We're tackling a sensitive yet common issue in some marriages: what to do when your spouse’s hygiene (or lack thereof) is causing tension in your relationship. A listener wants to know how to respond without hurting their partner or furthering the disconnect.

Key Takeaways:

• It’s Not Uncommon: Hygiene issues are not as uncommon as one might think. Yet they can be a dealbreaker for many couples when it comes to physical closeness.

• Direct but Kind Communication: Be honest yet gentle. Approach the conversation with love—focus on how hygiene affects the closeness in your marriage rather than making accusations or using harsh language.

• The "We Over Me" Approach: Frame the issue as a shared problem impacting both spouses, not just a complaint from one person.

• Gift What You Want: Subtle actions like buying body wash, cologne, or tissues can serve as positive hints for change.

• Set Clear Boundaries: Define what you need (e.g., brushing teeth before kissing) and stick to those boundaries for your well-being.

Resources:

• Do you have a marriage or relationship question for Dana Che? Submit it at danache.com/contact or DM Dana on Instagram @mrsdanache.

• Check out the "Infidelity Intensive" online course for couples seeking restoration: danache.com/infidelityintensive.