Do you know those people who move through life without ever seeming to be in a rush? They have full-time jobs, kids, a house, places to be... and somehow they never seem overwhelmed. As a hot mess myself, it got me thinking: what are they actually doing differently?

I run a planning business and I've spent most of my adult life feeling like I'm running behind. For years I thought the answer was to get more organised, more disciplined, up earlier. But you can have a beautifully organised calendar and still feel completely overwhelmed by everything that's in it. So I looked into the psychology of overwhelm and found 7 habits that calm people share.

This episode is for you if:
Everyone else seems to have it together and you're constantly chasing your tail
You tick off every single thing on your to-do list and still finish the day feeling like you achieved nothing
You're exhausted on the days that, on paper, weren't even that busy
You're constantly deciding you need a whole new routine, starting Monday
The silly season is already coming at you like a freight train

In this episode, you'll learn:
The 7 habits of people who rarely get overwhelmed
Why we're so wildly optimistic about what fits in a day (it's called the planning fallacy) and how to plan for your actual capacity
Why you don't need to fill every spare minute, and what "time affluence" has to do with feeling rushed
Why we've started confusing responsiveness with reliability
How you can be a good friend, partner, sister or mother without being constantly available
How a study on checking email three times a day changed how I tackle my inbox (and lowered my stress)
Why having the time to do something isn't the same as having the capacity for it
How to build a bare minimum version of your routines
What a study of 53,000 people found about what time management is really for
Why just because you could, doesn't mean you should

And tell me: what's your "I'll just quickly..."? (Mine is Kmart. It has never once been quick.)

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What should you listen to next?

Turning 36: 6 Life Lessons + 6 Hacks I Wish I Knew Sooner

Automate Your Life: 7 Things I Never Have To Think About Again

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Follow Stephing Up

I'm Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that's messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn't go to plan. We'll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.

New episodes drop every Monday morning.

So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we're Stephing Up together.

If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more women.

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Steph Pase on YouTube: @stephpase

Shop Planners + Organisation: Steph Pase Planners

Shop Steph's book "Mastering My Messy Life": Penguin Books Australia

Steph's Amazon Storefront: Shop my favourites

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Do you know those people who move through life without ever seeming to be in a rush? They have full-time jobs, kids, a house, places to be... and somehow they never seem overwhelmed. As a hot mess myself, it got me thinking: what are they actually doing differently?
I run a planning business and I've spent most of my adult life feeling like I'm running behind. For years I thought the answer was to get more organised, more disciplined, up earlier. But you can have a beautifully organised calendar and still feel completely overwhelmed by everything that's in it. So I looked into the psychology of overwhelm and found 7 habits that calm people share.
This episode is for you if:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Everyone else seems to have it together and you're constantly chasing your tail</li>
<li aria-level="1">You tick off every single thing on your to-do list and still finish the day feeling like you achieved nothing</li>
<li aria-level="1">You're exhausted on the days that, on paper, weren't even that busy</li>
<li aria-level="1">You're constantly deciding you need a whole new routine, starting Monday</li>
<li aria-level="1">The silly season is already coming at you like a freight train</li>
</ul>
In this episode, you'll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The 7 habits of people who rarely get overwhelmed</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why we're so wildly optimistic about what fits in a day (it's called the planning fallacy) and how to plan for your actual capacity</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why you don't need to fill every spare minute, and what "time affluence" has to do with feeling rushed</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why we've started confusing responsiveness with reliability</li>
<li aria-level="1">How you can be a good friend, partner, sister or mother without being constantly available</li>
<li aria-level="1">How a study on checking email three times a day changed how I tackle my inbox (and lowered my stress)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why having the time to do something isn't the same as having the capacity for it</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to build a bare minimum version of your routines</li>
<li aria-level="1">What a study of 53,000 people found about what time management is really for</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why just because you could, doesn't mean you should</li>
</ul>
And tell me: what's your "I'll just quickly..."? (Mine is Kmart. It has never once been quick.)
&hellip;
What should you listen to next?
<a href="https://omny.fm/shows/stephing-up/turning-36-6-life-lessons-6-hacks-i-wish-i-knew-sooner">Turning 36: 6 Life Lessons + 6 Hacks I Wish I Knew Sooner</a>
<a href="https://omny.fm/shows/stephing-up/things-i-refuse-to-do-manually-anymore-easy-ways-to-automate-your-life">Automate Your Life: 7 Things I Never Have To Think About Again</a>
&hellip;
Follow Stephing Up
I'm Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that's messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn't go to plan. We'll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.
New episodes drop every Monday morning.
So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we're Stephing Up together.
If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more women.
&hellip;
Let's Hang:
Stephing Up on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephing.up">@stephing.up</a>
Steph Pase on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephpase_">@stephpase_</a>
Steph Pase on YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@StephPase">@stephpase</a>
Shop Planners + Organisation: <a href="https://www.stephpaseplanners.com.au/">Steph Pase Planners</a>
Shop Steph's book "Mastering My Messy Life": <a href="https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256">Penguin Books Australia</a>
Steph's Amazon Storefront: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/justanothermummyblog/list/17TTU785IMM53">Shop my favourites</a>
As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

Hey legend, welcome to Stephing Up. 

Have you ever felt that everyone got a manual for life, and yours is from Temu and it smells funny? Me too.

I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised best friend in your ears. 

This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan.

We’ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself. 

This podcast isn't for people with an alarm clock built into their brain, it's for the messy minds of the world. Because spoiler alert, you might know me for my organisation tips and tricks… but I’m actually a hot mess. 

So if you’re feeling behind, burnt out and like you’re barely holding it together, this is the place for you. 

New episodes drop every Monday morning.
So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones.
Because we’re Stephing Up together.

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LINKS:

Stephing Up on Instagram: @stephing.up   

Steph Pase on Instagram:  @stephpase_  

Steph Pase on Youtube:  @stephpase.   

Shop Planners + Organisation: Steph Pase Planners   

Shop Steph’s book “Mastering my Messy Life”:    Penguin Books Australia https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256 

Hey legend, welcome to Stephing Up.&nbsp;
Have you ever felt that everyone got a manual for life, and yours is from Temu and it smells funny? Me too.
I&rsquo;m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised best friend in your ears.&nbsp;
This podcast is about growth that&rsquo;s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn&rsquo;t go to plan.
We&rsquo;ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.&nbsp;
This podcast isn't for people with an alarm clock built into their brain, it's for the messy minds of the world. Because spoiler alert, you might know me for my organisation tips and tricks&hellip; but I&rsquo;m actually a hot mess.&nbsp;
So if you&rsquo;re feeling behind, burnt out and like you&rsquo;re barely holding it together, this is the place for you.&nbsp;
New episodes drop every Monday morning. So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we&rsquo;re Stephing Up together.
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LINKS:
Stephing Up on Instagram: <a href="http://stephing.up">@stephing.up</a>&nbsp; &nbsp;
Steph Pase on Instagram:&nbsp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephpase_">@stephpase_ </a>&nbsp;
Steph Pase on Youtube:&nbsp; <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@StephPase.">@stephpase. </a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
Shop Planners + Organisation: <a href="https://www.stephpaseplanners.com.au/">Steph Pase Planners </a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
Shop Steph&rsquo;s book &ldquo;Mastering my Messy Life&rdquo;:&nbsp; &nbsp; <a href="https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256">Penguin Books Australia </a><a href="https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256">https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256</a>&nbsp;

Have you ever felt that everyone got a manual for life, and yours is from Temu and it smells funny? Me too.  I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised best friend in your ears.   This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan.

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7 Habits of People Who Never Seem to Get Overwhelmed

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