When Susan Bratton talks about intimacy, she doesn't speak in theory. She speaks from 34 years of marriage. From decades of teaching couples how to stay erotically connected through every life stage. From writing 44 books and programs on passionate lovemaking and from her own personal journey. Eleven years into her marriage, she had never had an orgasm from intercourse and was avoiding sex with her husband entirely. Then she learned. And everything changed.

In this episode, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz sit down with Susan for a wide-ranging conversation about what really keeps long-term love erotically alive. They talk about the expanded orgasm practice she learned from her mentor Dr. Patti Taylor — and how it transformed Susan from someone who couldn't orgasm during intercourse into someone who describes herself as an "orgasmic optimizer." They explore why Susan rejects the word "anorgasmia" entirely, replacing it with a single word: yet. They dig into the truth about female arousal that most couples never learn — that women's erectile tissue takes 20 to 30 minutes to fully engorge, and that the cultural script of "get hard, penetrate, finish" is, in Susan's words, "a religiously repressed patriarchal female oppression strategy that is no longer working." They talk about scheduled intimate dates (Susan and her husband have them two to six times a week), radical honesty as the foundation of a 34-year marriage, and why turn-on isn't just about sex — it's a life force that spills into everything. Susan also shares her ten intimacy principles — including the one she calls the most important of them all: practicing radical honesty. If you've ever wondered whether long-term love and erotic aliveness can coexist — Susan is the proof, and this episode is the playbook.

Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection, Ravish Him, Dirty Talk, The Pumping Guide and Thrust In Time. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave®  and The
Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.

Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including:

Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, Sex with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good
Moms Bad Choices, Heal
Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show.

Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their sexual joy. Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection.

Susan Bratton | "Intimacy Expert to Millions ” 
CEO, Better Lover · Personal Life Media · The20

Susan has spent over two decades doing something censorship and shame have long tried to silence: teaching people the pleasure-based sex education they never received. 

She is the world's most prolific sex educator and author of 44 books and programs. 

Her newsletters, Better Lover, Personal Life Media, The20, and Longevity Wins, reach 300,000 readers, and her precision sexual vitality supplements are formulated on the science of blood flow and desire.

SusanBratton.com

BetterLover.com

Personal Life Media, Inc.
The20, LLC.

When Susan Bratton talks about intimacy, she doesn't speak in theory. She speaks from 34 years of marriage. From decades of teaching couples how to stay erotically connected through every life stage. From writing 44 books and programs on passionate lovemaking and from her own personal journey. Eleven years into her marriage, she had never had an orgasm from intercourse and was avoiding sex with her husband entirely. Then she learned. And everything changed.
In this episode, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz sit down with Susan for a wide-ranging conversation about what really keeps long-term love erotically alive. They talk about the expanded orgasm practice she learned from her mentor Dr. Patti Taylor &mdash; and how it transformed Susan from someone who couldn't orgasm during intercourse into someone who describes herself as an "orgasmic optimizer." They explore why Susan rejects the word "anorgasmia" entirely, replacing it with a single word: yet. They dig into the truth about female arousal that most couples never learn &mdash; that women's erectile tissue takes 20 to 30 minutes to fully engorge, and that the cultural script of "get hard, penetrate, finish" is, in Susan's words, "a religiously repressed patriarchal female oppression strategy that is no longer working." They talk about scheduled intimate dates (Susan and her husband have them two to six times a week), radical honesty as the foundation of a 34-year marriage, and why turn-on isn't just about sex &mdash; it's a life force that spills into everything. Susan also shares her ten intimacy principles &mdash; including the one she calls the most important of them all: practicing radical honesty. If you've ever wondered whether long-term love and erotic aliveness can coexist &mdash; Susan is the proof, and this episode is the playbook.
Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed&reg; Video Collection, Ravish Him, Dirty Talk, The Pumping Guide and Thrust In Time. She&rsquo;s the official company spokesperson for <a href="https://gainswave.com/susan">GAINSWave&reg;&nbsp;</a> and <a href="https://trustyclick.com/kaplanhome">The</a> <a href="https://trustyclick.com/kaplanhome">Dr. Joel Kaplan Company</a>. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of <a href="https://fullpaneltest.com/">ProDxHealth.org </a>STI testing.
Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including:
<a href="https://youtu.be/LLMCd3WbgGk?si=h_M6AoiR5MBzG977">Diary </a><a href="https://youtu.be/LLMCd3WbgGk?si=h_M6AoiR5MBzG977">of a CEO</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/jQCCh2-9sps?si=XBQVVFFgZsiKuEKT">You&nbsp;Are Not Broken</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/tOkvSJAE6_8?si=XWL0iV1ZiS_uLaP5">Sex&nbsp;with Emily</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/3idAK1D85cs?si=SmDUt-bfo9L2LJgW">The&nbsp;Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/7o32XPm5GAQ?si=1SrRnUS0ZJPJ7RDQ">Good</a> <a href="https://youtu.be/7o32XPm5GAQ?si=1SrRnUS0ZJPJ7RDQ">Moms Bad Choices</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/YLnwtQkJA4g?si=bkwysJP6OGhU_l4A">Heal</a> <a href="https://youtu.be/YLnwtQkJA4g?si=bkwysJP6OGhU_l4A">Thyself</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/mhJxLehMHlo?si=4LlsPAgdLjbpdiLb">IDIOT&nbsp;with Laura Clery</a>, <a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/Gv8ra4OoDsU?si=bYJh1QV0GBotOVxz">The&nbsp;Infamous &ldquo;Clit Camp&rdquo; Music Video</a>, <a href="https://youtu.be/Zi3inBEE6Ts?si=dym3_I2K0A9WvTmQ">LuvBites&nbsp;with Dr. Tara,</a> and <a href="https://youtu.be/d-GmrWNpwjY?si=JtyqgY98hXdRVdDG">The&nbsp;Chalene Show</a>.
Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their sexual joy. Her message resonates across gender and age because it&rsquo;s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection.
Susan Bratton&nbsp;| "Intimacy Expert to Millions&nbsp;&rdquo;&nbsp; CEO, Better Lover &middot; Personal Life Media &middot; The20
Susan has spent over two decades doing something censorship and shame have long tried to silence: teaching people the pleasure-based sex education they never received.&nbsp;
She is the world's most prolific sex educator and author of 44 books and programs.&nbsp;
Her newsletters, Better Lover, Personal Life Media, The20, and Longevity Wins, reach 300,000 readers, and her precision sexual vitality supplements are formulated on the science of blood flow and desire.
<a href="http://susanbratton.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://susanbratton.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1778768837392000&amp;usg=AOvVaw38MwBme8rNaqnHzm1bihY6">SusanBratton.com</a>
<a href="http://betterlover.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://betterlover.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1778768837392000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0kpDWh4fEnetJYZdmWpWkP">BetterLover.com</a>
<a href="http://personallifemedia.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://personallifemedia.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1778768837394000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2cWnXB-lei8Crx7c5FOFm-">Personal Life Media, Inc.</a> <a href="https://the20store.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://the20store.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1778768837394000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2lNnqzBggoeXGuLDVBspGw">The20, LLC</a>.

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

Links: 

drjenniskyler.substack.com

The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses

 

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
Links:&nbsp;
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com</a>
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap">The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses</a>
&nbsp;

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology.

Sex and the Psyche

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

drjenniskyler.substack.com  

intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com&nbsp; </a>
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap">intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap</a>

Sex and the Psyche 

Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz sit down with intimacy expert Susan Bratton — author of 44 books and programs, and one of the most outspoken voices in long-term sexual fulfillment. After 34 years of marriage, Susan shares what actually keeps a sex life thriving: expanded orgasm techniques, radical honesty, the truth about female arousal that most couples never learn, and why "anorgasmia" might be the wrong word entirely. A masterclass in staying erotically alive — on purpose.