Guest, Liz, mid 40s female, asks about how to navigate a desire discrepancy with her husband, so it feels fulfilling versus filling a quota. Dr. Jenni and Daniel explain asynchronous arousal; and offer tips on how lower desire partners could be invited with more space and intention; while Daniel offers insight into the higher desire partner's thinking process. They offer a playbook on why desire discrepancy can be so polarizing for couples, with tactical solutions on how to understand and resolve it- to include moving your mindset from obligation sex to a gift.

Guest, Liz, mid 40s female, asks about how to navigate a desire discrepancy with her husband, so it feels fulfilling versus filling a quota. Dr. Jenni and Daniel explain asynchronous arousal; and offer tips on how lower desire partners could be invited with more space and intention; while Daniel offers insight into the higher desire partner's thinking process. They offer a playbook on why desire discrepancy can be so polarizing for couples, with tactical solutions on how to understand and resolve it- to include moving your mindset from obligation sex to a gift.

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

Links: 

drjenniskyler.substack.com

The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses

 

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
Links:&nbsp;
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com</a>
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap">The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses</a>
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Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology.

Sex and the Psyche

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

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Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
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Sex and the Psyche 

Guest, Liz, mid 40s female, asks about how to navigate a desire descrepancy with her husband, so it feels fulfilling versus filling a quota.

When Sex Feels Like A Quota

Dr. Rachel Rubin is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sexual medicine specialist, known from Mel Robbins and Diary of a CEO. Here she skips the greatest hits and has the conversation she doesn’t get to have elsewhere.

Rachel says the words she most wants to hear from a patient on hormones aren’t “my libido is back.” They’re “I feel like me again.” She admits we’re still in the “leeches and bloodletting stage” of understanding the human body, and that her willingness to say “I don’t know” is part of what makes her trusted. She explains why she believes in the biopsychosocial model: she met with every sex therapist and pelvic floor therapist in her area when she started practice, and one by one the therapists became her patients. Along the way she talks about why doctors can’t keep up with the science, how social media became her way to teach and mentor, and what 10 years of advocacy taught her about taking action.

Website: https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin

FB: https://www.facebook.com/DrRachelRubin/

News/Media https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/news-media

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Dr. Jenni Substack

Dr. Rachel Rubin is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sexual medicine specialist, known from Mel Robbins and Diary of a CEO. Here she skips the greatest hits and has the conversation she doesn&rsquo;t get to have elsewhere.
Rachel says the words she most wants to hear from a patient on hormones aren&rsquo;t &ldquo;my libido is back.&rdquo; They&rsquo;re &ldquo;I feel like me again.&rdquo; She admits we&rsquo;re still in the &ldquo;leeches and bloodletting stage&rdquo; of understanding the human body, and that her willingness to say &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know&rdquo; is part of what makes her trusted. She explains why she believes in the biopsychosocial model: she met with every sex therapist and pelvic floor therapist in her area when she started practice, and one by one the therapists became her patients. Along the way she talks about why doctors can&rsquo;t keep up with the science, how social media became her way to teach and mentor, and what 10 years of advocacy taught her about taking action.
Website: <a href="https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/">https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/</a>
IG: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin">https://www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin</a>
FB: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrRachelRubin/">https://www.facebook.com/DrRachelRubin/</a>
News/Media <a href="https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/news-media">https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/news-media</a>
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/">Learn more about Dr. Jenni and Daniel</a>
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">Dr. Jenni Substack</a>

Dr. Rachel Rubin, urologist and sexual medicine specialist, goes behind the scenes of her field with Jenni and Daniel. She explains what medicine still doesn’t know, why she says “I don’t know” out loud, why even sex therapists started coming to her as patients, and why, in her words, “no grownups are coming to save the day.”

EP 39: No Grownups Are Coming to Save the Day! Dr. Rachel Rubin Part One - Hormones, Sexual Medicine and Living Your Best Sex Life

Before welcoming renowned sexual medicine physician and women’s health advocate Dr. Rachel Rubin to Sex and the Psyche, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz explore why understanding our sexuality requires looking beyond what happens in the bedroom. They discuss the importance of a biopsychosocial approach to sexual wellness, recognizing how our biology, psychology, relationships, and social experiences all influence our ability to experience intimacy, arousal, desire, and pleasure.

Dr. Jenni shares why she values Rachel’s commitment to collaborative care between medical professionals and sex therapists, emphasizing that meaningful progress often happens when physical and psychological factors are addressed together. From hormones and perimenopause to anxiety, body image, attachment, and past experiences, the conversation highlights how interconnected these influences can be- and why patients deserve care that considers the whole person.

Daniel offers a compelling perspective on the relationship between fear and sexual functioning, drawing on his EMT training to explain how the body’s stress response can interfere with physiological processes, including erectile function. Together, he and Jenni explore how anxiety, fear of rejection, concerns about body image, or past violations can affect our ability to feel safe, connected, aroused, and present during intimacy.

The conversation also challenges listeners to become stronger advocates for their own sexual health. Knowing what questions to ask, seeking appropriate medical and therapeutic support, and continuing to advocate for answers that feel meaningful and individualized can open the door to a deeper understanding of our bodies and experiences.

This thoughtful prelude to the upcoming conversation with Dr. Rachel Rubin invites listeners to get curious about the connections between the physical and psychological dimensions of sexuality and to recognize that sexual wellness is far more complex, personal, and multidimensional than many of us have been taught.

Learn more about Dr. Jenni and Daniel

Dr. Jenni Substack

 

Before welcoming renowned sexual medicine physician and women&rsquo;s health advocate Dr. Rachel Rubin to Sex and the Psyche, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz explore why understanding our sexuality requires looking beyond what happens in the bedroom. They discuss the importance of a biopsychosocial approach to sexual wellness, recognizing how our biology, psychology, relationships, and social experiences all influence our ability to experience intimacy, arousal, desire, and pleasure.
Dr. Jenni shares why she values Rachel&rsquo;s commitment to collaborative care between medical professionals and sex therapists, emphasizing that meaningful progress often happens when physical and psychological factors are addressed together. From hormones and perimenopause to anxiety, body image, attachment, and past experiences, the conversation highlights how interconnected these influences can be- and why patients deserve care that considers the whole person.
Daniel offers a compelling perspective on the relationship between fear and sexual functioning, drawing on his EMT training to explain how the body&rsquo;s stress response can interfere with physiological processes, including erectile function. Together, he and Jenni explore how anxiety, fear of rejection, concerns about body image, or past violations can affect our ability to feel safe, connected, aroused, and present during intimacy.
The conversation also challenges listeners to become stronger advocates for their own sexual health. Knowing what questions to ask, seeking appropriate medical and therapeutic support, and continuing to advocate for answers that feel meaningful and individualized can open the door to a deeper understanding of our bodies and experiences.
This thoughtful prelude to the upcoming conversation with Dr. Rachel Rubin invites listeners to get curious about the connections between the physical and psychological dimensions of sexuality and to recognize that sexual wellness is far more complex, personal, and multidimensional than many of us have been taught.
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/">Learn more about Dr. Jenni and Daniel</a>
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">Dr. Jenni Substack</a>
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Before their conversation with Dr. Rachel Rubin, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz explore how biology, psychology, relationships, and social experiences shape our sexuality. From hormones and perimenopause to anxiety, fear, and intimacy, they discuss why sexual wellness requires a whole-person approach- and how asking the right questions and advocating for individualized care can help us better understand ourselves and our sexual health.

EP38: The Medical Celebrity We Cant Wait to Interview - Plus the Full Definition of Sexuality Nobody Ever Gives You

What does it take to build the sexual wellness brand that women actually deserve — and why has it taken this long?

In this episode, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz sit down with Ada Trujillo and Kim Aviv, co-founders of Mila- an intimate wellness brand that is doing something the category has never quite managed: making pleasure feel as intentional, beautiful, and culturally fluent as skincare.

Ada is a former professional basketball player turned CPG marketing powerhouse who has raised millions for major consumer brands. Kim is a finance and operations expert with deep startup experience. Neither came from the sexual wellness world. Both felt deeply underserved by it-and decided to fix it.

At the center of their product line is the Aura, a pending-patent pleasure device that layers four distinct functionalities to map the full arc of female arousal, not just the finish line. Warmth. Orbital massage. Vibration. Suction. Designed to be explored, not just used. Beautiful enough to live on your nightstand. Quiet enough that nobody walking in would know what it is.

But this conversation goes well beyond the product. Jenni and Daniel bring their combined 17 years of clinical practice to a conversation about why sensuality is a lost language, why lube is non-negotiable at every age, why men feel excluded from women’s pleasure and how a toy can change that, and why the lowest common denominator approach to self-pleasure is costing women a whole range of experiences they never knew were available to them.

Ada and Kim share what it is like to pitch sexual wellness to skeptical investors, and how a $1 million raise became $2.5 million. They talk about what is coming next, including a product for couples, and why they believe sexual wellness belongs on the same shelf as matcha and Pilates.

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What does it take to build the sexual wellness brand that women actually deserve &mdash; and why has it taken this long?
In this episode, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz sit down with Ada Trujillo and Kim Aviv, co-founders of Mila- an intimate wellness brand that is doing something the category has never quite managed: making pleasure feel as intentional, beautiful, and culturally fluent as skincare.
Ada is a former professional basketball player turned CPG marketing powerhouse who has raised millions for major consumer brands. Kim is a finance and operations expert with deep startup experience. Neither came from the sexual wellness world. Both felt deeply underserved by it-and decided to fix it.
At the center of their product line is the Aura, a pending-patent pleasure device that layers four distinct functionalities to map the full arc of female arousal, not just the finish line. Warmth. Orbital massage. Vibration. Suction. Designed to be explored, not just used. Beautiful enough to live on your nightstand. Quiet enough that nobody walking in would know what it is.
But this conversation goes well beyond the product. Jenni and Daniel bring their combined 17 years of clinical practice to a conversation about why sensuality is a lost language, why lube is non-negotiable at every age, why men feel excluded from women&rsquo;s pleasure and how a toy can change that, and why the lowest common denominator approach to self-pleasure is costing women a whole range of experiences they never knew were available to them.
Ada and Kim share what it is like to pitch sexual wellness to skeptical investors, and how a $1 million raise became $2.5 million. They talk about what is coming next, including a product for couples, and why they believe sexual wellness belongs on the same shelf as matcha and Pilates.
<a href="https://heymila.co">Check out Mila!</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/heymila.co/">Mila Instagram</a>
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@heymila.co">Mila TikTok</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/heymila.co/">Mila Facebook</a>
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Follow on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjenniskyler/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexandthepsyche/?ref=PROFILE_EDIT_xav_ig_profile_page_web#">Facebook</a>&nbsp;

Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz sit down with Ada Trujillo and Kim Aviv, co-founders of Mila, to explore the future of female pleasure and sexual wellness. From reimagining intimate products and breaking down cultural taboos to embracing sensuality, communication, and lubrication at every age, they discuss why women deserve a more intentional approach to pleasure. Ada and Kim also share their entrepreneurial journey, the challenges of raising investment in sexual wellness, and their vision for making intimacy a more natural part of everyday life. 

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