About the Guest: Dr. Naras Lapsys is a distinguished dietitian and nutritionist based in Singapore. He began his career as a research scientist, obtaining his PhD in metabolic health from Adelaide, and worked extensively in metabolic diseases such as diabetes. After ten years in academia, he pivoted to nutrition, earning a master’s degree in nutrition and dietetics. For the past two decades, Dr. Lapsys has run a nutrition consultancy and focused substantially on longevity medicine over the last eight years. Episode Summary: In this episode of She Wasn't Born Yesterday, where Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines delve into the myriad ways our relationship with food changes as we age, especially for women over 40. They're joined by Dr. Naras Lapsys, an expert dietitian and nutritionist based in Singapore. Dr. Lapsys shares insights from his expansive career and focus on metabolic health, making this episode a must-listen for those looking to adapt their diets and lifestyles for optimal health as they age. Dr. Naras Lapsys discusses various trending diets, including intermittent fasting and the keto diet, and their implications for women over 40. Buzz words such as "nutrition for women over 40," "metabolic health," and "diet trends" frame the discussion, offering valuable insight into the benefits and potential pitfalls of popular dieting approaches. Dr. Lapsys emphasizes the importance of individualized nutrition strategies and touches on how factors like stress, medication, and aging affect metabolic health. Whether you're curious about the science behind these diets or looking for practical advice on maintaining a healthy diet as you age, this episode covers essential ground. Key Takeaways: Individualized Nutrition: Personalized dietary strategies are crucial for addressing unique health needs and achieving optimal results. Impact of Aging on Metabolism: As we age, factors such as decreased physical activity, hormone changes, and stress can affect our metabolism and require dietary adjustments. Popular Diet Trends: Intermittent fasting, the keto diet, and other trending diets have their benefits and drawbacks, and their effectiveness can vary based on individual health conditions. Nutrient Considerations for Women Over 40: Dr. Lapsys highlights the importance of key nutrients such as calcium, vitamin D, iron, and omega-3s in managing health for women over 40. Holistic Health Approaches: Managing diet, exercise, stress, sleep, and other lifestyle factors collectively contribute to better health outcomes. Notable Quotes: "As we get older, we tend not to move as much, and this can affect our metabolism and overall health." "Every couple of years, there's always a new diet trend, whether it's intermittent fasting or keto, but what's important is finding what works best for you." "Think of it as levers that we have access to—diet, exercise, medications, sleep—and we need to adjust them to achieve our health goals." "There are certainly certain nutritional needs and considerations that change as women reach and surpass the age of 40, including calcium and vitamin D for bone health." "It's essential to periodically review our health strategies to adapt to our changing bodies and lifestyles." Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

HEADSUP!!! Episode Release this Thursday: Are Fad Diets Bad Diets with Dr. Naras Lapsys In this pre-episode chat of SWBY, hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans deep dives into the world of dietary science with special guest, Dr. Naras Lapsys, a recognized expert in molecular genetics and nutrition. Dr. Lapsys brings his extensive background to the discussion, breaking down the complexities of fad diets, bad diets, and the optimum nutrition strategies for those fabulous 40-plus years. Janet and Amelia lead an insightful conversation covering popular diets like the Israeli army diet, intermittent fasting, and the 5:2 diet. They explore why certain dietary strategies work and how to incorporate scientifically backed eating habits into daily life.  Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

About the Guest: Margaret Hodgkinson is a dedicated mum, grandma, and teacher currently balancing her life while caring for her ageing mother. She has recently navigated the intricate and often frustrating system of aged care in New South Wales, Australia. Her journey through dealing with health, legal, and financial challenges of elder care provides her with unique perspectives and wisdom invaluable to those facing similar situations. Key Takeaways: Initiate Early Conversations: Start discussing aged care plans with your parents well before it becomes a critical need for easier transitions. Understand Legalities: Learn about NCAT, enduring power of attorney, and other legal instruments crucial for managing elderly care. Leverage Support Networks: Utilize available services like social workers, community seminars, and a trusted solicitor to navigate the system smoothly. Maintain Mental Health: Caregivers need to ensure they look after their well-being through emotional support and time management. Proactive Financial Planning: Organize finances early on, including understanding pensions, assets assessments, and planning for aged care costs. Notable Quotes: "It's only a natural reaction. Yes, they were managing on a day-to-day basis, but I was becoming more concerned..." "You've either die young or get old. So what's your option? They're your options, basically."  "I enjoy seeing my kids and grandkids going for a walk, especially in the bush."  "It is really hurtful because you're wanting the best for them and yet they're treating every decision you make with intense suspicion." Resources: NSW Civil and Administrative Tribunal Anglicare Sydney - Retirement Living, Home Care and Residential Aged Care | Anglicare Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

HEADSUP!!! Episode Release this Thursday: Caring for Aging Parents with Margaret Hodgkinson In this pre-episode chat of SWBY, hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans delve into the intricate challenges faced by the "sandwich generation"—those balancing the demanding roles of caring for both their growing children and aging parents. The discussion brings light to the unique stresses and emotional toll this dual caregiving responsibility can impose, all while navigating complicated healthcare systems and family dynamics. Navigating Dual Caregiving Challenges Adults in their 40s and beyond often find themselves juggling the responsibilities of guiding their young or teenage children and caring for their elderly parents. Hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines introduce the concept of the "sandwich generation," discussing the emotional complexities and societal pressures tied to this situation. They recount personal stories and examine broader societal implications, making this episode a must-listen for anyone in this caregiving sandwich. Listeners will gain insights into how aging parents' vulnerabilities reveal new facets of family relationships and dynamics. Healthcare and Family Dynamics The maze of navigating healthcare systems for the elderly can be daunting, even for professionals like Dr. Haines. She shares her experiences and frustrations with the convoluted processes. Janet and Amelia also discuss the differing opinions within families on how best to care for aging parents, which can sometimes lead to conflict. They explore how retirement villages, nursing homes, and the often resistant attitudes of elderly parents add more layers to the already challenging scenarios faced by families today. Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines delve into the world of dating over 40, discussing the pros and cons of popular dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and CougarD. They explore issues of safety, the time-consuming nature of app-based dating, and red flags to watch out for, such as punctuality and financial requests. The episode also touches on STIs, compatibility factors, and the importance of yielding in relationships. With plenty of anecdotes, Janet and Amelia provide a candid look at navigating the dating scene as an older woman. Key Takeaways: Evolution of Dating Apps: From match.com to niche applications like Sizzl and TinDog, the world of online dating has significantly diversified, offering both opportunities and challenges for mature women. Time Consumption: Dating apps, while useful, are often time-consuming and demand a lot of effort, emphasizing the importance of balancing online and offline dating methods. Safety in Dating: Always prioritize your safety, meet in public places, and consider a background check if necessary. Be aware of red flags such as suspicious financial requests. Yielding in Relationships: Successful relationships often require a degree of yielding from both parties, allowing for flexibility and compromise without sacrificing personal boundaries. The Role of Compatibility: Ensuring compatibility, whether regarding energy levels or shared interests, is vital for lasting connections. Notable Quotes: “Meeting people who know friends of yours, that's a very good way of meeting people.” – Dr. Amelia Haines “Dating apps are very time-consuming and very slow.” – Dr. Amelia Haines “You need to yield a little bit. I'm not saying have no boundaries, but just yield that little bit.” – Dr. Amelia Haines “People need to be aware that people aren't always 100% what they present themselves as being.” – Dr. Amelia Haines “It's a numbers game. It's a case of meeting as many people as possible.” – Dr. Amelia Haines Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

HEADSUP!!! Episode Release this Thursday: Online Dating When You're 40+ With The Empty Nest Chicks! In this pre-episode chat of SWBY, hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans tackle the intricacies of online dating for the 40+ fabulous crowd. Whether you’re a veteran swiper or new to the dating app scene, this episode provides an engaging and thought-provoking exploration of modern matchmaking. In this episode, Janet and Amelia delve into the world of dating apps, offering nuanced discussions about the pros and cons of such platforms. They ponder the efficacy of swiping left or right and share mixed reviews from various dating app users. Janet brings her advertising creativity to the table, while Dr. Amelia provides medical and psychological perspectives. Together, they navigate the complexities of online dating, from humorous anecdotes about niche dating apps to real-life implications for those over 40 seeking love or companionship. Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

About the Guests: Jenny Woodhouse is a Pastoral Care Coordinator with the Church Missionary Society of New South Wales and ACT. She was formerly a chaplain of the Sydney Anglican Churches Professional Standards Unit. Jenny brings a wealth of experience in dealing with sensitive and complex issues, offering invaluable support to individuals experiencing challenging situations in their personal lives. Justine O'Malley is a social worker and counsellor with over 30 years of experience working with children and young people, specializing in supporting their social and emotional development. Her expertise particularly focuses on children aged three to 13 years. Justine has dedicated her career to helping vulnerable children navigate and heal from domestic violence and related traumas. Key Takeaways: Prevalence and Forms of Domestic Violence: Domestic violence isn't just physical; it includes emotional, psychological abuse, and coercive control. Impact on Children: Almost 40% of Australian children experience domestic violence, leading to long-term emotional and psychological consequences. Support Mechanisms: Victims often need multiple attempts to leave their abusers due to psychological manipulation and financial control. Societal Responsibility: Education on healthy relationships and gender equality is crucial for both prevention and intervention. Resources and Community Support: Friends, family, and community support systems play a pivotal role in aiding victims and encouraging them to seek help. Notable Quotes: "Violence, I think, conjures up for us the sense of physical violence, whereas domestic abuse is more largely emotional, psychological abuse." — Jenny Woodhouse "Almost 40% of children in Australia are exposed to family and domestic violence before they're 18." — Justine O'Malley "The gaslighting is really significant... because it's so subtle and because you do start to second-guess yourself." — Jenni Woodhouse "It's not just one point. I think it's actually several points... on average, women leave about five, six times and keep going back." — Jenni Woodhouse "If you see some of these red flags, they're things that you can start to have a discussion with. They're things that you can open the doors to discussion and say, I'm here. I'm here to listen." — Justine O'Malley Resources: Call 1800Respect or their website Our Watch – for primary intervention resources Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

HEADSUP!!! Episode Release this Thursday: Escaping DV with Jenny Woodhouse and Justine O'Malley. If this episode raises some concerns for you, please contact 1800RESPECT or their website In this pre-episode chat of SWBY, hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans dive deep into the harrowing subject of escaping domestic violence. This episode sheds light on not just the primary victims but also the often-overlooked secondary victims—the children. Amelia and Janet engage in a powerful discussion exploring the intricacies and pervasive effects of domestic violence, emphasizing the critical need to protect and support all affected parties. Amelia and Janet underline the alarming statistics around domestic violence, particularly highlighting men's violence against women while acknowledging other dynamics in abusive relationships. With insights from Justine, a dedicated psychologist, the discussion broadens to the psychological damage inflicted on children who witness or are victims of domestic violence. This episode aims to bring awareness and prompt societal change towards a safer future for those trapped in abusive environments. Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

About the Guest: Dr. Patricia Weerakoon is a renowned sexologist, author, and speaker known for her expertise in human sexuality, relationships, and sexual health. She has an extensive background in clinical practice and academic teaching, delivering lectures and seminars worldwide. Dr. Weerakoon has authored numerous books and articles on sexual health and is known for integrating scientific knowledge with relational and ethical insights. Key Takeaways: Fluidity in Sexual Orientations: Women's sexual orientations can often be more fluid, leading to shifts in preferences over time. Mixed Orientation Marriages: In these heterosexual marriages, where one spouse is same-sex attracted, can still thrive with open communication and mutual respect. Social and Emotional Impact: Discovering a spouse's changed sexual orientation or gender identity affects not just the couple but the entire family unit. Importance of Community Support: Churches and social groups can offer crucial support in dealing with these complex changes. Communication is Key: Open dialogue and possibly counseling can help navigate the emotional landscape of shifting sexual orientations and gender identities. Notable Quotes: "You get up in the morning and you find a pansexual next to you. It’s almost like you get up in the morning and you find a turkey next to you or something." - Dr. Patricia Weerakoon "Women are more fluid in their sexual orientation, and therefore, it could actually be looking at, I'm bored with my husband, and here’s my best friend." - Dr. Patricia Weerakoon "Men from about their teenage years are actually turned on by the feeling, the fantasy of themselves as a woman." - Dr. Patricia Weerakoon "We worship a good God. There are couples who are mixed orientation marriages doing really well." - Dr. Patricia Weerakoon "Human beings are kind of fabulously amazing that we care more about the human being, especially women." - Dr. Amelia Haines Resources: Dr. Patricia Weerakoon's Website: Patricia Weerakoon | Christian Sexologist & Author Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

HEADSUP!!! Episode Release this Thursday: Who Is This Person in My Bed with Dr. Patricia Weerakoon. This pre-episode chat dives into the complex and often emotionally charged topic of changing sexual orientations within a relationship. Janet shares a story about a friend's surprising marital revelation. After a glitter-filled party, her friend's husband discloses that he is transgender, dressed in her clothing and accessories. This revelation shocks both partners, leading to a rollercoaster of emotions and eventually a divorce. Dr. Amelia Haines provides her professional perspective on such life-altering moments, emphasizing the enormous psychological impact it has on both individuals involved. They discuss whether relationships can survive such a profound shift, shedding light on real-life examples and expert opinions. Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team! She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a former M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

About the Hosts: Janet Evans is an ex-M&C Saatchi advertising creative with a successful history in the industry, having won numerous radio and TV awards. Her expertise and creativity have been recognized in media beyond advertising. Dr. Amelia Haines is an experienced medical doctor with 30 years of experience, specializing in sexual health, mental health, and relationship counseling. She brings her extensive medical knowledge to a wider audience through her public speaking and written work.  Episode Summary: In this final episode in Season 1 of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines explore the universally challenging transition known as the 'Empty Nest Syndrome'. This podcast promises to be a sanctuary for women over 40 who are navigating the complexities of life after their children have flown the coop. With a blend of humor, medical insights, and real-life experiences, the hosts delve into the emotional turbulence that often accompanies this significant life stage.  Janet and Amelia offer personal anecdotes and professional advice, discussing how sudden changes, such as children leaving home, can impact parents. They touch on the varying degrees of adjustment disorders, the importance of maintaining a strong relationship with one’s partner throughout parenting, and the need for personal fulfillment beyond child-rearing. With their book “Empty Next” as a backdrop, they provide honest reflections on coping with change, managing relationships post-parenting, and redefining oneself in the face of an empty home.  Key Takeaways: Empty nest syndrome, while not an official medical syndrome, is widely recognized as an adjustment disorder with a varying impact on parents when children leave home.  The syndrome can last for a relatively short duration but has the potential to lead to depression if not addressed.  Maintaining and nurturing the spousal relationship during child-rearing years is critical for the transition to post-parenting life.  Engaging in personal interests and community connection is vital for newly emptied nesters to find fulfillment and establish a new sense of identity.  Cultural perspectives on empty nest syndrome provide a diverse understanding of this global phenomenon.  Notable Quotes: Dr. Amelia Haines on the inevitability of children leaving home: “I think I’ve always just been aware that that’s what life does.”  Janet Evans on the unanticipated nature of her son leaving: “I just sailed along, not really… It never crossed my mind.”  Janet Evans on maintaining a connection with grown-up children: “I think one thing that I missed the most was the shift from being his somewhat of a confidant.”  Dr. Amelia Haines on in-law relationships: “It’s hard to get on with, […] You need to be super generous.”  Resources: The hosts discuss their collaborative book titled “Empty Next,” available for purchase on Amazon.  For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Collett Smart is a respected psychologist, educator, public speaker, and author with over two decades of experience working in both private and public school settings, as well as in private practice. Known for her expertise in child development, Collette has garnered recognition for her contributions to the field of psychology and education. She has authored the book “They’ll Be Okay: 15 Conversations to Help Your Child Through Troubled Times,” which addresses parenting challenges and provides guidance for raising teenagers. With a passion for discussing mental health, relationships, and the complexities of teenage development, Collette brings a wealth of knowledge and practical advice to parents and educators alike.  Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday for women who are 40 plus fabulous,” hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines invite psychologist Collett Smart to delve into the intricacies of parenting teens. The conversation begins with a reminder of the whimsical days when children thought their parents were the epitome of cool and ventures into the challenges that come with the shifting dynamic as children grow into teenagers.  The episode offers a candid look into the seismic shifts that occur as children transition into their teenage years, exploring the physical exhaustion of early parenthood versus the emotional toll of guiding adolescents through life’s complex scenarios. Collette Smart shares her personal experiences with her own children and reiterates the importance of conversations around body image, mental health, and the pressures teenagers face in an increasingly digital landscape.  Key Takeaways: Recognising that teenagers communicate in different ways, and being open to non-traditional formats, such as texts or notes, can be crucial in maintaining open lines of communication.  Setting boundaries and normalising body image insecurities are essential conversations parents should have with their teens amidst the bombardment of social media influences.  Mental health in adolescents is more openly discussed now than ever before, yet parents still need strategies to identify and address potential signs of depression or anxiety.  Encouraging resilience and connection to safe adults outside of the parental unit can provide teens with additional support systems.  It’s never too late to start or repair relationships with your children, emphasising that consistent effort and an open heart can lead to positive outcomes.  Notable Quotes: Teenagers are always communicating with you, even if it’s not with words. Look for communication in their behaviors. Technology is the biggest difference in this generation to our generation, having the smartphone in their pockets all the time. You can be paying all the money for tutors, schools in the world. You are flushing it down the toilet if your child is not having good enough sleep. Children crave boundaries. They don’t need a 40-year-old BFF; they need you to be their parent. Our young people often clam up with us because they think we’re either going to freak out or it’s going to be a lecture. Resources: Collette Smart’s book: “They’ll Be Okay: 15 Conversations to Help Your Child Through Troubled Times”  Collette Smart’s podcast Raising Teens with Collett Smart For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Dr. Naras Lapsys is a longevity expert, recognized for his profound knowledge and contributions to the field. With a keen interest that dates back over a decade, Dr. Lapsys has been at the forefront of the conversation surrounding longevity medicine and healthy aging. His professional career includes extensive research and a deep understanding of the aging process that has contributed to his expertise. He is a key figure in the field, contributing to the foundation of longevity medicine and being part of the society that champions this emerging medical specialty.  Episode Summary: In this engaging episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines engage in an illuminating conversation with Dr. Naras Lapsys, an expert in the field of longevity medicine. The discussion delves into the intricacies of aging and the pursuit of extending both health span and life span. Beginning with personal anecdotes and smoothly transitioning into a scientific exploration, the dialogue is fuelled by curiosity and a quest for practical insights for those over 40.  Dr. Lapsys shares his profound insights into the difference between health span and life span, underlining the importance of quality of life in one’s later years. The episode is rich with discussions on caloric intake, exercise, and the impact of longevity medicine as an evolving field. Emphasizing the role of consistent lifestyle choices beginning at an early age, Dr. Lapsys offers actionable advice backed by scientific research. The episode is not only educational but serves as a motivational tool, encouraging listeners to actively participate in shaping their aging journey as well as the distinctions between longevity, aging gracefully, and healthy living.  Key Takeaways: Caloric Intake and Body Composition: Overconsumption of calories is a significant contributor to aging; maintaining an optimal caloric balance and body composition is crucial for health span extension. Exercise as a Priority: Daily physical activity, irrespective of weather conditions, is paramount in promoting longevity and improving quality of life as we age. The Impact of Longevity Medicine: This emerging specialty in medicine focuses on enhancing health span by targeting the aging process early on and throughout life. Blue Zones: These are regions where people live exceptionally long, healthy lives, providing a template for lifestyle habits that promote longevity. Lifestyle Choices and Aging: Early and consistent healthy lifestyle choices, including diet and exercise, play a pivotal role in determining the quality of aging. Notable Quotes: You could go to your next reunion and be with your classmates from high school graduation… and see that some of them are looking like they’re aging a bit better or worse than others. How many calories are we consuming? One good way is you just look at yourselves. We can look at ourselves in the mirror. Healthy longevity medicine is optimizing health span by targeting the aging process across the lifespan. It’s a decision that we make – Dr. Lapsys on actively participating in one’s healthy aging process. For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Ben McEachen is the mornings presenter at Sydney's Hope 103.2 and is actively involved in a community support program known as Divorce Care, which he runs with his wife, Amy. With his life experience of separation and divorce, Ben brings a wealth of personal insight to the course, which is designed to help individuals navigate the emotional terrain of divorce. The initiative aims to offer guidance, support, and a space for healing and reflection for those going through one of life’s most challenging transitions.  Episode Summary: In this earnest episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Amelia and Janet delve into the complex and often misunderstood journey of life after divorce. The conversation features Ben McEachen, whose personal encounter with divorce inspired him to facilitate a program called Divorce Care, aimed at guiding people through the emotional labyrinth that follows the dissolution of a marriage.  Throughout the discussion, Ben touches on the profound impact of separation and divorce, not just on the individuals directly involved, but on their social circles, children, and community at large. The conversation weaves through the various phases participants experience, from the shock and grief immediate to the separation to the potentially empowering steps towards forgiveness, new beginnings, and self-reflection. This ep promises valuable insights into navigating divorce with compassion and the potential for personal growth.  Key Takeaways: Divorce can have traumatic effects, ranking as the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse.  Divorce Care is a biblically-based support course providing a platform for those dealing with the ramifications of divorce.  The process of divorce touches upon various aspects of life, including the emotional impact, financial implications, and the dynamics of parenting post-separation.  Forgiveness is a pivotal theme in the recovery process, acknowledging one’s own role in the dissolution as well as releasing bitterness towards the ex-spouse.  The discussion emphasizes the importance of community support, especially within the church, during the often lonely journey of divorce.  Notable Quotes: “If you imagine ripping [a united marriage] apart, it’s totally understandable that people would be traumatized.”  “The ripple effects [of divorce] are just, I think, more wide-reaching than what most people would realize.”  “Even if you are 99.9% in the right…what is it that you brought to this relationship?”  “Forgiveness is like the key that unlocks the door that can free you from…prison.”  “It still seems like…churches don’t quite know what to do with separation and divorce.”  Resources: Divorce Care was highlighted as the primary resource for individuals seeking support through their divorce. To find a local Divorce Care group, individuals can search online and find information regarding sign-ups and meetings.  Sign up here for the specific Divorce Care program which Ben and Amy hosts in Sydney's Inner West.  For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Dr. Marshall Ballantine-Jones is a seasoned researcher in the field of pornography’s effects, specializing in its epidemiological impacts on adolescents and young adults. With a PhD from Sydney University (Discipline of Child and Adolescent Health), he has conducted an extensive study under the supervision of renowned experts like Dr. Patricia Weerakoon. Dr. Ballantine-Jones is also the CEO of Digihelp, an organization that creates a school based program addressing sexualised media (pornography) in the online world and consults with schools to mitigate the negative impacts of this sexualization. Episode Summary: In this episode of "She Wasn't Born Yesterday," hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines engage in a conversation with an expert on the convergence of porn, mental health, and relationships, Dr. Marshall Ballantine-Jones. With rising concerns about the pervasive influence of pornography, this episode delves into the complex realities and the psychological underpinnings behind porn consumption. Dr. Ballantine-Jones brings his extensive research to the table as he explains the neurological changes induced by frequent porn use and how this shapes behavior and decision-making. The candid conversation navigates through the challenges brought forth by porn addiction, the societal implications, and the unique dynamics as it pertains to women viewers and the hypersexualized portrayal of women in media. Key insights are shared about parental engagement, educational strategies, and the brain's ability to reform from addictive patterns. The pod emphasizes the importance of confronting this sensitive topic, the role of communication in overcoming addiction, and the societal shifts that might encourage a healthier approach to human sexuality. Key Takeaways: Pornography consumption can lead to the development of new neural pathways that prioritize porn use over other dopamine-producing activities, potentially leading to addictive behaviors. The impact of pornography varies between males and females, with women tending to engage with content that appeals to a narrative structure, like romance and intimacy. Engaging conversations with adolescents and young adults about the dangers of pornography and hypersexualized media can significantly influence their perceptions and behaviors. Personal struggles with pornography addiction require open discussions, therapeutic support, and engaging in new, fulfilling activities to form healthier neural pathways. The broader societal narrative around sexuality and empowerment can cloud the judgment about pornography's harmful effects, making informed, critical conversations all the more vital. Notable Quotes: When you do high dopamine producing activities in repetition, our brain will fast track new neural pathways… Women who statistically find themselves regularly engaging with a form of pornography…tend to have a complex backstory… People are sexual beings and people like sexual pleasure. If someone's offering that for free, on tap…what's going to stop you? The only way that we're going to get genuine, community-wide, systemic pushback on pornography is if the hearts and minds of people are convinced that this is not good. I'd encourage you to do these things. I'd encourage you to talk to someone trusted about it…spend some time with a therapist…invest in new hobbies and passions… For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Renae Leith Manos is an entrepreneur, journalist, luxury travel commentator, and coach. She is the founder of Renae's World, a leading authority in the global luxury hotel, restaurant, and spa review sector. With a background in journalism and a passion for luxury hotels and restaurants, Ranae has established herself as a prominent influencer in the travel industry. She has a wealth of experience in reviewing hotels and restaurants and has built strong relationships with industry professionals around the world. Episode Summary: In this episode, Janet and Amelia interview Renae Leith Manos, a 40+ influencer and founder of Renae's World. They deep dive into the reality of being an influencer and the hard work that goes into creating content and building a following. Renae shares her journey from being a journalist to launching her own brand focused on luxury travel. She discusses the challenges and rewards of being an influencer, the importance of authenticity, and the evolving trends in the luxury hotel industry. Renae also talks about her consulting business and her passion for mentoring young women in the digital media space. Key Takeaways: Being an influencer is not just about taking pretty pictures and posting them online. It requires hard work, discipline, and a deep understanding of the industry. Authenticity is key in building a loyal following. People are looking for real experiences and genuine connections, not just polished and airbrushed content. The future of luxury hotels is changing, with a focus on wellness, sustainability, and personalized experiences. Hotels need to adapt to these trends to meet the evolving needs of their guests. Building a large following on social media takes time and effort. Engaging with your audience, sharing personal stories, and providing valuable content are essential for attracting and retaining followers. Influencers have the power to make a positive impact on the travel industry by supporting and promoting hotels and brands that align with their values and provide exceptional experiences. Notable Quotes: "I think influencing is certainly one of those areas where there's a lot of smoke and mirrors in life."  "You have to be bright, courageous, and resilient to succeed as an influencer."  "None of this is real. What you see on Instagram or social media is not reality." Resources: Ranae's World - Website Ranae's Instagram - Instagram For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Victoria is a senior executive at a multinational company. Her career encompasses roles in people management, talent management, and operations. Known for her strategy formulation and execution, she stands out as a multifaceted professional. However, Victoria’s story is not just about her professional achievements; it’s also about her personal journey overcoming domestic abuse, rebuilding her life, and finding love again post-divorce. She uses her managerial position to make change and support women going through similar crises.  Episode Summary: In this revealing episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans speak with Victoria, who opens up about her experiences of finding love after a traumatic past involving domestic violence. Victoria’s candid discussion offers insights into the complexities of starting anew, providing support for women 40+ who are navigating similar challenges.  Victoria’s journey encapsulates the harrowing experience of domestic abuse while highlighting the resilience needed to escape and reconstruct a life of safety and happiness. The episode delves into her approach to dating and the process of rebuilding trust in new relationships. With a poignant and hopeful narrative, Victoria’s story underscores the possibility of rediscovering love and the importance of self-care.  Key Takeaways: Domestic violence survivors can rebuild their lives and find love again with time and healing.  Supportive work environments play a crucial role in providing solace and stability during times of personal turmoil.  Creating a safe and strategic plan is paramount when leaving an abusive relationship.  Entering the dating scene with a sense of fun and adventure is beneficial, rather than searching for someone to “fix” past trauma.  Open communication about past experiences in new relationships can lay a foundation for trust and understanding.  Notable Quotes: “Being alive is way better than being dead … every day is a great day to be alive.” “It didn’t impact how I saw other men.” “I felt ready again to actually think about those things and, yeah, start dating again.” “If he walks away after knowing this, then it wasn’t meant to be anyway.” Resources: The resources mentioned in the podcast include Lifeline, a crisis support service (Phone 13 11 14 here in Australia).  For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s adventures and complexities for women 40+ fabulous!

About the Guest: Mark Tedeschi is a former New South Wales Senior Crown Prosecutor with over 20 years of experience. He has prosecuted high-profile cases, including the backpacker serial killer Ivan Milat, and has written several true crime books. Mark is also an accomplished photographer, with a keen interest in capturing the beauty of the world around us. Episode Summary: Janet and Dr. Amelia of the “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday” podcast sit down and chat with Mark Tedeschi, a renowned former Senior Crown Prosecutor. They delve into the fascination with true crime, the intricacies of prosecuting a case, and the challenges faced by prosecutors. Mark shares insights from his experience and emphasizes the importance of maintaining objectivity and professionalism in the courtroom. The conversation also touches on the 'no body, no parole' law and the complexities of relationships with criminals.  Key Takeaways: Women are often more interested in true crime due to their focus on relationships and societal positions.  Prosecutors have the responsibility to present the case to the best of their ability, regardless of personal beliefs about the defendant’s guilt.  The no body, no parole law can be counterproductive and may not lead to the discovery of missing bodies.  Maintaining contact with the outside world is critical for prisoners, and some may insist on maintaining their innocence to preserve those connections.  Families of both victims and perpetrators can be deeply affected by a crime, often struggling to accept the actions of their loved ones.  Notable Quotes: “The whole system of jail discipline and order relies upon people who behave well in jail getting parole.” - Mark Tedeschi  “Often, people are victims of their circumstances, but that doesn’t excuse what they’ve done.” - Mark Tedeschi  “It’s very easy to have a relationship with someone who you visit once a week or once a fortnight.” - Mark Tedeschi  “She got herself into a terrible situation quite openly. She must have known that at some stage it would all come crashing down.” - Mark Tedeschi  Resources: Mark Tedeschi’s website Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the issue of true crime. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.”  For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s thrills and complexities for women over 40.

About the Guest: Annabelle Daniel is the CEO of Women’s Community Shelters, an organization dedicated to providing safe crisis accommodation for women and children experiencing homelessness or domestic and family violence. With a background in social work, Annabelle has been working in the field for over a decade, advocating for the rights and well-being of vulnerable women. She is passionate about creating holistic solutions and support networks for those in need.  Episode Summary: In this episode, Janet and Amelia discuss the growing issue of homelessness among women over 50 in Australia with Annabelle Daniel, CEO of Women’s Community Shelters. They explore the factors that contribute to this trend, such as financial vulnerability, domestic and family violence, and lack of affordable housing. Annabelle highlights the various forms of homelessness beyond street homelessness and emphasises the importance of safe and supportive accommodation for women in crisis. She also discusses the challenges faced by women in accessing government services and the need for a holistic approach to address their complex needs.  Key Takeaways: Women over 50 are the fastest-growing cohort of homeless people in Australia, with financial vulnerability and domestic violence being significant contributing factors.  Homelessness is not limited to street homelessness; it includes situations where women are sleeping in cars, couch-surfing, or living in overcrowded or unsafe environments.  The journey out of homelessness is a long-term process that requires not only safe accommodation but also professional support, community wraparound services, and access to government resources.  There is a need for more crisis accommodation shelters and transitional housing options to meet the growing demand and provide immediate support for women in crisis.  Creative solutions, such as utilizing unoccupied properties or repurposing existing buildings, can help address the immediate need for safe accommodation while long-term solutions are being developed.  Notable Quotes: “Crisis can happen very slowly and then all at once. It might only take one event to tip somebody over into homelessness.” - Annabelle Daniel  “Being able to stay in your home in the short term doesn’t mean it’s necessarily safe or affordable in the long term.” - Annabelle Daniel  “Isolation is a significant risk for women experiencing homelessness, as abusers often work to cut off their social networks.” - Annabelle Daniel  “We need pragmatic solutions for people who are homeless tonight, while also advocating for long-term housing initiatives.” - Annabelle Daniel  “Women over 55 often don’t define themselves as homeless, but they may be entitled to support and services they never imagined they could access.” - Annabelle Daniel  Resources: Women’s Community Shelters Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the issue of homelessness. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.”  For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s thrills and complexities for women over 40.

Join the She Wasn't Born Yesterday Facebook Group where we chat further about this topic with Janet and Amelia along with hundreds of other members in the group. See you there!  About the Guest: Kristina Keneally is the former New South Wales Premier and Labour Senator. She was dedicated to public service, with a focus on tackling significant issues such as stillbirth, a cause she holds close following her personal experience. Keneally is the CEO of the Sydney Children’s Hospital Foundation and has played an instrumental role in creating awareness and instigating change around the underrepresented issue of stillbirth in Australia.  Episode Summary: In this episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” former NSW Premier and Labour Senator Kristina Keneally joins hosts Amelia and Janet for a moving conversation about pregnancy loss, and how to move forward after such tragic experiences. The episode tackles the complexities of stillbirth, an issue Keneally has committed to addressing both personally and politically.  Keneally shares her own story of pregnancy loss and the challenges in dealing with stillbirth publicly while serving in the public eye. The discussion covers aspects ranging from the emotional effects on families, to medical practices, cultural sensitivities, and legislative changes in Australia. Including the positive impact of a Senate inquiry into stillbirth, initiated by Keneally, and its resulting strides towards a national action plan to reduce stillbirth rates—an initiative the guest has passionately campaigned for.  Key Takeaways: Pregnancy loss, specifically stillbirth, is a significant but underrepresented issue in family life, with six babies a day stillborn in Australia.  Kristina Keneally’s personal experience with stillbirth has fueled her dedication to raising awareness and pushing for public health reforms.  Keneally’s advocacy led to a Senate inquiry into stillbirth, bringing the issue into the national discourse and resulting in a national action plan aiming to reduce stillbirth rates in Australia.  Cultural sensitivity and the varying responses to stillbirth across different communities highlight the complexity of addressing this issue.  Support for parents experiencing stillbirth, such as paid parental leave and bereavement counseling, is still inconsistent and requires more attention and standardisation.  Notable Quotes: “It’s like I joined a club I didn’t know existed, I don’t really want to be a member of, and I can’t get out of it.”  “If you can survive giving birth to your child who has died, and you can bury her…you’ve got an inner strength that all the other slings and arrows of life, you suddenly like, you know what? I’ve survived something far worse than this.”  “Christina Keneally wears same dress twice.”—Reflecting the often trivial public scrutiny faced by women in politics.  “My third child owes his life to the autopsy that was performed on his older sister.”  Resources: Stillbirth Foundation Australia website: Referenced for further information on stillbirth advocacy and resources.  Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the heartrending topic of stillbirth and how incredible people like Kristina Keneally are working tirelessly to create change. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.”  For more episodes and insightful conversations, follow our podcast and join us on our journey to explore life’s complexities for women over 40.

How do you deal with the ‘pause’? How do you know you’re dating someone with a narcissistic personality disorder? How do you move on from divorce? Behind the scenes of a 40+ influencer and how to reverse the aging process, are just a few topics tackled. She Wasn't Born Yesterday features Janet Evans, an ex M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.  “So many unique issues affect women of our age, including empty nest syndrome, and nothing’s off limits in SWBY! We really dive headfirst into them, but hopefully with lightness and relevant wit where possible,” Janet commented. “We were incredibly lucky to chat to some very high profile guests, including CEOs of important organisations, who shared their expertise with us and our audience.” Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. Send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.