Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We are scrubbing in because is it a wet one today? It is, well, not in here, but out there out there. Yeah, it's um it's raining in l A. Which we've had a lot of a lot of I missed it. I went to Florida to see my family, but I always leave when it's like, this is my ideal weather. Well, don't you worry because it is sticking around all weeks. Yeah, this is now a weather podcast so much. Let us know where you are. Russure system coming through. That's gonna reak havoc on the barometric pressure. What he said, Well, I don't know if that's a bad thing, But I, for one love this weather. It's just a nice break. I love the sun like I live in l A for a reason. I paid to live in l A for a reason. But I do love these like burst of cozy. Cozy. Cozy is nice when you're not when you don't have things to do. I agree, I agree. And when you have things to do, it becomes a little problematic in Los Angeles because people don't know how to drive. Rocks are in the roads, things are bursting in the streets. Yeah, like we it's not made for this, but we are. We are made We're made for anything. We are made for anything. Yeah, what's up? What's up? And I also have like the craziest um cramps going on right now, But it's all good because I just took two more and so we're here. So motorin does it for you? Oh yeah, I thought that you had conquered your cramps by So there's only so much you can do with um at a time, you know what I mean. Like I have I'm on my Hashimoto's pursuit, focusing focusing on that food and like what I need to be eating and consuming for that. It's just it's too much energy to do it all simultaneously whilst cycle sinking. I, for one, I am happy to hear you say that I'm still cycle sinking in the sense that, like I'm aware of my phases of the cycle, and I'm like eating like more red meat when I'm on my period and like relaxing more on my period. But like that's pretty much the extent of it. But we still need a little assistance from the mo Trin the mo Trint Mo Trin is my best friend. I luckily got my period while I was in Florida, which was so exciting. You know, we're not We're about a week off. A couple of days and I literally was dying. I never really had bad cram sertay. I have one day of cramps. I think I got like a little bit of food poisoning or something, or a stomach bug. It was just it was. I had a rough few days in Florida, but it was really great. I surprised my parents and UM got to meet my niece, my brother's baby for the first time, and it was really great. I'm glad. I glad I went to the day before. So how less hectic was that than traveling during the holidays. I feel like that might be your new move, Like maybe you're like, hey, family, let's celebrate Christmas like after the New Year. I actually was talking to my mom about this because if if moving forward, every holiday season looks like it did in the airport this year, I don't know if I want to tackle that, Like I don't know if I want to go through the process of booking a flight, getting canceled, panicking it's it just might be nicer to like do it after the fact because the airports were chilling, chilling villain. I part also what a luxury I parked. I drove my car to the airport and parked it there, so then I got homeless night. I just got in my car and it was so nice. But it was about the same as I would have paid to get totally totally. Well, the rest of us like parking ramps near by, you know, well even that's a luxury though. You just get on a shuttle right right. I'm just saying it's world's cheaper than an uber or parking at the airport. Really, is it like thirty bucks a day? It was like ten dollars a day. Yeah, you can find pretty good deals, but that's what most people do. Oh look at me, Like I literally uber Haley takes me and she has the like availability if she's like even she I got there at five thirty or something the other morning and she was like I can take you. Im like, don't worry about it, it's fine. Also, my ubers used to be like fifteen bucks when we were living at No No. Now that umbers from the valley, or like two bucks it's like, so I've never experienced anything like that, right, Plus we have four kids and massive suitcases because we're gone for two weeks, so it's uber is not really feasible. Yeah, you'll have to get x X and I didn't get tubers and I also packed a carry on. Can you believe that I got to the airport well on time? Yes? Did I made my flight? Yes? Was there some rushing happening, yes, especially after I missed my turn to go into my parking garage and I had to go all the way back around. That was. That was, But I haven't done that in a long time. Like, I've actually been pretty consistent because here's my thing. If I'm traveling with someone who was like airport anxiety, I will meet them in the middle like we I'm like, I'm not getting there two and a half hours before, but I'll get there an hour and a half before. That makes you comfortable. So I've been trying to be better about that. But when it's myself, I'm reckless. That gives me anxiety that you missed your entrance to the parking if you if you don't know L A X, there's seven different terminals and then there's an oval you drive through to hit each terminal. So if you miss your terminal and there's so many cars in there, you are stuck going all the way around again with a million other cars. That sounds awful. I certainly was. I certainly was, and I was I was just going. You know what, This is what I did. I didn't tell the only person who knew I was going. I don't even know if I officially told you I was going. Yeah, I knew you were going, okay, because I saw the day before. Yeah, but I was. I hadn't even booked my flight at that point. Yeah, but I knew I had gotta vibe, gotta get Tanya and Haley were like the only people who knew. So in my mind, I was like, the worst case if I miss it, I'm just gonna go back home and go to sleep. Oh my god, go back home and go to sleep, she says, because no one has expectations of me coming. Did you want to gas recently? Yes, that's that's another thing that I can't even fathom too. That was unfortunately cannot live. I could never live my life like that. Neither of these the airport or the gas situation like your car will count down. How does it said zero? When I ran out it said zero? For a while it was a hard zero. People would pay more attention to it. Said it's not a hard zero. People think and that's on us, the people who this is making me anxious for my flight. I haven't flown in a minute. I'm flying at the end of No, I'm sorry, I'm flying at the beginning of February. I'm already like stress. Yeah, I would get there some time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm not. I don't like risk it. I don't like roll the dice. I'd give myself plenty of time. Do you have t s a pre check? Yes, yeah, I don't. I don't know why I don't have that. I should, I don't. I know, Tanya, I know these are just eighty dollars for three years, but you do have to go get like your fingerprints and stuff like that. Yeah, they have one right on riverside here in Burbank. Well, I'm just saying, there's it's not quite as easy as you're making out to be because we've been meaning to get it for our kids and we haven't gone around right. I mean, it is a step. It's a step it's a step, and I typically don't like avoid step. You just like Johns like chaos, chaos and chaos like long lines, and just like I love having to untie my shoes, and yeah, I honestly do too. That's why I ch I mean, they want to do a strip stearch on me every time I welcome them. I hate taking off my shoes at the airport, and like, I just don't like it. Nothing makes me feel more stressed than when I see someone barefoot. Yeah, it's very like even if I was barefoot, which I remember one of my worst angles because I was going on a tropical vacation, I brought socks to put on during the security line. I did a full sock put on so I didn't have to go. That's the real benefit. We were leaving from Milwaukee on New Year's Day and there was no line for non pre check, and there was a little bit of a line for pre check. Yeah, so my wefe was like, there's no line, why would you do the regulars? If you want to take off your shoes, go ahead, The cares are probably cleaner over there. Well, you didn't miss Do you know how many I've done poles on my Instagram, or you would be shocked by how many people don't wash their feet too. I don't really wash my feet. That's so upsetting, but pedicures every two weeks. Down there, it's fine. And the water, the water, the clean didn't know to my I don't wash a lot of my body. Who are you? I shower often hot water does the trick. You don't need soap all over your body. I think I'm closer to Dean than anybody here. Yeah, it doesn't don't really soap themselves either. They just top in the shower, let the water do its thing, and I do. I could see you getting to a point where you're using like apple cider vinegar stuff on your hair to like not have chemicals or somebody. Yeah, it's like, I'm really walking a fine line right now because I can't. I'm not disrupting my hair or my like facial products, but I'm like doing all clean body lotions and like body stuff. But I'm like, I don't want to mess with my face and my hair. Yet I have to say I applaud people who can do this because I'm sure it is so much better for you. I just don't know that I'll ever be there or Mela Cunas has a fun rhyme that sheet for what she washes, and that's believe me, if you need to go ahead at pits and tits and soles and holes, that's all she washes, yes, says I washed my armpits and cross daily and nothing else ever. Yeah but what but listen, souls, that's the bottom of the foot. Those are feet, so that that's important. Everybody armpits and then yeah, and they were doing a nice little face wash. Yeah. But you know, I was going to fill you in on what you missed while you were home, and it's about thirty headlines about Prince Harry. I gotta say I could not care less. No, I'm dead serious, Like when I see it, kind of like me too. They have turned me from team them to team not Them. I'm I'm so indifferent that it doesn't even matter, Like my opinion is so indifferent that it shouldn't even exist. I was like, I've never seen more headlines. I couldn't even keep them straight. What is it? I haven't even like and Marco and I just keep going, I don't even it's so wild. And you know, as a fellow author, I applaud Prince Harry for the media tour he's going on for this book, because I too will be going on a yes, very smaller media tour than Prince Harry UM. And honestly, I need to slide into his d M s and gets some of his contacts because getting into BuzzFeed and Glamour is treacherous, treacherous and drafting up and send him and can you get me into BuzzFeed or Glamour magazine? Thank you? And also can you talk to the New York Times bestsellersome to our podcast? They just seemed desperate to keep their names out there. It's like you can picture people, you know, putting the caps on the camera saying, all right, Harry, we're good, thank you very much. And then he goes, have I mentioned my penis? And it's okay, go ahead, talk about your penis. It's so weird. Yes, lots of different things about the penis. And it's so interesting to me because I'm like, is you just trying to sell books or just stay in the limelight. Ah, I don't know what it is. I'm hoping it's sell books, because I get it, like you want to sell books, but like, but I don't know. Here's my thing though, there always going to be in the media, Like there's never not gonna be people wanting to like their best bet would be too be private because people want to know, like they're crazy about like the royals and this whole storyline. So it's like part of me is like, is this their team that's doing this, like what's going on? Because they're always going to have a like people are always gonna want to know more about them. But I was just thinking about this the other day. When there's too much of someone or anything, people internal them like they're they're want to know everything. But then when they get too much, like this is kind of how what TikTok's done. I feel like people kind of are like I'm tired of seeing them. I'm tired of hearing about them, which I think is where we're at with them. It happened to me. I'm a turner like you personally, Yeah, you have just heard too much of me? Is it the worst thing? Because I feel like that happened to Kardashians many years ago and they have done just fine for themselves. But interesting point mark the Kardashians have I don't know if it's Chris General. I don't know how they've been able to do it, but there's always been that. But part of General, that's why I need a call by my book stuff. Yeah, yeah, you should that and reach out. I gotta get to She could definitely get me into BuzzFeed, Glamor in New York Times. One call, one text on text, um, but you see it all the people. Part of me wonders if you remember how Taylor Swift said she was going to release like we thought that she was going to release all her videos or something for this album. Yeah, I thought they were coming kind of like all like recently, more recent than they have come. And part of me wonders if there was so much, we got so much Taylor Swift, like you couldn't escape it for a second, which I didn't mind, but like I wonder if her team was like, let's step back for a second and get people wanting more again because her team they're smart. They're smart. That's what I need to call it. We need a direct Yeah, But like I remember seeing this whole theory about how Harry styles like it was like him on tour for however long then it was that don't worry darling stuff, and it was like, are we going to get to a point where it's too much? Too much and people are going to turn on him? Because makes a point because the Kardashians, it didn't happen to them, but maybe it did. Maybe the I think it did happen to them, but they's I don't think it's a death sentence. It's not. But I'm saying like, I think you almost go Okay, let's take a step back and not have a headline about us every other article and get people being like, wait, I haven't seen much about the Kardashians lately. Where are they? But the thing with them is they have so many people that they can kind of like rotate who interesting. I wonder if there's somebody back there behind the scenes that's like no, not just in the Kardashian camp, but like in the Hollywood world, being like watching all this Harry Meg and stuff go down, being like this is not a good idea. It's you. You're the person. I don't know if I'm the person really, but yeah, I just think it's really sending me through a feeling of emotions. As a fellow author. I want to be there for Prince Harry, you know, like let him lean on me, say, I got you, author to author, fellow member. Yeah, but I don't got him. Yeah, you don't got him. I don't got him. But part of me I haven't even watch the docuseries because I've seen so many other things and like, you should watch it. Yeah, it's interesting. I would, just because you get to can read them, you can really like read them through it. What do you read them? What do you read about them? I got weird vibes, ma'am, I don't know. I got some weird vibes. Vibes don't lie. Yeah, as a couple or as individuals. As individuals and as a couple, you don't want to share any of those vibes. Well, like a vibe. It's like a vibe hard towards exactly the vibes I felt. But do you feel like they're partners? I do feel like they're part They're definitely partners. Okay, yeah, so they as a couple you feel like they're partners. They're definitely partners. Not like Chelsea Handler and they were not. Yeah long ago discovered correct. So that's all that's happened. While it's gone. That's really all that's happened. I mean that, And there was one other thing. Was it about lamar Odin being afraid to shoot his shot with Chloe Kardashian Again, First of all, it's odum. What did I say, lamar Odin, which I'm sorry lamar odom Um. No, it was not about lamar odom No, Okay, justin Bieber's fashion. Trying to think of the other step Haley Bieber's Nepos Nepo baby T shirt. Okay, First of all, I love Haley Bieber and I love that she wore that T shirt. But also, were you talking about his fashion and compared to hers? Did you see what his blanket that he wore out or like a crochet blanket? And I'm so excited that that is like an actual trend. Could you not see me romping around town with a blanket around me like a cape? Yeah? I don't do that for you. You don't know, I would love that. No, I think you're a little more polished than you give yourself credit for. And we looking at the same girl. Yeah, but you're always matching and stuff. You're never like in a black sweatsuit by the way, with a hand parent Bundy cohesive. I do have my hands Bundy, your hands in your pants? It was in my pants over here? Yeah, because keeping warm. No, because like sometimes when I cradle my cramps, they like feel better when I hands on them. Sometimes Robbie puts his hands on them. Okay, this is not that kind of podcast. Tanya makes him feel better. Well, I saw this thing talking about how Haley is always dressed like to the nines. She always looks perfect every outfit I see her, and I'm like, how can I recreate that? And then it'll be like a paparazzi shot and he's behind her with like pimple patches on, and like literally it almost looks like he's trying to the opposite. Yeah, And people were like, I just can't imagine being with someone who just didn't care like that. And part of me is like, sure, but we don't dress for the like I dressed for myself, like I dressed in like how I feel good, and que I'm not like, oh not. Every thought is like, what's Haley gonna think of this? And she mostly likes what I wear. But I just thought it was an interesting conversation of like it doesn't who are you I guess it's more of like a reflective who are you dressing for? Who are you dressing for? What are you dressing for? Well? I like to be cohesive, so if yeah, yeah, so sometimes that's the way I like to go. So are you dressing for cohesion only? Sometimes? Yes? Correct. Yesterday we went to a birthday party and he was like a large like coat and a white T shirt and jeans, and I wore a white T shirt and jeans and a different color overcoat. Is so cute though, and he likes that kind of is she doesn't when I When I get dressed first, he's like, oh, you're wearing that, Okay, I'll wear you know, I know her, I know who could have guess you'd find someone so perfectly matched, dude, of thunk it. But you know what's not matched is our apple? Uh? We did like the Grand Test tasting, yeah, because we always argue about it, and so we got what do you argue about? He says, honey crisp for the best apples in the and I say, fuji are the best apples in the world. Then recently his mom brought over an Envy apple and we were like, is this the best apple? In the whole world. And so we've been wanting to do this like apple taste test. So we did it this weekend and we like, cut up five different apples. No, so Robbie did it. He cut them, skin them, cut them up, and put them in clear cups and he put the he put the whatever the tag on apple is on the bottom of the cup. So then me and the kids did it and we wrote down our notes. We ranked him in order one to five or whatever, and then I blindfolded him and mixed the order and he did hit yeah, and hold on, I think we need this. These are the most anti climactic. Honey Crisp is out, none of us like Tony Crisp whatsoever. Cosmic apples are in, and envy apples are in. I've never heard of cosmic apple. I think they're new, making new apple, I think. I guess. So I don't know. I guess they're new. And then we did a whole separate tastes because we didn't do Pink Lady in there, and people were really up in arms messaging me the pink Ladies the best. So we did another taste with pink Lady in there, and results were still the same. Interesting, Wow, so what the cosmic and I'll have to try that. I'm a Granny Smith guy. I love Granny Smith in my lunch box right now. Yes, they're so sour, They're exactly how it should be there perfect. I love a Granny Smith apple. Never have bought a Granny Smith apple. I'm not a huge apple eater, so I don't know that I would. I mean, but like apples specifically because I chipped my tooth when I was a sophomore in high school and after that he was like, don't bite into apples, into an apple, and so after that I just kind of like wrote them off my list. But so doesn't the skin wouldn't the skin taste, like the taste of what the skin was be important of like the taste test, you know. I'm glad you brought that up a lot of people. A lot of people were also thrown off by the skinning of the apples. But I have had a permanent retainer in my mouth for many, many years, so I cannot eat the skins of apples. And again I met my match because I don't think Robbie's eating a skin of apple since he was in high school either. But wait, no, I feel like I can picture you. Over the years, you always had to cut it up. You would never bite into an apple, I remember that. But you wouldn't skin them every time. Yeah, until I got my misiline, which was recent. I don't like it all right, because I used to make fun of you because you would you would find it impossible to eat your apple because you forgot your knife. And I would say, you know, humans have discovered another way of eating apples that might intrigue you. But no, no, didn't she bring like a full blown, big butcher, giant figger than my head. It was scary, because are you red? I would have walked with its every day to cut my apple. Washing come with excalibur. I was like, they let you in the building with dog like that feels like a hazard. Maybe I have some weird things, man, you know you do have some quirks. Yeah, have some weird things. Yeah. I got smarter and just cut my apples before I left my house, not to cut them at the office. Yeah, you got smarter, smart, working, working, working, smarter, not harder. I think we should take a break. All right, we are back, Tanya. What else did you do all going? Well? You missed Avatar. We did a fun family I missed. They all went, yeah you didn't go I did? I saw it? Yeah, oh I saw it weeks ago, like the weekend. It came out like two weeks ago. No, like before Christmas. It came up a for Christmas. What Yeah, yeah, I think that time stands still for me, like that two week period around the Christmas time. Tricky times. So this is old news to you. Did you cry like a baby? I cried and I had to like literally close my eyes at some point. I got so upset. Oh, but you were not tired close because you were tired. No, no, no, I mean I wasn't like a recliner seat, so I could have was very It was very peaceful to me, like the water. It was so visually beautiful that I was like very relaxed. But some of the scenes were very intent. I had to I realized I can't handle anything that involves like I guess spoiler alert if you haven't seen it yet, like animal animal harm. You know what's interesting even but the whole movie is c G I or computer somehow, so obviously no real animals like the storyline. I had the same feeling, so I like again, I know I have some weird things, so forgive me. I really um one of the animals without spoiling anything, reminded me of my dog's sunny and like I just like how protective she was, and like I got really emotional about this animal throughout the whole movie. Like I was crying when it was hurt and like I was like, I'm I okay. Well now that in hindsight, I was pre period, so I think I was just like extra emotional. But I was crying in many scenes of that movie. Yeah, that's how I felt too, I know what you're talking. Not many people's eyes were wet in my theater, so I was like, am I okay? Did they have their glasses on them when we were leaving? No, I looked like, what's the heart cried during a movie like where you're just like you know that kind of gasping and weeping. Mine in a theater was Marley and me. That's what I was gonna say, I've seen it. Don't want to know you should not definitely not now that you have a dog, because like I didn't even have a dog at the time, and I went by myself because my sister, my brother in law wanted to see another movie that I didn't want to see, So I went and saw Merlin mean by myself and I came out and I was like, uncontrollable. It is devastating. God. Mine was because I was trying so desperately to hold it in for the whole time, and then finally it was just that I let that big gasp. It was very embarrassing, but real men, crime Mark, I get that cancer. I'm a c along, but I was trying not to for whatever reason. Was rough. Yeah, And then on a plane, what was the worst you've cried in a theater? I mean, I can't think of one. From sadness, like I cried from happiness a lot, like like I wept wept pretty enthusiastically during avengesting game, like from joy and from like seeing all my friends and stuff on the screen. But that's not a joke. I was like weeping in the well the studious theater. But I don't know. I cried during the Notebook in that theater. I cried during that. Um. There's this movie that the late Anton Yalkin did called Like Crazy. It's about like that movie made me weep a lot. That was a very emotional movie. No one talked about that enough. No, they didn't even heard of that. I've never heard of long distance relation. If you're in one, you like the movie, it might make you, might make your heart hurt a little bit, but it is beautiful, beautiful storytelling. All I can think about now when I'm in the theaters is when I see the Nicole Kidman thing I like think of the I think Tea doing the Nicole kid Somehow, hot breake feels good in a place like this. I cannot control my laughter every time I see it now. And people applaud for that, now, don't they when man, Yes, we saw again Opening Night, which is fantastic, by the way, and people were going nuts for the Nicole Kidney Nicola kid me A commercial. It's such a joy every Yeah, it really is, really everyone's never time I see it. Sure, Yeah, Sometimes heartbreak feels good in a place like this. Why she said the first time, I'm just gonna Oh the first time was southern too, And I was like, maybe I missed something. Sometimes heartbreak feels good in a place like this. No, that wasn't anything. The first time I was better. I got it. The first time you know necessarily her Australian accent. The most in um would come to AMC theatis to laugh, to cry so funny. Oh and then we watched we binged Cook It All Costs. It's just like that sounds like Australian said that. Yeah, we just binged a Cook It All Costs. It's such a great show. And I'm finding that I'm loving I love cooking those and I'm not a cook. What's there? Okay, I'm glad you asked. It's these three contestants in their home cooks. So they're like just like you and I like cooking in the kitchen, you know, but they're good, like they have skills, and so they have in their bank. And there's three surprise boxes, right. One of them is a save box, one of them is a spend box, and one of them is a surprise. So the first round, they all make bids and how how much they're willing to spend on like whatever. The lowest bid gets the save box, like they saving the money. The highest bidder gets the spend box, and then one in the middle gets the surprise, and the save box will have like mashed potatoes in a in a brown bag and like sardines and like really like the bottom of the barrel like stuff. And then the spin box will have like ah he tune on, like really just like high end stuff. So you'd think, like, then the second round comes and people will want to spend, you know, get the spin box, and then then you can auction off if they bring items down the line that you can let. It sounds so weird, I'm telling you. It is like because there's an auction so that they'll be like Cilantro will be coming down the line and then people like I need Cilantro, so they're like outbidding each other to like get the Cilantro for their dish or whatever. But it's about creativity. So like somebody who made I got the same box. She made um spaghetti out of peta chips. She cut up and made spaghetti, and then she took they had fish and chips and she bawled them up and made like um spaghetti and meatballs. And so she won because it was like a creative out of the box. And then whoever ends up winning wins all the money left in their bank account. It's amazing how many different versions of cooking shows they've been able to come up with it. I mean crime scene, kitchen like re creating, is it cake? Like? I will watch anything they bring to me in form of cooking, like the most of it. Some guy named Jordan. He's a chef and he's actually really good. Like I watched this other show about like recreating snacks and the hosts really bothered me in that one. But this guy is really good. I liked him. I love a cooking competition. Yeah, and each episode is like solitary, like you can watch it. You don't have to watch the one before to the all new chefs. It's a new judge, so it's like all you can just like kind of pop in, pop out. Speaking of watching it in whatever order, did anyone start or watch Kaleidoscope? Yes, I started. I started it. When I started with I started with Orange and I did not like it. Okay, we started with Yellow and I had the same thing. I was like, this show sucks. I don't want to watch it. And then we show on Netflix that doesn't have episodes. You can watch it in any order you want. They have an order, but you can start any However, you have to do what White goes last. Other than that, you can watch any order you want and it will make sense. I didn't know that, why I'm glad I didn't start with definitely could be the only one you have to watch last. But and so apparently Netflix like gives everybody a different order, so you're just supposed to kind of watch it in whatever order you get. But we too. We watched Yellow first, and I was like, I don't like this, I don't want to watch anymore. Was like, let's give it one more. So watched Green next, and Green was actually really good. And I feel like if I had watched Green first, I maybe would have wanted to watch more, but I was so annoyed already that I and then we watched one more. So I watched Yellow, Green, and Blue. So will you continue? I could care less to continue, but I think I'm going to continue because I want to see white. Like now, I'm just like I want to be You're ready to get to the end. I want to finish, Like I'm not excited about it, but I feel like I need to finish it. See, this is the difference. This is why you're This is why you were able to get through season five of Love Island, because you can just you're like ready I persevere, persevere. That was my word for two and I really feel I embodied it was that your work. I can confirm that was there another word. I've had many words, So what you want that all in? All in? Okay? That's uh. I think it was spawned from the trigger event we broke up and then was all in. Yeah. I was like, I want somebody that's all in about what's about you and more about just the energy of bringing in. Yeah, anybody's coming to my life, they're gonna be all in. It's nice. Nice. Um, yeah, you persevere. I'm not like that, Like if I don't like a book, if I don't like a movie, if I don't like a show, I'm very checked out and I'm just kind of like, I don't need to spend my time doing this. If it's not gonna be something I enjoy. I've already put so much time into it. No, I put one episode in the annoying when people say to you, like, you gotta watch the show, so then you watch it and then you're like, it's not that great that you just got to get through the first season. That's awesome after that, I for me, yeah, I agree, I agree. Everyone Wishi. It's creek is like once you get past the first season. Now it's not the first season, it's like the first few episodes. It's like the first half of the first season. Did you end up liking it? Yeah, we never finished it. Oh my god, I give to watch that show with virgin eyes again. Yeah, it would be happy happily give mine to you. I've considered getting hypnotized to forget Eternal Sunshine. That's a good movie. Okay, let's take a break. When we're going to come back and do emails, we have a couple of Hey, I'm Lance Bass, host of the new I Heart podcast Frosted Tips with Lance Bass. The hardest thing could be knowing who to turn to when questions arise, or times get tough, or you're at the end of the road. Okay, I see what you're doing. Do you ever think to yourself, what advice would Lance Bass and my favorite boy bands give me in this situation. If you do, you've come to the right place, because I'm here to help this. I promise you, seriously, I swear, and you won't have to send an S O S because I'll be there for you. And so my husband Michael Hey, that's me. Yeah, we know that Michael and a different hot sexy teen crush boybander each week to guide you through life step by step, not another one. 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And I think Tanya did it once and I got like two thousand people watching and they were like, who is this? What is happening? Who's this guy? Do people still do that now? The joint Instagram's yeah, I think try to schedule. So I stopped doing it, but it was a great show, thanks to everyone who watched it. Tanya presented Top Potato and she did such a good job. She had an envelope what one I forget? What one for Top Potato? Was it the Russet the red Potato. It was so excited because I got like the text of like kind of what to do, and so I like put the winner in it. I had a red because it was the red potatoes. I was like, I have a red envelope and like a red card, so like wrote it in on the car and I had Robbie like handed to me and I was like and I had. I did a couple of takes and he was like, no, no, this time you should like be like oh wow, you know, and was like I can make some background. I was like really, it was so great. I was surprised orange one fruit to the year. Man, I'm having an orange year. And also why are you surprised about that? Like vitamin sees that it's prime high. Yes, that was just thinking would be something a little bit more less common. You know, apples and orange the most common fruits. Oh, you thought it was going to be more of like unexpected Yeah fruit, yes, like a star fruit stru be a great track fruit jack fruit right, orange just takes it away. I got really into orange advertisements this year to like look at the old orange crates from like the forties. I just stare at those things. So that pushed him over the top. Give him the win. Yeah, eating more oranges lately than usual to have a tree and they bring us bags of the extra oranges. They're delicious and they're gonna have a great year as the winner for the Fruit of the Year. But if you missed it, it's on my Instagram where it we'll live at The fruit two was no wait, it won Fruit of the Year. Yes, yes, for twenty two. Yes, so oranges had a big year, had a big year, but it shall it's the champion until okay, god o years. Yeah, you know and what other a word show says that exactly that's what you get when you come to the I showed I showed it to my wife and you were a mid song, you were singing something and she said, why does he do this? As I just even know it for a long time because man I thought I married weird. So there you go, all right, this is from anonymous, and she says, I've actually I don't know if it's a she, So they say, I've been with my partner for six years. She's always been a little more Type A than me and has O c D and anxiety, but now it's gotten to the point where it really affects her home life. We're not sure if it's age she's forty eight, or having COVID or something else, but she's got to the point We're always late, which gives me anxiety. I'm ready in an hour, she digs two to three. A lot of times she's canceled plans with my family and or friends, leaving me to go alone and then having to explain each time why she's not coming, including my own birthday dinners. Now people just expect me to come alone. She doesn't want to plan anything. She'll say, we never do anything or plan anything, but if there's a concert, a restaurant, a place I want to go, even mentioning it puts her in a foul mood because the thought of doing it stresses her out. I want her to be a part of things, but she doesn't like me going without her either, so now we both miss out. She tellsn't one of my best friends after six years. She's big on the gym and working up for releasing stress, but she won't go on meds because of the side effects. How much can you do for a partner before it's unfair? What is the next step? I feel like I'm always the gardener in our relationship, tending to her anxieties, But isn't that what you do for a partner? Help? Please? That's a tough one. Yeah, that's really hard. I feel like you need a professional and not I was gonna say, yeah, we're not gonna be able to help, But I do think that uh taking this step and like talking to a couple of therapists and navigating how to be there for each other, because obviously, when you have when your partner is going through something, you need to be able to show up for them and not just like run when it gets hard. But I also think that you're missing out on life and important things due to her um anxiety and o c D. So I don't think it's fair to you. So I think you need to actually like make an effort to do this together and like see a couple of therapists, because I think this is actually going to take some something like way more official than us. Yeah, honestly, because I do, like I don't even know. I can't even I can't even picture because it's like it's a real it's a it's an illness, you know. So it's like you have to to care for it in a very careful and specific way, but it's also having a very bad and negative impact on your life. I mean, he'r not going to your birthday dinners. I think some would see that as a deal breaker, that she's just too stressed to make it to your birthday dinners. Yeah, but if it's stressed coming from like deep rooted anxiety and like all these things, like it's not like she's just like, oh I'm too stress, Like it's like it's debilitating. But how is that anonymous problem? I mean, I feel like it's too much of an anonymous problems in six years. I just think it's like I agree, she it sounds like it's gotten worse though it hasn't been like this the whole. Since it sounds like it's gotten worse people, I think it's happened to a lot of people. So I think it's like have in a conversation of like going to see someone and also being there worked through their own issues. For sure, they need to work through that, but like not like being there for her, but also not like making yourself miserable in that fact, and also like ruining and hurting other relationships in your life. So um, but I wish the best for all that's They don't mentioned if if they're in therapy or if she's in therapy. There's mentioned meds, which seems like a step too far. If I feel like therapy could be very helpful for both of you together and for each of you individually, I don't know if that's realistic, but all right. Another one from anonymous. I was actually on The Bachelor several years ago. I had gone through a recent divorce and my act in laws spread some horrible things about me on social media when they found out I was going on. It was really hard on me and my family. I got sent home night one, so luckily it was on a smaller scale than what other people go through. Making the decision to do the show felt extremely right at the time. Everything worked out perfectly for it to happen, and I'm so thankful for the opportunity, but I had to give and spend a lot in order to make it work. Overall, it was a pretty negative experience for me, so I still struggle wondering what the reason for it all was. I'm about to turn I'm about to turn thirty. I've been in a wonderful relationship for two years and finally feel like I found my person. My boyfriend and I just moved out of my home state for his job a few months ago, when it's a place we don't love, don't know anybody, and I've had a hard time getting a new job, so I'm struggling to find my path and my purpose. I still feel a sting when I see girls from my season and people from the show in general, living their best life and getting these amazing opportunities, when I just feel stuck and constantly I'm reminded of what I missed out on every time I opened social media. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, but how do I move forward without feeling anger and know that what's meant for me is coming, even when I feel lost. Well, I think, first of all, I think looking back and wonder like feeling everything happens for a reason. It felt like you were It felt like it was the opportunity to go. I mean, I if you hadn't gone, you would have always been like, oh, what if I had gone on the show? Like that's just the fact, Like you would have always been like, what if I didn't take the opportunity to go? So I think you need to let go. They like, what was the meaning of it all? What did it mean? Because I think for you the alternative would have been just as like daunting of like what if? What if? And now you're in a wonderful relationship with someone that has worked out. And I think, just like all social media, comparison is the thief of joy. And I think sometimes we compare ourselves to like everyone's exciting best moments, But I think that's a lesson we all are like dealing with on a daily basis, whether you're compair and despair. Yeah, whether it's someone that's on the Bachelor or someone who's just like getting job promotions over you, like in a corporate world, Like there's always going to be that feeling of comparison. I think finding contentment and like like worth in yourself without comparing yourself to others is like very important no matter what the situation looks like, you have to like go that. I think anger is like truly a poison. It can make you do things and say things that you don't mean or that you don't want to do, and like when you live in when you come and live in a place of anger, it's really bad. Um, So you have to really really really try and let that go and just know that that wasn't your path, that it was just wasn't your path. You can't you can't live in that anger. It's so toxic. Yeah, And it's not a bad thing to mute people in social media, like I think I think a lot of people are like, oh, I don't want to have to go that route. But if it's causing anger and bitterness and resentment every time you get on an app and you don't want to fully delete social media, just mute the people who make you feel that way round follow them if you don't have like a close relationship with them. I think it's just like we put so much stress and weight on social media and who we follow, and it's like destroying our confidence in our lives, and we don't even realize how simple it is just to eliminate it, eliminate the things that do that. So I agree. I think bitterness and comparison is literal poison, and I we've watched it happen more and more with people with social media. So just be gentle with yourself and know that that good things will come to you. You're in a happy, loving relationship, and a lot of people that you're following on social media are probably still searching for that. So just yeah, that's a good point. And I find this really interesting because of all the people you see that we're on the bachlor and they seem to just be having the time of their lives. It's interesting to see the other side of that a little bit. And I wonder about the in laws who were spreading awful things about her on social media. I wonder if that's still hurting her, because I feel like, wh you're applying for new jobs, they're at least gonna look you up on the internet and they're gonna see these bad things about you. I hope not well, hope karma comes back to them if they're spreading false rumors. Um, wish you the best either way. It can be hard. Social media is hard. I think that's it for today, for today. I think that was a great show, everybody. That's a great show. Apples. We talked about a lot of apples and oranges and oranges. Apples and oranges. Yeah, get much better than If you're looking for anything else in the podcast world, Why why are you going else? Avatar to Flying, we hit everything. To Prince Harry, we hit everything, We hit it all. This hand is back in her pants for the period cram hand is in the pants on the cradling the cramps. I have a date tonight. Tonight, have a date with my boyfriend. We're gonna go to a dinner place that we enjoy in a while. I know, no, yeah, I remember when we went to pot one time. Yeah. Alright, Well, we love you guys, have a wonderful week. We'll be back Thursday with the one and only Low Bosworth. Um, So we'll see you then. By love,