About the Guest

Colleen Hirst is an accomplished psychologist and family therapist affiliated with Merrylands Counselling. With a rich professional history in psychology and therapy, Colleen specialises in helping individuals understand and break negative relationship patterns. She is proficient in applying various therapeutic models and theories, such as attachment theory and John Gottman's methods, to enhance relationship dynamics and promote personal growth. Her insights are particularly valuable for developing secure attachments and improving interpersonal connections.

Key Takeaways:
Understanding Patterns: Each individual has emotional blueprints shaped by upbringing and life experiences that govern relationship behaviors and attachment styles.
Importance of Self-awareness: Identifying negative patterns is crucial; individuals must recognise their contributions to relationship dynamics to effect change.
John Gottman's Principles: The Four Horsemen model provides insights into destructive relationship behaviors, underscoring the need to replace criticism with soft startups and stonewalling with self-soothing techniques.
Connection Over Communication: True relationship resilience is built on connection and shared meaning, not just communication skills or conflict resolution.
Therapeutic Interventions: Even entrenched patterns can be altered with intentional actions, as therapy can provide a framework for developing more positive interaction cycles.

Notable Quotes:
"We are all patterns, all of us. We've all got these internal working models for how we emotionally connect." — Colleen Hirst
"Good communication is a fantastic and vital skill, but when we lose connection, that's when the conflict comes." — Colleen Hirst
"Every time we say no to our automatic pilot, we're starting to change the internal script." — Colleen Hirst
"My top tip is connection… How can we build this relationship because I want a future with you?" — Colleen Hirst
"The main thing is not about active listening; it's about being there for your partner." — Colleen Hirst

Resources:
Maryland's Counselling: Merrylands Counselling Psychology Practice (Gaining additional insights and support)
John Gottman: Various models discussed, including the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and the Sound Relationship House Model.
Attachment Theory: Explored in relation to early life experiences affecting adult relationships.

 

About the Guest
Colleen Hirst is an accomplished psychologist and family therapist affiliated with Merrylands Counselling. With a rich professional history in psychology and therapy, Colleen specialises in helping individuals understand and break negative relationship patterns. She is proficient in applying various therapeutic models and theories, such as attachment theory and John Gottman's methods, to enhance relationship dynamics and promote personal growth. Her insights are particularly valuable for developing secure attachments and improving interpersonal connections.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>Understanding Patterns: Each individual has emotional blueprints shaped by upbringing and life experiences that govern relationship behaviors and attachment styles.</li>
<li>Importance of Self-awareness: Identifying negative patterns is crucial; individuals must recognise their contributions to relationship dynamics to effect change.</li>
<li>John Gottman's Principles: The Four Horsemen model provides insights into destructive relationship behaviors, underscoring the need to replace criticism with soft startups and stonewalling with self-soothing techniques.</li>
<li>Connection Over Communication: True relationship resilience is built on connection and shared meaning, not just communication skills or conflict resolution.</li>
<li>Therapeutic Interventions: Even entrenched patterns can be altered with intentional actions, as therapy can provide a framework for developing more positive interaction cycles.</li>
</ul>
Notable Quotes:
<ol>
<li>"We are all patterns, all of us. We've all got these internal working models for how we emotionally connect." &mdash; Colleen Hirst</li>
<li>"Good communication is a fantastic and vital skill, but when we lose connection, that's when the conflict comes." &mdash; Colleen Hirst</li>
<li>"Every time we say no to our automatic pilot, we're starting to change the internal script." &mdash; Colleen Hirst</li>
<li>"My top tip is connection&hellip; How can we build this relationship because I want a future with you?" &mdash; Colleen Hirst</li>
<li>"The main thing is not about active listening; it's about being there for your partner." &mdash; Colleen Hirst</li>
</ol>
Resources:
<ul>
<li>Maryland's Counselling: <a href="https://www.merrylandscounselling.com.au/">Merrylands Counselling Psychology Practice</a> (Gaining additional insights and support)</li>
<li>John Gottman: Various models discussed, including the <a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/">Four Horsemen</a> of the Apocalypse and the <a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/">Sound Relationship House Model</a>.</li>
<li><a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/attachment-style-influences-success-relationship/">Attachment Theory</a>: Explored in relation to early life experiences affecting adult relationships.</li>
</ul>
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She Wasn’t Born Yesterday tackles the many unique issues affecting women who are 40+ fabulous.

“Nothing’s off limits and we dive headfirst into topics from homelessness to women using porn, true crime obsession and life after divorce and DV,” says Janet. “We think women (and hopefully guys too) will resonate. 

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday is available on the Hope 103.2 app and major podcast platforms.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday tackles the many unique issues affecting women who are 40+ fabulous.
“Nothing’s off limits and we dive headfirst into topics from homelessness to women using porn, true crime obsession and life after divorce and DV,” says Janet. “We think women (and hopefully guys too) will resonate. 
She Wasn’t Born Yesterday is available on the <a href="https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps">Hope 103.2 app</a> and major podcast platforms.
Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at <a href="http://www.hopepodcasts.com.au/">hopepodcasts.com.au</a>. And send the team a message via <a href="https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps">Hope 103.2’s app</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Hope103.2">Facebook</a> or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sydneyshope1032/">Instagram</a>.

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday tackles the many unique issues affecting women who are 40+ fabulous. No topic is too controversial!

She Wasn't Born Yesterday

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SWBY features Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Jenni Woodhouse, a semi retired social worker. A chance interview on radio station Hope 103.2 about the book inspired the podcast.

“So many unique issues affect women of our age, including empty nest syndrome, and nothing’s off limits in SWBY! We really dive headfirst into them, but hopefully with lightness and relevant wit where possible,” Janet commented. “We were incredibly lucky to chat to some very high profile guests, including CEOs of important organisations, who shared their expertise with us and our audience.”

 

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

How do you deal with the &lsquo;pause&rsquo;? How do you know you&rsquo;re dating someone with a narcissistic personality disorder? How do you move on from divorce? Behind the scenes of a 40+ influencer and how to reverse the aging process, are just a few topics tackled.
SWBY features Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Jenni Woodhouse, a semi retired social worker. A chance interview on radio station Hope 103.2 about the book inspired the podcast.
&ldquo;So many unique issues affect women of our age, including empty nest syndrome, and nothing&rsquo;s off limits in SWBY! We really dive headfirst into them, but hopefully with lightness and relevant wit where possible,&rdquo; Janet commented. &ldquo;We were incredibly lucky to chat to some very high profile guests, including CEOs of important organisations, who shared their expertise with us and our audience.&rdquo;
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Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2&rsquo;s app, Facebook or Instagram.