Nicole Liddell is doing her PhD on coercive control, specifically how technology gets used to keep the control going even after someone leaves. And honestly, the examples are equal parts terrifying and ridiculously sneaky. Bank transfers with threats in the reference line. Smart home systems taken over remotely. A bloody robovac being used like a creepy little spy cam on wheels.

But the part that really landed was the human cost of researching this stuff when you’ve lived it. Nicole talks about going in 'eyes wide open', thinking she had it handled… then realising she didn’t. The immersion, the algorithms, the constant exposure, the nervous system never switching off. And then her body basically calling time on the whole thing.

From there, it turned into this really honest convo about hypervigilance, dating after dodgy history, rigidity, and learning to live in the messy middle instead of either fawning or fleeing. We talked self-respect, boundaries, communicating needs, and why 'fun' is not a cute extra, it’s medicine. And Nicole’s 2026 word is stewardship, which feels like the most grown-up, grounded way to say, I’m not sacrificing myself to the mission anymore. BOOM!!

 

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Nicole Liddell is doing her PhD on coercive control, specifically how technology gets used to keep the control going even after someone leaves. And honestly, the examples are equal parts terrifying and ridiculously sneaky. Bank transfers with threats in the reference line. Smart home systems taken over remotely. A bloody robovac being used like a creepy little spy cam on wheels.
But the part that really landed was the human cost of researching this stuff when you&rsquo;ve lived it. Nicole talks about going in 'eyes wide open', thinking she had it handled&hellip; then realising she didn&rsquo;t. The immersion, the algorithms, the constant exposure, the nervous system never switching off. And then her body basically calling time on the whole thing.
From there, it turned into this really honest convo about hypervigilance, dating after dodgy history, rigidity, and learning to live in the messy middle instead of either fawning or fleeing. We talked self-respect, boundaries, communicating needs, and why 'fun' is not a cute extra, it&rsquo;s medicine. And Nicole&rsquo;s 2026 word is stewardship, which feels like the most grown-up, grounded way to say, I&rsquo;m not sacrificing myself to the mission anymore. BOOM!!
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Life hits hard. Good. So do we.
Roll With The Punches is a front-row seat to the messy, beautiful, brutal bits of being human.

Hosted by Tiff Cook - former boxer, coach, speaker, rascal, and someone who’s copped a few uppercuts from life and keeps getting back up. She sits down with global survivors, scientists, rebels, rockstars, and everyday legends to ask one thing:

What does it really take to get back up when life drops you?

We talk breakdowns, breakthroughs, big truths, and the bullsh*t we all carry. Behind the masks. Beneath the armour. Real conversations that crack something open in all of us.

We’re built to break.
And we become dangerous by design.
Honest work over hard work. Every damn time.

Life hits hard. Good. So do we. Roll With The Punches is a front-row seat to the messy, beautiful, brutal bits of being human.
Hosted by Tiff Cook - former boxer, coach, speaker, rascal, and someone who&rsquo;s copped a few uppercuts from life and keeps getting back up. She sits down with global survivors, scientists, rebels, rockstars, and everyday legends to ask one thing:
What does it really take to get back up when life drops you?
We talk breakdowns, breakthroughs, big truths, and the bullsh*t we all carry. Behind the masks. Beneath the armour. Real conversations that crack something open in all of us.
We&rsquo;re built to break. And we become dangerous by design. Honest work over hard work. Every damn time.

Roll With The Punches

Aussie host Tiffanee Cook is an athlete, performance coach, speaker and self-proclaimed eternal student of life. Making an impact through storytelling and science as she invites you to join her in exploring the human experience. From real life encounters with tragedy, vulnerability and trauma to exploring all things human experience with world renowned experts, scientists, psychologists & thought leaders.

 

Aussie host Tiffanee Cook is an athlete, performance coach, speaker and self-proclaimed eternal student of life. Making an impact through storytelling and science as she invites you to join her in exploring the human experience. From real life encounters with tragedy, vulnerability and trauma to exploring all things human experience with world renowned experts, scientists, psychologists &amp; thought leaders.
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