The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships (Communication 101 Series) 




Did you know there are four major communication problems that will wreck any relationship (also known as the four horsemen of the apocalypse)? These communication blunders are often practiced unbeknownst to the person. Thankfully, marriage researcher Dr. John Gottman has discovered what these four communication problems are and solutions to help us learn how to communicate better. 



On today’s episode we’re talking about these four horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness,, and stonewalling. You might refer to the four horsemen as different names, but after listening to the episode, you’ll likely arrive at the same solution: they can’t remain in a healthy relationship. To help you destroy these four horsemen, I am sharing some antidotes or solutions that will allow you to practice better communication in your relationships. 



This is one episode you’ll want to chew on a little bit. Don’t just listen and keep to business as usual. Which of these four horsemen do you identify with? How can you change your heart and your behavior in order to practice more effective ways of communicating? What’s really at the core of why you’re communicating this way? These are all heartfelt questions that I hope you’ll work through. 



After you hear today’s episode, you’ll walk away with some practical tools to communicate better. I guarantee it. Share this episode with your spouse or loved one and see if you agree on what horseman (or multiple horsemen) have hijacked your relationship. 



Remember, we are launching our Podcast Review Contest today! You can win a $50 Amazon gift certificate when you do the following: 


Listen to an episode
Write a review on Apple Podcasts 
Email me to let me know you’ve submitted a review



The winner will be announced on the May 3rd episode!



Thanks in advance for your awesome review!


Resources and Links Mentioned During this Episode:

John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse 
Real Relationship Talk Episode 86: It’s Not You; It’s Me (I Statements)
Real Relationship Talk Episode 87: The Silent Treatment vs Silence



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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships (Communication 101 Series) 
 
Did you know there are four major communication problems that will wreck any relationship (also known as the four horsemen of the apocalypse)? These communication blunders are often practiced unbeknownst to the person. Thankfully, marriage researcher Dr. John Gottman has discovered what these four communication problems are and solutions to help us learn how to communicate better. 
 
On today’s episode we’re talking about these four horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness,, and stonewalling. You might refer to the four horsemen as different names, but after listening to the episode, you’ll likely arrive at the same solution: they can’t remain in a healthy relationship. To help you destroy these four horsemen, I am sharing some antidotes or solutions that will allow you to practice better communication in your relationships. 
 
This is one episode you’ll want to chew on a little bit. Don’t just listen and keep to business as usual. Which of these four horsemen do you identify with? How can you change your heart and your behavior in order to practice more effective ways of communicating? What’s really at the core of why you’re communicating this way? These are all heartfelt questions that I hope you’ll work through. 
 
After you hear today’s episode, you’ll walk away with some practical tools to communicate better. I guarantee it. Share this episode with your spouse or loved one and see if you agree on what horseman (or multiple horsemen) have hijacked your relationship. 
 
Remember, we are launching our Podcast Review Contest today! You can win a $50 Amazon gift certificate when you do the following: 
 
<ol><li>Listen to an episode</li>
<li><a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-relationship-talk/id1528234628'>Write a review</a> on Apple Podcasts </li>
<li><a href='mailto:info@danache.com?subject=Podcast%20Review%20Contest%20Entry'>Email me</a> to let me know you’ve submitted a review</li>
</ol> 
The winner will be announced on the May 3rd episode!
 
Thanks in advance for your awesome review!
 
Resources and Links Mentioned During this Episode:
<ol><li><a href='https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/'>John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse </a></li>
<li><a href='https://realrelationshiptalk.com/86-its-not-you-its-me-communication-101-series/'>Real Relationship Talk Episode 86: It’s Not You; It’s Me (I Statements)</a> </li>
<li><a href='https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wfvVDaq7VtpFo9N3pDIQs?si=8e0e917f8dd9421c'>Real Relationship Talk Episode 87: The Silent Treatment vs Silence</a></li>
</ol> 
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Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in their marriage. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking to enrich your relationship, 'Rebuilding Us' is here to support you on your journey to a thriving and resilient marriage grounded in grace and godly guidance."
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The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking to enrich your relationship, 'Rebuilding Us' is here to support you on your journey to a thriving and resilient marriage grounded in grace and godly guidance."

Let the rebuild begin!

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

A podcast for married people to build and rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection in your relationship. Heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean relevant, effective relationship advice and tools from marriage coach Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures explore the transformative journey of what it takes to have a happy and healthy marriage, reigniting love through faith-based principles. 
Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in their marriage. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships (Communication 101 Series) 
 
Did you know there are four major communication problems that will wreck any relationship (also known as the four horsemen of the apocalypse)? These communication blun...

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