When a deeply held belief of ours is challenged, our brainwaves show the same stress and panic as if we're being chased by a bear. We see it as a life or death threat, and it triggers a fight or flight response.

But when we're having an easy conversation with someone at a party, our brainwaves actually sync up.

Dave Ross talks with Kate Murphy, author of "You're Not Listening," about how to sync our brainwaves more than chase each other with bears. She has some great advice about how to be a good listener - and how to make sure other people want to listen to you, too.