Gratitude isn’t just for the easy, feel-good times in your marriage. In this episode, we discuss how to practice real thankfulness—especially when things feel tense, unresolved, or even painful—and some simple, down-to-earth ways to reframe complaints into thanks and spot those tiny moments of hope. If you and your spouse are feeling disconnected or just need a little perspective shift, you’ll find encouragement and super practical advice to help you rebuild, reconnect, and start seeing the good even when life gets messy.

Key Takeaways:


Real vs. Superficial Gratitude:
Gratitude is more than mere positivity or “Instagram thankfulness.” Find gratitude that heals.


Why Gratitude Matters in Hard Seasons:
Even when it feels like your relationship is "a dumpster fire,” you can intentionally seek out the little things worthy of appreciation.


Complaints Reveal Needs:
Instead of shaming negative feelings, complaints often signal unmet emotional needs. 


A Practical Reframing Exercise:
A step-by-step practice to move from complaints to gratitude

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:


Take the How Connected Are You? Partner Quiz


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Heal from betrayal with my Infidelity Intensive Program

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

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Gratitude isn&rsquo;t just for the easy, feel-good times in your marriage. In this episode, we discuss how to practice real thankfulness&mdash;especially when things feel tense, unresolved, or even painful&mdash;and some simple, down-to-earth ways to reframe complaints into thanks and spot those tiny moments of hope. If you and your spouse are feeling disconnected or just need a little perspective shift, you&rsquo;ll find encouragement and super practical advice to help you rebuild, reconnect, and start seeing the good even when life gets messy.
Key Takeaways:
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Real vs. Superficial Gratitude: Gratitude is more than mere positivity or &ldquo;Instagram thankfulness.&rdquo; Find gratitude that heals.
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Why Gratitude Matters in Hard Seasons: Even when it feels like your relationship is "a dumpster fire,&rdquo; you can intentionally seek out the little things worthy of appreciation.
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Complaints Reveal Needs: Instead of shaming negative feelings, complaints often signal unmet emotional needs.&nbsp;
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A Practical Reframing Exercise: A step-by-step practice to move from complaints to gratitude
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
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Take the <a href="https://danache.com/partnerquiz">How Connected Are You? Partner Quiz</a>
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Need marriage coaching?&nbsp;<a href="https://danache.com/covenantconnections">Join Covenant Connections</a>
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Heal from betrayal with my <a href="https://danache.com/infidelityintensive">Infidelity Intensive Program</a>
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Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

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Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle?&nbsp;Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.
Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clich&eacute;s&mdash;Dana&rsquo;s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week.&nbsp;
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A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

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New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

Gratitude isn’t just for the easy, feel-good times in your marriage. In this episode, we discuss how to practice real thankfulness—especially when things feel tense, unresolved, or even painful.

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