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Subject Her husband is better than mine. Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have been together for eleven years total and married for eight. My older sister has been married for fifteen years, and her husband is like a big brother and mentor for my husband. My sister and her husband have always done great financially, and when I got married, my sister bought my dress and paid for my glam team. She's always been the one to take care of my parents as well, struggling through graduate school, and then I got pregnant before I got married, so my sister and brother in law stepped in to help us out with the baby because the goal was for me to finish school and for my husband to finish medical school. We have always been appreciative of the help, but along the way we tried not to become a burden. After we got married, we got a loan for home improvement, and my husband decided to chip in and help my sister and brother in law with redoing their outdoor kitchen. My husband and I bought a very expensive grill and smoker for them. Instead of being grateful, my brother in law was offended and said he couldn't accept the gift. From then on, our relationship turned into a competition. My sister and I aren't as close as we once were because she told me that her husband is better than mine. Things were fine and dandy as long as we were needy, but now my husband is one of the most respected doctors in our area and she can't take it. When I got my new car, when I got a new car, she got a new car, more expensive car. I got breast in plants, so did she. Both of our husbands are successful and great fathers, so why can't she be happy for us? Should I even try to repair our relationship?
Wow.
I just think, pure and simple, this is nothing but jealousy and hateration from your sister and her husband. I mean, I think you're exactly right. They were fine and you guys were the needy ones, and now that you're doing well, they just can't take it. I think it was nice gesture of your husband to help them with their outside kitchen and to buy them those you know, the expensive smoker and all the cooking equipment and stuff.
I just don't think they can take it now.
It's killing them that you guys, you know, are doing well, your husband is respected and the community and everything, and that just doesn't seem to sit well with them. I mean, it's sad, sister, it's family. You would think, like you said, she would be happy for you and understand that you were struggling, but now you're not. And you guys are grateful for their support and you wanted to pay them back in some way, and of course you know you asked should you try to repair your relationship and that would be nice and you know, because she is your sister, But I don't know. I mean, they're so green with envy right now. I mean, you get breast in plants, she gets breast in plants. Okay, who does that? At least not without a conversation.
You like them? Sis? Are they okay? Are they big enough? Did you you know all of that?
You know that could have been a conversation between the two sisters, but no, she made it into a conversation. So I say, you know you can try because she is your sister, but don't be surprised if she stays right there in her hate space.
Steve Well, I really don't understand this letter. I really don't. It don't really seem like that bigger deal to me. I go through it and see you where I so swear I see the problem just Stephen Shirley. The subject is her husband better than mine. My husband and I have been together eleven years, married for eight. My older sister been married fifteen husband like a big brother minute to my husband. You know, my sister bought my dress from a wedding and paid from a glam team. She always took care of parents and stuff. I was struggling through graduate school and then I got pregnant before I got married. So your sister and your brother in law stepped in to help us out with the baby. Because gold was for me to finish school and for my husband finished medical school. We've always been appreciative of the help, and along the way we tried not to become a burden. And after we got married, we got a loan for home improvements, and my husband decided he was now here was what the letter about. My husband decided to chip in and help my sister and brother in law with redoing their outdoor kitchen. My husband and I bought a very expensive grill and smoker for them. Instead of being grateful, my brother in law was offended and said he couldn't accept the gift. From then on, our relationship turned into a competition.
Well, I see right here. I don't understand problem.
I buy you an explicit grill and the ultimate smoker for your new outdoor kitchen, and you turn it down.
But guess what.
My outdoor kitchen gonna be banging? Yeah, no problem. Plus, you took some of your home improvement money. Anyway, might well improve your home, you know time. You know, I'll put me out though kitchen out there and it'd be nice then, you know, she said, My sister and I ain't as close because the whole relationship turned to a competition. And then she once told you that her husband is better than mine, Well see why your husband might have been doing better than mine or while back.
But we can callt y'all. We in a game.
Now you up, We will got, We got you won't, We won't. You bought, we bought. But it to turn into a combination a competition. She wants to know. At the end of the lettership, I try to repair our relationship, and I'm gonna tell you how I think you can finally put a stop to this when we come back.
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Well, uh, lady got an older sister, been married longer than her her and her husband was in.
Medical school and graduate school.
And had a baby before they got married, and their sister and brother in law helped out. Everything seemed to be normal. That's what families do, you know, everything They try not to be a burden to them. But her oldest sist always been the one to help her parents out and everything. Finally, you and your husband got married and you got a loan for home improvement, and your husband decided to chip in and help your sister and his brother in law, who's done so much for them, with redoing their outdoor kitchen. So your husband and you went and bought this expensive grill and a smoker, and instead of being grateful, the brother in law was offended and said he couldn't accept the gift. From then on, our relationship turned into a competition. My sister and I are and as close as we weren't worried because she told me her husband is better than mine. Well, let's see she said that for a while. You know, they were doing better than you all. You know, but my husband is better than yours. You know, I'm not a ready bought y'all. This grill and this smoker you didn't want, which means I've been had a ball of backyard out though barbecue now, thank you, and.
So let's just move along.
But here's things got a little different though, and things so what's finding dandy? As long as we were needed, But now my husband is one of the most respected doctors in.
Our area, and she can't take it.
When I got a new car, she got a new and more expensive car.
I got breasting plants, she did.
Both our husbands are successful in great father, so why can't she be happy for us? She'd even try to repair relationship. I don't know if this needs repairing. It don't seem like that bigger deal than me. But if you want to put a stop to it and have some suggestions for you, you said when you got a new car, she got a new more expensive car. Well, you know what your next movie is, don't you. You got to go buy a more expensive car than the one she bought.
Naw, let's see what she go with this.
Oh, since we up in each other, you got to go buy our car and more expensive than the one she bought.
And see what she do.
Then you ought to call up your sister and say, hey, look remember that best breast and plants I got and you wouldn't got some. I'm going back down now and I'm gonna go with I'm gonna put it. I'm gonna get an extra d I'm gonna I'm gonna go get it. I'm I'm gonna get double d's this time.
Yeah.
Now, let's see if she wants to try to get an eve. See, I don't know. I'll tell you what. She ain't gonna be able to cool coffee if you messing with me, because I have a breast right up under her throat. They'll be so big. But you wanna be able to see your food you eating on the table. Yeah, I'm for all this help, but in all seriousness, you know, let's look at this the right way. It's a competition thing. So what some people can't take them when you do better. Some people like it when when they doing better than you, the underdogs. Some people just don't like to see you up. Even that's a sad person right there, and it's really nothing you can do for them. But if that's her objective, it's to keep you under her. The best thing you could do is just keep winning. I don't know how to repair that. I don't know how you go to your sister, your relatively and say, look, I don't want to compete.
With you, but we're doing okay. Now.
It's really I don't really see how what it is what y'all think, because I don't really know.
I don't care.
I mean, like I said, she can try that because she is family, but I don't think it's going to do any good. The sister's probably just going to stay where she is because she It gave her something to be able to provide for the family and be the one that everybody came to. You know what I'm saying everyone She provided for her family, for her parents and everything.
So she liked that position and that feeling.
And now, well, what us sister to do is don't get some new friend.
You you can find you listen to me, you can find somebody got mold than you. Trust me, you can let me tell you something. Don't go out here trying to get in the competition where who got the most, because you're gonna be in the world of trouble out here in this world right here, man, I don't care where you go.
Somebody can show you something.
But you know, man, I saw a meeting where a group of people was laughing at Jeff Bezo's money, laughing out love.
And he's supposed to be the rich man in the world. Right Wow, he's not.
But that's I've been. I've been to me where they was laughing at him. I saw it.
But everybody can be great. That's room for everybody to be great. What's the competition about life?
But there are some people who make their greatness based on the least of other people, if that makes sense. Some people make their greatness based on the group they end and if they're doing better than everybody in they group, then.
That's their greatness. And that's a sad way to live. And that's the truly sad way to live.
That's not cool at all. That's sad.
That's sad.
Man.
When you're making your greatness be on the backs of others who have less, that ain't nothing right there. That's like being the richest richest person in the projects, and ain't we all steal in the projects, don't talk.
Right and help get them out.
It's such a great feeling when you can pay someone back who's helped you.
I mean, come on anyway, all right?
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