here for men, this did you tell this to your wife? I have asked God to forgive me, but I'm not gonna stop seeing her. Okay, so let me ask something dot, What what did you ask God to forgive you for? Because this don't make no damn sense. Don't if you asked God to forgive but then you tell your wife, but I'm not gonna stop seeing her? What did you ask God to forgive you? Fall? And then no way in this letter does he ask you to forgive him, because he can't ask you to forgive him because he'd told you before, whether you forgive me or not, I'm gonna not so I'm gonna not stop seeing her now. Shellyan told you that it is best for you to forgive him. You know, I understand where you're coming from, Shelly, but this is fresh. It's just happened. You gonna eventually have to forgive him and move on for your own benefit, like Shellley said, But not right now though. Yeah, we got we got some stuff we got to do. See, I don't know why Sherley tried to throw this Christianity out there first, like she ain't gonna kick and bus out of all his car winners and put him on face, put him on she tried to act like she didn't finish to do this right here, allegedly my ass. Now you're gonna make him pay. He's asked God to forgive it just a line. I can't get paid. I'm gonna ask God to forgive me, but I'm not gonna stop seeing. I'm gonna keep on doing this. Wow, this woman right him. You're in a position of a man who don't care nothing about you. And no, you've never been in the marriage. This man got busted cheating and instead of asking you for forgiveness, let's work it out. I'm sorry, he tells you. I don't ask God to forgive me, but I'm not fitting to stop seeing. You're not fine? Yeah, man, man, man, let me tell you something. I mean, dog, that's illogical. I don't care who you are. It ain't a man in here really can hit himself saying that now. So, lady, then you said you first before you leave him. So now I'm on a mission to leave him and make him pay emotionally and financially. Well, you can definitely get him financially, not emotional part. I need the ladiest to tell me what they what is? What are they gonna do to him? To make him pay emotion Shirley and Carlin. I just want Shirley and Carlin talking about I don't want to hear from nobody else. What are they gonna do to this man to make him emotionally pay. Let's get into the mind of women. Hell, have no fearing like a woman scoring. So some man hadn't done this to you? Fleep with one eye open, that's all I gotta say. Oh, don't close both of your eyes that night. Well, I'm you want what I would? Yeah, come over here we go. I'm pulling the Florida. Is that what a woman is? I'm going down to Florida and me and her, we're gonna have a conversation. Then we're gonna talk to him. You go, jim mamah. Yeah, she's right there. Now, let you see. You gotta get him emotionally because he said he's not gonna stop seeing her. So now you've got to really go in so really correct. I mean, if you're gonna do something to a down there, you're concerned about that. I mean, I'm just trying to figure out when they do get back together, she gonna look different. Well I might start cooking. Yeah wow, Yeah, she said she said, She said that you tell her that you go, I'm gonna stop seeing me, but she had shut both my eyes and now I can't see you. This is this is ugly man. This is ugly. This man cares nothing about you. Is now her? Now your daughter has no respect for her dad. He's the most selfish person I've ever seen. And then you're trying to tell your daughter that all men ain't dogs. My husband says that he's asked God for forgiveness for all his wrong doing. What he ain't gonna stop seeing it didn't get it at your because he loves her. All right, guys, we got to get out of here. You can post your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter. It's Steve Harvey FM, and check out our Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Okay, our Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You can hear today's letter. You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show