How Putting Your Kids First Harms Your Marriage (Marriage & Family Series)

Put your kids first? Nope! Listen to learn what happens when you elevate your children & their activities to where only your spouse belongs. 

If you have children, if you have ever struggled with finding the balance between taking care of your children and nurturing your marriage, well, then friend, this conversation is for you. If you’re Christian, you’ve likely heard of that J-O-Y acronym. Jesus. Others. You. So many of us were raised with this whole idea that you always come last. Everybody is first. You're always last. When you get married, your spouse is first. But then when you have kids, (we don't say this, but we do this), we end up putting our kids even before our spouse. So in many families, this is how it looks. Your kids are first. Your spouse might come in there second. Friends, neighbors, responsibilities, jobs. Third, if you have a relationship with the Lord. He's probably third or fourth in there, somewhere in the mix. And then you are, like, on the bottom, bottom, bottom of the totem pole. And somehow that's supposed to make us feel like we're great mothers or we're great parents. That is so lopsided, and it's so destructive to you, and it’s also destructive to your family. 

Find the full show notes at https://realrelationshiptalk.com/episode159. 



Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

Episode 157: When You Disagree on How to Discipline the Kids 

Take my Free “How Connected a Partner Are You” Quiz 

Episode 155: Why Your Kids Need You to Get a Room 

7 Lessons Your Marriage is Teaching Your Kids

How Putting Your Kids First Harms Your Marriage (Marriage &amp; Family Series)
Put your kids first? Nope! Listen to learn what happens when you elevate your children &amp; their activities to where only your spouse belongs. 
If you have children, if you have ever struggled with finding the balance between taking care of your children and nurturing your marriage, well, then friend, this conversation is for you. If you’re Christian, you’ve likely heard of that J-O-Y acronym. Jesus. Others. You. So many of us were raised with this whole idea that you always come last. Everybody is first. You're always last. When you get married, your spouse is first. But then when you have kids, (we don't say this, but we do this), we end up putting our kids even before our spouse. So in many families, this is how it looks. Your kids are first. Your spouse might come in there second. Friends, neighbors, responsibilities, jobs. Third, if you have a relationship with the Lord. He's probably third or fourth in there, somewhere in the mix. And then you are, like, on the bottom, bottom, bottom of the totem pole. And somehow that's supposed to make us feel like we're great mothers or we're great parents. That is so lopsided, and it's so destructive to you, and it’s also destructive to your family. 
Find the full show notes at <a href="https://realrelationshiptalk.com/episode159">https://realrelationshiptalk.com/episode159</a>. 
 
Links Mentioned in this Episode: 
<a href="https://realrelationshiptalk.com/157-when-you-disagree-on-how-to-discipline-the-kids-marriage-family-series/">Episode 157: When You Disagree on How to Discipline the Kids </a>
<a href="https://danache.com/partnerquiz">Take my Free “How Connected a Partner Are You” Quiz </a>
<a href="https://realrelationshiptalk.com/155-why-your-kids-need-you-to-get-a-room-marriage-family-series/">Episode 155: Why Your Kids Need You to Get a Room </a>
<a href="https://realrelationshiptalk.com/153-7-lessons-your-marriage-is-teaching-your-kids-marriage-family-series/">7 Lessons Your Marriage is Teaching Your Kids</a>

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Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in their marriage. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
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Let the rebuild begin!

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

A podcast for married people to build and rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection in your relationship. Heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean relevant, effective relationship advice and tools from marriage coach Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures explore the transformative journey of what it takes to have a happy and healthy marriage, reigniting love through faith-based principles. 
Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in their marriage. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
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