As we continue our Healing After Infidelity series, a commonly asked yet sensitive topic is how to re-engage in sex after an affair. If you’ve experienced infidelity in your marriage, you’ve likely wondered this too. 

I'm offering grounded, compassionate wisdom on when and how couples should consider re-engaging sexually after infidelity. With a blend of personal stories, biblical guidance, real-life coaching experiences, and practical steps, this episode aims to support couples in making informed, healthy decisions with restoration at the center.

What You’ll Learn


Should you have sex after an affair? I address why immediately resuming sexual intimacy may not be healthy or helpful.


The importance of time and boundaries: Why jumping back into sex too soon can lead to more harm, and why it’s not “sinful” to abstain while healing. 


Trust, safety & STI checks: The crucial steps every couple should take for health and peace of mind.


Deconstructing sexual idols: How sex can become an unhealthy replacement for deeper intimacy following infidelity—and why this “idol” must be torn down before true restoration.


Practical tips for re-engaging: When you’re ready, how to reintroduce sex in a safe, pressure-free way.


Safety, boundaries, and autonomy: Advice for betrayed spouses if they feel pressured to resume sex, and the importance of reclaiming agency and setting healthy boundaries.

Resources & Next Steps


FREE Masterclass: Register for “Beyond Betrayal: Three Keys to Healing After Infidelity”—available at danache.com/masterclass


Upcoming Infidelity Course: Details and registration at danache.com/infidelityintensive


Show notes & links: Find this episode’s resources at rebuildinguspodcast.com

Subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen or on YouTube, and join the Rebuilding US community for ongoing support and encouragement.

Thank you for listening! If you found this episode helpful, remember to leave a review and share with anyone who might need this support.

 

As we continue our Healing After Infidelity series, a commonly asked yet sensitive topic is how to re-engage in sex after an affair. If you&rsquo;ve experienced infidelity in your marriage, you&rsquo;ve likely wondered this too.&nbsp;
I'm offering grounded, compassionate wisdom on when and how couples should consider re-engaging sexually after infidelity. With a blend of personal stories, biblical guidance, real-life coaching experiences, and practical steps, this episode aims to support couples in making informed, healthy decisions with restoration at the center.
What You&rsquo;ll Learn
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Should you have sex after an affair? I address why immediately resuming sexual intimacy may not be healthy or helpful.
</li>
<li>
The importance of time and boundaries: Why jumping back into sex too soon can lead to more harm, and why it&rsquo;s not &ldquo;sinful&rdquo; to abstain while healing.&nbsp;
</li>
<li>
Trust, safety &amp; STI checks: The crucial steps every couple should take for health and peace of mind.
</li>
<li>
Deconstructing sexual idols: How sex can become an unhealthy replacement for deeper intimacy following infidelity&mdash;and why this &ldquo;idol&rdquo; must be torn down before true restoration.
</li>
<li>
Practical tips for re-engaging: When you&rsquo;re ready, how to reintroduce sex in a safe, pressure-free way.
</li>
<li>
Safety, boundaries, and autonomy: Advice for betrayed spouses if they feel pressured to resume sex, and the importance of reclaiming agency and setting healthy boundaries.
</li>
</ul>
Resources &amp; Next Steps
<ul>
<li>
FREE Masterclass: Register for &ldquo;Beyond Betrayal: Three Keys to Healing After Infidelity&rdquo;&mdash;available at&nbsp;<a href="https://danache.com/masterclass">danache.com/masterclass</a>
</li>
<li>
Upcoming Infidelity Course: Details and registration at <a href="https://danache.com/infidelityintensive">danache.com/infidelityintensive</a>
</li>
<li>
Show notes &amp; links: Find this episode&rsquo;s resources at <a href="https://rebuildinguspodcast.com/">rebuildinguspodcast.com</a>
</li>
</ul>
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Subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen or on YouTube, and join the Rebuilding US community for ongoing support and encouragement.
Thank you for listening! If you found this episode helpful, remember to leave a review and share with anyone who might need this support.
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My new book is out! Get Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples wherever books are sold! 

Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure—disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing—and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
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It's a commonly asked yet sensitive topic:  how  (and when) to re-engage in sex after an affair. 