Is 10 Seconds of Oral Sex Still a Blowjob?

How much time does it take for oral sex to “count”? Ten seconds? Thirty seconds? Does there have to be an orgasm, ejaculation, or even an erection?

In this episode of Sex and the Psyche, Daniel and Dr. Jenni Skyler tackle a surprisingly complicated question sparked by a very real-life sexual experience and introduce a phrase we’re pretty sure you won’t forget: the “Cock Kiss.”

They explore why there’s no universal stopwatch for good sex, how intention and attention can matter more than duration, and why the exact same sexual experience can feel satisfying to one person and completely unfinished to another. They also get into rapid ejaculation, orgasming without an erection, difficulty ejaculating while still enjoying stimulation, and how medications, age, health history, excitement, and infrequent sex can all affect what happens in the bedroom.

Most importantly, the conversation raises a bigger question: How do you communicate with your partner when your definition of “that was enough” isn't the same as theirs?

Because when it comes to sex, sometimes it's not about how long it lasted… it's about what happened while you were there.

And yes- sometimes it really is just a cock kiss.

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Is 10 Seconds of Oral Sex Still a Blowjob?
How much time does it take for oral sex to &ldquo;count&rdquo;? Ten seconds? Thirty seconds? Does there have to be an orgasm, ejaculation, or even an erection?
In this episode of Sex and the Psyche, Daniel and Dr. Jenni Skyler tackle a surprisingly complicated question sparked by a very real-life sexual experience and introduce a phrase we&rsquo;re pretty sure you won&rsquo;t forget: the &ldquo;Cock Kiss.&rdquo;
They explore why there&rsquo;s no universal stopwatch for good sex, how intention and attention can matter more than duration, and why the exact same sexual experience can feel satisfying to one person and completely unfinished to another. They also get into rapid ejaculation, orgasming without an erection, difficulty ejaculating while still enjoying stimulation, and how medications, age, health history, excitement, and infrequent sex can all affect what happens in the bedroom.
Most importantly, the conversation raises a bigger question: How do you communicate with your partner when your definition of &ldquo;that was enough&rdquo; isn't the same as theirs?
Because when it comes to sex, sometimes it's not about how long it lasted&hellip; it's about what happened while you were there.
And yes- sometimes it really is just a cock kiss.
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Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

Links: 

drjenniskyler.substack.com

The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses

 

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
Links:&nbsp;
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com</a>
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap">The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses</a>
&nbsp;

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology.

Sex and the Psyche

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

Learn more about Sex and the Psyche

 

Follow on YouTube Instagram and Facebook 

drjenniskyler.substack.com  

intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap

 

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
<a href="https://linktr.ee/SexandthePsyche?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&lt;sid=4c4cb781-48d2-4305-84b9-e35953a0a426">Learn more about Sex and the Psyche</a>
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<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com&nbsp; </a>
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Sex and the Psyche 

Is 10 seconds of oral sex still a blowjob?  Daniel and Dr. Jenni Skyler tackle the surprisingly complicated question of what actually “counts” when it comes to oral sex. Does there have to be an orgasm? An erection? Ejaculation? Or is it really about the attention, intention, and experience? Along the way, they discuss rapid ejaculation, orgasms without erections, medications that can affect ejaculation, and why two people can walk away from the exact same sexual experience feeling very differently. And then there’s the phrase that started it all: the “cock kiss.”  Sometimes sex isn't about the stopwatch. It's about the connection and communicating with your partner about what feels satisfying, complete, and wanted.