"Many marriages don't fall apart because couples stop loving each other…
They fall apart because couples stop understanding each other.

In this episode of Restored Marriage Radio, Sherman and Semise talk about one of the most important skills every couple must learn:

How to communicate without combat.

Too many conversations between spouses turn into arguments, defensiveness, or emotional shutdowns. But healthy communication can be learned — and when couples learn to truly listen and understand each other, connection can be restored.

In this episode you will learn:
• Why communication turns into arguments in marriage
• The hidden emotional needs behind most complaints
• How defensiveness damages connection
• The power of listening to understand your spouse
• Simple ways to communicate without triggering conflict
• Biblical wisdom for healthy conversations in marriage

This episode is part of our series:
The Steps to Restoring Your Marriage

If your marriage feels stuck in conflict, distance, or misunderstanding, this teaching will give you practical tools to begin rebuilding connection.

Resources to Strengthen Your Marriage
Learn more about marriage coaching and our Cruise to a Better Marriage retreats here:
https://restoredmarriages.com/cruises

About Restored Marriage Radio
Sherman and Semise help Christian couples restore, rebuild, and strengthen their marriage through faith, practical tools, and real conversations.

Through coaching, workshops, and marriage retreats, they guide couples toward deeper connection with each other and with God.

Share This With a Couple Who Needs It

If this episode encouraged you, send it to another couple who might need hope and guidance in their marriage.

And don't forget to subscribe for more episodes that help couples restore their love and connection."

Connect with us:
• Coaching & resources: https://restoredmarriages.com/
• https://Facebook.com/shermware
• Course: https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages

"Many marriages don't fall apart because couples stop loving each other&hellip; They fall apart because couples stop understanding each other. In this episode of Restored Marriage Radio, Sherman and Semise talk about one of the most important skills every couple must learn: How to communicate without combat. Too many conversations between spouses turn into arguments, defensiveness, or emotional shutdowns. But healthy communication can be learned &mdash; and when couples learn to truly listen and understand each other, connection can be restored. In this episode you will learn: &bull; Why communication turns into arguments in marriage &bull; The hidden emotional needs behind most complaints &bull; How defensiveness damages connection &bull; The power of listening to understand your spouse &bull; Simple ways to communicate without triggering conflict &bull; Biblical wisdom for healthy conversations in marriage This episode is part of our series: The Steps to Restoring Your Marriage If your marriage feels stuck in conflict, distance, or misunderstanding, this teaching will give you practical tools to begin rebuilding connection. Resources to Strengthen Your Marriage Learn more about marriage coaching and our Cruise to a Better Marriage retreats here: <a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/cruises" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="0">https://restoredmarriages.com/cruises</a> About Restored Marriage Radio Sherman and Semise help Christian couples restore, rebuild, and strengthen their marriage through faith, practical tools, and real conversations. Through coaching, workshops, and marriage retreats, they guide couples toward deeper connection with each other and with God. Share This With a Couple Who Needs It If this episode encouraged you, send it to another couple who might need hope and guidance in their marriage. And don't forget to subscribe for more episodes that help couples restore their love and connection." Connect with us: &bull; Coaching &amp; resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="1">https://restoredmarriages.com/</a> &bull;&nbsp;<a href="https://facebook.com/shermware" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="2">https://Facebook.com/shermware</a> &bull; Course:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="3">https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset</a> &bull; YouTube:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="4">https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages</a>

We help Christian couples struggling in their marriage to redeem it through the grace and love of Jesus Christ!

Sherman Daley Bio

Sherman was born in Spanish Town, Jamaica, and moved to Canada as a teenager where he completed high school. His family later relocated to Los Angeles, where he found his faith and began his spiritual journey. Shortly after, Sherman moved to San Diego to pursue engineering, which eventually led him to a successful career as a computer programmer.

Throughout his life, Sherman has been deeply involved in his church community, leading young adult and married couples' groups, coordinating church activities, and serving as a music leader. His faith has always been central to his life as he worked to develop a close relationship with God.

After nineteen years of marriage, Sherman experienced a painful divorce. Later, God brought Semise into his life, who was also seeking a partner. They married and blended their families—Sherman with one child, and Semise with four children—and now enjoy eight grandchildren together. Their marriage faced its own challenges that led to their divorce, but through this struggle, God revealed patterns from their past and guided them to restore their marriage. They remarried after being divorced for 3&1/2 years. Their personal journey of healing and reconciliation has inspired their current ministry, where they help other couples restore their marriages. They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other.

 

Semise Daley Bio 

Semise was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. When she was a toddler, her mother and father eloped to Fairfield California and lived near her paternal grandmother, Helen. When she was 5 years old, her mother left her father and returned to NOLA with Semise. Shortly afterwards her parents divorced.  She is her mother’s only child, but she has two half-sisters, one half-brother, and one stepsister from her father’s other marriages and relationships. Growing up without a stable father figure in her life was very difficult growing up. But being close to her maternal grandmother, Azena, and going to church with her was what introduced her to a solid relationship with the Heavenly Father. That introduction has led her to stay close to God and His church. She has served in the ministry in various capacities, including lending her nursing professional skills to the faith community as a Parish Nurse in New Orleans, LA, Evansville, IN, and now in San Diego, CA. She was an ordained as a Minister of the Gospel in 2005 and currently serves with her husband, Sherman, in their local church, Rock Church of San Diego - City Heights Campus, as Marriage Ministry Leaders. She is a Nationally Certified Family Nurse Practitioner, Adjunct Professor at Azusa Pacific University (APU), and also a Ph.D. in Nursing student working on her dissertation study. She has been awarded numerous awards and scholarships in her nursing career as well as served as a speaker both locally and nationally on several occasions. She and Sherman first got married in 2012, divorced in 2017, then remarried in 2020. They have a blended family of five adult children and eight grandchildren, (plus two granddogs-Peppah & Zoey). They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc., where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other to help avoid the traumatic effects of separation and divorce if possible.

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We help Christian couples struggling in their marriage to redeem it through the grace and love of Jesus Christ!
Sherman Daley Bio
Sherman was born in Spanish Town, Jamaica, and moved to Canada as a teenager where he completed high school. His family later relocated to Los Angeles, where he found his faith and began his spiritual journey. Shortly after, Sherman moved to San Diego to pursue engineering, which eventually led him to a successful career as a computer programmer.
Throughout his life, Sherman has been deeply involved in his church community, leading young adult and married couples' groups, coordinating church activities, and serving as a music leader. His faith has always been central to his life as he worked to develop a close relationship with God.
After nineteen years of marriage, Sherman experienced a painful divorce. Later, God brought Semise into his life, who was also seeking a partner. They married and blended their families&mdash;Sherman with one child, and Semise with four children&mdash;and now enjoy eight grandchildren together. Their marriage faced its own challenges that led to their divorce, but through this struggle, God revealed patterns from their past and guided them to restore their marriage. They remarried after being divorced for 3&amp;1/2 years. Their personal journey of healing and reconciliation has inspired their current ministry, where they help other couples restore their marriages. They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other.
&nbsp;
Semise Daley Bio 
Semise was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. When she was a toddler, her mother and father eloped to Fairfield California and lived near her paternal grandmother, Helen. When she was 5 years old, her mother left her father and returned to NOLA with Semise. Shortly afterwards her parents divorced.&nbsp; She is her mother&rsquo;s only child, but she has two half-sisters, one half-brother, and one stepsister from her father&rsquo;s other marriages and relationships. Growing up without a stable father figure in her life was very difficult growing up. But being close to her maternal grandmother, Azena, and going to church with her was what introduced her to a solid relationship with the Heavenly Father. That introduction has led her to stay close to God and His church. She has served in the ministry in various capacities, including lending her nursing professional skills to the faith community as a Parish Nurse in New Orleans, LA, Evansville, IN, and now in San Diego, CA. She was an ordained as a Minister of the Gospel in 2005 and currently serves with her husband, Sherman, in their local church, Rock Church of San Diego - City Heights Campus, as Marriage Ministry Leaders. She is a Nationally Certified Family Nurse Practitioner, Adjunct Professor at Azusa Pacific University (APU), and also a Ph.D. in Nursing student working on her dissertation study. She has been awarded numerous awards and scholarships in her nursing career as well as served as a speaker both locally and nationally on several occasions. She and Sherman first got married in 2012, divorced in 2017, then remarried in 2020. They have a blended family of five adult children and eight grandchildren, (plus two granddogs-Peppah &amp; Zoey). They co-founded their marriage coaching business, Marriage Restoration Ministry, Inc., where they coach couples to strengthen their relationships with God and each other to help avoid the traumatic effects of separation and divorce if possible.
restoredmarriages.com&nbsp;

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Learn to Communicate Without Combat - Step 4 to Restore Your Marriage

Your marriage is not broken—your wounds are. And God is ready to heal them.

In this powerful combined teaching from Restored Marriages Radio, Sherman & Semise walk couples through Step 5: Healing the Hidden Wounds—the emotional injuries that silently shape reactions, triggers, communication, and connection.

Most couples try to fix their marriage at the surface level… But the REAL issue is often the wound underneath the argument.

In this full teaching, you’ll learn:

✔ What hidden wounds are and how they form

✔ Why small issues trigger big emotional reactions ✔ How past pain shows up in present conflict ✔ How to recognize when you’re triggered ✔ How to identify the original wound ✔ How to separate past pain from present moments ✔ How to grieve what was lost ✔ How forgiveness frees your heart ✔ How to replace lies with God’s truth ✔ How to create new responses to old triggers ✔ When to seek Christian counseling or pastoral support

This is one of the most important steps in the restoration journey. When wounds heal, triggers lose their power. Conversations become safer. Compassion replaces suspicion. And trust begins to rebuild.

Scriptures referenced:

Psalm 147:3 • Psalm 34:18 • Proverbs 20:5 • John 8:32 • 2 Corinthians 5:17 • Colossians 3:13 • Romans 12:2 • John 10:10 • Proverbs 15:1 • Psalm 51:10

If you’re ready to stop reacting from pain and start responding from wholeness, this teaching will guide you step‑by‑step.

Subscribe for weekly marriage restoration content, biblical teaching, and real tools for healing.

Connect with us:
• Coaching & resources: https://restoredmarriages.com/
• https://Facebook.com/shermware
• Course: https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages

Your marriage is not broken&mdash;your wounds are. And God is ready to heal them.
In this powerful combined teaching from&nbsp;Restored Marriages Radio, Sherman &amp; Semise walk couples through&nbsp;Step 5: Healing the Hidden Wounds&mdash;the emotional injuries that silently shape reactions, triggers, communication, and connection.
Most couples try to fix their marriage at the surface level&hellip; But the REAL issue is often the wound underneath the argument.
In this full teaching, you&rsquo;ll learn:
✔ What hidden wounds are and how they form
✔ Why small issues trigger big emotional reactions ✔ How past pain shows up in present conflict ✔ How to recognize when you&rsquo;re triggered ✔ How to identify the original wound ✔ How to separate past pain from present moments ✔ How to grieve what was lost ✔ How forgiveness frees your heart ✔ How to replace lies with God&rsquo;s truth ✔ How to create new responses to old triggers ✔ When to seek Christian counseling or pastoral support
This is one of the most important steps in the restoration journey. When wounds heal, triggers lose their power. Conversations become safer. Compassion replaces suspicion. And trust begins to rebuild.
Scriptures referenced:
Psalm 147:3 &bull; Psalm 34:18 &bull; Proverbs 20:5 &bull; John 8:32 &bull; 2 Corinthians 5:17 &bull; Colossians 3:13 &bull; Romans 12:2 &bull; John 10:10 &bull; Proverbs 15:1 &bull; Psalm 51:10
If you&rsquo;re ready to stop reacting from pain and start responding from wholeness, this teaching will guide you step‑by‑step.
Subscribe for weekly marriage restoration content, biblical teaching, and real tools for healing.
Connect with us: &bull; Coaching &amp; resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="0">https://restoredmarriages.com/</a> &bull;&nbsp;<a href="https://facebook.com/shermware" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="1">https://Facebook.com/shermware</a> &bull; Course:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="2">https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset</a> &bull; YouTube:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="3">https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages</a>

Healing the Hidden Wound - Step 5 to Restore Your Marriage

"Is pride quietly destroying your marriage?
In this powerful episode of Restored Marriage Radio, we dive deep into Step 3 in the Steps to Restoring Your Marriage: Dismantling Pride and Defensiveness.

Many couples believe their biggest problems are communication, finances, or intimacy. But underneath those struggles often lies something deeper: pride.

Pride refuses correction.
Pride protects ego.
Pride shifts blame.

And when pride enters a marriage, defensiveness follows.

Instead of listening, we argue.
Instead of understanding, we justify.
Instead of healing, we fight to be right.

In this episode, we unpack how pride silently erodes connection, trust, and emotional safety — and how humility can completely transform your relationship.

Semise and I share biblical wisdom, real marriage insights, and practical steps that couples can begin applying today to break the cycle of defensiveness and rebuild unity.

If you’ve ever heard yourself say:
• “That’s not what I meant.”
• “You’re overreacting.”
• “You always blame me.”
• “I’m not the problem.”

Then this episode will challenge you in a powerful and freeing way.

Because the truth is:
The goal in marriage isn’t to win arguments.
The goal is to win each other back.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

✔ Why pride is one of the most destructive forces in marriage
✔ How defensiveness blocks emotional safety
✔ The difference between protecting your ego and protecting your marriage
✔ How humility opens the door to healing and restoration
✔ Practical ways couples can begin dismantling pride today

Key Biblical Principles Discussed

• Proverbs 16:18 — Pride goes before destruction
• James 4:6 — God gives grace to the humble
• Philippians 2:3–4 — Value others above yourselves
• Ephesians 4:2 — Be completely humble and gentle

These scriptures reveal a powerful truth:

Humility invites God's restoration into your marriage.

If Your Marriage Feels Stuck…

You may not need better arguments.

You may need greater humility.

And when humility enters the room, healing becomes possible.

Subscribe to Restored Marriage Radio

If you want practical, faith-centered guidance to help restore, rebuild, and strengthen your marriage, make sure you subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode.

New conversations every week to help couples restore what’s broken and build a marriage that thrives.

Share This With Someone Who Needs It

If this message encourages you, send it to another couple who may be struggling. Sometimes one honest conversation can begin the process of restoration."

Connect with us:
• Coaching & resources: https://restoredmarriages.com/
• https://Facebook.com/shermware
• Course: https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages
--
Thanks & God Bless! 
Sherman & Semise Daley, Internationally Certified Relationship Coaches
Business Ph. 619-853-4393 Website: RestoredMarriages.com 

YouTube: Sherman & Semise Daley - YouTube

"Is pride quietly destroying your marriage? In this powerful episode of Restored Marriage Radio, we dive deep into Step 3 in the Steps to Restoring Your Marriage: Dismantling Pride and Defensiveness. Many couples believe their biggest problems are communication, finances, or intimacy. But underneath those struggles often lies something deeper: pride. Pride refuses correction. Pride protects ego. Pride shifts blame. And when pride enters a marriage, defensiveness follows. Instead of listening, we argue. Instead of understanding, we justify. Instead of healing, we fight to be right. In this episode, we unpack how pride silently erodes connection, trust, and emotional safety &mdash; and how humility can completely transform your relationship. Semise and I share biblical wisdom, real marriage insights, and practical steps that couples can begin applying today to break the cycle of defensiveness and rebuild unity. If you&rsquo;ve ever heard yourself say: &bull; &ldquo;That&rsquo;s not what I meant.&rdquo; &bull; &ldquo;You&rsquo;re overreacting.&rdquo; &bull; &ldquo;You always blame me.&rdquo; &bull; &ldquo;I&rsquo;m not the problem.&rdquo; Then this episode will challenge you in a powerful and freeing way. Because the truth is: The goal in marriage isn&rsquo;t to win arguments. The goal is to win each other back. In This Episode You&rsquo;ll Learn: ✔ Why pride is one of the most destructive forces in marriage ✔ How defensiveness blocks emotional safety ✔ The difference between protecting your ego and protecting your marriage ✔ How humility opens the door to healing and restoration ✔ Practical ways couples can begin dismantling pride today Key Biblical Principles Discussed &bull; Proverbs 16:18 &mdash; Pride goes before destruction &bull; James 4:6 &mdash; God gives grace to the humble &bull; Philippians 2:3&ndash;4 &mdash; Value others above yourselves &bull; Ephesians 4:2 &mdash; Be completely humble and gentle These scriptures reveal a powerful truth: Humility invites God's restoration into your marriage. If Your Marriage Feels Stuck&hellip; You may not need better arguments. You may need greater humility. And when humility enters the room, healing becomes possible. Subscribe to Restored Marriage Radio If you want practical, faith-centered guidance to help restore, rebuild, and strengthen your marriage, make sure you subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode. New conversations every week to help couples restore what&rsquo;s broken and build a marriage that thrives. Share This With Someone Who Needs It If this message encourages you, send it to another couple who may be struggling. Sometimes one honest conversation can begin the process of restoration." Connect with us: &bull; Coaching &amp; resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="0">https://restoredmarriages.com/</a> &bull;&nbsp;<a href="https://facebook.com/shermware" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="1">https://Facebook.com/shermware</a> &bull; Course:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="2">https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset</a> &bull; YouTube:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="3">https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages</a> -- Thanks &amp; God Bless!&nbsp; Sherman &amp; Semise Daley,&nbsp;Internationally Certified Relationship Coaches Business Ph. 619-853-4393&nbsp;Website:&nbsp;<a href="http://restoredmarriages.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="4">RestoredMarriages.com</a>&nbsp;
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Dismantle Pride and Defensiveness - Step 3 to Restore Your Marriage

Restoring Your Marriage - Step 2 - Rebuild Emotional Safety
Emotional safety is the foundation of every thriving marriage. When it’s missing, even small conversations can feel tense, defensive, or overwhelming. In this episode of Restored Marriages Radio, Sherman and Semise walk couples step‑by‑step through how emotional safety is lost—and how God empowers you to rebuild it with gentleness, truth, and consistent love.

You’ll learn:

What emotional safety actually means in a Christian marriage

The four trauma responses (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn) and how they show up in conflict

How to repair after emotional injuries

The Daily Check‑ In questions that help couples reconnect

How to create a home where both hearts feel seen, valued, and protected

Biblical principles that restore trust and soften communication

Whether you’re healing from past hurts, navigating blended‑family stress, or simply wanting deeper peace in your relationship, this episode gives you practical tools you can start using today.

Scriptures referenced:
Psalm 34:18 • Ephesians 4:2–3 • James 1:19 • 1 Corinthians 13:4–7

About Restored Marriages Radio 
We help couples rebuild connection, emotional maturity, and spiritual unity through practical, faith‑centered teaching. Hosted by Sherman and Semise Daley, founders of Marriage Restoration Ministry Inc.

Connect with us:
• Coaching & resources: https://restoredmarriages.com/
• https://Facebook.com/shermware
• Course: https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages

If this episode blesses you, don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe so more couples can find hope and healing.--
Thanks & God Bless! 
Sherman & Semise Daley, Internationally Certified Relationship Coaches
Business Ph. 619-853-4393 Website: RestoredMarriages.com 

YouTube: Sherman & Semise Daley - YouTube

Restoring Your Marriage - Step 2 - Rebuild Emotional Safety Emotional safety is the foundation of every thriving marriage. When it&rsquo;s missing, even small conversations can feel tense, defensive, or overwhelming. In this episode of Restored Marriages Radio, Sherman and Semise walk couples step‑by‑step through how emotional safety is lost&mdash;and how God empowers you to rebuild it with gentleness, truth, and consistent love. You&rsquo;ll learn: What emotional safety actually means in a Christian marriage The four trauma responses (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn) and how they show up in conflict How to repair after emotional injuries The Daily Check‑ In questions that help couples reconnect How to create a home where both hearts feel seen, valued, and protected Biblical principles that restore trust and soften communication Whether you&rsquo;re healing from past hurts, navigating blended‑family stress, or simply wanting deeper peace in your relationship, this episode gives you practical tools you can start using today. Scriptures referenced: Psalm 34:18 &bull; Ephesians 4:2&ndash;3 &bull; James 1:19 &bull; 1 Corinthians 13:4&ndash;7 About Restored Marriages Radio&nbsp; We help couples rebuild connection, emotional maturity, and spiritual unity through practical, faith‑centered teaching. Hosted by Sherman and Semise Daley, founders of Marriage Restoration Ministry Inc. Connect with us: &bull; Coaching &amp; resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="0">https://restoredmarriages.com/</a> &bull;&nbsp;<a href="https://facebook.com/shermware" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="1">https://Facebook.com/shermware</a> &bull; Course:&nbsp;<a href="https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="2">https://restoredmarriages.com/marriage-reset</a> &bull; YouTube:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="3">https://www.youtube.com/@restoredmarriages</a> If this episode blesses you, don&rsquo;t forget to like, comment, and subscribe so more couples can find hope and healing.-- Thanks &amp; God Bless!&nbsp; Sherman &amp; Semise Daley,&nbsp;Internationally Certified Relationship Coaches Business Ph. 619-853-4393&nbsp;Website:&nbsp;<a href="http://restoredmarriages.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="4">RestoredMarriages.com</a>&nbsp;
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