You said the words. "I forgive you."

But somewhere in your body, you're still carrying it. The tight chest when their name comes up. The sleep that won't come. The wall you didn't mean to build but built anyway.

Forgiveness was never supposed to be a phrase you say once and move on from.

In this episode, Sherman and Semise Daley sit down with Diane Tinderholt, MA, MFT to look at what unforgiveness is actually doing to you: physically, relationally, and spiritually, and what it actually takes for forgiveness to take root.

What we cover:

• Why mentally rehearsing a grudge raises your blood pressure, heart rate, and stress hormones, and why practicing forgiveness brings those same measures back down to resting levels
• The difference between forgiving someone and trusting them again, and why confusing the two keeps couples stuck
• What Jesus' parable of the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18) pictures about what unforgiveness becomes for the one holding it
• Joseph's example in Genesis 45 and 50: naming a real wrong honestly without that honesty blocking forgiveness
• Why 62% of American adults say they personally need to forgive someone, a reminder this conversation is for nearly everyone listening, not just people in active conflict
• What a real first practical step toward actually letting go looks like, not just saying the words

- Name What Unforgiveness Is Really Costing You
- What The Research Shows About Your Body
- Forgiveness vs. Trust — Why They're Not The Same
- What Scripture Says — Joseph, Matthew 18, Hebrews 12
- The First Practical Step
- Close + Next Step

Key Scriptures: Ephesians 4:31-32 · Colossians 3:13 · Mark 11:25 · Matthew 18:21-35 · Hebrews 12:14-15 · Genesis 45:4-15

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Love Never Fails!!! 1 Cor 13:8

You said the words. "I forgive you." But somewhere in your body, you're still carrying it. The tight chest when their name comes up. The sleep that won't come. The wall you didn't mean to build but built anyway. Forgiveness was never supposed to be a phrase you say once and move on from.
In this episode, Sherman and Semise Daley sit down with Diane Tinderholt, MA, MFT to look at what unforgiveness is actually doing to you: physically, relationally, and spiritually, and what it actually takes for forgiveness to take root. What we cover:
&bull; Why mentally rehearsing a grudge raises your blood pressure, heart rate, and stress hormones, and why practicing forgiveness brings those same measures back down to resting levels &bull; The difference between forgiving someone and trusting them again, and why confusing the two keeps couples stuck &bull; What Jesus' parable of the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18) pictures about what unforgiveness becomes for the one holding it &bull; Joseph's example in Genesis 45 and 50: naming a real wrong honestly without that honesty blocking forgiveness &bull; Why 62% of American adults say they personally need to forgive someone, a reminder this conversation is for nearly everyone listening, not just people in active conflict &bull; What a real first practical step toward actually letting go looks like, not just saying the words - Name What Unforgiveness Is Really Costing You - What The Research Shows About Your Body - Forgiveness vs. Trust &mdash; Why They're Not The Same - What Scripture Says &mdash; Joseph, Matthew 18, Hebrews 12 - The First Practical Step - Close + Next Step Key Scriptures: Ephesians 4:31-32 &middot; Colossians 3:13 &middot; Mark 11:25 &middot; Matthew 18:21-35 &middot; Hebrews 12:14-15 &middot; Genesis 45:4-15 READY TO GO DEEPER? If this episode hit home, you don't have to carry this alone. Book Your Free Discovery Call: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://restoredmarriages.com/discovery&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1791694142354000&amp;sa=E" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="1">https://restoredmarriages.com/discovery</a> Free Marriage Health Assessment: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://restoredmarriages.com/assessment&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1791694142354000&amp;sa=E" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="2">https://restoredmarriages.com/assessment</a> Stuck in the same conflict on repeat? Take our Stop the Cycle MasterClass: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://restoredmarriages.com/stop-the-cycle&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1791694142354000&amp;sa=E" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="3">https://restoredmarriages.com/stop-the-cycle</a> ABOUT RESTORED MARRIAGE RADIO God restored our marriage after real brokenness &mdash; and now we guide couples like you back to each other and back to God. Sherman and Semise Daley are the co-founders of Marriage Restoration Ministry Inc., and each week they bring covenant-centered, Scripture-anchored teaching for couples who are ready to fight for their marriage. <a href="tel:(619)%20853-4393" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="4">(619) 853-4393</a> | <a href="mailto:info@restoredmarriages.com" data-linkindex="5">info@restoredmarriages.com</a> |&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://restoredmarriages.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1791694142354000&amp;sa=E" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="6">https://restoredmarriages.com</a> HASHTAGS #MarriageRestoration #ChristianMarriage #Forgiveness #Unforgiveness #ChristianCounseling #RestoredMarriageRadio #CovenantMarriage #HealingJourney #MarriageAdvice #ChristianLiving -- Thanks &amp; God bless! Sherman &amp; Semise Daley, Internationally Certified Relationship Coaches Business Ph. <a href="tel:(619)%20853-4393" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="7">619-853-4393</a> Website: RestoredMarriages.com "Restored Marriage Radio" KPRZ 1210 AM Sun 6 pm Co-Founders of Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc. Love Never Fails!!! 1 Cor 13:8

We help Christian couples struggling in their marriage to redeem it through the grace and love of Jesus Christ!

Sherman Daley Bio

Sherman was born in Spanish Town, Jamaica, and moved to Canada as a teenager where he completed high school. His family later relocated to Los Angeles, where he found his faith and began his spiritual journey. Shortly after, Sherman moved to San Diego to pursue engineering, which eventually led him to a successful career as a computer programmer.

Throughout his life, Sherman has been deeply involved in his church community, leading young adult and married couples' groups, coordinating church activities, and serving as a music leader. His faith has always been central to his life as he worked to develop a close relationship with God.

After nineteen years of marriage, Sherman experienced a painful divorce. Later, God brought Semise into his life, who was also seeking a partner. They married and blended their families—Sherman with one child, and Semise with four children—and now enjoy eight grandchildren together. Their marriage faced its own challenges that led to their divorce, but through this struggle, God revealed patterns from their past and guided them to restore their marriage. They remarried after being divorced for 3&1/2 years. Their personal journey of healing and reconciliation has inspired their current ministry, where they help other couples restore their marriages. They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other.

 

Semise Daley Bio 

Semise was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. When she was a toddler, her mother and father eloped to Fairfield California and lived near her paternal grandmother, Helen. When she was 5 years old, her mother left her father and returned to NOLA with Semise. Shortly afterwards her parents divorced.  She is her mother’s only child, but she has two half-sisters, one half-brother, and one stepsister from her father’s other marriages and relationships. Growing up without a stable father figure in her life was very difficult growing up. But being close to her maternal grandmother, Azena, and going to church with her was what introduced her to a solid relationship with the Heavenly Father. That introduction has led her to stay close to God and His church. She has served in the ministry in various capacities, including lending her nursing professional skills to the faith community as a Parish Nurse in New Orleans, LA, Evansville, IN, and now in San Diego, CA. She was an ordained as a Minister of the Gospel in 2005 and currently serves with her husband, Sherman, in their local church, Rock Church of San Diego - City Heights Campus, as Marriage Ministry Leaders. She is a Nationally Certified Family Nurse Practitioner, Adjunct Professor at Azusa Pacific University (APU), and also a Ph.D. in Nursing student working on her dissertation study. She has been awarded numerous awards and scholarships in her nursing career as well as served as a speaker both locally and nationally on several occasions. She and Sherman first got married in 2012, divorced in 2017, then remarried in 2020. They have a blended family of five adult children and eight grandchildren, (plus two granddogs-Peppah & Zoey). They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc., where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other to help avoid the traumatic effects of separation and divorce if possible.

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We help Christian couples struggling in their marriage to redeem it through the grace and love of Jesus Christ!
Sherman Daley Bio
Sherman was born in Spanish Town, Jamaica, and moved to Canada as a teenager where he completed high school. His family later relocated to Los Angeles, where he found his faith and began his spiritual journey. Shortly after, Sherman moved to San Diego to pursue engineering, which eventually led him to a successful career as a computer programmer.
Throughout his life, Sherman has been deeply involved in his church community, leading young adult and married couples' groups, coordinating church activities, and serving as a music leader. His faith has always been central to his life as he worked to develop a close relationship with God.
After nineteen years of marriage, Sherman experienced a painful divorce. Later, God brought Semise into his life, who was also seeking a partner. They married and blended their families&mdash;Sherman with one child, and Semise with four children&mdash;and now enjoy eight grandchildren together. Their marriage faced its own challenges that led to their divorce, but through this struggle, God revealed patterns from their past and guided them to restore their marriage. They remarried after being divorced for 3&amp;1/2 years. Their personal journey of healing and reconciliation has inspired their current ministry, where they help other couples restore their marriages. They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other.
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Semise Daley Bio 
Semise was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. When she was a toddler, her mother and father eloped to Fairfield California and lived near her paternal grandmother, Helen. When she was 5 years old, her mother left her father and returned to NOLA with Semise. Shortly afterwards her parents divorced.&nbsp; She is her mother&rsquo;s only child, but she has two half-sisters, one half-brother, and one stepsister from her father&rsquo;s other marriages and relationships. Growing up without a stable father figure in her life was very difficult growing up. But being close to her maternal grandmother, Azena, and going to church with her was what introduced her to a solid relationship with the Heavenly Father. That introduction has led her to stay close to God and His church. She has served in the ministry in various capacities, including lending her nursing professional skills to the faith community as a Parish Nurse in New Orleans, LA, Evansville, IN, and now in San Diego, CA. She was an ordained as a Minister of the Gospel in 2005 and currently serves with her husband, Sherman, in their local church, Rock Church of San Diego - City Heights Campus, as Marriage Ministry Leaders. She is a Nationally Certified Family Nurse Practitioner, Adjunct Professor at Azusa Pacific University (APU), and also a Ph.D. in Nursing student working on her dissertation study. She has been awarded numerous awards and scholarships in her nursing career as well as served as a speaker both locally and nationally on several occasions. She and Sherman first got married in 2012, divorced in 2017, then remarried in 2020. They have a blended family of five adult children and eight grandchildren, (plus two granddogs-Peppah &amp; Zoey). They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc., where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other to help avoid the traumatic effects of separation and divorce if possible.
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